[X&Y] How To Outperform "Pretty Boys" With Women (And You Will)
Published: Mon, 08/09/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Think that the "GQ model" type of guys who tend to
catch women's eye naturally have a better dating life than you ever
will?
Not necessarily...by a long shot. Here's the fascinating reason why
you CAN and SHOULD do better with women than they can.
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UNLOCK YOUR SEXUAL FIRE WITH WOMEN
That headline above is something else, isn't it?
I think we all instinctively know what it MEANS to "unlock our
sexual fire with women".
But the question always comes down to a weird combo of "How do I
actually DO that?" and "Is that REALLY what women WANT out of us?"
I mean it somehow seems too good to be true that women would crave
being completely ravished by us.
And can we REALLY be singularly responsible for her pure sexual
bliss to the extent that SHE would be the one coming back for
more...again and again?
Well, when I was on the phone with Bryan Bayer of AMP last week, he
told me that revealing the secret to "unlocking your sexual fire"
was exactly what made their Authentic Sexual Power program so
wildly successful when it was released about a year ago.
I can vouch for that.
In fact, not only do Emily and I have our very own copy of
Authentic Sexual Power, a WHOLE LOT of you d
It was straight-up one of the most popular programs I ever told you
about.
Well, check it out.
NOW...after a WHOLE YEAR Bryan and the rest of the guys at AMP are
FINALLY giving you another shot at getting your very own copy of
this revolutionary system for achieving ultimate sexual
fulfillment...for both you and the woman in your life.
AND...this time you can get in for HALF-PRICE:
Authentic Sexual Power
This is THE definitive, complete package for you if you want to
blow away all the barriers to being the unapologetically sexual,
fully expressed man you can be...from the moment you make eye contact
with a woman, to being a full-on MAGICIAN in the bedroom.
If you know anything about AMP at all, you know that there's a LOT
of synergy between what they do and what we do here at X & Y
Communications.
So you can fully expect Authentic Sexual Power to be that rare yet
highly sought-after road map to sexual mastery for a true "Big Four"
man who respects women:
Authentic Sexual Power
No matter what, it's well worth it to click that link above. You
can watch Bryan's video that reveals the "3 Keys To Unleashing Your
Primal, Sexual Beast" when you subscribe to AMP's content-rich
newsletter.
By doing so you'll start taking your sexual presence to the next
level ALREADY.
And if that's not compelling enough for you, Bryan told me that
they've added NEW CONTENT and NEW BONUSES since last year.
=====
WHAT'S INSIDE: Think that the "GQ model" type of guys who tend to
catch women's eye naturally have a better dating life than you ever
will?
Not necessarily...by a long shot. Here's the fascinating reason why
you CAN and SHOULD do better with women than they can.
=====
UNLOCK YOUR SEXUAL FIRE WITH WOMEN
That headline above is something else, isn't it?
I think we all instinctively know what it MEANS to "unlock our
sexual fire with women".
But the question always comes down to a weird combo of "How do I
actually DO that?" and "Is that REALLY what women WANT out of us?"
I mean it somehow seems too good to be true that women would crave
being completely ravished by us.
And can we REALLY be singularly responsible for her pure sexual
bliss to the extent that SHE would be the one coming back for
more...again and again?
Well, when I was on the phone with Bryan Bayer of AMP last week, he
told me that revealing the secret to "unlocking your sexual fire"
was exactly what made their Authentic Sexual Power program so
wildly successful when it was released about a year ago.
I can vouch for that.
In fact, not only do Emily and I have our very own copy of
Authentic Sexual Power, a WHOLE LOT of you d
It was straight-up one of the most popular programs I ever told you
about.
Well, check it out.
NOW...after a WHOLE YEAR Bryan and the rest of the guys at AMP are
FINALLY giving you another shot at getting your very own copy of
this revolutionary system for achieving ultimate sexual
fulfillment...for both you and the woman in your life.
AND...this time you can get in for HALF-PRICE:
Authentic Sexual Power
This is THE definitive, complete package for you if you want to
blow away all the barriers to being the unapologetically sexual,
fully expressed man you can be...from the moment you make eye contact
with a woman, to being a full-on MAGICIAN in the bedroom.
