[X&Y] Sex As A Weapon?
Published: Mon, 07/05/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: She says she'll only have sex once the relationship
is exclusive...but meanwhile she sure isn't shy about making her
sexual appetite perfectly clear. What's wrong with this picture?
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HIGHEST CUSTOMER SATISFACTION OF ALL TIME
It has been a full ten days since the official release of The Man's
Approach.
For a few days I didn't hear much from the scores of guys who had
snapped up their copies as soon as I opened the doors, which I
thought was odd.
As it turns out, that's because most who did so found themselves
IMMERSED in it for the entire weekend afterward.
Guys started reporting early last week that they just couldn't stop
listening.
Here just one example of the kind of rave reviews we've received
within the past week or so:
"Thank you very much for The Man's Approach program. It is
absolutely superb. I'm really enjoying going through it. It's
absolutely fantastic." - Craig (Scotland)
As of right now, all indicators point to The Man's Approach having
the highest customer satisfaction level of any program we've ever
produced.
And that's saying something, considering how extraordinarily well
all of the others have been received.
Once you get a good look at the description of what's included in
The Man's Approach, you'll know immediately that I've covered just
about EVERYTHING when it comes to meeting and attracting women,
starting conversations with them and making plans to see them again:
The Man's Approach
Will you settle for nothing less than meeting only the highest
quality women? And do you already know that being a pickup artist
will NOT get the job done?
If the answers to those questions are both "yes" for you, then The
Man's Approach is exactly what you've been looking for.
It's time to invite a great woman into your life. No more waiting.
The Man's Approach
And now, let's hear from Frank in Louisiana...
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LETTER FROM A READER
Scot,
Here's what happened. I want to make sure I'm not missing
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WHAT'S INSIDE: She says she'll only have sex once the relationship
is exclusive...but meanwhile she sure isn't shy about making her
sexual appetite perfectly clear. What's wrong with this picture?
=====
HIGHEST CUSTOMER SATISFACTION OF ALL TIME
It has been a full ten days since the official release of The Man's
Approach.
For a few days I didn't hear much from the scores of guys who had
snapped up their copies as soon as I opened the doors, which I
thought was odd.
As it turns out, that's because most who did so found themselves
IMMERSED in it for the entire weekend afterward.
Guys started reporting early last week that they just couldn't stop
listening.
Here just one example of the kind of rave reviews we've received
within the past week or so:
"Thank you very much for The Man's Approach program. It is
absolutely superb. I'm really enjoying going through it. It's
absolutely fantastic." - Craig (Scotland)
As of right now, all indicators point to The Man's Approach having
the highest customer satisfaction level of any program we've ever
produced.
And that's saying something, considering how extraordinarily well
all of the others have been received.
Once you get a good look at the description of what's included in
The Man's Approach, you'll know immediately that I've covered just
about EVERYTHING when it comes to meeting and attracting women,
starting conversations with them and making plans to see them again:
The Man's Approach
Will you settle for nothing less than meeting only the highest
quality women? And do you already know that being a pickup artist
will NOT get the job done?
If the answers to those questions are both "yes" for you, then The
Man's Approach is exactly what you've been looking for.
It's time to invite a great woman into your life. No more waiting.
The Man's Approach
And now, let's hear from Frank in Louisiana...
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LETTER FROM A READER
Scot,
Here's what happened. I want to make sure I'm not missing
anything when I look at this situation.
Yesterday, a woman I've been seeing and I spent the day together.
All was good, we had a great time.
Then we get back to my place...she has to get up early and we're
both dead tired so we basically head straight to bed.
We kiss and hold each other a bit--nothing too energetic. She
starts asking me what some of my sexual fantasies are, and
Yesterday, a woman I've been seeing and I spent the day together.
All was good, we had a great time.
Then we get back to my place...she has to get up early and we're
both dead tired so we basically head straight to bed.
We kiss and hold each other a bit--nothing too energetic. She
starts asking me what some of my sexual fantasies are, and
grinding herself against my crotch.
We start to kiss more passionately, and I'm telling her she's
getting me all riled up, and I thought she was tired.
