[X&Y] Split It In Half...
Published: Thu, 07/29/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Here is something you can do during the FIRST
THIRTY SECONDS of meeting a woman that is guaranteed to
dramatically increase the number of successful interactions you
have.
I don't say that often, so be sure to pay attention to this one...
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MORE IS ON THE WAY
Last night Emily and I had dinner with the next two terrific women who
will be starring in videos for The Man's Approach.
Yes, you heard me correctly. MORE VIDEO is coming.
And we've got the right women for this, no doubt. You'll
approve...believe me.
Filming is set for TOMORROW, and I've got a whopping FOURTEEN
separate topics slated, including such gems as:
* How to assess the situation when a woman apparently gives you
Yes, you heard me correctly. MORE VIDEO is coming.
And we've got the right women for this, no doubt. You'll
approve...believe me.
Filming is set for TOMORROW, and I've got a whopping FOURTEEN
separate topics slated, including such gems as:
* How to assess the situation when a woman apparently gives you
ZERO signals to work with
* How to recover from a mistake when meeting a woman for the first
time.
* Meeting a group of several women together.
* The golden secret to meeting a single mom...even if she has her
* How to recover from a mistake when meeting a woman for the first
time.
* Meeting a group of several women together.
* The golden secret to meeting a single mom...even if she has her
child with her. (We talked about this one last night, and you'll be left
shaking your head in amazement).
* The "out of the box" ways to actually SUCCEED when meeting women
shaking your head in amazement).
* The "out of the box" ways to actually SUCCEED when meeting women
at a bar or even a club. (We're talking ways to "beat the system", none
of which you've probably ever heard of yet.)
And seriously, that's just scratching the surface.
I've been listening intently to what you guys have been asking for,
and the videos WILL deliver...and then some.
So here's the deal.
Once all of that killer new content hits The Man's Approach, the
price is going up.
I'm also going to be shuffling some of the special reports that are
included in the program right now, and the two remaining
fast-action bonuses that I've let ride for a while now will go away.
But if you get in on The Man's Approach between now and the end
And seriously, that's just scratching the surface.
I've been listening intently to what you guys have been asking for,
and the videos WILL deliver...and then some.
So here's the deal.
Once all of that killer new content hits The Man's Approach, the
price is going up.
I'm also going to be shuffling some of the special reports that are
included in the program right now, and the two remaining
fast-action bonuses that I've let ride for a while now will go away.
But if you get in on The Man's Approach between now and the end
of the month (that's a little over 48 hours from now), you'll not only
get everything that's already included at the current price, you'll
get all the NEW VIDEOS as well:
The Man's Approach
By the way, if you already have The Man's Approach, you'll
definitely have instant access to the new videos when they're
released too, of course.
But I'm dead serious when I say that as of August 1st things are
changing.
I'll be closingthe doors on the program for an undetermined amount
of time while those changes are made, after which the price WILL be
different in accordance with the wealth of brand new video I'm
adding.
So if you've been putting off getting your copy of The Man's
Approach, I couldn't be more serious when I tell you that now is
the time to pull the trigger:
The Man's Approach
The three-month Easy Purchase option is still live on The Man's
Approach for now, which makes it even more of a no-brainer to jump
on this opportunity.
This is your big chance to finally start meeting the kind of
high-quality women you really want, handle your first conversations
with them brilliantly, and make them TRULY excited to see you
again...without "smoke and mirrors" and the associated flaky results.
If you are a "Big Four" man, it's just flat-out time you acted on
it inthe real world . It's time to get great women in your life.
The Man's Approach gets the job done:
The Man's Approach
And YES...you can still use the "gift20" Gift Card to take an instant
get everything that's already included at the current price, you'll
get all the NEW VIDEOS as well:
The Man's Approach
By the way, if you already have The Man's Approach, you'll
definitely have instant access to the new videos when they're
released too, of course.
But I'm dead serious when I say that as of August 1st things are
changing.
I'll be closing
of time while those changes are made, after which the price WILL be
different in accordance with the wealth of brand new video I'm
adding.
