positive attitude to men (avoided references to looks).

I think the response is very positive but leaves me with questions:

"Hi Alex, thank you so much for the great feedback and kind words,
I'm so glad that you enjoyed it and that you would love to come to
future events that is brilliant!  

That is also a great idea about the single parents option could be
onto something there.  As for you doing photography at the next
event that is a great idea, we could definitely talk further about
that.

I'm loving the photos you took too that is fab!  Quick question
could we put the photos on public display so that everyone can see
them?  Lots of friends have been asking.  Thanks Alex would be
great to catch up with you soon anyway."

What's your take on what she's said?

E.G. What does she mean by "catching up"? Is she just being polite
or is there a real interest in her seeing me (on whatever basis)?

Given that she's seeing someone, my instinct is to be very casual
and respond with, "sure, call me sometime" rather than try to get
her number...or is that too cautious?

BTW, we didn't speak a huge amount (maybe that was a good thing!
LOL), but I asked a lot of questions to the panel (I think that
scored me points).

We posed afterward for photos, plus she was a bit of a poser
whenever I had the camera pointed at her. I got the impression on
the day that she was impressed with me.

I've published the photos on Facebook, but I put up a message to
everyone involved to say so. I just wanted some thoughts on how to
interpret what she's said before I contact her again.

Incidentally, the question was raised about what the women in the
audience think about guys dating multiple women and the consensus
was against it...that most of them would just walk away.


Cheers,

Alberto (Bristol, UK)



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Hello Alberto:

There's a LOT here to consider, but I'll get right down to business--

starting with the "low hanging fruit".
 

Quote:  "Incidentally, the question was raised about what the women
in the audience think about guys dating multiple women and the
consensus was against it...that most of them would just walk away."

Of course that's what they'll say.  This is one of those classic
scenarios where real life isn't always as simple as the easy
question.  The women answering are likely automatically thinking in
terms of a man sleeping around with ten women at once.  
 
In the "real world", however, the point of being a "big four" man
who dates several women at once is not necessarily in line with
women's immediate fears.
 
The point for such a man (as yourself) is not to get roped into a
relationship with a woman too quickly just because she pushed you.

Instead, you take committed relationships seriously and will only
embark on one with a woman you know is right for you.  And that
takes time to figure out.
 
Any reasonable woman will not only respect that, she's likely to
AGREE with that--even if SHE already knows instinctively that she'd
very much like to "lock you down" ASAP.
 
But to flatly ask women if they'd keep dating a man who is '"dating
multiple women" is pretty much tantamount to asking  a room full of
guys, "Would you keep dating a woman who didn't sleep with you?"
and throwing a blanket over it.
 
As for "L", you've got to remember she's a HUMAN BEING.  If she's
got a boyfriend she actually likes, she's not going to automatically

especially since she's also, um...a dating and relationship expert.
 
And guess what.  It's OKAY she has a boyfriend...but you'll only
see that if you are coming from a position of STRENGTH  and
ABUNDANCE rather than WEAKNESS and DESPERATION.
 
Those who are starving are weak.  Those who are well-fed are
strong.  It's a Maslow's Hierarchy thing.
 
If you are a man with options, you have the ability to realize that
sometimes it's just nice to hang around where femininity is--simply
because it's better than hanging out in front of the tube by
yourself and/or with a bunch of engineers all day.   
 
Heck, even as I WRITE THIS, Emily has about ten other young mommies
and their litluns in the other room making pancakes and running
around the house barefoot.  
 
And attractive mommies tend to hang out with other attractive
mommies, so were I to tell you that it's an all-out "estrogen fest"
out there it'd be an understatement.
 
Am I going to cheat on Emily with any of those women?  Of course
not.   But that doesn't mean it isn't nice to have them around.  
 
And since Emily talks about me to them as if I hung the moon and
the stars, they are VERY nice to me...which doesn't suck either.
 
So sure "L" probably thinks you're cool.  You ARE cool.
 
And because you're MASCULINE, she's probably indeed drawn to you.