Both our hands start to roam a bit. I'm thinking she wants a
quickie or something before we go to sleep, so I go to start taking
her pants off, and she stops me.
So I ask her if she's on her cycle or just not in the mood. She
says no, it goes back to exclusivity. She said she doesn't want to
have sex if we're not exclusive
I thought it was clear from a conversation we had a few days ago
that she just wasn't going to date other guys if she was sleeping
with someone else.
I had told her that I wasn't sleeping with anyone else and of
course we weren't going to expose each other to STDs.
So back to the situation, I'm quite displeased at this point but
staying calm.
She says, "Well, you liked the grinding, didn't you?" I said that I
did, but didn't like her carrot and stick approach to exclusivity.
She seems to think it's miscommunication at this point, and I tell
her that her grinding on me and asking about sexual fantasies
We start to kiss more passionately, and I'm telling her she's
getting me all riled up, and I thought she was tired.
Both our hands start to roam a bit. I'm thinking she wants a
quickie or something before we go to sleep, so I go to start taking
her pants off, and she stops me.
So I ask her if she's on her cycle or just not in the mood. She
says no, it goes back to exclusivity. She said she doesn't want to
have sex if we're not exclusive
I thought it was clear from a conversation we had a few days ago
that she just wasn't going to date other guys if she was sleeping
with someone else.
I had told her that I wasn't sleeping with anyone else and of
course we weren't going to expose each other to STDs.
So back to the situation, I'm quite displeased at this point but
staying calm.
She says, "Well, you liked the grinding, didn't you?" I said that I
did, but didn't like her carrot and stick approach to exclusivity.
She seems to think it's miscommunication at this point, and I tell
her that her grinding on me and asking about sexual fantasies
(both of which she initiated) while she wasn't prepared to finish
what she started was tantamount to manipulation.
And here's the question--does this sound to you like I'm
overreacting to an innocent miscommunication or am properly
And here's the question--does this sound to you like I'm
overreacting to an innocent miscommunication or am properly
called out manipulative behavior?
If the latter, have I successfully called out bad behavior in a way
that means it's not likely to recur, or does this sound like a
character defect?
This certainly fails the TGR-R (The Golden Rule, Reversed) test.
I don't believe in sleeping in someone's bed and sexually
stimulating them with no intent for it to go anywhere, and
definitely not chaining it to exclusivity.
I was strongly thinking about going exclusive--she's great in so
many ways--but her trying to barter sexual activity for an
increased commitment still looms large in my mind.
Thanks,
Frank (Slidell, LA)
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Hello Frank, and thanks for writing.
Yes, her behavior is absolutely manipulative.
The unfortunate part for her here, from a "deserve what you want"
perspective, is that she's actually setting herself up for a guy to
say, "Why sure, I'll make you my steady girlfriend. Now give it
up."
And, of course, once she agrees, he'll call her the next day and
say, "I'm sorry. I just can't do this after all. I'm just not
ready."
But as you duly noted with your TGR-R reference, you're not that
kind of guy.
And perhaps ironically, it's for that reason that you deserve
better than her.
This is a lesson every guy needs to learn.
We're all HUMAN BEINGS. Nobody, regardless of gender, gets a
If the latter, have I successfully called out bad behavior in a way
that means it's not likely to recur, or does this sound like a
character defect?
This certainly fails the TGR-R (The Golden Rule, Reversed) test.
I don't believe in sleeping in someone's bed and sexually
stimulating them with no intent for it to go anywhere, and
definitely not chaining it to exclusivity.
I was strongly thinking about going exclusive--she's great in so
many ways--but her trying to barter sexual activity for an
increased commitment still looms large in my mind.
Thanks,
Frank (Slidell, LA)
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Hello Frank, and thanks for writing.
Yes, her behavior is absolutely manipulative.
The unfortunate part for her here, from a "deserve what you want"
perspective, is that she's actually setting herself up for a guy to
say, "Why sure, I'll make you my steady girlfriend. Now give it
up."
And, of course, once she agrees, he'll call her the next day and
say, "I'm sorry. I just can't do this after all. I'm just not
ready."
