[X&Y] Letter From A Reader: "How Do I Win Her Back?"
Published: Mon, 06/07/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: You're about to hear from a subscriber to this
newsletter who feels like he totally messed everything up with a
woman.
So now he's wondering how he can he get her to "come begging" to be
back in his life?
See if you can guess what my surprising answer to him is going to
be...
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THIS AMAZED ME
OK, confession time.
When I sent that e-mail to you late Friday night it really was on a
whim.
After all, it may have been about something David DeAngelo (real
name Eben Pagan) was doing, but in this case it was more about how
he built his successful BUSINESS than his successful dating life.
So as I hit "send" on that message to all 30,000 of you guys I took
a deep breath.
And all I can say is...WOW.
Even though I found out about what was going on at the eleventh
hour (literally), you guys responded more powerfully Eben's video
than I could have ever imagined.
There was only one problem, as you already know if you tried to
check out the video anytime after about five hours after I sent you
that message.
Eben's new program on exactly how he built his $30M business was
CLOSED by midnight Pacific time.
Ouch. I didn't see that coming.
Some of you even wrote me to say that you saw the video and LOVED
it, but decided to sleep on Eben's new program...and when you woke up
convinced you just had to get in on it...WHAM...it was gone.
But I wouldn't be telling you this if there wasn't GOOD NEWS after
all, right?
Today Eben's opening it all up again for ONE DAY ONLY, and there's
NEW CONTENT and YET ANOTHER BONUS.
So if you missed out, here's another shot:
http://bit.ly/agPjWs
And just for good measure, today I'm sending you this message RIGHT
WHEN he opens back up...at noon PDT.
By the way, at least one of you got in on Eben's program last
Friday night and THEN called me to arrange a Ten-Plus program.
So that gave me an idea.
If you pull the trigger on Eben's program using the link above (and
that would be a truly solid investment, I'd say), go ahead and send
me the receipt. I'll give you a full hour of coaching for f-r-e-e
as a special bonus.
You can use that hour any way you'd like, but here's a hint: Emily
and I have "fired the boss" also, and I'd be happy to share with
you how we did it.
On that note, I've never actually told you about this before, but
if you'd like me to mail you some great in-house content on how to
become an entrepreneur, either send a blank e-mail to:
unchainedoffice@aweber.com
...or simply visit this Web page (where you'll find yet another
helpful video, this time from me):
http://bit.ly/1ge8BC
And now it's time to get back to talking about women. Let's hear
from a reader in London who wishes to remain anonymous...and probably
for good reason.
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LETTER FROM A READER: "HOW DO I WIN HER BACK?"
Hi Scot,
Thanks for your newsletters. I have learnt a lot. In fact, I wish
I got them earlier.
I have this lady that worked into my life, albeit briefly as it
turns out.
She is quite attractive in her own way and highly orgasmic.
She visited me and we spent 2 great weeks together in London. I
tried to be nice and willing to offer her anything I could afford just to
make her happy.(I guess my mistake).
Because of my desire to have and keep her, I became needy, clingy
and wussy.
Despite all the nice things I did (paid her air ticket, took her around
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WHAT'S INSIDE: You're about to hear from a subscriber to this
newsletter who feels like he totally messed everything up with a
woman.
So now he's wondering how he can he get her to "come begging" to be
back in his life?
See if you can guess what my surprising answer to him is going to
be...
=====
THIS AMAZED ME
OK, confession time.
When I sent that e-mail to you late Friday night it really was on a
whim.
After all, it may have been about something David DeAngelo (real
name Eben Pagan) was doing, but in this case it was more about how
he built his successful BUSINESS than his successful dating life.
So as I hit "send" on that message to all 30,000 of you guys I took
a deep breath.
And all I can say is...WOW.
Even though I found out about what was going on at the eleventh
hour (literally), you guys responded more powerfully Eben's video
than I could have ever imagined.
There was only one problem, as you already know if you tried to
check out the video anytime after about five hours after I sent you
that message.
Eben's new program on exactly how he built his $30M business was
CLOSED by midnight Pacific time.
Ouch. I didn't see that coming.
Some of you even wrote me to say that you saw the video and LOVED
it, but decided to sleep on Eben's new program...and when you woke up
convinced you just had to get in on it...WHAM...it was gone.
But I wouldn't be telling you this if there wasn't GOOD NEWS after
all, right?
Today Eben's opening it all up again for ONE DAY ONLY, and there's
NEW CONTENT and YET ANOTHER BONUS.
So if you missed out, here's another shot:
http://bit.ly/agPjWs
And just for good measure, today I'm sending you this message RIGHT
WHEN he opens back up...at noon PDT.
