[X&Y] John Mayer Got It Right
Published: Thu, 07/22/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Fathers be good to your daughters. Daughters
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Fathers be good to your daughters. Daughters
will love like you do. Girls become lovers who turn into mothers...
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ANOTHER WILDLY SUCCESSFUL GUY TELLS ALL...
A while ago I told you how David DeAngelo (aka Eben Pagan) was
launching a program that featured EVERY SECRET of how he built his
amazing "Double Your Dating" business.
The simple fact that you were more intrigued by that idea than by
ANY OTHER from any of my friends that I had ever told you about
really got my attention...especially since it really had little to do
with getting better with women.
In fact, wow...let's just say I got the message.
You have absolutely, positively figured out that being your own
boss as a Web entrepreneur can be a VERY good life.
What's more, it's the kind of life that women can INSTANTLY sense
is guided by confidence, ambition, passion and a PLAN.
That's all VERY GOOD.
But BEST OF ALL, it can all happen FAST for you...as long as you
have the right tools.
Well, given how POWERFULLY you responded to what Eben had to
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ANOTHER WILDLY SUCCESSFUL GUY TELLS ALL...
A while ago I told you how David DeAngelo (aka Eben Pagan) was
launching a program that featured EVERY SECRET of how he built his
amazing "Double Your Dating" business.
The simple fact that you were more intrigued by that idea than by
ANY OTHER from any of my friends that I had ever told you about
really got my attention...especially since it really had little to do
with getting better with women.
In fact, wow...let's just say I got the message.
You have absolutely, positively figured out that being your own
boss as a Web entrepreneur can be a VERY good life.
What's more, it's the kind of life that women can INSTANTLY sense
is guided by confidence, ambition, passion and a PLAN.
That's all VERY GOOD.
But BEST OF ALL, it can all happen FAST for you...as long as you
have the right tools.
Well, given how POWERFULLY you responded to what Eben had to
say, I've got to share something else with you that has just come to
my attention.
One of my good friends, Mark Ling, has just finished a report for
you called "The 5 Step Formula For Making 10K/Month Online":
http://bit.ly/bBHHkc
Why should you pay attention to this guy, and this report in
particular?
Well, you may not know Mark by name, but he happens to be the man
behind A WHOLE LOT of successful web-based companies, including
(drum roll...) Meet Your Sweet and 000Relationships.
That's right. The likes of Slade Shaw and Mirabelle Summers work
for THIS GUY.
Add it all up and his company employs over 60 people and does
MILLIONS in revenue every year.
In other words, Mark has rather quietly built a business that's A
LOT like Eben's in scope.
Having had Mark and his wife visit us in San Antonio, and having
gone to visit them at their beautiful home in New Zealand, I can
tell you he's indeed a pretty quiet guy...not one to relish the
spotlight.
But man...he's got it going on.
In fact, I'll readily admit that how he does things has influenced
us here at X & Y Communications quite a bit.
So if you have ever had ANY THOUGHT whatsoever of starting a
web-based business like Eben, Mark or Emily and I have, then I
really couldn't recommend getting your hands on Mark's special
report:
http://bit.ly/bBHHkc
Yes...it's f-r-e-e. And that's probably what makes downloading it an
even bigger "no brainer", if you ask me.
Once you log in, some of Mark's greatest "shortcuts" are yours.
And believe me, if I know Mark (and I do), you're going to want to
make sure your in on whatever his next report is that he's got
coming up (hint, hint).
Now here's a newsletter topic that I've actually been kicking
around for quite a while. I only needed the proper "inspiration"
to write it...which I got a few nights ago.
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JOHN MAYER GOT IT RIGHT
About 2 am this past Tuesday morning, while driving straight
through overnight from Memphis home to San Antonio, Emily and I
found ourselves with a straight highway ahead and calm, moonlit
skies overhead.
So we started talking about our lives together, both now and in the
future.
And as we did, we played a random string of smooth, dare I say
"romantic" tracks over the sound system.
Somewhere along the way, John Mayer's amazing song "Daughters"
began to play...right as a brief lull in our conversation had set it
up perfectly.
It had been a few years since I had actually heard that song, and I
had forgotten how much I liked it:
Fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too
When you have a daughter someday, will you be one of those guys
One of my good friends, Mark Ling, has just finished a report for
you called "The 5 Step Formula For Making 10K/Month Online":
http://bit.ly/bBHHkc
Why should you pay attention to this guy, and this report in
particular?