But as you duly noted with your TGR-R reference, you're not that
kind of guy.
And perhaps ironically, it's for that reason that you deserve
better than her.
This is a lesson every guy needs to learn.
We're all HUMAN BEINGS. Nobody, regardless of gender, gets a
"free pass" when it comes to manipulation...whether it turns out
well for the manipulator or not.
She wants a boyfriend, and is attempting to use sex as a weapon
She wants a boyfriend, and is attempting to use sex as a weapon
to get what she wants.
This is the opposite of representing what the opposite sex wants
and therefore
having MOTOS (members of the opposite sex) gladly give in return.
She'll end up with manipulative men who follow the pattern I
described as due recompense for her behavior patterns, and will
likely end up thinking "all men are the same".
She'll also encounter her share of men who have a greater measure
of self-respect and who will therefore respond with, "thanks, but
no thanks", as I'm sure you will do.
Unfortunately, she'll (incorrectly) chalk THAT sort of response up
to something having to do with her not being all that desirable to
the kind of men she's most attracted to.
So you can see exactly how damaging selfishness (aka "trying to
This is the opposite of representing what the opposite sex wants
and therefore
having MOTOS (members of the opposite sex) gladly give in return.
She'll end up with manipulative men who follow the pattern I
described as due recompense for her behavior patterns, and will
likely end up thinking "all men are the same".
She'll also encounter her share of men who have a greater measure
of self-respect and who will therefore respond with, "thanks, but
no thanks", as I'm sure you will do.
Unfortunately, she'll (incorrectly) chalk THAT sort of response up
to something having to do with her not being all that desirable to
the kind of men she's most attracted to.
So you can see exactly how damaging selfishness (aka "trying to
get what you want") really is to one's ability to relate to MOTOS
effectively and build solid relationships with them.
For what it's worth, like most matters of dating/relationship
dynamics this is NOT gender specific.
For example, were we to try to trick a woman into sex earlier than
she is inherently comfortable with, we shouldn't be surprised that
we're either manipulated in return or kicked to the curb.
Yet some guys go about their interactions with women in EXACTLY
that matter, only to write me later wondering why women "reject"
them so often and/or are pretty much "mean to them" in general.
But both of those end results are quite preventable, if we'll only
present ourselves as a "Big Four" man. Make yourself irresistible
to her, and she'll convince HERSELF that she has to have you. No
manipulation necessary.
That's notwithstanding any ulterior "agenda" SHE'S got in the
works, of course. A man's still got to look alive out there.
Meanwhile, putting the shoe back on the other foot just for
demonstrative purposes here, look at the truth about your female
friend's situation here.
She's about to get broken up with when up until now you were
seriously considering making her your girlfriend...and it's all
because of her manipulative tactics.
And worst of all, all of her heartache may not be due to her being
a "bad person" as it were. You can probably attribute it to pure
impatience.
With maturity she may figure it all out. We can only hope she
hasn't become jaded against men by then.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
effectively and build solid relationships with them.
For what it's worth, like most matters of dating/relationship
dynamics this is NOT gender specific.
For example, were we to try to trick a woman into sex earlier than
she is inherently comfortable with, we shouldn't be surprised that
we're either manipulated in return or kicked to the curb.
Yet some guys go about their interactions with women in EXACTLY
that matter, only to write me later wondering why women "reject"
them so often and/or are pretty much "mean to them" in general.
But both of those end results are quite preventable, if we'll only
present ourselves as a "Big Four" man. Make yourself irresistible
to her, and she'll convince HERSELF that she has to have you. No
manipulation necessary.
That's notwithstanding any ulterior "agenda" SHE'S got in the
works, of course. A man's still got to look alive out there.
Meanwhile, putting the shoe back on the other foot just for
demonstrative purposes here, look at the truth about your female
friend's situation here.
She's about to get broken up with when up until now you were
seriously considering making her your girlfriend...and it's all
because of her manipulative tactics.
And worst of all, all of her heartache may not be due to her being
a "bad person" as it were. You can probably attribute it to pure
impatience.
With maturity she may figure it all out. We can only hope she
hasn't become jaded against men by then.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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