By the way, at least one of you got in on Eben's program last
Friday night and THEN called me to arrange a Ten-Plus program.
So that gave me an idea.
If you pull the trigger on Eben's program using the link above (and
that would be a truly solid investment, I'd say), go ahead and send
me the receipt. I'll give you a full hour of coaching for f-r-e-e
as a special bonus.
You can use that hour any way you'd like, but here's a hint: Emily
and I have "fired the boss" also, and I'd be happy to share with
you how we did it.
On that note, I've never actually told you about this before, but
if you'd like me to mail you some great in-house content on how to
become an entrepreneur, either send a blank e-mail to:
unchainedoffice@aweber.com
...or simply visit this Web page (where you'll find yet another
helpful video, this time from me):
http://bit.ly/1ge8BC
And now it's time to get back to talking about women. Let's hear
from a reader in London who wishes to remain anonymous...and probably
for good reason.
=====
LETTER FROM A READER: "HOW DO I WIN HER BACK?"
Hi Scot,
Thanks for your newsletters. I have learnt a lot. In fact, I wish
I got them earlier.
I have this lady that worked into my life, albeit briefly as it
turns out.
She is quite attractive in her own way and highly orgasmic.
She visited me and we spent 2 great weeks together in London. I
tried to be nice and willing to offer her anything I could afford just to
make her happy.(I guess my mistake).
Because of my desire to have and keep her, I became needy, clingy
and wussy.
Despite all the nice things I did (paid her air ticket, took her around
London, had dinners, etc.) when she got back home she called me
to tell me that she wasn't sure if it's me she wants.
How do I win her back? How do I make her come begging?
Thanks from London
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Hey man, glad you are enjoying the newsletters. We got here as
quickly as we could for you.
But now down to business.
Granted, you've already figured out that you did all sorts of needy
things to drive her away.
Given how much we tend harp about the grave dangers of all that in
these newsletters, I'll spare you the tirade regarding that.
Well...then again maybe I won't spare you COMPLETELY, after all.
Man, you've got to remember that when we try to BUY a woman's
affection all it does is make it utterly obvious to her that we lack
the confidence to believe that WHO WE ARE as a "big four" man is
enough to attract her effectively.
And as soon as we go down that trail...if ANYTHING attractive goes on
it basically has little, if anything to do with you.
You're just the "vehicle".
That never ends well, unless you particularly enjoy opening up your
wallet and shaking all of your cash out the window.
But what I REALLY want to get across to you is a point that you may
not be expecting me to make.
And that's this: I've got to take issue with your choice of words.
I can by no means understand the prospect of this woman coming back
into your life as "winning" her back.
In fact, based on what you've shared I'd call it a CATASTROPHIC
LOSS of epic proportions.
Let's take a quick inventory here.
This chick came to stay with you and gladly took everything you had
to offer (including the shirt off your back, basically) for two
full weeks.
And THEN she had the nerve (or lack thereof, more like it) to
announce to you when she's safe and cozy back at home that she
doesn't want you after all?
(By the way, you can ignore the "wasn't sure if" part in her
statement to you.)
So here it is: Why on God's green earth are YOU still interested?
I mean come on, man. How much more do you really want to be used?
What she is doing is pure manipulation in its lowest form.
Think in terms of "The Golden Rule - Reversed" here. Would you
ever in a MILLION YEARS treat someone the way she has treated you?
If the answer is "no freakin' way", then DON'T ACCEPT being treated
in such a manner by someone else.
Let me tell you, manipulators--by definition--are people who fully
know the difference between right and wrong, yet who proceed to do
wrong at the direct expense of those they instinctively know want
to do the right thing.
I ask you, how is that NOT pure evil personified?
I know you've got to have raised the bar on your definition of
"high quality woman" somewhere above the "pure evil" mark. Right?
But to be honest, I gather from your message that you already sense
that you don't really want her back anyway.
What you really want is the LAST WORD.
You want the satisfaction of knowing that SHE knows she blew it
with a great guy like you.
Well, until you drop that mindset for something more productive
you'll only eat yourself from the inside...all the while
demonstrating to the whole world that you're a CHASER who likely
has ZERO OPTIONS when it comes to other women.
I mean, that's the only conclusion that can be drawn from your
willingness to burn so much energy on a woman who is LONG
How do I win her back? How do I make her come begging?
Thanks from London
=====
Hey man, glad you are enjoying the newsletters. We got here as
quickly as we could for you.
But now down to business.
Granted, you've already figured out that you did all sorts of needy
things to drive her away.
