[X&Y] How To Turn Her Attraction Into Absolute Loving Devotion
Published: Mon, 05/31/10
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Sure she likes you. If you find yourself really
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ON THIS MEMORIAL DAY
As I do every year, I want to take time to remember and honor those
who have paid the ultimate price in service to their country.
I trust you have enjoyed the long weekend if you happen to be where
Memorial Day is observed today, and that you spent it with friends
and loved ones.
Great respect to those in uniform who are even now on active duty
protecting freedom all over the world, as well as to all veterans.
Our hats are off to you on this day and every day.
Lots and lots of you guys have done Ten-Plus programs with me, and
I never cease to be amazed by the life experiences you've had and
the stories you tell.
Walking a mile in your shoes as a veteran of Iraq, Afghanistan,
Vietnam or wherever else you've been in harm's way would make most
of us stop complaining about our steaks not having been served
medium rare and cause us to take a lot more courage in overcoming
what's before us on a daily basis.
So stay safe out there, and you can expect a sincere welcome when
you come home if you're currently overseas.
And thank you for what you do.
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HOW TO TURN HER ATTRACTION INTO ABSOLUTE LOVING
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Sure she likes you. If you find yourself really
liking her also, do this...
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ON THIS MEMORIAL DAY
As I do every year, I want to take time to remember and honor those
who have paid the ultimate price in service to their country.
I trust you have enjoyed the long weekend if you happen to be where
Memorial Day is observed today, and that you spent it with friends
and loved ones.
Great respect to those in uniform who are even now on active duty
protecting freedom all over the world, as well as to all veterans.
Our hats are off to you on this day and every day.
Lots and lots of you guys have done Ten-Plus programs with me, and
I never cease to be amazed by the life experiences you've had and
the stories you tell.
Walking a mile in your shoes as a veteran of Iraq, Afghanistan,
Vietnam or wherever else you've been in harm's way would make most
of us stop complaining about our steaks not having been served
medium rare and cause us to take a lot more courage in overcoming
what's before us on a daily basis.
So stay safe out there, and you can expect a sincere welcome when
you come home if you're currently overseas.
And thank you for what you do.
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HOW TO TURN HER ATTRACTION INTO ABSOLUTE LOVING
DEVOTION
Here's a good question. Ready?
Exactly WHY do you want a woman to be attracted to you, anyway?
Careful...you might want to give that one some thought before simply
giving the first answer that comes to mind.
Is it so you can have sex with her and move on to the next one?
Is it because you enjoy having your masculinity ignited by feminine
appreciation, even though you'd really rather not be "bothered" by
having a woman in your life?
Both of those possible answers are actually valid ones for lots and
lots of guys.
But what if the true answer for you is so that you can be free to
evaluate whether or not she's the greatest woman you've ever met
and possibly decide to pursue a long, mutually-fulfilling
relationship with her?
If I just hit the nail on the head in that last paragraph, then it's just
Here's a good question. Ready?
Exactly WHY do you want a woman to be attracted to you, anyway?
Careful...you might want to give that one some thought before simply
giving the first answer that comes to mind.
Is it so you can have sex with her and move on to the next one?
Is it because you enjoy having your masculinity ignited by feminine
appreciation, even though you'd really rather not be "bothered" by
having a woman in your life?
Both of those possible answers are actually valid ones for lots and
lots of guys.
But what if the true answer for you is so that you can be free to
evaluate whether or not she's the greatest woman you've ever met
and possibly decide to pursue a long, mutually-fulfilling
relationship with her?
If I just hit the nail on the head in that last paragraph, then it's just
like I always say: You're going to have to be READY for her
when you meet her.
You just can't be caught by surprise.
Now, if you've been subscribed to this newsletter for a while now,
you'll recall that I've talked about "charm throttling" before.
That's what a "big four" man needs to do when he's with a woman he
ISN'T yet so sure about.
After all, when you don't quite have whether you really want a
second date with her or not figured out just yet, it's a good idea
NOT to do things that are likely to get her to develop powerful
feelings for you early on.
But what about when "charm throttling" is out the window and you
have a woman in your life that you're sure you REALLY WANT to
You just can't be caught by surprise.
Now, if you've been subscribed to this newsletter for a while now,
you'll recall that I've talked about "charm throttling" before.
That's what a "big four" man needs to do when he's with a woman he
ISN'T yet so sure about.
After all, when you don't quite have whether you really want a
second date with her or not figured out just yet, it's a good idea
NOT to do things that are likely to get her to develop powerful
feelings for you early on.