Well, you may not know Mark by name, but he happens to be the man
behind A WHOLE LOT of successful web-based companies, including
(drum roll...) Meet Your Sweet and 000Relationships.
That's right. The likes of Slade Shaw and Mirabelle Summers work
for THIS GUY.
Add it all up and his company employs over 60 people and does
MILLIONS in revenue every year.
In other words, Mark has rather quietly built a business that's A
LOT like Eben's in scope.
Having had Mark and his wife visit us in San Antonio, and having
gone to visit them at their beautiful home in New Zealand, I can
tell you he's indeed a pretty quiet guy...not one to relish the
spotlight.
But man...he's got it going on.
In fact, I'll readily admit that how he does things has influenced
us here at X & Y Communications quite a bit.
So if you have ever had ANY THOUGHT whatsoever of starting a
web-based business like Eben, Mark or Emily and I have, then I
really couldn't recommend getting your hands on Mark's special
report:
http://bit.ly/bBHHkc
Yes...it's f-r-e-e. And that's probably what makes downloading it an
even bigger "no brainer", if you ask me.
Once you log in, some of Mark's greatest "shortcuts" are yours.
And believe me, if I know Mark (and I do), you're going to want to
make sure your in on whatever his next report is that he's got
coming up (hint, hint).
Now here's a newsletter topic that I've actually been kicking
around for quite a while. I only needed the proper "inspiration"
to write it...which I got a few nights ago.
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JOHN MAYER GOT IT RIGHT
About 2 am this past Tuesday morning, while driving straight
through overnight from Memphis home to San Antonio, Emily and I
found ourselves with a straight highway ahead and calm, moonlit
skies overhead.
So we started talking about our lives together, both now and in the
future.
And as we did, we played a random string of smooth, dare I say
"romantic" tracks over the sound system.
Somewhere along the way, John Mayer's amazing song "Daughters"
began to play...right as a brief lull in our conversation had set it
up perfectly.
It had been a few years since I had actually heard that song, and I
had forgotten how much I liked it:
Fathers, be good to your daughters
Daughters will love like you do
Girls become lovers who turn into mothers
So mothers, be good to your daughters too
When you have a daughter someday, will you be one of those guys
who plans to buy a shotgun when she turns 13?
Or will you be confident that she'll have the skills and presence
of mind to make solid decisions and attract great guys to be her
boyfriends in school, and ultimately to be her long-term partner
someday?
Show me a guy who's shopping for guns as a "boy deterrent" and I'll
show you a guy who pretty much views women around his own age
Or will you be confident that she'll have the skills and presence
of mind to make solid decisions and attract great guys to be her
boyfriends in school, and ultimately to be her long-term partner
someday?
Show me a guy who's shopping for guns as a "boy deterrent" and I'll
show you a guy who pretty much views women around his own age
as sex objects and nothing more.
How's that?
Well, we as humans tend to project our view of the world on
everyone else...as if somehow that's "the way it is", generally
speaking.
So if we view women primarily as a means of sexual fulfillment,
we'll likely assume that every boy our daughter meets will be after
"only one thing".
And see, it's not that we won't CARE about our daughters.
It's just that John Mayer sort of hit the nail on the head:
Daughters will love like we do.
That goes for how they love THEMSELVES and how they love US,
How's that?
Well, we as humans tend to project our view of the world on
everyone else...as if somehow that's "the way it is", generally
speaking.
So if we view women primarily as a means of sexual fulfillment,
we'll likely assume that every boy our daughter meets will be after
"only one thing".
And see, it's not that we won't CARE about our daughters.
It's just that John Mayer sort of hit the nail on the head:
Daughters will love like we do.
That goes for how they love THEMSELVES and how they love US,
as well as whoever it is they eventually fall IN LOVE with.
This is for real.
For example, the truth is I don't really need to know if a guy's
packing heat on the front porch or not.
I can tell how guys feel about women in general by how their
daughters feel about them.
You see, your little girl will probably have no problem recognizing
that she's a red-blooded human being just like you are...capable
This is for real.
For example, the truth is I don't really need to know if a guy's
packing heat on the front porch or not.
I can tell how guys feel about women in general by how their
daughters feel about them.
You see, your little girl will probably have no problem recognizing
that she's a red-blooded human being just like you are...capable
of bestowing any number of amazing gifts--feminine or
otherwise--upon this big, wonderful world.