Given how much we tend harp about the grave dangers of all that in
these newsletters, I'll spare you the tirade regarding that.
Well...then again maybe I won't spare you COMPLETELY, after all.
Man, you've got to remember that when we try to BUY a woman's
affection all it does is make it utterly obvious to her that we lack
the confidence to believe that WHO WE ARE as a "big four" man is
enough to attract her effectively.
And as soon as we go down that trail...if ANYTHING attractive goes on
it basically has little, if anything to do with you.
You're just the "vehicle".
That never ends well, unless you particularly enjoy opening up your
wallet and shaking all of your cash out the window.
But what I REALLY want to get across to you is a point that you may
not be expecting me to make.
And that's this: I've got to take issue with your choice of words.
I can by no means understand the prospect of this woman coming back
into your life as "winning" her back.
In fact, based on what you've shared I'd call it a CATASTROPHIC
LOSS of epic proportions.
Let's take a quick inventory here.
This chick came to stay with you and gladly took everything you had
to offer (including the shirt off your back, basically) for two
full weeks.
And THEN she had the nerve (or lack thereof, more like it) to
announce to you when she's safe and cozy back at home that she
doesn't want you after all?
(By the way, you can ignore the "wasn't sure if" part in her
statement to you.)
So here it is: Why on God's green earth are YOU still interested?
I mean come on, man. How much more do you really want to be used?
What she is doing is pure manipulation in its lowest form.
Think in terms of "The Golden Rule - Reversed" here. Would you
ever in a MILLION YEARS treat someone the way she has treated you?
If the answer is "no freakin' way", then DON'T ACCEPT being treated
in such a manner by someone else.
Let me tell you, manipulators--by definition--are people who fully
know the difference between right and wrong, yet who proceed to do
wrong at the direct expense of those they instinctively know want
to do the right thing.
I ask you, how is that NOT pure evil personified?
I know you've got to have raised the bar on your definition of
"high quality woman" somewhere above the "pure evil" mark. Right?
But to be honest, I gather from your message that you already sense
that you don't really want her back anyway.
What you really want is the LAST WORD.
You want the satisfaction of knowing that SHE knows she blew it
with a great guy like you.
Well, until you drop that mindset for something more productive
you'll only eat yourself from the inside...all the while
demonstrating to the whole world that you're a CHASER who likely
has ZERO OPTIONS when it comes to other women.
I mean, that's the only conclusion that can be drawn from your
willingness to burn so much energy on a woman who is LONG
GONE...for better OR worse.
Now, you don't want to be THAT guy, right?
Besides, man, it's so unattractive when people beg.
So even if she did so, all it would do is tarnish all of your
"wonderful memories" of her.
And on top of all else, as pathetic as begging is, it hardly ever
works anyway so it'd be a waste of everyone's time.
Now go find a more worthy woman of your orgasm-bestowing talents,
and be sure to date several women at once on the journey to meeting
her.
And whatever you do, PLEASE stop trying so hard to buy women off
with stuff and start letting your masculine "big four" charm carry
you.
Remember, it's YOU she's got to be attracted to...not a bunch of
goodies and a bottomless bank account.
Ironically enough, when you conduct yourself with women as if you
don't have that figured out, the compensation (in every sense of
the word) for what you feel is lacking in personal depth isn't only
obvious like I mentioned above, it sort of comes off as begging.
And as you'll recall, we already concluded that's just ugly.
There's a reason why someone smart once said, "beggars can't be
choosers".
Cheers,
Scot McKay
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Now, you don't want to be THAT guy, right?
Besides, man, it's so unattractive when people beg.
So even if she did so, all it would do is tarnish all of your
"wonderful memories" of her.
And on top of all else, as pathetic as begging is, it hardly ever
works anyway so it'd be a waste of everyone's time.
Now go find a more worthy woman of your orgasm-bestowing talents,
and be sure to date several women at once on the journey to meeting
her.
And whatever you do, PLEASE stop trying so hard to buy women off
with stuff and start letting your masculine "big four" charm carry
you.
Remember, it's YOU she's got to be attracted to...not a bunch of
goodies and a bottomless bank account.
Ironically enough, when you conduct yourself with women as if you
don't have that figured out, the compensation (in every sense of
the word) for what you feel is lacking in personal depth isn't only
obvious like I mentioned above, it sort of comes off as begging.
And as you'll recall, we already concluded that's just ugly.
There's a reason why someone smart once said, "beggars can't be
choosers".
Cheers,
Scot McKay
=====
If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
www.deservewhatyouwant.com
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download
"Get The First Date...And The Second Date" for free. Or, just send
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rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
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professional advice.
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