But what about when "charm throttling" is out the window and you
have a woman in your life that you're sure you REALLY WANT to
keep around?
Sure, you may already have her ATTRACTED TO YOU, but how
Sure, you may already have her ATTRACTED TO YOU, but how
can you do the OPPOSITE of "charm throttling".
In other words, how do you turn simple interest (aka "attraction")
into absolute, loving devotion?
Well, obviously, the decision to pursue a long-term, committed
relationship is NOT made overnight.
And "devotion" may actually be a bit of a heavy-duty term for the
context at hand. That also takes time to cultivate, most
definitely.
But make no mistake: You CAN cause a woman to feel intense
In other words, how do you turn simple interest (aka "attraction")
into absolute, loving devotion?
Well, obviously, the decision to pursue a long-term, committed
relationship is NOT made overnight.
And "devotion" may actually be a bit of a heavy-duty term for the
context at hand. That also takes time to cultivate, most
definitely.
But make no mistake: You CAN cause a woman to feel intense
"warm fuzzies" for you relatively quickly, and get her talking to her
friends and family as if she's met the most amazing man who's
friends and family as if she's met the most amazing man who's
ever lived.
That's you.
Of course, the secret to what I'm about to share with you lies in
how you represent to her what she CRAVES in a man.
And it's about how much deeper you can look than just wanting to
have sex with her.
And It's about having the patience and maturity to know that
getting the job at hand done the RIGHT way will lead to
particularly explosive sexual fireworks, anyway.
Now before we get to the list, I have to make something PERFECTLY
clear.
EVERYTHING you're about to read below presupposes you've
That's you.
Of course, the secret to what I'm about to share with you lies in
how you represent to her what she CRAVES in a man.
And it's about how much deeper you can look than just wanting to
have sex with her.
And It's about having the patience and maturity to know that
getting the job at hand done the RIGHT way will lead to
particularly explosive sexual fireworks, anyway.
Now before we get to the list, I have to make something PERFECTLY
clear.
EVERYTHING you're about to read below presupposes you've
ALREADY CREATED STRONG ATTRACTION.
In other words, if you try ANY of what follows in an attempt to
CREATE attraction, you're little stunt will only BACKFIRE.
In fact, the difference between looking needy and overbearing
versus coming off as a man with real depth is a devastating
combination of HER ATTRACTION and YOUR "BIG FOUR"
In other words, if you try ANY of what follows in an attempt to
CREATE attraction, you're little stunt will only BACKFIRE.
In fact, the difference between looking needy and overbearing
versus coming off as a man with real depth is a devastating
combination of HER ATTRACTION and YOUR "BIG FOUR"
PRESENCE.
You must NEVER come off as conniving or begging. You must
You must NEVER come off as conniving or begging. You must
NEVER seem as if you are "trying too hard" to create attraction
out of nothing.
So this means that every one of Cupid's arrows that I'm about to
share with you are best taken out of the quiver only after you've
ALREADY KNOWN HER for at least a few dates...I hope.
Basically, it's all meant to MAGNIFY the affection she's ALREADY
showing towards you. You'll see what I mean as you read on.
And if you don't, save your brainwashed e-mails telling me that
showing any positive concern for women at all beyond nailing them
is for wusses.
Good luck with that. Maybe someday you'll get the difference
sorted out, at which time the rest of this newsletter will be
meaningful to you.
So here we go...five guaranteed ways to turn her attraction into
absolute loving devotion:
1) TAKE CARE OF HER WHEN SHE'S SICK
I'm not talking about waiting on her hand and foot as she whines,
complains and makes demands like a spoiled brat.
For starters, the greatest woman you've ever met WON'T behave like
that.
More than likely, when you find out she's not feeling well she'll
simply tell you she's bummed out that she got a cold or whatever
and hopes to get well soon so she can hang out with you again.
And THAT'S where you spring into action.
Now, granted, there are a couple of assumptions that must be made
here.
First, you'll want to make sure she doesn't have some crazy
tropical disease that's highly contagious.
Second, she's got to be at least comfortable with you dropping by
to see her--regardless of what she said.
But with those two minor considerations covered, you can have a
GOLDEN opportunity here.
Now, knowing how mortified some women can be to see a guy like
So this means that every one of Cupid's arrows that I'm about to
share with you are best taken out of the quiver only after you've
ALREADY KNOWN HER for at least a few dates...I hope.
Basically, it's all meant to MAGNIFY the affection she's ALREADY
showing towards you. You'll see what I mean as you read on.
And if you don't, save your brainwashed e-mails telling me that
showing any positive concern for women at all beyond nailing them
is for wusses.
