[X&Y] "Want Some Candy?"
Published: Thu, 07/15/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Why are most of us so petrified to approach
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Why are most of us so petrified to approach
women? Honestly, a big part of what's keeping us from doing so is
something we may have learned in kindergarten...
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THE CRUCIAL STEP TO TRUE HAPPINESS WITH A WOMEN
There are several key stages of success with great women.
The first, of course, is that you've got to meet her.
Then, you manage your relationship with her as a "Big Four" leader
should.
By now you know that I've got your back in both of those areas with
The Man's Approach and The Leading Man.
But the third step to having the ultimate relationship with a the
high quality woman of your choice involves taking care of her in
the bedroom.
And unfortunately, even though most of us like to THINK of
ourselves as highly skilled in that area, all it takes is a quick
poll of women who are in long-term relationships to find out that
the truth of the matter is VERY different.
A shockingly high percentage of women are DISSATISFIED with their
sexual partners.
Do I even have to spell out what kind of heartbreak and/or flat-out
humiliation that can lead to when she leaves for some hotshot guy
who DOES know how to please her?
Let me tell you, it's NO COINCIDENCE that a significant number of
success stories that hit my inbox are from VERY HAPPY guys who
credit the teachings of David Shade along with what they discovered
through X & Y Communications:
Give Her Incredible Pleasure
After all, David is the undisputed heavyweight champion when it
comes to empowering us as men to keep the women in our lives
BLISSFULLY satisfied.
Interestingly, most of the time guys cite this program in
particular as the one that REALLY kicked their relationship into
hyperdrive:
Give Her Incredible Pleasure
Now, just recently David has rolled in a lot of brand new material
on how to bring out a woman's inner "naughtiness".
Let me tell you, I can vouch first-hand that getting that job done
reaps MASSIVE benefits. Life is a LOT more fun that way.
In fact, I can confirm what you probably already suspect: David
Shade's program really delivers when it comes to spilling ALL THE
SECRETS of giving women total, intense satisfaction in the bedroom.
So why should you snap it up today instead of letting things slide
for now?
The easy answer to that question is that there's a sweet 30%
discount going on right now:
Give Her Incredible Pleasure
Just use the secret coupon code "SCOT-30" when ordering.
David has made this available to YOU as a subscriber to this
newsletter until THIS FRIDAY at midnight EDT only.
This is no joke. If you've been reading this newsletter for a
while now, you know that he only does this sort of thing a couple
of times per year...max.
And now it's time to reveal one of the major reasons why it's so
hard for most of us to approach women...
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"WANT SOME CANDY?"
For the past few days Emily and I have been hanging out in New York
City, which is always a great time.
Having visited the Big Apple often over the years, it's been
amazing to see what has been a very real transformation since the
fateful events of September, 11th 2001 took place.
Not so long ago, New York was stereotyped as being the land of
impatient souls leaning on their car horns and showing little
tolerance for those who take their time ordering in the deli line.
But these days you can't help but notice how FRIENDLY everyone in
midtown Manhattan seems to be.
Violent crime rates have been reduced immensely. Improbably,
police officers are seen as heroes right along with the city's
firefighters.
In a weird way, it sort of seems like the world's most MASSIVE
"small town".
And that's one reason why Emily and I love to come here these days.
But that's ALSO a big part of what makes it so amazing to me that
people who move to NYC from elsewhere tend to report how LONELY
they are...even with MILLIONS of people around them.
What's up with that?
Despite the apparent irony there, it really is HARD to meet new
people...and I'm not just talking about beautiful women.
That's true whether you're in New York or anywhere else, really.
A big reason for that is one of the simple truths of modern society
that I talk about at length in The Man's Approach.
That's this: Everything you ever needed to know in order to be
PERMANENTLY influenced AGAINST approaching women you learned in
kindergarten.
That's right. Most of our parents taught us (and vehemently so)
that we should "never talk to strangers".
Now, while this was surely effective at keeping us as kids away
from the clutches of evildoers who lured us with candy or
something, there's one major problem.