So if you've been putting off getting your copy of The Man's
Approach, I couldn't be more serious when I tell you that now is
the time to pull the trigger:
The Man's Approach
The three-month Easy Purchase option is still live on The Man's
Approach for now, which makes it even more of a no-brainer to jump
on this opportunity.
This is your big chance to finally start meeting the kind of
high-quality women you really want, handle your first conversations
with them brilliantly, and make them TRULY excited to see you
again...without "smoke and mirrors" and the associated flaky results.
If you are a "Big Four" man, it's just flat-out time you acted on
it in
The Man's Approach gets the job done:
The Man's Approach
And YES...you can still use the "gift20" Gift Card to take an instant
$20 off, if you'd like. That's good until the end of the month as
well.
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SPLIT IT IN HALF
First, get your mind out of the gutter. This newsletter isn't
going to be what you may have initially thought it was going to be
about.
And what's more, I'm not going to go on a rant about "going Dutch"
with women on dates either. You should know me better than that by
now.
What I AM going to do today is give you what has to be the world's
easiest strategy for making your very first interactions with women
TONS easier on everyone involved...as in both YOU and HER.
You see, our first impulse when we see a woman we want to meet is
to think of what we want to say, and then rehearse is a few
(hundred) times.
From there, of course, we've got to be sure to remember that it's
just a CONVERSATION instead of a COMPETITION and actually
well.
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SPLIT IT IN HALF
First, get your mind out of the gutter. This newsletter isn't
going to be what you may have initially thought it was going to be
about.
And what's more, I'm not going to go on a rant about "going Dutch"
with women on dates either. You should know me better than that by
now.
What I AM going to do today is give you what has to be the world's
easiest strategy for making your very first interactions with women
TONS easier on everyone involved...as in both YOU and HER.
You see, our first impulse when we see a woman we want to meet is
to think of what we want to say, and then rehearse is a few
(hundred) times.
From there, of course, we've got to be sure to remember that it's
just a CONVERSATION instead of a COMPETITION and actually
gather the stones to go talk to her.
Assuming we do so, if we're indeed expecting to be effective in
meeting a woman for the first time we'll generally say something
like, "Hey, my name is Scot. I saw you from the other side of the
room and knew I just had to meet you."
There's nothing particularly WRONG with that plan.
Plenty of women all over the fruited plain would practically MELT
if a great guy went about meeting her in that manner.
But you can do WAY BETTER.
How?
Well, for starters, when it comes to the VERY FIRST thing you say
to a woman, split it in half.
Next time try this.
Walk up to her, introduce yourself...and STOP.
Resist every urge you have to finish the great opener you've
rehearsed.
Discipline yourself...and wait.
THEN, listen for her to tell you her name in return.
Maybe she indeed will. Or maybe she won't.
She might simply say, "Oh...hi" or something.
But either way, you've just increased your chances at getting
somewhere with her.
Why?
Well, let's assume for a brief moment she DOESN'T give you her name.
Fine.
Remember a couple of weeks ago when I shared with you how having
been taught "never to talk to strangers" has affected ALL OF US as
a culture?
We just never "unwire" that habit once it's drilled into our heads
as kids, right?
And subsequently, it's really easy for us to read that "deer in the
headlights" look when we "break the silence" with a
stranger--especially a sexy woman--as irritation, disdain or even
disgust.
So we often throw in the towel right there, thinking she's already
NOT attracted...when all we actually have seen is a NORMAL human
response to, well, having been "talked to by a stranger".
Since sharing that whole concept with you I've had LOTS of you tell
me you've had real-world experiences that have shown you just how
TRUE it all is.
The question then arises as to how to DEAL with that.
Well, cutting how you plan to start your conversation in HALF
effectively creates a magical "buffer zone" for that initial (and
perfectly natural) "stranger shock" to happen in.
And after she gathers herself and responds, you simply continue
with the rest.
I assure you that the SECOND thing you say will be received by her
with FAR more comfort than the first.
