[X&Y] The "Feeding Frenzy"...Will It Make You Or Break You?

Published: Sat, 04/17/10

X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER

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WHAT'S INSIDE: Once you actually achieve some success with

women, how is your mindset going to be affected? If you're truly

serious about getting better with women, you'd better think this one
through ahead of time.

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ATTENTION: ALL AGELESS ATTRACTORS (OVER 35)

As you surely recall, day before yesterday I told you about Adam
Gilad's newly-released program called Ageless Attraction: Secrets Of

The Irresistible Man.

And no kidding...you guys who have been demanding more dating
strategies specifically for mature guys must have been DEAD SERIOUS.

After all, response to Adam's new program has been nothing short of
OVER THE TOP tremendous. So much so, in fact, that Adam has added

on even MORE surprises if you get in on Ageless Attraction this weekend.

So if you're one of those guys who's been asking about this sort of
thing and you somehow missed that last newsletter, here's your
definitive answer:

Ageless Attraction

Adam has always had what I'd call a more "evolved" approach to
attracting women and building relationships with them than most, so
I was proud to be a guest on Ageless Attraction when he invited me.

Now that this new program has been out for a couple of days you can
bet that time is running short on this launch. So make sure you
claim your copy now:

Ageless Attraction

And now, it's time to talk about what some guys tend to do when
they get better with women. Hopefully, you can avoid the pitfalls
and go directly to the best part...

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DON'T GET CAUGHT UP IN THE "FEEDING FRENZY"

When Emily and I were in Australia recently, we had the amazing
opportunity to cross a major bullet point off BOTH of our "bucket
lists". We went scuba diving at the Great Barrier Reef.

For the record, we had a total blast. You can look up the pics on
either my Facebook or Emily's.

But it's not the experience per se that we're here to discuss, so
let's get to the point.

Now, I don't know if you've ever noticed this, but whenever you get
involved with something that is inherently cool to do, you tend to
find that inherently cool people are running the show.

And these particular folks, not coincidentally, tend to also be
tremendously effective at attracting MOTOS (members of the opposite
sex).

Go figure. Have an exciting life, have the confidence to teach
others how to do the same, and you tend to be a sexually attractive
human being.

So it was no surprise that just about everyone on the boat who
worked for the dive company was particularly attractive.

Add to that the fact that Australia has somehow been blessed from
Above as the land of "beautiful people" in general, and what we're
talking about here is a situation where everyone on the clock had
the "whole package" working.

Even so, one guy particularly stood out.

He looked like the GQ version of Vince Vaughan, only with piercing
green eyes and an "Adonis Effect" that would make Brad Howard
himself jealous.

Moreover, he was from Ireland. As it turns out, the Irish accent
was recently voted the most alluring in the world to women by some
magazine.

So here he was--above and beyond all else--the guy in Australia

with "the accent" that melted women...Australian women, no less.

Finally, I came right out with it, social creature such that I am.

"I bet you do very well with the ladies", I said to him, point blank.

He just sort of shrugged and nodded with a smile, so as to indicate,

"Well...yeah."

Without any prompting whatsoever, he continued, "But I met the most
amazing woman when I was living in New York a few years ago, and

I married her. And I couldn't be happier."

As it turns out, he is now 25 years old. So is his wife...whom I'm
sure is equally terrific, if not a "younger woman".

I immediately thought of all the dating advice out there that tells
men that "allowing themselves" to get married is the equivalent of
sawing one's nuts off...especially if it's not to some chick who is
eight or ten years one's junior.

Not coincidentally, that's often the same type of men's dating
advice that holds banging women in the bathroom stall at some club
in particularly high esteem--even though Ben Roethlisberger is
fixin' to get run out of Pittsburgh by his own fans for partaking
in exactly that sort of activity.

So what's going on here?

How can a quintessential "natural" be married at such a young
age--to a woman who IS his age?

That's the easiest answer of all time, man.

He's HAPPY, that's why. He has experienced ABUNDANCE when it

comes to women his whole life.

As such, sex (as a physical act) is probably not such a big,
mysterious deal to him. And besides, he's sort of met the greatest
woman he has ever known.

And now, he considers the culmination of all that to be having the
opportunity to SHARE HIS LIFE with her. After all, she was the
BEST woman EVER in his estimation, so the "heavy lifting" was done.