But if you've been a primarily sex-focused guy, your worldview
won't only be projected onto the GUYS in her life...it just might be
projected onto HER.
And she'll resent you for that, realizing she has so much more to
offer.
Want a quick "head check" to see where you really are on this?
Ask yourself this question. Will your expectations for your
daughter's future success be any different than if she were you're
your son?
If so, it could be because when you get right down to it, you view
HER primarily in terms of her sexuality, as you have every other
girl you've known.
But since she's your daughter and you love her in a different way,
you think more in terms of "protecting" her from the "predatory"
sexual advances of all the boys out there.
Daughters will love like you do.
If, on the other hand, you have long-since recognized the
incredible depth that women can bring to your life beyond sex
itself, then you'll love your daughter perhaps no less or no
more...but DIFFERENTLY, indeed.
Your "Big Four" Masculine presence will inspire her rather than
limit her.
She'll understand the power of her femininity from a more holistic
perspective--especially if you've been in her life all along to
MODEL how that works in your relationship with her mother.
You'll expect, encourage and indeed EMPOWER her to greatness
But if you've been a primarily sex-focused guy, your worldview
won't only be projected onto the GUYS in her life...it just might be
projected onto HER.
And she'll resent you for that, realizing she has so much more to
offer.
Want a quick "head check" to see where you really are on this?
Ask yourself this question. Will your expectations for your
daughter's future success be any different than if she were you're
your son?
If so, it could be because when you get right down to it, you view
HER primarily in terms of her sexuality, as you have every other
girl you've known.
But since she's your daughter and you love her in a different way,
you think more in terms of "protecting" her from the "predatory"
sexual advances of all the boys out there.
Daughters will love like you do.
If, on the other hand, you have long-since recognized the
incredible depth that women can bring to your life beyond sex
itself, then you'll love your daughter perhaps no less or no
more...but DIFFERENTLY, indeed.
Your "Big Four" Masculine presence will inspire her rather than
limit her.
She'll understand the power of her femininity from a more holistic
perspective--especially if you've been in her life all along to
MODEL how that works in your relationship with her mother.
You'll expect, encourage and indeed EMPOWER her to greatness
rather than causing her to feel she simply needs to stay away from
"getting into trouble" with boys.
In fact, if you've really got a solid handle on all of this, you
may even look forward to her experiencing a healthy sexual
relationship with a great guy someday instead of loathing it.
Look man, this may all sound preposterous, but if you've thought a
certain way your entire life, you can't expect to have the birth of
a baby make an overnight difference.
Meanwhile, why do some dating coaches recommend going after
dating women who had terrible or even non-existent relationships
"getting into trouble" with boys.
In fact, if you've really got a solid handle on all of this, you
may even look forward to her experiencing a healthy sexual
relationship with a great guy someday instead of loathing it.
Look man, this may all sound preposterous, but if you've thought a
certain way your entire life, you can't expect to have the birth of
a baby make an overnight difference.
Meanwhile, why do some dating coaches recommend going after
dating women who had terrible or even non-existent relationships
with their fathers?
Because you can get them into bed FAST in many cases, that's why.
Never mind the fact that such women often have equally terrible or
even non-existent SELF-ESTEEM. This is the "use 'em and leave
Because you can get them into bed FAST in many cases, that's why.
Never mind the fact that such women often have equally terrible or
even non-existent SELF-ESTEEM. This is the "use 'em and leave
'em" mindset I'm referring to here.
Sure, this may sound like the ultimate "get laid quick" genius plan
right now. But you may have a daughter someday.
And daughters will love like you do.
So what's it going to be? Are you going to view life as it happens
six inches away from your face, or are you going to take the
longer-term view of a much wiser man?
If the latter, your reward will be much richer...I promise.
On the other hand, as guys like David Shade and I have said often,
women who love and respect their dads make great partners.
A BIG PART of why a woman would indeed love and respect her
Sure, this may sound like the ultimate "get laid quick" genius plan
right now. But you may have a daughter someday.
And daughters will love like you do.
So what's it going to be? Are you going to view life as it happens
six inches away from your face, or are you going to take the
longer-term view of a much wiser man?
If the latter, your reward will be much richer...I promise.
On the other hand, as guys like David Shade and I have said often,
women who love and respect their dads make great partners.
A BIG PART of why a woman would indeed love and respect her
dad is exactly because he didn't imply--either consciously or
subconsciously--by how he treated her that she was a "sex object".
Instead, he modeled what finding a great guy is going to look like
for her someday.
