[X&Y] How To End The "Losing Streak"...Forever
Published: Tue, 05/11/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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IN THIS EDITION: Ever find yourself on a "losing streak"? Here's
how to make sure it never happens again...
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PROGRESS REPORT: THE MAN'S APPROACH
As you know, I've been hard at work lately on the first major
program from X & Y Communications in nearly a year.
The Man's Approach will be based on the overwhelming feedback
you've given me that you want a no-nonsense toolkit for approaching
and meeting women.
But you DON'T want to be a "pick up artist".
You're a successful man who has TONS to offer a high-quality
woman...but you also know you have to actually MEET her first before
you can even think about building a relationship with her.
Or maybe you want to meet LOTS of women...all so you can find out
what it is you truly want without having to take years or even
decades to do so.
But WHATEVER the case may be, you know for sure that there's got to
be more to life than hitting on women at noisy, crowded clubs late
at night.
Indeed. Since you're all about quality and refuse to settle, The
Man's Approach will be what you've been waiting for.
Hence the name: The Man's Approach.
What we're talking about here is the real man's blueprint for
meeting women and getting the ball rolling with them.
It sounds obvious how important this would be to so many men out
there...yet as far as anyone on our team can tell, this really will
be the VERY FIRST program of its kind ever.
Crazy...but true.
But the important thing here is that I've compiled ALL of your
suggestions, along with every shred of information I've produced
over the last six years on approaching women, starting
conversations with them and moving the conversation forward.
THEN...I've been burning the midnight oil coming up with an onslaught
of BRAND NEW information never before presented ANYWHERE.
Just for good measure, I even thought about where to meet women,
how to meet them in certain situations, and--of course--how to turn
women you ALREADY know into more than "just a friend".
Within a week or so, I'll unveil the complete line-up of The Man's
Approach for you...stay tuned.
=====
END THE "LOSING STREAK" AND NEVER LOOK BACK
It's been 46 years since Mick Jagger talked about how he "can't get
no satisfaction".
One of the most memorable lines from that song is "...I'm trying to
make some girl, who tells me 'baby better come back, maybe next
week', cause you see I'm on a losing streak."
Well, based on what I've been able to gather, Mick got over his
"losing streak" pretty quickly.
And if you're on one right now, so will you.
So what if, on the other hand, things are going well for and you're
NOT on one?
Well, good for you. And I'm about to show you how to make sure it
NEVER HAPPENS.
But first, I think it's necessary to clarify what usually CAUSES a
"losing streak" to begin with.
To say one is on a "losing streak" (or "in a slump", if you will)
implies that there was a time when one was WINNING.
There has been a CLEAR CHANGE of fortune somewhere along the way--in
the southbound direction.
Almost always, the beginning of such a slump can be traced to a
particularly bad breakup or heinous incident of "rejection" from a
particular woman.
Think about that as we go over these FOUR KEY WAYS to end a "losing
streak", because it's going to be VERY IMPORTANT to keep in mind
Here we go...
1) GET BACK OUT THERE
Call this the "macro" version of what's known in PUA circles as
"three second rule".
Just like you do well to wait no longer than three seconds after
deciding to approach a woman to actually do so, don't let yourself
wait any longer than THREE DAYS after a particularly bad breakup to
start MEETING WOMEN again.
Sure, I know you've been dealt a pretty heavy hit.
But the longer you wait to get your profile on Match.com, talk to
women on Twitter and/or spark up conversations with bank tellers,
flight attendants and waitresses the greater the likelihood
"analysis paralysis" is going to kick in.
And I know you guys. You're a particularly intelligent crowd who
is especially prone to this issue.
You know, on second thought you'd be better off not waiting more
than THREE HOURS after a woman harshes your buzz to get out there.
2) FORGET AND FORGIVE
You've heard the term "forgive and forget". And you probably know
how hard it is to do that.
But I've come to an interesting realization within the past year or
so, thanks to Facebook.
I've been really enjoying reconnecting with old friends from high
school and college. There have been some great conversations along
the way that have really made my day.