As a result, you'll instinctively read her body language as more
open and you'll KEEP GOING FORWARD where you may have
Assuming we do so, if we're indeed expecting to be effective in
meeting a woman for the first time we'll generally say something
like, "Hey, my name is Scot. I saw you from the other side of the
room and knew I just had to meet you."
There's nothing particularly WRONG with that plan.
Plenty of women all over the fruited plain would practically MELT
if a great guy went about meeting her in that manner.
But you can do WAY BETTER.
How?
Well, for starters, when it comes to the VERY FIRST thing you say
to a woman, split it in half.
Next time try this.
Walk up to her, introduce yourself...and STOP.
Resist every urge you have to finish the great opener you've
rehearsed.
Discipline yourself...and wait.
THEN, listen for her to tell you her name in return.
Maybe she indeed will. Or maybe she won't.
She might simply say, "Oh...hi" or something.
But either way, you've just increased your chances at getting
somewhere with her.
Why?
Well, let's assume for a brief moment she DOESN'T give you her name.
Fine.
Remember a couple of weeks ago when I shared with you how having
been taught "never to talk to strangers" has affected ALL OF US as
a culture?
We just never "unwire" that habit once it's drilled into our heads
as kids, right?
And subsequently, it's really easy for us to read that "deer in the
headlights" look when we "break the silence" with a
stranger--especially a sexy woman--as irritation, disdain or even
disgust.
So we often throw in the towel right there, thinking she's already
NOT attracted...when all we actually have seen is a NORMAL human
response to, well, having been "talked to by a stranger".
Since sharing that whole concept with you I've had LOTS of you tell
me you've had real-world experiences that have shown you just how
TRUE it all is.
The question then arises as to how to DEAL with that.
Well, cutting how you plan to start your conversation in HALF
effectively creates a magical "buffer zone" for that initial (and
perfectly natural) "stranger shock" to happen in.
And after she gathers herself and responds, you simply continue
with the rest.
I assure you that the SECOND thing you say will be received by her
with FAR more comfort than the first.
As a result, you'll instinctively read her body language as more
open and you'll KEEP GOING FORWARD where you may have
wussed out in the past.
Sweet.
But it gets better.
What's everyone's favorite word...including beautiful women?
Their OWN NAME.
So let's go back to the example, this time assuming she DOES give
you her name.
Now you've been empowered in a way you couldn't have been
before...unless she had a nametag on, which you can't always count
on, obviously.
Then you continue with something to the effect of, "Well, I
couldn't help but notice you from across the room and wonder what
you were like. And I thought to myself that if I didn't go over
and meet Melissa, neither of our days would be as bright."
Money.
What you've accomplished is demonstrating POTENTIAL interest
without telegraphing PRE-APPROVAL.
You've simultaneously served notice that a MAN is in front of her--a
creature of the OPPOSITE sex.
All the while, though, you've put the onus on HER to impress YOU.
Not bad.
AND...she's already heard the sweet, intoxicating (and some would
even say "hypnotic") sound of HER name on YOUR lips.
I'm not kidding in the least when I tell you that once you've said
THAT MUCH to Melissa, the "heavy lifting" is DONE.
See, I've been reading the e-mails you guys send me asking how to
project masculinity and confidence absolutely ASAP when meeting a
woman.
By taking your initial opener and "splitting it in half", you get
over the "talk to strangers" issue even as you seamlessly engage
her in a real conversation.
She hears her own name, further increasing her comfort level along
with her intrigue.
AND you get the message across that this is more of a potential
"movie moment" with a REAL MAN in her presence than a simple
request like, "Uh...what time is it?", etc.
From then on, you can ACT NORMAL.
Seriously. All that's left is to have a CONVERSATION...on any inane
topic you'd like, really.
As always, if you can ask her open-ended questions to get her to
talk about herself, all the better.
But there's already NO CHANCE you'll be seen as "neuter", and
you'll not have to worry about wrecking the "moment" because it's
ALREADY HAPPENED.
Just talk to her from there like you would anyone else, see whether
or not you actually like her, then get her number and call her
later.
