[X&Y] How To Get In The "Zone"...And Not The "JBF" One
Published: Tue, 06/15/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: She's been kind of naughty with other guys in the
past, but all of the sudden she meets YOU and decides it's time to
become a "good girl" and take things slow this time. What do you
make of that? Find out...
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IT'S ALL FINISHED...BUT ARE YOU READY FOR IT?
Good news. The Man's Approach is completely finished. All the
audios, special reports and bonuses are DONE.
A lot of time, energy and heart has gone into this--all in the name
of giving you every single advantage you need to approach women,
start conversations with them and make plans that'll really make
them all the more excited about you.
And yes...most importantly of all, this is FINALLY the definitive
resource on all of this for "Big Four" guys who are interested only
in high quality women.
It's all there.
All that's left is to get everything organized so that I can
formally make The Man's Approach available to you...at long last.
It's important to you to have a solid idea up front of what you can
fully expect to gain from it, and that's what I'm going to make
sure you have.
So yes...I'm still on track to have The Man's Approach ready for you
later THIS MONTH.
Since you're a reader of this newsletter, you'll be among the VERY
FIRST on Earth to get your hands on it. And rest assured I'll have
some extra-cool bonuses for those of you who act fast, having
waited so long for this.
Now, having finished the new program, it has become all the more
crystal clear to me that knowing the secrets found in both The
Master Plan and The Leading Man will be of TREMENDOUS benefit
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WHAT'S INSIDE: She's been kind of naughty with other guys in the
past, but all of the sudden she meets YOU and decides it's time to
become a "good girl" and take things slow this time. What do you
make of that? Find out...
=====
IT'S ALL FINISHED...BUT ARE YOU READY FOR IT?
Good news. The Man's Approach is completely finished. All the
audios, special reports and bonuses are DONE.
A lot of time, energy and heart has gone into this--all in the name
of giving you every single advantage you need to approach women,
start conversations with them and make plans that'll really make
them all the more excited about you.
And yes...most importantly of all, this is FINALLY the definitive
resource on all of this for "Big Four" guys who are interested only
in high quality women.
It's all there.
All that's left is to get everything organized so that I can
formally make The Man's Approach available to you...at long last.
It's important to you to have a solid idea up front of what you can
fully expect to gain from it, and that's what I'm going to make
sure you have.
So yes...I'm still on track to have The Man's Approach ready for you
later THIS MONTH.
Since you're a reader of this newsletter, you'll be among the VERY
FIRST on Earth to get your hands on it. And rest assured I'll have
some extra-cool bonuses for those of you who act fast, having
waited so long for this.
Now, having finished the new program, it has become all the more
crystal clear to me that knowing the secrets found in both The
Master Plan and The Leading Man will be of TREMENDOUS benefit
to you when you start tearing through The Man's Approach.
And if you haven't yet done so, now is the time to get that head
start. No sense in hyping it up...it's just a simple fact based on
the time line involved here.
So with that in mind, I've made it easy for you to get going on
this. Here's a link where you can get BOTH The Master Plan and
And if you haven't yet done so, now is the time to get that head
start. No sense in hyping it up...it's just a simple fact based on
the time line involved here.
So with that in mind, I've made it easy for you to get going on
this. Here's a link where you can get BOTH The Master Plan and
The Leading Man for a tremendous savings:
The Leading Man + The Master Plan
Want the three month "Easy Purchase" option? No worries:
The Leading Man + The Master Plan (Easy Purchase)
Now let's hear from Trent in Palm Springs, California. There are
A LOT of us who can relate to this one, for sure...
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READER QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS
Hey Scot,
I'm a pilot and I went out with a woman who used to be a flight
attendant for the company I work at.
I've been out with her a couple of times and had a very nice
evening. After the first date she said to me, "Wow. You really
surprised me. You're much cooler than I thought you would be. You
really have my attention."
She's 39, I'm 52.
I walked her to her car and kissed her goodnight a few times. I
kissed her softly and slowly with minimal escalation. She looked at
me with this look of amazement and said, "Wow. I want to take my
time getting to know you."