Good luck with that. Maybe someday you'll get the difference
sorted out, at which time the rest of this newsletter will be
meaningful to you.
So here we go...five guaranteed ways to turn her attraction into
absolute loving devotion:
1) TAKE CARE OF HER WHEN SHE'S SICK
I'm not talking about waiting on her hand and foot as she whines,
complains and makes demands like a spoiled brat.
For starters, the greatest woman you've ever met WON'T behave like
that.
More than likely, when you find out she's not feeling well she'll
simply tell you she's bummed out that she got a cold or whatever
and hopes to get well soon so she can hang out with you again.
And THAT'S where you spring into action.
Now, granted, there are a couple of assumptions that must be made
here.
First, you'll want to make sure she doesn't have some crazy
tropical disease that's highly contagious.
Second, she's got to be at least comfortable with you dropping by
to see her--regardless of what she said.
But with those two minor considerations covered, you can have a
GOLDEN opportunity here.
Now, knowing how mortified some women can be to see a guy like
you when they're not at their best, it's going to take an amazing
woman to even AGREE to what I'm about to suggest.
But if you TELL HER on the phone that you want to cheer her up by
bringing her some of that great chicken soup from the restaurant
you had lunch at together, she just may agree to it.
When you get to her place, place the soup on her nightstand.
Say VERY LITTLE, but make it light. Perhaps even something
humorous about either her room or her circumstances.
Then, tuck her covers around her, kiss her on the forehead, and
whisper in her ear that she's still pretty cute even when she's not
feeling well.
Then LEAVE.
This is NOT about trying to crawl in bed with her (even if SHE
suggests it).
You've already shown her that she has some sort of meaning to
But if you TELL HER on the phone that you want to cheer her up by
bringing her some of that great chicken soup from the restaurant
you had lunch at together, she just may agree to it.
When you get to her place, place the soup on her nightstand.
Say VERY LITTLE, but make it light. Perhaps even something
humorous about either her room or her circumstances.
Then, tuck her covers around her, kiss her on the forehead, and
whisper in her ear that she's still pretty cute even when she's not
feeling well.
Then LEAVE.
This is NOT about trying to crawl in bed with her (even if SHE
suggests it).
You've already shown her that she has some sort of meaning to
you beyond sexual conquest by showing up.
Now prove it by letting her get some rest.
This will blow her away.
And even if she flatly refuses to let you see her when she's sick
(which is probable) rest assured there will be a sparkle in her eye
when you hang up the phone having brought it up.
She'll know you're different. And she'll like it...a lot.
2) PLAY HER A SONG
If you play guitar--even a little--you already know how powerful this
can be.
There's just something about music that melts a woman's heart,
especially if that music is FOR her, FROM you.
The level of intimacy it creates is nothing short of
magic...seriously.
Pick a song to play that sums up what you'd like to say to her, and
don't even worry about the words being a bit too "mushy" or
something.
In fact, here's the crazy part. The same lyrics that would come
off as too "over the top" if simply spoken are often STONE-COLD
PERFECT when in the context of a song.
I'd venture to say that the more you tease her and/or come off like
a pretty hard guy in normal conversation, the BETTER OFF you are
finding a song with pretty emotional lyrics.
It'll just give her a window into a deeper part of your soul.
She'll love you for this.
If you can WRITE a song, even better. If she happens to inspire
potential song lyrics that just pop into your head one day, write
them down on the spot and go for it.
And what if you can't play guitar (or possibly piano)? Then don't
even think about dusting off the clarinet from middle school or the
accordion your German grandmother made you get lessons on.
Cook for her instead. The end result will be the same:
3) GIVE HER A MASSAGE
That's spelled "massage", not "message". You can't text your way
out of this one, cowboy.
When she comes over your house, surprise her by rubbing her
shoulders after she sits down.
When she starts purring like a kitten, she'll probably invite you
rub her back.
She may even lie down flat as she extends the invitation.
At that point, don't try to undo her bra or sneak in a grab at her
"butt cleavage".
Rest assured, you won't have to. She'll probably take care of
those arrangements herself.
She may casually unhook her bra or roll down the beltline of her
shorts for you
Think of it this way.
Women who are particularly attracted to you WANT you to touch
Now prove it by letting her get some rest.
This will blow her away.
And even if she flatly refuses to let you see her when she's sick
(which is probable) rest assured there will be a sparkle in her eye
when you hang up the phone having brought it up.
She'll know you're different. And she'll like it...a lot.
2) PLAY HER A SONG
If you play guitar--even a little--you already know how powerful this
can be.