If you know anything about AMP at all, you know that there's a LOT
of synergy between what they do and what we do here at X & Y
Communications.
So you can fully expect Authentic Sexual Power to be that rare yet
highly sought-after road map to sexual mastery for a true "Big Four"
man who respects women:
Authentic Sexual Power
No matter what, it's well worth it to click that link above. You
can watch Bryan's video that reveals the "3 Keys To Unleashing Your
Primal, Sexual Beast" when you subscribe to AMP's content-rich
newsletter.
By doing so you'll start taking your sexual presence to the next
level ALREADY.
And if that's not compelling enough for you, Bryan told me that
they've added NEW CONTENT and NEW BONUSES since last year.
You'll just have to see for yourself:
Authentic Sexual Power
You have until this Friday to pull the trigger on Authentic Sexual
Power.
Given that the window has been closed on this program for a full
year until now, I'd recommend taking advantage of this half-off
opportunity.
In fact, speaking of cool content that's "no longer available",
when you snag a copy for yourself using the links in this e-mail,
send me your e-mail receipt at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com.
I'll send you all the "retired" episodes of The Chick Whisperer
podcast as a special bonus. Sweet.
And now, let's explore whether or not "Mr. GQ" really has all that
much of an advantage over "Mr. Average" when it comes to success
with women...
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WHY YOU SHOULD HAVE A BETTER DATING LIFE THAN MOST
Authentic Sexual Power
You have until this Friday to pull the trigger on Authentic Sexual
Power.
Given that the window has been closed on this program for a full
year until now, I'd recommend taking advantage of this half-off
opportunity.
In fact, speaking of cool content that's "no longer available",
when you snag a copy for yourself using the links in this e-mail,
send me your e-mail receipt at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com.
I'll send you all the "retired" episodes of The Chick Whisperer
podcast as a special bonus. Sweet.
And now, let's explore whether or not "Mr. GQ" really has all that
much of an advantage over "Mr. Average" when it comes to success
with women...
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WHY YOU SHOULD HAVE A BETTER DATING LIFE THAN MOST
"PRETTY BOYS" DO
All told, I think it's perfectly natural that most of us as guys
would assume that other dudes who are "gifted" in the looks
department would have incredible success with women...without
All told, I think it's perfectly natural that most of us as guys
would assume that other dudes who are "gifted" in the looks
department would have incredible success with women...without
really trying.
After all, that's how it seems to go for beautiful women, so why
not for men also?
If a woman looks great, guys will be all over her, often (to their
own potentially disastrous risk) without concern for her
personality or character.
And really, no matter how much we hear about how "looks don't
matter" to women, we can't help but overhear them talking about how
"hot" a particular guy is and/or making side comments to their
girlfriends about how they may be fantasizing about him.
Great, huh?
According to all external evidence, it would indeed seem that men
and women are a lot alike when it comes to how much looks "matter",
right?
Not so fast.
What if I told you that my direct experience tells me that how good
looking a guy is has almost NOTHING TO DO with his ultimate level
of "success" with women?
Your first thought may by that I'm going to join the chorus who
would sell you on the trite but persistent notion that "looks don't
matter".
Well, not me.
Looks may in fact "matter", but NOT in the way you might think. At
the very least, not in the SAME WAY that how a woman looks matters
to guys.
Here's how it all works.
First, let's look at the "average" guy.
And for the record, by "average" I mean ANY guy who doesn't see
himself as being particularly good looking. My firmly held belief
is that ALL of us can be at least an "average guy" by simply caring
enough to have self-respect.
So please don't e-mail me moaning about how you're probably "below
average", and how what I'm about to say therefore still won't help
you. It's the whining about that itself that actually spells out
"below average"...believe me.
Anyway...
Since "Mr. Average" is not particularly good looking, he may think
that he has less of a chance with a beautiful woman.
This is predicated on logic, of course. Deep down, we all tend to
feel like we should get what we think we deserve.