Really, how many guys can even say they've GOT that woman in their
lives for the long-term? Most men can only hope.

But meanwhile, what's being held up out there as a model for
"success with women"?

You already know the answer: Going to a club and somehow
convincing as many women to drop their "bitch shields" and "comply"
with the "same night lay".

And from there it's lather, rinse, repeat.

What's up with that?

Here's exactly what's up with that.

Do you remember the "Rodney King" riots in south-central LA years
ago? If you've never seen the footage, go ahead and look it up on
YouTube.

Essentially, once the crowds got so out of control that the police
couldn't contain them mayhem ensued.

Guys were running rampant in the streets, beating up innocent
bystanders and looting stores.

The shocking part was that many of the perpetrators were carrying
themselves in a manner that clearly demonstrated that they were
letting their newfound "power" get to their head.

This, in turn, fueled even more beat-downs and lavish displays of
violent "dominance".

Meanwhile, those who were in REAL power--politicians, businessmen,
etc.--steered clear. Or better, they tried to contribute their
collective wisdom and resources to restoring peace.

As shocking as the scene in LA was at that time, it was all pretty
much to be expected. You saw similar footage coming from Haiti a
couple of months ago, right?

The simple truth is that it's those who have the LEAST amount of
power in life who are most likely to ABUSE any power they happen
upon at any point in their lives.

Similarly, it's those who have the LEAST amount of wealth who are
most likely to show the most GREED when presented with the
opportunity for material gain.

We've also all heard similar stories of guys who had grown up in
the projects and won the "Powerball" lottery...only to turn up
addicted, penniless or even dead just few short years later.

It's human nature.

Therefore, following logically, it's the guy who has had the LEAST
success with women who, once he learns some attraction skills, is
most likely to make it his goal to bang the living heck out of as
many women who will let him--as soon as possible, and using whatever
non-coercive means necessary to "close the deal".

Just like we saw in the LA riots, it all becomes a "feeding frenzy"
of sorts.

It's all fueled by an extreme hunger that's suddenly given an
outlet to be satiated.

As such, people end up overcompensating dramatically, letting the
proverbial pendulum swing from one extreme to the other--sometimes
in a matter of seconds.

Whether or not those who allow themselves to succumb to their
primal urges under such circumstances are "bad people" or not can
be debated.

But no matter what, the "feeding frenzy" is what it is: A clear
admission of desperation.

And make no mistake: Most men's dating advice assumes flat-out
desperation on the part of its consumers.

If you haven't had sex in a long time (if ever), you want to have
some. I understand that, and believe me there have been times in
my life where I could relate.

But it's "dirty pool" to set up partaking in the "feeding frenzy"
as synonymous with "success".

Sure, it can LOOK like success under the most dire of circumstances.

But here's the problem.

Any time there's a feeding frenzy, there are NO WINNERS.

Everyone is a LOSER.

In the case of relationships between men and women, it's BOTH men
and women who LOSE.

When you've felt like a victim for so long, it's easy to see those
who have disappointed you as the "enemy".

So when you finally get the power you felt you've had coming to you
all along, you quickly seek to VICTIMIZE those you've seen as
having the power until that moment.

But really, you cause as much damage to yourself with that mindset
as you do anyone else.

Its pretty much the ultimate in poverty mentality, isn't it?

Assailants and looters get brought to justice...sometime after having
to hide their booty (literally and figuratively) from the police.

And guys who go on a "feeding frenzy" playing "catching up" with
all the nookie they've been missing out on end up roped into
relationships with drama queens due to unplanned pregnancies.

Or they end up with equally unplanned STDs and/or rape allegations
against them.

Meanwhile, guys with TRUE POWER when it comes to being The Leading
Man know the truth all too well.

The "Feeding Frenzy" will end up eating YOU alive.

Being a "Big Four" man who naturally attracts high quality women is
what offers more authentic personal power. It's what allows you to
become a CHOOSER rather than a CHASER.

And when you're that guy, you can decide whether to get married OR
keep dating several women...all on your terms. The decisions you
make are solid, and the negative ramifications are few.

So the time to think all of this through is now. Are you prepared
to leverage newfound success with women in a way that will
literally set you up for life, or are you going to let it ruin you?

The choice, as always, is yours...whether you recognize that power or
not.

Be Good,

Scot McKay

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