There's just something about music that melts a woman's heart,
especially if that music is FOR her, FROM you.
The level of intimacy it creates is nothing short of
magic...seriously.
Pick a song to play that sums up what you'd like to say to her, and
don't even worry about the words being a bit too "mushy" or
something.
In fact, here's the crazy part. The same lyrics that would come
off as too "over the top" if simply spoken are often STONE-COLD
PERFECT when in the context of a song.
I'd venture to say that the more you tease her and/or come off like
a pretty hard guy in normal conversation, the BETTER OFF you are
finding a song with pretty emotional lyrics.
It'll just give her a window into a deeper part of your soul.
She'll love you for this.
If you can WRITE a song, even better. If she happens to inspire
potential song lyrics that just pop into your head one day, write
them down on the spot and go for it.
And what if you can't play guitar (or possibly piano)? Then don't
even think about dusting off the clarinet from middle school or the
accordion your German grandmother made you get lessons on.
Cook for her instead. The end result will be the same:
3) GIVE HER A MASSAGE
That's spelled "massage", not "message". You can't text your way
out of this one, cowboy.
When she comes over your house, surprise her by rubbing her
shoulders after she sits down.
When she starts purring like a kitten, she'll probably invite you
rub her back.
She may even lie down flat as she extends the invitation.
At that point, don't try to undo her bra or sneak in a grab at her
"butt cleavage".
Rest assured, you won't have to. She'll probably take care of
those arrangements herself.
She may casually unhook her bra or roll down the beltline of her
shorts for you
Think of it this way.
Women who are particularly attracted to you WANT you to touch
them, and you've just given her reason and logic to back her
emotional desires.
So sometime around when she indicates with such a signal such that
you can pretty much touch her wherever you'd like, you should pause
and get that special massage oil that smells amazing that you
happened to have bought.
I'd recommend Bath And Body Works for such items, because it's
always incredibly fun to buy something from there.
This is probably because they typically only employ very cute women
who automatically think you're terrific and wish they were the one
who you were buying all their great stuff for.
It rocks...try it.
Oh, and two other things.
First, be sure to give her a foot massage. This is incredibly
sensual, and I agree 100% that a woman's feet can be considered
So sometime around when she indicates with such a signal such that
you can pretty much touch her wherever you'd like, you should pause
and get that special massage oil that smells amazing that you
happened to have bought.
I'd recommend Bath And Body Works for such items, because it's
always incredibly fun to buy something from there.
This is probably because they typically only employ very cute women
who automatically think you're terrific and wish they were the one
who you were buying all their great stuff for.
It rocks...try it.
Oh, and two other things.
First, be sure to give her a foot massage. This is incredibly
sensual, and I agree 100% that a woman's feet can be considered
to be miniature versions of a woman's form in general.
So what you heard in Pulp Fiction might just be true. A foot
massage isn't just a foot massage. It gets a woman to start
thinking about your hands massaging her everywhere else also.
OK, I've got more to say about where the massage MIGHT lead next,
but it looks like this newsletter is better off being split into
two parts.
Besides, the lacrosse national championship game is about to
start...and I'd say Emily needs a foot massage.
Next time I'll deliver the goods on how to make the massage truly
amazing, and we'll also cover two more outstanding ways to turn a
woman's attraction into absolute loving devotion.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Since it's Memorial Day and we're honoring our troops all
over the world, I want to go ahead and remind you that we ALWAYS
extend a very special discount to active duty military personnel.
If you are indeed on active duty in the military, by all means
e-mail me at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com and simply ask for the
coupon code before you buy anything from our store:
www.deservewhatyouwant.com/store
While you're at it, be sure to tell me what company you're in and
where you are stationed.
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So what you heard in Pulp Fiction might just be true. A foot
massage isn't just a foot massage. It gets a woman to start
thinking about your hands massaging her everywhere else also.
OK, I've got more to say about where the massage MIGHT lead next,
but it looks like this newsletter is better off being split into
two parts.
Besides, the lacrosse national championship game is about to
start...and I'd say Emily needs a foot massage.
Next time I'll deliver the goods on how to make the massage truly
amazing, and we'll also cover two more outstanding ways to turn a
woman's attraction into absolute loving devotion.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Since it's Memorial Day and we're honoring our troops all
over the world, I want to go ahead and remind you that we ALWAYS
extend a very special discount to active duty military personnel.
If you are indeed on active duty in the military, by all means
e-mail me at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com and simply ask for the
coupon code before you buy anything from our store:
www.deservewhatyouwant.com/store
While you're at it, be sure to tell me what company you're in and
where you are stationed.
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newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
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