[X&Y] Is Your Vision For Success With Women TOO SMALL?
Published: Sat, 02/27/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: A little extra boost for anyone interested in
online dating (which should be YOU), and a few words on going for
the very best when it comes to success with women.
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WHAT'S INSIDE: A little extra boost for anyone interested in
online dating (which should be YOU), and a few words on going for
the very best when it comes to success with women.
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ABOUT THE "HIDDEN SECRET" IN THAT LAST PODCAST
EPISODE
The latest episode of The Chick Whisperer podcast features Adam
Gilad (aka Grant Adams) as my co-host. In it, we talk about some
pretty heavy-duty stuff pertaining to how to have an exciting life.
But one of the things that has been a bit of a "secret"--at least
until you listen to the show itself--is that Adam and I schemed up
something truly outrageous while we recorded it.
Well, since the cat has been let out of the proverbial bag on some
of the forums and elsewhere, I figured I'd better just come clean
with it right here in the newsletter.
You see, Adam has some SERIOUS mojo when it comes to online dating.
And as a guy who pretty much figured out how to work Match.com
pretty well (if I do say so myself) I KNOW what that looks like
when I see it.
But don't take my word for it.
Have a look at Adam's full-disclosure, take-no-prisoners FOOL
The latest episode of The Chick Whisperer podcast features Adam
Gilad (aka Grant Adams) as my co-host. In it, we talk about some
pretty heavy-duty stuff pertaining to how to have an exciting life.
But one of the things that has been a bit of a "secret"--at least
until you listen to the show itself--is that Adam and I schemed up
something truly outrageous while we recorded it.
Well, since the cat has been let out of the proverbial bag on some
of the forums and elsewhere, I figured I'd better just come clean
with it right here in the newsletter.
You see, Adam has some SERIOUS mojo when it comes to online dating.
And as a guy who pretty much figured out how to work Match.com
pretty well (if I do say so myself) I KNOW what that looks like
when I see it.
But don't take my word for it.
Have a look at Adam's full-disclosure, take-no-prisoners FOOL
PROOF system on how to transform your online dating account into
your fountainhead of success for filling your weekends with dates...
starting with a f-r-e-e video explaining the 7 Secrets To Online
Dating Success:
Deep Attraction Online
So what's the "secret", already?
Check it out. When you grab your copy of Adam's Deep Attraction
Online system (which is bargain priced, I might add...sheesh) from
the link above, I'm going to GIVE YOU Online Dating Domination.
Just send the e-mail receipt that Adam sends you to
scot@deservewhatyouwant.com and my team will take care of the rest.
You'll you can be shredding up BOTH Deep Attraction Online AND
Online Dating Domination TODAY, thereby giving yourself such a
magnanimous head start over every other clueless "clone boy" online
that it's going to make you laugh yourself to sleep at night.
Seriously. I clearly remember one night going to sleep after a
long day, and realizing that I had dates planned with six of my TOP
CHOICES out of every woman on Match.com in San Antonio. I laughed
out loud.
In fact, the thought crossed my mind that maybe I should leave some
of those women for some other guy... Then again, Nah...
I shared this story with Adam and he admitted thinking very similar
thoughts. And he lives in LOS ANGELES.
It's like this. The Internet has revolutionized the way we meet
future romantic partners and created an environment where whether
you are outgoing or shy, a lady's man or just a good guy, you can
fill your life with fantastic women.
For thousands of years, our "dating pool" has been comprised
exclusively of the people we already know--and probably only within
a certain number of miles from your home.
Nowadays you have the resources to meet ANY WOMAN YOU WANT,
wherever she may be.
EVERYTHING has changed. So why not have EVERY SINGLE ADVANTAGE
possible, right?
Well, if that sounds like it makes perfect sense, Adam and I are
RIGHT THERE with you.
So check out Adam's cool new video...he's even got a DVD he's forking
over too. You gotta see this:
Deep Attraction Online
So what's the "secret", already?
Check it out. When you grab your copy of Adam's Deep Attraction
Online system (which is bargain priced, I might add...sheesh) from
the link above, I'm going to GIVE YOU Online Dating Domination.
