But seriously, I WASN'T KIDDING when I told you that I needed some
valuable time to add some killer new content for you and organize
it all just right.

Two words:  Mission.  Accomplished.

As of RIGHT NOW (approximately 6p EDT) The Man's Approach is
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When you click that link above, you're going to find I've added
those EIGHT new videos I promised a few weeks ago. 

Let's just say you'll like the topics we covered and you'll also
like the "guests" I invited along.

But here's a surprise for you.
 
I ALSO added a BRAND NEW Extra Value Module called:

A title like that needs some elaboration, no doubt.

Let's face it.  When a woman does something like bite her lip or
give us a certain look on a date, we might feel something move in
our boxers.
 
But what is it that we as guys do on first dates--or even when just
meeting a woman for the first time--that causes HER to literally get
aroused?
 
It's not always obvious, is it?  But wouldn't we LOVE to know when
it's happening?

Now rest assured, every single bit of what was in The Man's
Approach before is still there.
 
I've just added MORE.   But I DIDN'T raise the price:



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Here's the deal, though.  After August 31st, the doors are closing
again. 

This is because the worldwide launch for The Man's Approach will
officially begin, and I've got to be fair to our hundreds of
affiliates. 

And yes...changes will be made.

Frankly, there's TOO MUCH content in the program now.  It's
overwhelming, really, so some of it is coming out. 

'll be rolling what's removed into a three-month intensive training
course that'll be a companion to The Man's Approach.

Granted, there will be teleseminars and such as a part of that
training course, so if you want to wait around to check that out
it's all good.

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By the way, I went ahead and made a brief info video and put it at
the top of the page.  That's clearly a popular thing to do
nowadays, and it's specifically for you if you just want the main
details rather than scrolling through the whole page.

Enjoy. 



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7 WEIRD UNCONSCIOUS MANNERISMS THAT KILL YOUR MOJO


Have you noticed that every e-mail in your inbox these days seems
to advertise some "weird video"?
 
Don't ask me what made everyone decide that using the word "weird"
to describe any and every video will get people to watch 'em.   I
really have no idea.
 
All I know is that it only took watching a few "weird" videos that
turned out to be perfectly normal to get me to stop falling for
that trick.

That said, what we're going to be talking about here is different,
though.  Today I'm going to give you rapid-fire rundown of seven
GENUINELY WEIRD things we as guys often do when with a woman.

This list has been collected as a direct result of live coaching
with guys during Ten-Plus Live experiences, etc.

Rest assured that "weirdness" isn't the only thing the items on the
following list have in common, however.

There's also yet another particularly noteworthy similarity.  Guys
who do any of what I'm about to talk about almost NEVER REALIZE
they're doing it.

Let the "wake-up call" commence...

  

1)    The "Knee Vibe" 


You don't even need me to describe this one to you, right?  If we
aren't subject to doing it ourselves, we've certainly seen it
before.

A guy's sitting there reading, listening to the iPod on the bus, or
whatever.  And there's his knee--bouncing up and down for no
apparent reason.

Now granted, this one is sort of a "lightweight" on the creepy
scale because SO MANY people do it.

But no matter how you slice it, it's a sign of either nervousness
or inability to contain physical energy.  Neither of those traits
are part of a "Big Four" persona.

As such, the "Knee Vibe" doesn't exactly enhance your masculine
presence.
 


2)    Nail Biting


Nail biting is an insidious habit.  After all, if you really want
to quit smoking, you can stop buying cigarettes and throw all of
the cancer sticks that are left in the house in the trash.

But your fingers are with you 24/7, and you probably shouldn't cut
them off and throw them away.

So if you're a nail biter, it's probably hard to stop. 

It's unattractive, for sure, to go around chewing on your fingers. 

That goes double if you're one of those guys (like LeBron James, of
all people) who can be observed actually bracing the finger on one
hand with his other hand for maximum leverage as he gnaws away.

But like the "Knee Vibe", nail biting is ultimately a sign of
nervousness--especially nervous insecurity.  The greater the tension
in a particular situation, the more the fingernails get chewed on.
It's similar to stuttering in that respect.

Nervous + Insecure = Not A Protector.   Game over.



3)    Rolling Eyes


Have you ever met a person who rolls his or her eyes whenever he or
she is slightly perturbed or when there's even the smallest
disagreement going on?

He or she should stop doing so...even though it's my observation that
LOTS of people do it without realizing it. 

Rolling one's eyes is read as blatant disrespect by others.  It
occurs as flat-out arrogance.

If you want to attract women, cockiness (i.e. über-confidence) is
good.  Arrogance (i.e. "I'm better than you"), not so much.



4)    Batting Eyelashes


This is an especially brutal one because it's extra, super hard to
self-diagnose. 

But make no mistake about it, batting one's eyelashes (i.e.
blinking multiple times in fast succession) comes off as VERY soft
and feminine.

Several months ago I met with a guy who had recently gone out on a
date with a San Antonio Spurs cheerleader.

She never picked up the phone or returned his messages afterward.

This guy had EVERYTHING going for him in life.  But he batted his
eyelashes habitually in conversation. 

I'm convinced this is what killed Silver Dancer babe's attraction
for him.  It's altogether possible that she may not have even been
able to pinpoint why she "wasn't feeling it" for him.  But I could.



5)    Looking Down


As important as eye contact is, it's remarkable how many people
look down submissively when you 're in a conversation with them.

If you do this, and you're a guy, you're essentially announcing
that you're subject to the whim of others.  You're a follower.
You're easily dominated.

In other words, you're a total wimp.  

Look people in the eye and win in life...especially with high quality
women.
 


6)    Leaning In


You've probably read all about "pecking" before, but it still
merits mention in this context.

"Pecking" is essentially the act of leaning in when someone else
speaks, as if to make sure you get every bit of what's being said.
 '

Although the gesture is rooted in politeness, it actually comes off
as if the "pecker" has assigned more social importance to the other
person than he has to himself.

I'm telling you, do women ever find that unattractive.  Yet this is
another one of those "mojo killers" that untold legions of people
do ALL THE TIME without even realizing it.

It's always a better idea to lean back and relax...even intentionally
for a while if you have to in order learn the new habit.



7)    Mumbling


It's irritating when you have to tell someone to speak up and/or
repeat every single thing they say.

Ever wonder why? 

The obvious reason is because it's just such a time waster in our
fast-paced modern society to repeat stuff.

But the more important factor is that "mumblers" demonstrate a lack
of confidence.  Confident people--especially confident women--tend
not to tolerate non-confident guys, let alone respect them.  This
intolerance breeds blatant  animosity.

When we speak unclearly and at low volume it's as if we believe
that what we're saying is an imposition and/or not worth hearing.

Certainly this list could be added to considerably.  But rather
than attempt to offer a comprehensive slate of "mojo killers", my
intent here has been more to call attention to our lack of
awareness.  (How's that for an ironic statement?)

Indeed, being "self aware" is a big part of being a "Big Four" man.

Don't let insecurity or nerves bring out the worst in you.  Staying
"conscious" to this really can help limit the "unconscious"
mannerisms we'd all love to avoid. 


Be Good,

Scot McKay

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