He brought the "Big Four" to the table instead of simply putting
food on it, like some dad's tragically believe is their only real
"job".
And in turn both the little girl AND her mom were simultaneously
empowered. Both were inspired to bring joy, love, laughter,
nurturing and caring into the circle.
So not only will a great wife bring happiness and joy to your life,
you can bet that your daughter will very likely always be a source
of great pride to you as well.
Don't kid yourself.
Nothing breathes life into YOUR being, having effectively LED as a
real "Big Four" man, than to have the women you love--be they your
lover or your offspring--lavish your world with feminine gifts:
Boys, you can break
You'll find out how much they can take
Boys will be strong
And boys soldier on
But boys would be gone without the warmth from
A woman's good, good heart
Man, it's no wonder that John Mayer has a history of attracting
some seriously amazing women, right?
So if you are a father to a daughter right now, let this newsletter
speak to you.
And if you're not a little girl's daddy just yet, you may be
someday.
How you view your interactions with women now will not only decide
what your long-term relationship with one (if any) will look like,
it'll shape what kind of father you are.
And it's a 50/50 chance that when you become a father, it'll be to
a daughter.
My wish for you is that you'll look forward to it rather than
dreading it...either way.
After all, as the father of both a son AND a daughter, and step-dad
to another son, I can tell you first hand that they're all amazing
and special in so many multi-faceted ways...as is my relationship
with them.
And the truth is, all three of them--regardless of gender--will
indeed love like Emily and I do...and that will be largely dependent
on my lead as the man of the house.
Indeed, as we motored into the moonlight somewhere between
Texarkana and Dallas a few nights go, our three kids--the two boys
and yes, one precious girl--were sound asleep behind us.
I couldn't help but think that with a pair of dating and
relationship coaches for parents they would each have every
opportunity to at least have a great shot at getting the
male/female relationship thing right in their lives...all three of
them.
And we're certainly not only wishing the best for them, we're all
about actively demonstrating how to make that happen.
Who knows? Maybe at least one of them was just pretending to be
asleep, watching Emily and I share some quality "windshield time"
together...
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Yes...now that we are back home from the "summer road
subconsciously--by how he treated her that she was a "sex object".
Instead, he modeled what finding a great guy is going to look like
for her someday.
He brought the "Big Four" to the table instead of simply putting
food on it, like some dad's tragically believe is their only real
"job".
And in turn both the little girl AND her mom were simultaneously
empowered. Both were inspired to bring joy, love, laughter,
nurturing and caring into the circle.
So not only will a great wife bring happiness and joy to your life,
you can bet that your daughter will very likely always be a source
of great pride to you as well.
Don't kid yourself.
Nothing breathes life into YOUR being, having effectively LED as a
real "Big Four" man, than to have the women you love--be they your
lover or your offspring--lavish your world with feminine gifts:
Boys, you can break
You'll find out how much they can take
Boys will be strong
And boys soldier on
But boys would be gone without the warmth from
A woman's good, good heart
Man, it's no wonder that John Mayer has a history of attracting
some seriously amazing women, right?
So if you are a father to a daughter right now, let this newsletter
speak to you.
And if you're not a little girl's daddy just yet, you may be
someday.
How you view your interactions with women now will not only decide
what your long-term relationship with one (if any) will look like,
it'll shape what kind of father you are.
And it's a 50/50 chance that when you become a father, it'll be to
a daughter.
My wish for you is that you'll look forward to it rather than
dreading it...either way.
After all, as the father of both a son AND a daughter, and step-dad
to another son, I can tell you first hand that they're all amazing
and special in so many multi-faceted ways...as is my relationship
with them.
And the truth is, all three of them--regardless of gender--will
indeed love like Emily and I do...and that will be largely dependent
on my lead as the man of the house.
Indeed, as we motored into the moonlight somewhere between
Texarkana and Dallas a few nights go, our three kids--the two boys
and yes, one precious girl--were sound asleep behind us.
I couldn't help but think that with a pair of dating and
relationship coaches for parents they would each have every
opportunity to at least have a great shot at getting the
male/female relationship thing right in their lives...all three of
them.
And we're certainly not only wishing the best for them, we're all
about actively demonstrating how to make that happen.
Who knows? Maybe at least one of them was just pretending to be
asleep, watching Emily and I share some quality "windshield time"
together...
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Yes...now that we are back home from the "summer road
trip", more podcasts are in the works. Stay tuned...
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