[X&Y] How To Get Rid Of A Female Stalker
Published: Wed, 07/07/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: You met her, had a nice conversation and traded
numbers. Now she won't leave you alone. How do you fix this
situation?
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WHAT'S INSIDE: You met her, had a nice conversation and traded
numbers. Now she won't leave you alone. How do you fix this
situation?
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fantastic. In fact most of you are asking for MORE MORE MORE.
So as always, I've got your back.
We've got another "special guest" or two of the unbeatable "sexy
sweetheart" variety lined up to join us for another round of visual
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And now, let's hear from Don in England. His question is a
REALLY good one...and yet another that falls under the "high
quality problem" category.
His is also one of those issues that may not seem to apply to you
right now in the moment, but boy will you be glad you read this
newsletter whenever it DOES apply to you someday.
And if you're a "Big Four" man, it will...absolutely. Read on.
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LETTER FROM A READER
Hi Scot,
I have a problem I need your help with. I broke up with my
girlfriend for a short time. So I went to my friend's party and I
met this girl.
We had a quick talk but even though I saw she was desperate and
needy, she asked for my number I gave it to her without thinking.
Before the party ended this girl was following me everywhere.
His is also one of those issues that may not seem to apply to you
right now in the moment, but boy will you be glad you read this
newsletter whenever it DOES apply to you someday.
And if you're a "Big Four" man, it will...absolutely. Read on.
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LETTER FROM A READER
Hi Scot,
I have a problem I need your help with. I broke up with my
girlfriend for a short time. So I went to my friend's party and I
met this girl.
We had a quick talk but even though I saw she was desperate and
needy, she asked for my number I gave it to her without thinking.
Before the party ended this girl was following me everywhere.
She got me into corner and I kissed her just once, but went home
by myself.
The next morning she sent me 3 texts. I didn't get back to her and
she sent 2 more texts.
I ignored her for a while but she still kept the texting and
calling me.
Now I'm back with my girlfriend. I don't want this girl to mess
things up for me.
I've told this girl 3 times I have a girlfriend now but she thinks
that by trying to be my friend maybe she can change my mind. I
The next morning she sent me 3 texts. I didn't get back to her and
she sent 2 more texts.
I ignored her for a while but she still kept the texting and
calling me.
Now I'm back with my girlfriend. I don't want this girl to mess
things up for me.
I've told this girl 3 times I have a girlfriend now but she thinks
that by trying to be my friend maybe she can change my mind. I
sent a text telling her I want to end any communication with her.
But she won't listen.
I don't know what to do now. Can you give me any advice to stop
this girl from calling and texting me?
Kind Regards,
Don (Manchester, UK)
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Hello Don:
Your best bet is to STOP responding to her completely...even if
your only contact is for the stated purpose of telling her to stop
contacting you.
I realize you have tried to ignore her for the most part, but I'm
telling you...even ONE response is enough to fuel the fire.
On one level it's like the way it was back in school. The bigger a
rise a bully got from a kid who he picked on, the more he picked
But she won't listen.
I don't know what to do now. Can you give me any advice to stop
this girl from calling and texting me?
Kind Regards,
Don (Manchester, UK)
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Hello Don:
Your best bet is to STOP responding to her completely...even if
your only contact is for the stated purpose of telling her to stop
contacting you.
I realize you have tried to ignore her for the most part, but I'm
telling you...even ONE response is enough to fuel the fire.
On one level it's like the way it was back in school. The bigger a
rise a bully got from a kid who he picked on, the more he picked
on him. It just provides more substance to continue the
"conversation" with.
Similarly to that in your case, she may not care that your response
isn't exactly favorable, in her mind it's still enjoyable to some
extent because SHE'S STILL TALKING TO YOU. And as long as
"conversation" with.
Similarly to that in your case, she may not care that your response
isn't exactly favorable, in her mind it's still enjoyable to some
extent because SHE'S STILL TALKING TO YOU. And as long as
you keep things rolling, the more "material" she has to work with.
But on another level, what's happened here is also a lot like what
happens after you've fed a stray cat. All it takes is ONCE and the
cat keeps coming back...and won't EVER quit.
That analogy applied to the kiss at the party, and carried through
to the first time you texted her back...no matter how long you
ignored her until that point.
Let me tell you why.
In the specific case of this woman who has totally sold herself on
falling for you, she's likely to rationalize to herself that ANY
response from you equals "hope".
And here's the weird part. For better or worse, her thought
process isn't actually as irrational as it may seem.