So "Mr. Average" sees "Mr. GQ" with a beautiful woman, and despairs.
But then again, it always seems like the NEXT beautiful woman he
sees is with a guy whom he might think doesn't deserve her as much
as HE does. And that frustrates him.
Despair alternating with frustration. Why? Because he's assuming
the women he sees must make dating and relationship decisions the
way WE do as men.
So he sees "Mr. GQ" as deserving, and any less handsome man with a
pretty woman as simply "lucky" or something. And he resents BOTH
guys.
As a result, HIS PROBLEM is that he can't get up the nerve to ASK A
WOMAN OUT ON A FIRST DATE.
But if he could just muster a bit of confidence, he may find that
his masculinity, ability to put a woman at ease in his presence and
his solid character could actually make women go crazy for him
after they meet him.
In fact, a BIG part of his frustration may even lie in knowing that
if he could just get a woman on a first date, she'd LOVE HIM.
Have you ever caught yourself thinking that? I know I have.
Meanwhile, let's consider "Mr. GQ".
Women naturally smile at him when they see him. They may even
flirt a little more noticeably.
Heck, women may APPROACH HIM.
He might even have women throwing slips of paper with their phone
number on it at him.
As such, he likely has NO PROBLEM getting first dates.
But when you get right down to it, a first date does NOT equal
"success with women".
And if you're among the legion of "Mr. Average" guys out there, you
might not ever see the part that comes next. You may not even ever
consider the POSSIBILITY of it, frankly.
Here it is, though: I've lost count of the number of "handsome"
guys who can get a first date with ANY woman, but who can't get a
SECOND DATE to save their lives.
Why not?
Usually it's one of three reasons:
1) Women, as I've mentioned before, ultimately can't stand to be
"upstaged" in the looks department. Insecurity and jealousy cause
them to run away.
2) The guy falls for his own shortsighted belief that women make
dating decisions the same way men do, and therefore develops an
arrogant attitude based on his looks. Women like good-looking
guys, but they can't stand arrogant ones. Mark that.
3) It turns out the guy is either BORING or a flat-out WUSS behind
that "pretty boy" façade. Game over.
Isn't the "big picture" here a little bit crazy?
"Mr. Average" doesn't get a FIRST DATE...mostly due to having psyched
himself out with negative "self-talk".
"Mr. GQ" can't get a SECOND DATE...for one (or all) of the reasons
listed above.
In the end BOTH GUYS FAIL with women.
And the most breathtaking part of this whole scenario? Both guys
actually have the SAME PROBLEM.
NEITHER guy has the ability to CHOOSE the women they really want.
Whether that means "short term fling" or "long term relationship"
is irrelevant. If ANY GUY fails to create DEEP ATTRACTION in a
woman, he's getting nowhere with her.
And remember, this is REGARDLESS OF LOOKS.
What's the net/net of all this?
It's simple. Good looks may help a guy catch a woman's eye up
front, but really only "matter" as it pertains to HOW and WHEN
success or failure with women presents itself.
And yes...an "average" guy may need to take a more objective approach
to getting a woman's attention initially.
But ultimately, ONLY the "Big Four" matter when it comes to truly
ATTRACTING her...on YOUR TERMS and for as long as you'd like her to
be in your life.
And the bottom line is that ONLY guys who are in CONTROL of their
dating lives can expect to have success with women.
In the example given above, neither "Mr. Average" nor "Mr. GQ" has
CONTROL over his dating life.
They don't hold the cards when it comes to deciding which women
they want to keep around for any length of time.
So if you think about it, whether a guy feels like he has a hard
time GETTING a woman's attention or KEEPING it, the problem is
still pretty much the same thing in the end: He doesn't have the
women in his life that he wants.
And by the way, if you think that the good looking guy may still
have one-up over "average" guys because he can get the "quick lay"
out of the transaction before he ultimately blows it, guess again.
As I've shown you before in the past, high quality women DO NOT
make decisions regarding who to sleep with the same way guys do.
Without "Big Four" substance, ANY guy can forgettaboutit.