Just send the e-mail receipt that Adam sends you to
scot@deservewhatyouwant.com and my team will take care of the rest.
You'll you can be shredding up BOTH Deep Attraction Online AND
Online Dating Domination TODAY, thereby giving yourself such a
magnanimous head start over every other clueless "clone boy" online
that it's going to make you laugh yourself to sleep at night.
Seriously. I clearly remember one night going to sleep after a
long day, and realizing that I had dates planned with six of my TOP
CHOICES out of every woman on Match.com in San Antonio. I laughed
out loud.
In fact, the thought crossed my mind that maybe I should leave some
of those women for some other guy... Then again, Nah...
I shared this story with Adam and he admitted thinking very similar
thoughts. And he lives in LOS ANGELES.
It's like this. The Internet has revolutionized the way we meet
future romantic partners and created an environment where whether
you are outgoing or shy, a lady's man or just a good guy, you can
fill your life with fantastic women.
For thousands of years, our "dating pool" has been comprised
exclusively of the people we already know--and probably only within
a certain number of miles from your home.
Nowadays you have the resources to meet ANY WOMAN YOU WANT,
wherever she may be.
EVERYTHING has changed. So why not have EVERY SINGLE ADVANTAGE
possible, right?
Well, if that sounds like it makes perfect sense, Adam and I are
RIGHT THERE with you.
So check out Adam's cool new video...he's even got a DVD he's forking
over too. You gotta see this:
Deep Attraction Online
See? I knew I'd feel better after I stopped keeping "secrets" from
you. Now that what Adam and I have schemed up is out on the table
in broad daylight, all that's left is for you to take full
advantage of it.
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DO YOU BELIEVE IN YOUR ABILITY TO SUCCEED WITH
WOMEN AS MUCH AS I DO?
Lately I've been starting to earn the reputation for being the
dating coach who takes guys from "good with women" to "great with
women".
Sure, David D. introduced me as that guy when I was on his
"Interviews With Dating Gurus" series nearly two years ago, but
these days it's really starting to take hold.
In fact, just last Thursday I did an interview where the host said
exactly the same thing when SHE introduced me to her audience.
Yes, I said "she".
And I'll tell you, there's nothing I love better than to hear
success stories from guys who have raised the bar higher than they
ever could have imagined previously...perhaps even higher than they
thought possible even two or three months prior to getting in touch
with us.
So basically, I wake up every morning amazingly psyched to go to
work. As some of you who have e-mailed me or talked to me or who
are on Twitter already know, sometimes I don't HAVE to "wake up"
for work...I'm STILL up from YESTERDAY.
But here's the painful part.
Some guys believe I'm full of it.
They refuse to believe (and I think "refuse" is the correct word
here) that what I talk about around here is EVEN POSSIBLE...AT ALL,
let alone for THEM.
I would be shocked and confused by this, except for one simple
factor: Less than a decade ago I would have been RIGHT THERE WITH
THEM.
I used to think that dating more than one woman at once was a
ridiculous fantasy that was only possible in the movies.
I thought that women called all the shots, and men had to grovel
for acceptance from them...only to usually get "rejected".
And heck, after my divorce I even started thinking all women were
"crazy" and just wanted to use us as guys as if we're human ATM
machines.
It was only after doing a LOT of research and "field testing" that
I started to see results that clearly indicated that what I heard
about other guys succeeding with women was NO JOKE.
And THAT'S what compelled me to leave a perfectly good career as a
regional sales manager for a trendy IT company to start X & Y
Communications.
It wasn't to make hollow promises to desperate guys about how to
"get laid quick".
Sure, I understand how bad sexual frustration can feel. And I know
how easy it would be to capitalize on helping guys who have
experienced zero success with women cure the immense personal pain
that goes along with that.
But you know what?
If getting a phone number equals "success", and simply having sex
is the goal, then there are HUNDREDS of places on the Internet that
can hook you up with what you want.
But my vision for you is MUCH, MUCH greater than that.