But crazily, there have been at least TWO INCIDENCES where I've
finished up a very cool conversation with someone only to come to a
stunning realization later.
I had lost touch with that person years ago to begin with because
we had become seriously mad at each other!
Nowadays? Here's the thing. In both cases I had clearly forgotten
what it was we had been so mad at each other about.
And apparently, so did the other person.
What that says to me is just how SILLY resentment and bitterness
is, not to mention USELESS.
All it does is eat at YOU from the inside.
The simple fact that FORGETTING about how someone has wronged you
AUTOMATICALLY results in forgiveness was a sobering thought to me.
Time does heal wounds...big time.
So the question is simply this: Can you INTERNALIZE that belief
and use it to ACCELERATE the process of moving forward?
Can you really let go of the resentment you feel toward that woman
for burning you?
If you can, the person who benefits most is YOU...along with,
perhaps, that fortunate new woman you meet who you won't be robbing
of the chance to be with you sooner than later.
You can even call forgiveness your "best revenge", if you must, in
order to sleep better at night.
So how does this END your "losing streak? Simple. Forgiving
equals losing bitterness...losing bitterness equals attracting women
you deserve (e.g. not bitter ones).
Great women STAY AWAY from bitter dudes. When you stay bitter, you
stay by yourself. Don't do that.
3) DO MORE OF WHAT YOU'RE BEST AT
When you feel like you've "lost", there's no better medicine to
cure what ails you than WINNING.
One of your first thoughts when you "lose" a woman should be to go
out and WIN at something else.
Intentionally focus on what you're best at, and go out and grab a
victory. Or two. Or six.
Do this RAPID FIRE.
I really don't care whether you're a world-class expert at karaoke,
bowling, salesmanship or Wii.
Just go out there and savor the sweet taste of triumphant bliss.
And do it FAST.
Why? Because you need your CONFIDENCE built back to where it
should be. And the longer you wait, the harder that will be to
pull off.
The beauty of this whole concept is that once you gain CONFIDENCE
anywhere, you can port that mindset immediately to your
interactions with MOTOS (members of the opposite sex).
And that's EXACTLY what you need when you're on a "losing streak"
with women.
4) REALIZE "REBUILDING" DOESN'T HAVE TO TAKE FOREVER
This last one could arguably be the LEAST obvious.
There seems to be a pandemic belief out there that meeting someone
new and starting a new relationship takes a WHOLE LOT OF TIME and a
WHOLE LOT OF ENERGY.
And what this belief does to someone who feels like they've just
been kicked to the curb is it FREEZES them in place.
The last thing we feel like doing when we're feeling ragged is
starting all over again from scratch.
It seems intimidating, if not flat-out depressing...but ONLY when the
"limiting belief" I just described is in effect.
The tragic part about how people tend to subject themselves to this
mindset is that it's a total MYTH.
That's right. Meeting someone new and building AMAZING rapport
with her DOES NOT have to take a lot of time.
In fact, the FASTER it happens, the more AUTHENTIC that connection
likely is.
Let's say you meet a woman online for coffee.
It could take TEN MINUTES before she says the magic words, "You
know, I've known you for ten minutes, but if feels like we've known
each other for TEN YEARS."
And seriously, when you are a "big four" man who ignites femininity
you're likely to SHOCK YOURSELF at how easy it is to get to know a
great woman.
That key idea of INSPIRING HER CONFIDENCE, making her feel safe and
comfortable with you, is all-important here.
Plus, if you think about it, what's more exciting than discovering
all the "firsts" with an amazing new woman? This should be PURE
ADRENALINE, not drudgery. Right on?
Enjoy this rather than dreading it...it's your prerogative.
So how about it? I've pretty much broken down here how "losing
streaks" are all in your head, haven't I?
Just like a major league DH who's in a woeful hitting slump hasn't
really lost his talent, NEITHER HAVE YOU.
He has hit .300 before, and will do so again just as soon as he
snaps out of his funk and figures out who he really is: A
world-class slugger playing at the highest level his sport has to
offer.