But WITH the "Big Four" in full effect, you essentially weed out
just about ALL of your "competition" in today's modern, neutered
world replete with confused men...good-looking and otherwise.
I can hear someone asking, "Yeah, but what about women who AREN'T
high quality?"
What about 'em?
If a woman has low self-esteem and the lower standards that go with
it, the irony is that a more "average" guy may have a better
chance, as it were, even with her.
I personally thank my lucky stars that I DON'T have "model looks",
but that I know what the "Big Four" are and recognize their
importance. My dating life has been way less complicated that
way...and far more successful
How about you? Can you adopt that mindset and take full advantage
of the power it holds?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. If you're in the Power Sessions inner circle, I have
something COMPLETELY different coming your way within the next 48
hours.
Let's just say this will fully address a BURNING question that most
of us are usually mortally AFRAID to ask. You'll thank me for this...
=====
If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
www.deservewhatyouwant.com
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download "Get
The First Date...And The Second Date" for free. Or, just send a
blank email to xandy@aweber.com. Easy stuff.
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's all about straight talk about the most creative
After all, that's how it seems to go for beautiful women, so why
not for men also?
If a woman looks great, guys will be all over her, often (to their
own potentially disastrous risk) without concern for her
personality or character.
And really, no matter how much we hear about how "looks don't
matter" to women, we can't help but overhear them talking about how
"hot" a particular guy is and/or making side comments to their
girlfriends about how they may be fantasizing about him.
Great, huh?
According to all external evidence, it would indeed seem that men
and women are a lot alike when it comes to how much looks "matter",
right?
Not so fast.
What if I told you that my direct experience tells me that how good
looking a guy is has almost NOTHING TO DO with his ultimate level
of "success" with women?
Your first thought may by that I'm going to join the chorus who
would sell you on the trite but persistent notion that "looks don't
matter".
Well, not me.
Looks may in fact "matter", but NOT in the way you might think. At
the very least, not in the SAME WAY that how a woman looks matters
to guys.
Here's how it all works.
First, let's look at the "average" guy.
And for the record, by "average" I mean ANY guy who doesn't see
himself as being particularly good looking. My firmly held belief
is that ALL of us can be at least an "average guy" by simply caring
enough to have self-respect.
So please don't e-mail me moaning about how you're probably "below
average", and how what I'm about to say therefore still won't help
you. It's the whining about that itself that actually spells out
"below average"...believe me.
Anyway...
Since "Mr. Average" is not particularly good looking, he may think
that he has less of a chance with a beautiful woman.
This is predicated on logic, of course. Deep down, we all tend to
feel like we should get what we think we deserve.
So "Mr. Average" sees "Mr. GQ" with a beautiful woman, and despairs.
But then again, it always seems like the NEXT beautiful woman he
sees is with a guy whom he might think doesn't deserve her as much
as HE does. And that frustrates him.
Despair alternating with frustration. Why? Because he's assuming
the women he sees must make dating and relationship decisions the
way WE do as men.
So he sees "Mr. GQ" as deserving, and any less handsome man with a
pretty woman as simply "lucky" or something. And he resents BOTH
guys.
As a result, HIS PROBLEM is that he can't get up the nerve to ASK A
WOMAN OUT ON A FIRST DATE.
But if he could just muster a bit of confidence, he may find that
his masculinity, ability to put a woman at ease in his presence and
his solid character could actually make women go crazy for him
after they meet him.
In fact, a BIG part of his frustration may even lie in knowing that
if he could just get a woman on a first date, she'd LOVE HIM.
Have you ever caught yourself thinking that? I know I have.
Meanwhile, let's consider "Mr. GQ".
Women naturally smile at him when they see him. They may even
flirt a little more noticeably.
Heck, women may APPROACH HIM.
He might even have women throwing slips of paper with their phone
number on it at him.
As such, he likely has NO PROBLEM getting first dates.
But when you get right down to it, a first date does NOT equal
"success with women".
And if you're among the legion of "Mr. Average" guys out there, you
might not ever see the part that comes next. You may not even ever
consider the POSSIBILITY of it, frankly.