I trust you are unwilling to "settle" for anything less than a
wildly successful dating life where you call all the shots, make
all the decisions, and manage relationships with women who
absolutely adore you and would do ANYTHING for you...ultimately
culminating in meeting and permanently attracting the GREATEST
woman ever.
But first things first. Even as I see you as a man who is
unwilling to "settle", I want to make sure up front that you're
even able to SEE IT'S POSSIBLE to be "great" instead of just "good"
with women.
Consider this. Did you know that when I think of my "typical"
newsletter reader, I picture an educated, athletic, and socially
talented guy with tons of potential? And I picture him FED UP with
hanging out with women who don't meet his standards.
That's how I see YOU.
And guess what? Based on the vast majority of e-mail I get, I
think I pretty much understand my audience.
So here's my challenge to you: Do YOU believe in YOUR OWN
Lately I've been starting to earn the reputation for being the
dating coach who takes guys from "good with women" to "great with
women".
Sure, David D. introduced me as that guy when I was on his
"Interviews With Dating Gurus" series nearly two years ago, but
these days it's really starting to take hold.
In fact, just last Thursday I did an interview where the host said
exactly the same thing when SHE introduced me to her audience.
Yes, I said "she".
And I'll tell you, there's nothing I love better than to hear
success stories from guys who have raised the bar higher than they
ever could have imagined previously...perhaps even higher than they
thought possible even two or three months prior to getting in touch
with us.
So basically, I wake up every morning amazingly psyched to go to
work. As some of you who have e-mailed me or talked to me or who
are on Twitter already know, sometimes I don't HAVE to "wake up"
for work...I'm STILL up from YESTERDAY.
But here's the painful part.
Some guys believe I'm full of it.
They refuse to believe (and I think "refuse" is the correct word
here) that what I talk about around here is EVEN POSSIBLE...AT ALL,
let alone for THEM.
I would be shocked and confused by this, except for one simple
factor: Less than a decade ago I would have been RIGHT THERE WITH
THEM.
I used to think that dating more than one woman at once was a
ridiculous fantasy that was only possible in the movies.
I thought that women called all the shots, and men had to grovel
for acceptance from them...only to usually get "rejected".
And heck, after my divorce I even started thinking all women were
"crazy" and just wanted to use us as guys as if we're human ATM
machines.
It was only after doing a LOT of research and "field testing" that
I started to see results that clearly indicated that what I heard
about other guys succeeding with women was NO JOKE.
And THAT'S what compelled me to leave a perfectly good career as a
regional sales manager for a trendy IT company to start X & Y
Communications.
It wasn't to make hollow promises to desperate guys about how to
"get laid quick".
Sure, I understand how bad sexual frustration can feel. And I know
how easy it would be to capitalize on helping guys who have
experienced zero success with women cure the immense personal pain
that goes along with that.
But you know what?
If getting a phone number equals "success", and simply having sex
is the goal, then there are HUNDREDS of places on the Internet that
can hook you up with what you want.
But my vision for you is MUCH, MUCH greater than that.
I trust you are unwilling to "settle" for anything less than a
wildly successful dating life where you call all the shots, make
all the decisions, and manage relationships with women who
absolutely adore you and would do ANYTHING for you...ultimately
culminating in meeting and permanently attracting the GREATEST
woman ever.
But first things first. Even as I see you as a man who is
unwilling to "settle", I want to make sure up front that you're
even able to SEE IT'S POSSIBLE to be "great" instead of just "good"
with women.
Consider this. Did you know that when I think of my "typical"
newsletter reader, I picture an educated, athletic, and socially
talented guy with tons of potential? And I picture him FED UP with
hanging out with women who don't meet his standards.
That's how I see YOU.
And guess what? Based on the vast majority of e-mail I get, I
think I pretty much understand my audience.
So here's my challenge to you: Do YOU believe in YOUR OWN
SUCCESS as much as I DO?
Because it's not just POSSIBLE. It's WITHIN YOUR GRASP.
Emily is not a paid actress. (Yes, I've actually heard that
assertion before).
And yes, things go as well for us in real life as they do on our
Web sites.
And yes, there were other high quality women in my life before I
met Emily.