Uncomplicated...without the pressing need to "prove" your masculinity
to her any more, at least for now.
That die was cast from the SECOND line you ever spoke to her. From
there, BOTH of you can truly relax and enjoy.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. I have two open Ten-Plus spots right now. If you have unique
sticking points that just can't be covered by the same e-book
everyone else is reading, 1-on-1 coaching could be for you.
Ten-Plus is a fully guaranteed PLAN of action, custom crafted on an
individual basis just for you.
Drop me a note at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com with a way
Sweet.
But it gets better.
What's everyone's favorite word...including beautiful women?
Their OWN NAME.
So let's go back to the example, this time assuming she DOES give
you her name.
Now you've been empowered in a way you couldn't have been
before...unless she had a name
on, obviously.
Then you continue with something to the effect of, "Well, I
couldn't help but notice you from across the room and wonder what
you were like. And I thought to myself that if I didn't go over
and meet Melissa, neither of our days would be as bright."
Money.
What you've accomplished is demonstrating POTENTIAL interest
without telegraphing PRE-APPROVAL.
You've simultaneously served notice that a MAN is in front of her--a
creature of the OPPOSITE sex.
All the while, though, you've put the onus on HER to impress YOU.
Not bad.
AND...she's already heard the sweet, intoxicating (and some would
even say "hypnotic") sound of HER name on YOUR lips.
I'm not kidding in the least when I tell you that once you've said
THAT MUCH to Melissa, the "heavy lifting" is DONE.
See, I've been reading the e-mails you guys send me asking how to
project masculinity and confidence absolutely ASAP when meeting a
woman.
By taking your initial opener and "splitting it in half", you get
over the "talk to strangers" issue even as you seamlessly engage
her in a real conversation.
She hears her own name, further increasing her comfort level along
with her intrigue.
AND you get the message across that this is more of a potential
"movie moment" with a REAL MAN in her presence than a simple
request like, "Uh...what time is it?", etc.
From then on, you can ACT NORMAL.
Seriously. All that's left is to have a CONVERSATION...on any inane
topic you'd like, really.
As always, if you can ask her open-ended questions to get her to
talk about herself, all the better.
But there's already NO CHANCE you'll be seen as "neuter", and
you'll not have to worry about wrecking the "moment" because it's
ALREADY HAPPENED.
Just talk to her from there like you would anyone else, see whether
or not you actually like her, then get her number and call her
later.
Uncomplicated...without the pressing need to "prove" your masculinity
to her any more, at least for now.
That die was cast from the SECOND line you ever spoke to her. From
there, BOTH of you can truly relax and enjoy.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. I have two open Ten-Plus spots right now. If you have unique
sticking points that just can't be covered by the same e-book
everyone else is reading, 1-on-1 coaching could be for you.
Ten-Plus is a fully guaranteed PLAN of action, custom crafted on an
individual basis just for you.
Drop me a note at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com with a way
to reach you by phone (international is okay) and I'll give you the
details.
These slots tend to get snapped up fast.
By the way, if you've been thinking about a Ten-Plus Live with us
here in San Antonio, our travel schedule is going to really limit
how many of those we can do between now and February.
Be sure to reserve your dates for that now if you want that kind of
live, 1-on-1 breakthrough experience. Come have a blast with us
These slots tend to get snapped up fast.
By the way, if you've been thinking about a Ten-Plus Live with us
here in San Antonio, our travel schedule is going to really limit
how many of those we can do between now and February.
Be sure to reserve your dates for that now if you want that kind of
live, 1-on-1 breakthrough experience. Come have a blast with us
here in one of the best cities to visit in the entire U.S.
P.P.S. Emily and I are FINALLY going to record a new X & Y On
P.P.S. Emily and I are FINALLY going to record a new X & Y On
The Fly podcast for you this weekend. It's overdue, I know...
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If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
www.deservewhatyouwant.com
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download "Get
The First Date...And The Second Date" for free. Or, just send a
blank email to xandy@aweber.com. Easy stuff.
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's all about straight talk about the most creative
subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles
while being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
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