A few nights later, she came over for diner at my place. She was
smoking hot, wearing a cute dress and 4" heels.
After dinner we were on the couch kissing again, slowly with little
escalation. She again said that she wanted to take her time getting
to know me.
She said that she didn't know what I had heard about her, that she
had been pretty wild when she was at the airline and that she had
been promiscuous and that she didn't feel very good about herself
when she did that.
The airline is a pretty small world, so she was pretty much throwing
out on the table what she suspected I already knew.
I told her that I didn't have any problem with any of that. My sense
was that she was sincere, that she really did want to get to know me
and to take her time doing it.
My question: I'm not new to dating. Over the years I've seen women
put men in several categories.
There's the "let's just be friends" zone, the "ambiguous zone", the
ONS/sometimes "I'm really attracted to you but this isn't going to
go anywhere, so I'm going to have my fun with you" zone, the "I
like you but it's going to take 3 dates/boyfriend" zone and the "I
think you have long term potential, so I'm going slow so I don't
screw this up" zone.
The last zone in particular I'm curious to know if you think
exists, because I've seen it a few times- where women seem to put
you in a different category: a long term potential category.
I've taken your Master Plan and The Leading Man courses and see
The Leading Man + The Master Plan
Want the three month "Easy Purchase" option? No worries:
The Leading Man + The Master Plan (Easy Purchase)
Now let's hear from Trent in Palm Springs, California. There are
A LOT of us who can relate to this one, for sure...
=====
READER QUESTIONS AND COMMENTS
Hey Scot,
I'm a pilot and I went out with a woman who used to be a flight
attendant for the company I work at.
I've been out with her a couple of times and had a very nice
evening. After the first date she said to me, "Wow. You really
surprised me. You're much cooler than I thought you would be. You
really have my attention."
She's 39, I'm 52.
I walked her to her car and kissed her goodnight a few times. I
kissed her softly and slowly with minimal escalation. She looked at
me with this look of amazement and said, "Wow. I want to take my
time getting to know you."
A few nights later, she came over for diner at my place. She was
smoking hot, wearing a cute dress and 4" heels.
After dinner we were on the couch kissing again, slowly with little
escalation. She again said that she wanted to take her time getting
to know me.
She said that she didn't know what I had heard about her, that she
had been pretty wild when she was at the airline and that she had
been promiscuous and that she didn't feel very good about herself
when she did that.
The airline is a pretty small world, so she was pretty much throwing
out on the table what she suspected I already knew.
I told her that I didn't have any problem with any of that. My sense
was that she was sincere, that she really did want to get to know me
and to take her time doing it.
My question: I'm not new to dating. Over the years I've seen women
put men in several categories.
There's the "let's just be friends" zone, the "ambiguous zone", the
ONS/sometimes "I'm really attracted to you but this isn't going to
go anywhere, so I'm going to have my fun with you" zone, the "I
like you but it's going to take 3 dates/boyfriend" zone and the "I
think you have long term potential, so I'm going slow so I don't
screw this up" zone.
The last zone in particular I'm curious to know if you think
exists, because I've seen it a few times- where women seem to put
you in a different category: a long term potential category.
I've taken your Master Plan and The Leading Man courses and see
a lot of that within me already.
I tend to be introverted, but still social. I can be very playful.
Most of the time, I feel that I exude a calm yet confident
strength. I tend to sit back a bit and observe.
And I have a great sense of truth. Most of the time I'm pretty
centered and
unflappable.
I'm curious to know what you think about women that "reinvent"
themselves and if you think the "long term potential" category
exists.
It's not something I've seen much written about.
BTW, both your Master Plan and Leading Man courses really
I tend to be introverted, but still social. I can be very playful.
Most of the time, I feel that I exude a calm yet confident
strength. I tend to sit back a bit and observe.
And I have a great sense of truth. Most of the time I'm pretty
centered and
unflappable.
I'm curious to know what you think about women that "reinvent"
themselves and if you think the "long term potential" category
exists.
It's not something I've seen much written about.