Here it is, though: I've lost count of the number of "handsome"
guys who can get a first date with ANY woman, but who can't get a
SECOND DATE to save their lives.
Why not?
Usually it's one of three reasons:
1) Women, as I've mentioned before, ultimately can't stand to be
"upstaged" in the looks department. Insecurity and jealousy cause
them to run away.
2) The guy falls for his own shortsighted belief that women make
dating decisions the same way men do, and therefore develops an
arrogant attitude based on his looks. Women like good-looking
guys, but they can't stand arrogant ones. Mark that.
3) It turns out the guy is either BORING or a flat-out WUSS behind
that "pretty boy" façade. Game over.
Isn't the "big picture" here a little bit crazy?
"Mr. Average" doesn't get a FIRST DATE...mostly due to having psyched
himself out with negative "self-talk".
"Mr. GQ" can't get a SECOND DATE...for one (or all) of the reasons
listed above.
In the end BOTH GUYS FAIL with women.
And the most breathtaking part of this whole scenario? Both guys
actually have the SAME PROBLEM.
NEITHER guy has the ability to CHOOSE the women they really want.
Whether that means "short term fling" or "long term relationship"
is irrelevant. If ANY GUY fails to create DEEP ATTRACTION in a
woman, he's getting nowhere with her.
And remember, this is REGARDLESS OF LOOKS.
What's the net/net of all this?
It's simple. Good looks may help a guy catch a woman's eye up
front, but really only "matter" as it pertains to HOW and WHEN
success or failure with women presents itself.
And yes...an "average" guy may need to take a more objective approach
to getting a woman's attention initially.
But ultimately, ONLY the "Big Four" matter when it comes to truly
ATTRACTING her...on YOUR TERMS and for as long as you'd like her to
be in your life.
And the bottom line is that ONLY guys who are in CONTROL of their
dating lives can expect to have success with women.
In the example given above, neither "Mr. Average" nor "Mr. GQ" has
CONTROL over his dating life.
They don't hold the cards when it comes to deciding which women
they want to keep around for any length of time.
So if you think about it, whether a guy feels like he has a hard
time GETTING a woman's attention or KEEPING it, the problem is
still pretty much the same thing in the end: He doesn't have the
women in his life that he wants.
And by the way, if you think that the good looking guy may still
have one-up over "average" guys because he can get the "quick lay"
out of the transaction before he ultimately blows it, guess again.
As I've shown you before in the past, high quality women DO NOT
make decisions regarding who to sleep with the same way guys do.
Without "Big Four" substance, ANY guy can forgettaboutit.
But WITH the "Big Four" in full effect, you essentially weed out
just about ALL of your "competition" in today's modern, neutered
world replete with confused men...good-looking and otherwise.
I can hear someone asking, "Yeah, but what about women who AREN'T
high quality?"
What about 'em?
If a woman has low self-esteem and the lower standards that go with
it, the irony is that a more "average" guy may have a better
chance, as it were, even with her.
I personally thank my lucky stars that I DON'T have "model looks",
but that I know what the "Big Four" are and recognize their
importance. My dating life has been way less complicated that
way...and far more successful
How about you? Can you adopt that mindset and take full advantage
of the power it holds?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. If you're in the Power Sessions inner circle, I have
something COMPLETELY different coming your way within the next 48
hours.
Let's just say this will fully address a BURNING question that most
of us are usually mortally AFRAID to ask. You'll thank me for this...
=====
If you like what you've read, please feel free to forward this
newsletter to others. Help a friend out.
In fact, did a friend forward YOU this message? To receive this
newsletter for men from X & Y Communications on a regular basis,
simply visit our main portal...
www.deservewhatyouwant.com
...drop your email in the annoying popup window, and download "Get
The First Date...And The Second Date" for free. Or, just send a
blank email to xandy@aweber.com. Easy stuff.
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's all about straight talk about the most creative
subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles
while being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
professional advice.
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This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
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while being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic stuff you've heard a million times isn't
rehashed around here. Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
professional advice.
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2010. All Rights Reserved.
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