Nobody ever helped us UNLEARN the concept once we were actually
grown up enough to fend for ourselves.
Stop and think about this for a second. The evidence of how true
this is can be found everywhere.
You get in a crowded elevator and nobody talks to each other. In
the checkout line at the grocery store...same thing.
In fact, try this if you're not already in the habit of doing so.
Simply COMMENT ABOUT SOMETHING to a total stranger.
It doesn't even an attractive woman, necessarily. It can be ANYONE.
I can all but guarantee that the look on the person's face will
range from somewhere between mild surprise to utter shock.
BUT...after that initial moment of awkwardness is gone, the other
person WILL respond. And probably in a manner as friendly as
befitting your initial comment to them.
You will have started a conversation successfully, even if it did
indeed take a complete departure from "social norms".
Pretty crazy, isn't it?
But here's the most amazing part, at least to me.
Since MOST of us never talk to strangers in general, that means
that when we DO finally feel compelled to change that habit it's
usually in the context of MEETING WOMEN, isn't it?
OK, so let's assume, then, that we indeed get up the nerve to do
what's strange to us, and we finally approach a woman.
It could be in that crowded elevator, in line at the supermarket
or...yes...even on 5th Avenue in Manhattan.
And when we start that conversation, she looks at us with a
tentative or even startled expression on her face.
What happens next?
Often times, we assume we've already blown it. We confuse that
surprise with disinterest or even disgust.
But usually it's only that she went to the same kindergarten class
we did.
She survived childhood by not taking candy from strangers. And
nobody unwired HER thinking either.
Seriously. That's VERY OFTEN all there is to it. Put this one to
the test in the real world and let me know how it goes.
You've just been given a MAJOR game-changer when it comes to
getting over the fear of approaching women.
When you EXPECT a woman to be taken aback initially when you
approach her--because it's TOTALLY NORMAL in today's culture--then
you begin to realize that all it takes is to continue with the next
line of conversation.
If you'd like, you can even tell her with a smile that she's all
grown up now. It's okay for her to talk to strangers.
That way, she might not remain a stranger for long.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
www.deservewhatyouwant.com
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download
something we may have learned in kindergarten...
=====
THE CRUCIAL STEP TO TRUE HAPPINESS WITH A WOMEN
There are several key stages of success with great women.
The first, of course, is that you've got to meet her.
Then, you manage your relationship with her as a "Big Four" leader
should.
By now you know that I've got your back in both of those areas with
The Man's Approach and The Leading Man.
But the third step to having the ultimate relationship with a the
high quality woman of your choice involves taking care of her in
the bedroom.
And unfortunately, even though most of us like to THINK of
ourselves as highly skilled in that area, all it takes is a quick
poll of women who are in long-term relationships to find out that
the truth of the matter is VERY different.
A shockingly high percentage of women are DISSATISFIED with their
sexual partners.
Do I even have to spell out what kind of heartbreak and/or flat-out
humiliation that can lead to when she leaves for some hotshot guy
who DOES know how to please her?
Let me tell you, it's NO COINCIDENCE that a significant number of
success stories that hit my inbox are from VERY HAPPY guys who
credit the teachings of David Shade along with what they discovered
through X & Y Communications:
Give Her Incredible Pleasure
After all, David is the undisputed heavyweight champion when it
comes to empowering us as men to keep the women in our lives
BLISSFULLY satisfied.
Interestingly, most of the time guys cite this program in
particular as the one that REALLY kicked their relationship into
hyperdrive:
Give Her Incredible Pleasure
Now, just recently David has rolled in a lot of brand new material
on how to bring out a woman's inner "naughtiness".
Let me tell you, I can vouch first-hand that getting that job done
reaps MASSIVE benefits. Life is a LOT more fun that way.
In fact, I can confirm what you probably already suspect: David
Shade's program really delivers when it comes to spilling ALL THE
SECRETS of giving women total, intense satisfaction in the bedroom.
So why should you snap it up today instead of letting things slide
for now?