And above all, NO...I'm not smoking crack. I REALLY think you can
rise above simply "getting a girl...ANY girl" and seriously
accomplish your ULTIMATE vision of success with women.
But the thing is that some men (or make that "MOST men") only have
limited vision in that area.
Do you know what my biggest challenge with guys on my Ten-Plus
program is?
You may shake your head at this, but it's that they DISAPPEAR after
four or six out of ten planned 1-on-1 calls with me.
They aren't displeased. They don't want their money back. They're
just OVERWHELMED.
They're getting SOME success, and they're THRILLED with it.
But what I have in mind for them is a more complete plan with an
even happier ending. And I continually, it seems, have to remind
guys of that and help them see the opportunity for greater success
ahead than THEY EVEN IMAGINE.
It's gotten to the point where I actually TELL GUYS about this
phenomenon when they first get started on a Ten-Plus program. They
say it'll never happen in their case, yet it often still does.
Why?
Because ALMOST NO GUY ON EARTH ever actually achieves the kind
Because it's not just POSSIBLE. It's WITHIN YOUR GRASP.
Emily is not a paid actress. (Yes, I've actually heard that
assertion before).
And yes, things go as well for us in real life as they do on our
Web sites.
And yes, there were other high quality women in my life before I
met Emily.
And above all, NO...I'm not smoking crack. I REALLY think you can
rise above simply "getting a girl...ANY girl" and seriously
accomplish your ULTIMATE vision of success with women.
But the thing is that some men (or make that "MOST men") only have
limited vision in that area.
Do you know what my biggest challenge with guys on my Ten-Plus
program is?
You may shake your head at this, but it's that they DISAPPEAR after
four or six out of ten planned 1-on-1 calls with me.
They aren't displeased. They don't want their money back. They're
just OVERWHELMED.
They're getting SOME success, and they're THRILLED with it.
But what I have in mind for them is a more complete plan with an
even happier ending. And I continually, it seems, have to remind
guys of that and help them see the opportunity for greater success
ahead than THEY EVEN IMAGINE.
It's gotten to the point where I actually TELL GUYS about this
phenomenon when they first get started on a Ten-Plus program. They
say it'll never happen in their case, yet it often still does.
Why?
Because ALMOST NO GUY ON EARTH ever actually achieves the kind
of success we talk about around here. Therefore, it's hard to imagine
because both you and almost everyone you've ever met can't relate
to it.
And the one or two guys you've known along the way who can? When
you heard them talk about the women in their lives you probably
thought they were...are you ready for this?...full of it.
Here's the most mind-bending part of the story. Despite the fact
that almost all guys live their entire lives without the success
with women they would have liked to have had, it's JUST NOT AS
because both you and almost everyone you've ever met can't relate
to it.
And the one or two guys you've known along the way who can? When
you heard them talk about the women in their lives you probably
thought they were...are you ready for this?...full of it.
Here's the most mind-bending part of the story. Despite the fact
that almost all guys live their entire lives without the success
with women they would have liked to have had, it's JUST NOT AS
HARD AS YOU THINK to achieve it.
You may have suspected that all along, in fact. And I've just
confirmed it for you.
It's just that most of us are competitive creatures, and it's
easier for us to DISMISS rumors of success than to ACCEPT THE
You may have suspected that all along, in fact. And I've just
confirmed it for you.
It's just that most of us are competitive creatures, and it's
easier for us to DISMISS rumors of success than to ACCEPT THE
TRUTH and make it happen for ourselves.
Worse? Most of us are too proud to ask for directions.
Or...we figure out there's no "quick fix" and it might take some
effort.
So we, like most people in life, get lazy and stop right after we
start.
Or we get too squeamish and give up too quickly.
How many times have you seen a guitar in the corner gathering dust?
Welcome to exactly the concept I'm talking about.
Most of us would love to be rock stars, but are content to play a
video game that simulates it instead.
Success with women? Most of us are content to watch porn instead
of doing what it takes to meet a great woman.
And here it is: Porn stars aren't even a fair simulation of what
having a great woman is all about. I think you know that already,
instinctively.