And just like I talk about extensively in The Master Plan, you were
BORN to attract women.
Just because things went awry with one woman doesn't mean you've
lost your mojo. You've just got to man up and reclaim your
birthright.
There's no time for feeling sorry for yourself...ever. So slap a
diaper on that mindset.
And with The Man's Approach program just around the corner, NOW is
the time to make sure you've got that cornerstone of confident
masculinity firmly in place.
The Master Plan will give you that foundation you need to be the
maximized version of your true, authentic self.
From there, you'll be able to get right into The Man's Approach
when it's released and see immense, real-world benefits literally
from day one.
So let's make it easy for you.
Right now I've brought back that limited-time promo for a full $50
off The Master Plan.
All you have to do is click the following link and it's all set up
for you when you click the order button--no coupon code is even
required:
$50 Off The Master Plan + Igniting Femininity
And YES...when you claim your copy of The Master Plan, I'll send you
a copy of that audio program entitled: Igniting Femininity: 14
Ways Women Define Masculinity".
You wanted PRACTICAL steps to making women fired-up for you at the
sexual level. You wanted OBJECTIVE ways to make her FEEL like a
woman when she's in her presence.
Say no more. I'm offering you the chance to snap up that extra
bonus program again right now...by popular demand.
With the combo of The Master Plan and Igniting Femininity I'd say
you're going to be ultra-prepared to attract any woman you desire.
So be sure to use this link to get all the information, as well as
to enjoy a full $50 OFF when ordering:
$50 Off The Master Plan + Igniting Femininity
If you've been thinking about finally getting your hands on The
Master Plan, be sure to take advantage of this opportunity.
And remember, you WILL NOT see any reference to the Igniting
Femininity audio program on the Web site for The Master Plan.
That's my gift to you, along with the $50 discount...but only if you
order within the next 48 hours.
Bear in mind that this truly is not a permanent price change--nor
can it be.
In fact, as The Man's Approach comes ever closer to being ready for
prime time chances like this to score The Master Plan will be fewer
and farther between.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
www.deservewhatyouwant.com
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download
=====
IN THIS EDITION: Ever find yourself on a "losing streak"? Here's
how to make sure it never happens again...
=====
PROGRESS REPORT: THE MAN'S APPROACH
As you know, I've been hard at work lately on the first major
program from X & Y Communications in nearly a year.
The Man's Approach will be based on the overwhelming feedback
you've given me that you want a no-nonsense toolkit for approaching
and meeting women.
But you DON'T want to be a "pick up artist".
You're a successful man who has TONS to offer a high-quality
woman...but you also know you have to actually MEET her first before
you can even think about building a relationship with her.
Or maybe you want to meet LOTS of women...all so you can find out
what it is you truly want without having to take years or even
decades to do so.
But WHATEVER the case may be, you know for sure that there's got to
be more to life than hitting on women at noisy, crowded clubs late
at night.
Indeed. Since you're all about quality and refuse to settle, The
Man's Approach will be what you've been waiting for.
Hence the name: The Man's Approach.
What we're talking about here is the real man's blueprint for
meeting women and getting the ball rolling with them.
It sounds obvious how important this would be to so many men out
there...yet as far as anyone on our team can tell, this really will
be the VERY FIRST program of its kind ever.
Crazy...but true.
But the important thing here is that I've compiled ALL of your
suggestions, along with every shred of information I've produced
over the last six years on approaching women, starting
conversations with them and moving the conversation forward.
THEN...I've been burning the midnight oil coming up with an onslaught
of BRAND NEW information never before presented ANYWHERE.
Just for good measure, I even thought about where to meet women,
how to meet them in certain situations, and--of course--how to turn
women you ALREADY know into more than "just a friend".
Within a week or so, I'll unveil the complete line-up of The Man's
Approach for you...stay tuned.
=====
END THE "LOSING STREAK" AND NEVER LOOK BACK
It's been 46 years since Mick Jagger talked about how he "can't get
no satisfaction".
One of the most memorable lines from that song is "...I'm trying to
make some girl, who tells me 'baby better come back, maybe next
week', cause you see I'm on a losing streak."