Even in the sales world this principle is actually known to carry
some merit, believe it or not.
It's remarkable how many sales eventually come from people who
initially responded to e-mail and phone solicitations by returning
the message with negative interest.
What's psychologically conveyed to the seller is a signal that
there's quite possibly a simple need on the part of the potential
buyer for an objection to be overcome.
Otherwise, his or her attention wouldn't have been piqued at all,
right?
Often that train of logic turns out to be deadly accurate, and the
sale is actually made...to a customer who originally went out of
his or her way to apparently tell the salesperson to "get lost".
So with all of that in mind, In this case I'm afraid you've already
done the equivalent of "feeding the stray cat".
So you've got to be patient, no doubt. But you're indeed going to
HAVE to ignore her COMPLETELY from this day forward.
Simply let her find some other guy to continue her conversation
with.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Oh, by the way...for those of you who may already be busy
rationalizing how what's described above may work in your favor
But on another level, what's happened here is also a lot like what
happens after you've fed a stray cat. All it takes is ONCE and the
cat keeps coming back...and won't EVER quit.
That analogy applied to the kiss at the party, and carried through
to the first time you texted her back...no matter how long you
ignored her until that point.
Let me tell you why.
In the specific case of this woman who has totally sold herself on
falling for you, she's likely to rationalize to herself that ANY
response from you equals "hope".
And here's the weird part. For better or worse, her thought
process isn't actually as irrational as it may seem.
Even in the sales world this principle is actually known to carry
some merit, believe it or not.
It's remarkable how many sales eventually come from people who
initially responded to e-mail and phone solicitations by returning
the message with negative interest.
What's psychologically conveyed to the seller is a signal that
there's quite possibly a simple need on the part of the potential
buyer for an objection to be overcome.
Otherwise, his or her attention wouldn't have been piqued at all,
right?
Often that train of logic turns out to be deadly accurate, and the
sale is actually made...to a customer who originally went out of
his or her way to apparently tell the salesperson to "get lost".
So with all of that in mind, In this case I'm afraid you've already
done the equivalent of "feeding the stray cat".
So you've got to be patient, no doubt. But you're indeed going to
HAVE to ignore her COMPLETELY from this day forward.
Simply let her find some other guy to continue her conversation
with.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Oh, by the way...for those of you who may already be busy
rationalizing how what's described above may work in your favor
when the shoe is on the other foot, here's some food for thought.
If you've got a woman you'd love to go out with who hasn't been
responding all that well to you, YES...there MAY be a slight "glimmer
of hope" if you keep hammering her with texts begging her to go out
with you.
She may in fact relent, particularly if she's too "nice" to say
"no" to people.
But most likely she WON'T.
And by "most likely she won't" I mean it's OVERWHELMINGLY
IMPROBABLE.
So please don't get any ideas from the context of this newsletter
about cheapening your self-respect in hopes of getting somewhere
with a woman by groveling.
The HIGHER PROBABILITY strategy is to be a "Big Four" man, and
therefore never have to resort to desperate measures.
Things always end better when you're actually attractive to a woman
rather than simply successful at "wearing her down"...if you can even
classify that as "success".
As I talk extensively about in The Man's Approach, a WILLING woman
is always better than a COMPLIANT one. Think about it.
Besides, yikers...the only thing worse than a female stalker is a
male one. Mark that.
Being that guy hits just about every rung of the "Big Four failure
to deploy" ladder on the way down.
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If you've got a woman you'd love to go out with who hasn't been
responding all that well to you, YES...there MAY be a slight "glimmer
of hope" if you keep hammering her with texts begging her to go out
with you.
She may in fact relent, particularly if she's too "nice" to say
"no" to people.
But most likely she WON'T.
And by "most likely she won't" I mean it's OVERWHELMINGLY
IMPROBABLE.
So please don't get any ideas from the context of this newsletter
about cheapening your self-respect in hopes of getting somewhere
with a woman by groveling.
The HIGHER PROBABILITY strategy is to be a "Big Four" man, and
therefore never have to resort to desperate measures.
Things always end better when you're actually attractive to a woman
rather than simply successful at "wearing her down"...if you can even
classify that as "success".
As I talk extensively about in The Man's Approach, a WILLING woman
is always better than a COMPLIANT one. Think about it.
Besides, yikers...the only thing worse than a female stalker is a
male one. Mark that.
Being that guy hits just about every rung of the "Big Four failure
to deploy" ladder on the way down.
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newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
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