BTW, both your Master Plan and Leading Man courses really
resonated with me. Nice job.
Sincerely,
Trent (Palm Springs, CA)
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Hello Trent:
Glad you are enjoying. And I'm even more thrilled that you are
"centered" and "unflappable", given that you're an airline pilot.
But we've got a lot to cover here, so let's get on it.
As you know, women follow your lead. So when a woman is attracted
to you she is basically going to behave with you in a way that's in
line with what she believes your expectations are.
Now that said, to every unfortunate "zone" we as men may find
ourselves in, there's a "Big Four" deficiency somewhere.
This is actually something I was thinking about earlier today, in
terms of four quadrants with the two vertices being Sexual
Attraction and Character.
For example, the "just be friends" zone means she likes you and
perhaps thinks your character is okay, but isn't really attracted
to you.
The "one night stand" zone would be the diametric opposite. You've
ignited her femininity, but she really isn't sure about your
'long-term potential' because strong character hasn't really been
evident.
In the case you described, I find it extraordinarily curious that
she would divulge all of her past promiscuity to you in the context
of going on about how to take it slow.
What does all this indicate?
Well, make no mistake about it. She is attracted to you sexually.
She's saying some of the "you're amazing" type of things, and she's
coming over to your house looking smoking hot.
Women just don't come over to guys' homes alone, especially looking
that fantastic, if they're not at least expecting the outside chance
that you'll make a sexual move.
She's clearly attracted, and she clearly also believes you have
character. So you've entered what can only be described as the
"prince charming potential", or "PCP" zone.
You've got to love that acronym, and it may be a suitable one, at
that.
When a woman actually meets a REAL man who has the "Big Four"
together, it's such a rare and exciting event these days that it
fries her circuits.
She wants to jump your bones. Badly.
But on the other hand, she thinks she might want to keep you
around--and all to herself--so she's reticent to let the relationship
"degenerate" into a sexual fling and nothing more.
It's a widespread fear on women's part that once sex happens, a man
will lose interest fast...especially if no depth has been built
there in other ways beforehand.
So congratulations are in order.
Had she seen you as the kind of "nice guy" she SHOULD be interested
in having a long-term relationship with, but wasn't really FEELING
anything in that other key "zone"--the "feminine ignition zone"--the
situation would have been different.
You wouldn't have seen that dress and those heels in your very own
living room,
And you most certainly wouldn't have heard her syllables like "wow"
cross her lips after you kissed her.
You've represented to this woman what she wants in a man pretty
darned well.
And by the way, don't kid yourself, "introverted" is VERY different
than "shy". An introverted man often has a HUGE advantage when
interacting one-on-one a woman.
In addition, your calm, confident strength is a powerful way to
convey masculinity to her. You just don't necessarily have to be
the "life of the party" to attract women
After all, creating attraction is really never about personality
type, per se. But it's ALWAYS about the "Big Four".
Now that you've represented to this woman what she wants, all you
really need to do now is remember is that you're LEADING.
This means she's now looking forward to giving you what you want.
That's really heavy.
But in order to do that, you've got to actually decide what it is
that you DO WANT from your relationship with this woman here.
Do you really want that quick fling and nothing more?
Well then, you'd better tell her you're not in any position to
think about a long-term relationship, and you'll need to do that
SOON before you hurt her emotionally.
You've already led somewhere beyond the "fling" zone in her mind.
My guess is that she'll either accept the truth and have sex with
you anyway, or announce she's finished with you--only to call you
later having reconsidered the two of you having a more casual
relationship.
Or hey, she may actually have been dead serious about having "felt
bad about herself" in her more promiscuous days (which may have
been last week, by the way) and go ahead and look elsewhere for
another guy to "take it slow" with.
But what if you really do see some long-term potential in her?
What if you think you might want to keep her around and pursue a
relationship?
Well, if that's the case I personally believe it's wise not to
commit to an exclusive relationship with her until you've gotten to
know her a bit better...no matter what.
But that's not to say you aren't in a very real leadership position
here with regard to when the sex happens.