The easy answer to that question is that there's a sweet 30%
discount going on right now:
Give Her Incredible Pleasure
Just use the secret coupon code "SCOT-30" when ordering.
David has made this available to YOU as a subscriber to this
newsletter until THIS FRIDAY at midnight EDT only.
This is no joke. If you've been reading this newsletter for a
while now, you know that he only does this sort of thing a couple
of times per year...max.
And now it's time to reveal one of the major reasons why it's so
hard for most of us to approach women...
=====
"WANT SOME CANDY?"
For the past few days Emily and I have been hanging out in New York
City, which is always a great time.
Having visited the Big Apple often over the years, it's been
amazing to see what has been a very real transformation since the
fateful events of September, 11th 2001 took place.
Not so long ago, New York was stereotyped as being the land of
impatient souls leaning on their car horns and showing little
tolerance for those who take their time ordering in the deli line.
But these days you can't help but notice how FRIENDLY everyone in
midtown Manhattan seems to be.
Violent crime rates have been reduced immensely. Improbably,
police officers are seen as heroes right along with the city's
firefighters.
In a weird way, it sort of seems like the world's most MASSIVE
"small town".
And that's one reason why Emily and I love to come here these days.
But that's ALSO a big part of what makes it so amazing to me that
people who move to NYC from elsewhere tend to report how LONELY
they are...even with MILLIONS of people around them.
What's up with that?
Despite the apparent irony there, it really is HARD to meet new
people...and I'm not just talking about beautiful women.
That's true whether you're in New York or anywhere else, really.
A big reason for that is one of the simple truths of modern society
that I talk about at length in The Man's Approach.
That's this: Everything you ever needed to know in order to be
PERMANENTLY influenced AGAINST approaching women you learned in
kindergarten.
That's right. Most of our parents taught us (and vehemently so)
that we should "never talk to strangers".
Now, while this was surely effective at keeping us as kids away
from the clutches of evildoers who lured us with candy or
something, there's one major problem.
Nobody ever helped us UNLEARN the concept once we were actually
grown up enough to fend for ourselves.
Stop and think about this for a second. The evidence of how true
this is can be found everywhere.
You get in a crowded elevator and nobody talks to each other. In
the checkout line at the grocery store...same thing.
In fact, try this if you're not already in the habit of doing so.
Simply COMMENT ABOUT SOMETHING to a total stranger.
It doesn't even an attractive woman, necessarily. It can be ANYONE.
I can all but guarantee that the look on the person's face will
range from somewhere between mild surprise to utter shock.
BUT...after that initial moment of awkwardness is gone, the other
person WILL respond. And probably in a manner as friendly as
befitting your initial comment to them.
You will have started a conversation successfully, even if it did
indeed take a complete departure from "social norms".
Pretty crazy, isn't it?
But here's the most amazing part, at least to me.
Since MOST of us never talk to strangers in general, that means
that when we DO finally feel compelled to change that habit it's
usually in the context of MEETING WOMEN, isn't it?
OK, so let's assume, then, that we indeed get up the nerve to do
what's strange to us, and we finally approach a woman.
It could be in that crowded elevator, in line at the supermarket
or...yes...even on 5th Avenue in Manhattan.
And when we start that conversation, she looks at us with a
tentative or even startled expression on her face.
What happens next?
Often times, we assume we've already blown it. We confuse that
surprise with disinterest or even disgust.
But usually it's only that she went to the same kindergarten class
we did.
She survived childhood by not taking candy from strangers. And
nobody unwired HER thinking either.
Seriously. That's VERY OFTEN all there is to it. Put this one to
the test in the real world and let me know how it goes.
You've just been given a MAJOR game-changer when it comes to
getting over the fear of approaching women.
When you EXPECT a woman to be taken aback initially when you
approach her--because it's TOTALLY NORMAL in today's culture--then
you begin to realize that all it takes is to continue with the next
line of conversation.
If you'd like, you can even tell her with a smile that she's all
grown up now. It's okay for her to talk to strangers.
That way, she might not remain a stranger for long.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
www.deservewhatyouwant.com
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download
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while being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
professional advice.
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