Well, based on what I've been able to gather, Mick got over his
"losing streak" pretty quickly.
And if you're on one right now, so will you.
So what if, on the other hand, things are going well for and you're
NOT on one?
Well, good for you. And I'm about to show you how to make sure it
NEVER HAPPENS.
But first, I think it's necessary to clarify what usually CAUSES a
"losing streak" to begin with.
To say one is on a "losing streak" (or "in a slump", if you will)
implies that there was a time when one was WINNING.
There has been a CLEAR CHANGE of fortune somewhere along the way--in
the southbound direction.
Almost always, the beginning of such a slump can be traced to a
particularly bad breakup or heinous incident of "rejection" from a
particular woman.
Think about that as we go over these FOUR KEY WAYS to end a "losing
streak", because it's going to be VERY IMPORTANT to keep in mind
Here we go...
1) GET BACK OUT THERE
Call this the "macro" version of what's known in PUA circles as
"three second rule".
Just like you do well to wait no longer than three seconds after
deciding to approach a woman to actually do so, don't let yourself
wait any longer than THREE DAYS after a particularly bad breakup to
start MEETING WOMEN again.
Sure, I know you've been dealt a pretty heavy hit.
But the longer you wait to get your profile on Match.com, talk to
women on Twitter and/or spark up conversations with bank tellers,
flight attendants and waitresses the greater the likelihood
"analysis paralysis" is going to kick in.
And I know you guys. You're a particularly intelligent crowd who
is especially prone to this issue.
You know, on second thought you'd be better off not waiting more
than THREE HOURS after a woman harshes your buzz to get out there.
2) FORGET AND FORGIVE
You've heard the term "forgive and forget". And you probably know
how hard it is to do that.
But I've come to an interesting realization within the past year or
so, thanks to Facebook.
I've been really enjoying reconnecting with old friends from high
school and college. There have been some great conversations along
the way that have really made my day.
But crazily, there have been at least TWO INCIDENCES where I've
finished up a very cool conversation with someone only to come to a
stunning realization later.
I had lost touch with that person years ago to begin with because
we had become seriously mad at each other!
Nowadays? Here's the thing. In both cases I had clearly forgotten
what it was we had been so mad at each other about.
And apparently, so did the other person.
What that says to me is just how SILLY resentment and bitterness
is, not to mention USELESS.
All it does is eat at YOU from the inside.
The simple fact that FORGETTING about how someone has wronged you
AUTOMATICALLY results in forgiveness was a sobering thought to me.
Time does heal wounds...big time.
So the question is simply this: Can you INTERNALIZE that belief
and use it to ACCELERATE the process of moving forward?
Can you really let go of the resentment you feel toward that woman
for burning you?
If you can, the person who benefits most is YOU...along with,
perhaps, that fortunate new woman you meet who you won't be robbing
of the chance to be with you sooner than later.
You can even call forgiveness your "best revenge", if you must, in
order to sleep better at night.
So how does this END your "losing streak? Simple. Forgiving
equals losing bitterness...losing bitterness equals attracting women
you deserve (e.g. not bitter ones).
Great women STAY AWAY from bitter dudes. When you stay bitter, you
stay by yourself. Don't do that.
3) DO MORE OF WHAT YOU'RE BEST AT
When you feel like you've "lost", there's no better medicine to
cure what ails you than WINNING.
One of your first thoughts when you "lose" a woman should be to go
out and WIN at something else.
Intentionally focus on what you're best at, and go out and grab a
victory. Or two. Or six.
Do this RAPID FIRE.
I really don't care whether you're a world-class expert at karaoke,
bowling, salesmanship or Wii.
Just go out there and savor the sweet taste of triumphant bliss.
And do it FAST.
Why? Because you need your CONFIDENCE built back to where it
should be. And the longer you wait, the harder that will be to
pull off.
The beauty of this whole concept is that once you gain CONFIDENCE
anywhere, you can port that mindset immediately to your
interactions with MOTOS (members of the opposite sex).