For what it's worth, I know happy couples who waited until marriage
to have sex, and I know other couples who are just as blissful
long-term having had sex on the first date.
What you're female friend is looking for from you at this point is
your LEADERSHIP that shows you're not a "bang 'em and leave 'em"
type of guy.
She needs to see that you are mature enough to enjoy a sexual
relationship with someone even as you see long-term potential
there.
Sometimes, this is as disarmingly easy to convey as TELLING HER
Sincerely,
Trent (Palm Springs, CA)
=====
Hello Trent:
Glad you are enjoying. And I'm even more thrilled that you are
"centered" and "unflappable", given that you're an airline pilot.
But we've got a lot to cover here, so let's get on it.
As you know, women follow your lead. So when a woman is attracted
to you she is basically going to behave with you in a way that's in
line with what she believes your expectations are.
Now that said, to every unfortunate "zone" we as men may find
ourselves in, there's a "Big Four" deficiency somewhere.
This is actually something I was thinking about earlier today, in
terms of four quadrants with the two vertices being Sexual
Attraction and Character.
For example, the "just be friends" zone means she likes you and
perhaps thinks your character is okay, but isn't really attracted
to you.
The "one night stand" zone would be the diametric opposite. You've
ignited her femininity, but she really isn't sure about your
'long-term potential' because strong character hasn't really been
evident.
In the case you described, I find it extraordinarily curious that
she would divulge all of her past promiscuity to you in the context
of going on about how to take it slow.
What does all this indicate?
Well, make no mistake about it. She is attracted to you sexually.
She's saying some of the "you're amazing" type of things, and she's
coming over to your house looking smoking hot.
Women just don't come over to guys' homes alone, especially looking
that fantastic, if they're not at least expecting the outside chance
that you'll make a sexual move.
She's clearly attracted, and she clearly also believes you have
character. So you've entered what can only be described as the
"prince charming potential", or "PCP" zone.
You've got to love that acronym, and it may be a suitable one, at
that.
When a woman actually meets a REAL man who has the "Big Four"
together, it's such a rare and exciting event these days that it
fries her circuits.
She wants to jump your bones. Badly.
But on the other hand, she thinks she might want to keep you
around--and all to herself--so she's reticent to let the relationship
"degenerate" into a sexual fling and nothing more.
It's a widespread fear on women's part that once sex happens, a man
will lose interest fast...especially if no depth has been built
there in other ways beforehand.
So congratulations are in order.
Had she seen you as the kind of "nice guy" she SHOULD be interested
in having a long-term relationship with, but wasn't really FEELING
anything in that other key "zone"--the "feminine ignition zone"--the
situation would have been different.
You wouldn't have seen that dress and those heels in your very own
living room,
And you most certainly wouldn't have heard her syllables like "wow"
cross her lips after you kissed her.
You've represented to this woman what she wants in a man pretty
darned well.
And by the way, don't kid yourself, "introverted" is VERY different
than "shy". An introverted man often has a HUGE advantage when
interacting one-on-one a woman.
In addition, your calm, confident strength is a powerful way to
convey masculinity to her. You just don't necessarily have to be
the "life of the party" to attract women
After all, creating attraction is really never about personality
type, per se. But it's ALWAYS about the "Big Four".
Now that you've represented to this woman what she wants, all you
really need to do now is remember is that you're LEADING.
This means she's now looking forward to giving you what you want.
That's really heavy.
But in order to do that, you've got to actually decide what it is
that you DO WANT from your relationship with this woman here.
Do you really want that quick fling and nothing more?
Well then, you'd better tell her you're not in any position to
think about a long-term relationship, and you'll need to do that
SOON before you hurt her emotionally.
You've already led somewhere beyond the "fling" zone in her mind.
My guess is that she'll either accept the truth and have sex with
you anyway, or announce she's finished with you--only to call you
later having reconsidered the two of you having a more casual
relationship.
Or hey, she may actually have been dead serious about having "felt
bad about herself" in her more promiscuous days (which may have
been last week, by the way) and go ahead and look elsewhere for
another guy to "take it slow" with.