The valid truth about human nature is this. We all want THE PRIZE,
but we don't often want to exert any energy or effort to GET IT.
Consider the times where you've seen raffles or drawings featuring
a cool prize for the winner. You want the prize. But as soon as
you figure out you've got to fill out some sort of form to be
eligible, you pass.
Similarly, you might like to win the Tour de France. But after
about ten minutes on Lance Armstrong's training program, you might
decide otherwise.
The higher you aim, the higher the potential prize. And the higher
the prize, the more effort is involved.
But like I just alluded to, success with women is one of the
"prizes" in life that absolutely, positively brings the MOST REWARD
for even a very REASONABLE AMOUNT of effort.
And guys STILL MISS THAT. They REFUSE to believe it.
Welcome to what keeps me up at night.
What's it going to take to get YOU to believe you can SUPER-ACHIEVE
with women?
Was this newsletter enough?
Can you cut through your doubt and begin to BELIEVE that what you
hear about elsewhere when it comes to AMAZING SUCCESS with
Worse? Most of us are too proud to ask for directions.
Or...we figure out there's no "quick fix" and it might take some
effort.
So we, like most people in life, get lazy and stop right after we
start.
Or we get too squeamish and give up too quickly.
How many times have you seen a guitar in the corner gathering dust?
Welcome to exactly the concept I'm talking about.
Most of us would love to be rock stars, but are content to play a
video game that simulates it instead.
Success with women? Most of us are content to watch porn instead
of doing what it takes to meet a great woman.
And here it is: Porn stars aren't even a fair simulation of what
having a great woman is all about. I think you know that already,
instinctively.
The valid truth about human nature is this. We all want THE PRIZE,
but we don't often want to exert any energy or effort to GET IT.
Consider the times where you've seen raffles or drawings featuring
a cool prize for the winner. You want the prize. But as soon as
you figure out you've got to fill out some sort of form to be
eligible, you pass.
Similarly, you might like to win the Tour de France. But after
about ten minutes on Lance Armstrong's training program, you might
decide otherwise.
The higher you aim, the higher the potential prize. And the higher
the prize, the more effort is involved.
But like I just alluded to, success with women is one of the
"prizes" in life that absolutely, positively brings the MOST REWARD
for even a very REASONABLE AMOUNT of effort.
And guys STILL MISS THAT. They REFUSE to believe it.
Welcome to what keeps me up at night.
What's it going to take to get YOU to believe you can SUPER-ACHIEVE
with women?
Was this newsletter enough?
Can you cut through your doubt and begin to BELIEVE that what you
hear about elsewhere when it comes to AMAZING SUCCESS with
women is true?
Can you accept a vision for YOURSELF that is as lofty as MINE is?
Can you look WAY past getting a phone number as a definition of
"success"?
I trust you can. Because crazy or not, I BELIEVE you can achieve.
If I can, YOU CAN. All it really takes is a belief that you CAN
understand women, that they CAN be high-quality human beings, and
that they DO want a high-quality "big four" man like you in their
lives as YOU want them in yours.
Next week, I'm going to share with you something I call the
"leapfrog effect", which is what comes AFTER ultimate success with
women. Yes, there's more...WAY more. Stay tuned.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. I probably should tell you how to get your hands on that
episode of The Chick Whisperer featuring Adam Gilad, shouldn't I?
Here's the link to the feed:
Can you accept a vision for YOURSELF that is as lofty as MINE is?
Can you look WAY past getting a phone number as a definition of
"success"?
I trust you can. Because crazy or not, I BELIEVE you can achieve.
If I can, YOU CAN. All it really takes is a belief that you CAN
understand women, that they CAN be high-quality human beings, and
that they DO want a high-quality "big four" man like you in their
lives as YOU want them in yours.
Next week, I'm going to share with you something I call the
"leapfrog effect", which is what comes AFTER ultimate success with
women. Yes, there's more...WAY more. Stay tuned.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. I probably should tell you how to get your hands on that
episode of The Chick Whisperer featuring Adam Gilad, shouldn't I?
Here's the link to the feed:
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