And that's EXACTLY what you need when you're on a "losing streak"
with women.
4) REALIZE "REBUILDING" DOESN'T HAVE TO TAKE FOREVER
This last one could arguably be the LEAST obvious.
There seems to be a pandemic belief out there that meeting someone
new and starting a new relationship takes a WHOLE LOT OF TIME and a
WHOLE LOT OF ENERGY.
And what this belief does to someone who feels like they've just
been kicked to the curb is it FREEZES them in place.
The last thing we feel like doing when we're feeling ragged is
starting all over again from scratch.
It seems intimidating, if not flat-out depressing...but ONLY when the
"limiting belief" I just described is in effect.
The tragic part about how people tend to subject themselves to this
mindset is that it's a total MYTH.
That's right. Meeting someone new and building AMAZING rapport
with her DOES NOT have to take a lot of time.
In fact, the FASTER it happens, the more AUTHENTIC that connection
likely is.
Let's say you meet a woman online for coffee.
It could take TEN MINUTES before she says the magic words, "You
know, I've known you for ten minutes, but if feels like we've known
each other for TEN YEARS."
And seriously, when you are a "big four" man who ignites femininity
you're likely to SHOCK YOURSELF at how easy it is to get to know a
great woman.
That key idea of INSPIRING HER CONFIDENCE, making her feel safe and
comfortable with you, is all-important here.
Plus, if you think about it, what's more exciting than discovering
all the "firsts" with an amazing new woman? This should be PURE
ADRENALINE, not drudgery. Right on?
Enjoy this rather than dreading it...it's your prerogative.
So how about it? I've pretty much broken down here how "losing
streaks" are all in your head, haven't I?
Just like a major league DH who's in a woeful hitting slump hasn't
really lost his talent, NEITHER HAVE YOU.
He has hit .300 before, and will do so again just as soon as he
snaps out of his funk and figures out who he really is: A
world-class slugger playing at the highest level his sport has to
offer.
And just like I talk about extensively in The Master Plan, you were
BORN to attract women.
Just because things went awry with one woman doesn't mean you've
lost your mojo. You've just got to man up and reclaim your
birthright.
There's no time for feeling sorry for yourself...ever. So slap a
diaper on that mindset.
And with The Man's Approach program just around the corner, NOW is
the time to make sure you've got that cornerstone of confident
masculinity firmly in place.
The Master Plan will give you that foundation you need to be the
maximized version of your true, authentic self.
From there, you'll be able to get right into The Man's Approach
when it's released and see immense, real-world benefits literally
from day one.
So let's make it easy for you.
Right now I've brought back that limited-time promo for a full $50
off The Master Plan.
All you have to do is click the following link and it's all set up
for you when you click the order button--no coupon code is even
required:
$50 Off The Master Plan + Igniting Femininity
And YES...when you claim your copy of The Master Plan, I'll send you
a copy of that audio program entitled: Igniting Femininity: 14
Ways Women Define Masculinity".
You wanted PRACTICAL steps to making women fired-up for you at the
sexual level. You wanted OBJECTIVE ways to make her FEEL like a
woman when she's in her presence.
Say no more. I'm offering you the chance to snap up that extra
bonus program again right now...by popular demand.
With the combo of The Master Plan and Igniting Femininity I'd say
you're going to be ultra-prepared to attract any woman you desire.
So be sure to use this link to get all the information, as well as
to enjoy a full $50 OFF when ordering:
$50 Off The Master Plan + Igniting Femininity
If you've been thinking about finally getting your hands on The
Master Plan, be sure to take advantage of this opportunity.
And remember, you WILL NOT see any reference to the Igniting
Femininity audio program on the Web site for The Master Plan.
That's my gift to you, along with the $50 discount...but only if you
order within the next 48 hours.
Bear in mind that this truly is not a permanent price change--nor
can it be.
In fact, as The Man's Approach comes ever closer to being ready for
prime time chances like this to score The Master Plan will be fewer
and farther between.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
www.deservewhatyouwant.com
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download
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things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
professional advice.
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