But what if you really do see some long-term potential in her?
What if you think you might want to keep her around and pursue a
relationship?
Well, if that's the case I personally believe it's wise not to
commit to an exclusive relationship with her until you've gotten to
know her a bit better...no matter what.
But that's not to say you aren't in a very real leadership position
here with regard to when the sex happens.
For what it's worth, I know happy couples who waited until marriage
to have sex, and I know other couples who are just as blissful
long-term having had sex on the first date.
What you're female friend is looking for from you at this point is
your LEADERSHIP that shows you're not a "bang 'em and leave 'em"
type of guy.
She needs to see that you are mature enough to enjoy a sexual
relationship with someone even as you see long-term potential
there.
Sometimes, this is as disarmingly easy to convey as TELLING HER
SO.
As incredible as it sounds, your words can carry tremendous power
in causing a woman to feel secure in your presence.
And oddly enough, I'd go so far as to say that when YOU validate
the imminent sexual escalation, it somehow takes the responsibility
for having made the decision to "go for it" OFF of her.
See how that might work? She's simply following your lead at that
point. She can reason that you "seduced" her, so it really wasn't
her "fault" that things got so passionate.
But usually, it's a far better idea to bring out her playful side
by starting a water fight in the kitchen so she naturally feels the
FUN of sexual tension rather than the WORRY associated with it.
And it's an EVEN BETTER IDEA to concentrate on the SENSUAL
As incredible as it sounds, your words can carry tremendous power
in causing a woman to feel secure in your presence.
And oddly enough, I'd go so far as to say that when YOU validate
the imminent sexual escalation, it somehow takes the responsibility
for having made the decision to "go for it" OFF of her.
See how that might work? She's simply following your lead at that
point. She can reason that you "seduced" her, so it really wasn't
her "fault" that things got so passionate.
But usually, it's a far better idea to bring out her playful side
by starting a water fight in the kitchen so she naturally feels the
FUN of sexual tension rather than the WORRY associated with it.
And it's an EVEN BETTER IDEA to concentrate on the SENSUAL
rather than the SEXUAL for a while.
Oh, man...this is like CATNIP to women.
I have to tell you. I'm got a very special module in The Man's
Approach that's going to be HUGELY valuable in this area...and from
the very first time you hang out with a woman.
But for now, consider the example I recently shared in that recent
newsletter about how to start with a simple backrub and end up in a
bubble bath together.
I think you've got a primo candidate for such in your new flight
attendant friend.
And when you're naked together in the bathtub, don't act sexually
overwhelmed. Just soak it all in together, enjoy the conversation
and flick some bubbles at her.
Show this woman that you understand SENSUAL, and she'll
instinctively feel that you have her best interests at heart.
Then spank her on her "empennage" when she gets out of the
Oh, man...this is like CATNIP to women.
I have to tell you. I'm got a very special module in The Man's
Approach that's going to be HUGELY valuable in this area...and from
the very first time you hang out with a woman.
But for now, consider the example I recently shared in that recent
newsletter about how to start with a simple backrub and end up in a
bubble bath together.
I think you've got a primo candidate for such in your new flight
attendant friend.
And when you're naked together in the bathtub, don't act sexually
overwhelmed. Just soak it all in together, enjoy the conversation
and flick some bubbles at her.
Show this woman that you understand SENSUAL, and she'll
instinctively feel that you have her best interests at heart.
Then spank her on her "empennage" when she gets out of the
bathtub, flyboy.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Hey, there's just something you've GOT to love about hot
flight attendants, right? ...Especially here in the States where
they're becoming a rarer and rarer commodity.
As such, I've been sure to include specific, field-proven steps on
how to MEET them in The Man's Approach. I've got your back, as
always.
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Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Hey, there's just something you've GOT to love about hot
flight attendants, right? ...Especially here in the States where
they're becoming a rarer and rarer commodity.
As such, I've been sure to include specific, field-proven steps on
how to MEET them in The Man's Approach. I've got your back, as
always.
=====
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rehashed around here. Enjoy!
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