X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER


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WHAT'S INSIDE:  Guys all over the world struggle with how to make
the first kiss happen with a woman.  Usually our biggest problem is
that we completely MISS the opportunities that are right before our
very eyes...

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YOU ARE AN EXPERT...BUT DO YOU REALIZE IT?


About five years ago I was driving with a certain female friend to
go somewhere fun together.  I don't recall exactly where we were
going.

I do, however, distinctly remember dropping a David DeAngelo
"Interviews With Dating Gurus" disc into the CD player to get her
take on what the "guru of the month" was saying.

I'll never forget her response. 

"I like the way you think better.  You could do what those guys are
doing, you know."

A little over a year later, sure enough, David D. interviewed me
and my name was on the February 2007 "Interviews With Dating Gurus"
disc. 

Nowadays, I get e-mails from guys ALL THE TIME asking how I
transformed my lifestyle from that of a cubicle jockey who was
making AT&T richer to that of a guy who spends his time helping
other guys be the absolute best versions of themselves.

It's very simple.

First, I RECOGNIZED what I was most effective at.

Second, I LEARNED how to take my passion for what I'm good at and
actually REPLACE my "day job" with it.

Now check it out.  No matter who you are, you're already an EXPERT
at something also.

And that means that you (yes YOU) could ALSO be making a solid
living from your expertise sooner than you think.

But you've got to be able to see the proverbial forest for the
trees.

Do you BELIEVE that the world could see you as an expert?

And more importantly, are you FED UP with the same old routine
you've been living?  Are you READY to put aside the "conventional
wisdom" that your JOB has to be separate from what you ENJOY?

Well, just this morning I was hit between the eyes with this video:



Experts Academy



Suffice it to say that I WISH that what you're about to see had
been around about four years ago.  Man, would that have saved me an
IMMENSE amount of trial and error.

The guy in this video is seriously about the most powerful and
effective voice I've ever seen for living the dream of:  1)  Having
the world see YOU as an expert, and 2)  Paying the bills (and then
some) as a direct result of that.

If you've even been THINKING that it's about time for you to get on
with the business of maximizing your value to the world and getting
the respect you deserve (from women, from your fellow men and from
EVERYONE else) drop everything and watch this video:



Experts Academy  



Yes, I'm working on getting him to sit down for an interview and
talk particulars with me.  But for now, think about what he says
are the three most important things in life: 



1)    To truly LIVE


2)    To truly LOVE


3)    To have your life truly MATTER



That about sums it up...he's EXACTLY right.

Whether you'd like to be an author, a seminar speaker, a coach, a
go-to media maven or even produce your own multimedia programs I
think it's an excellent idea to check out Experts Academy:



Experts Academy  



It's been a long time since I've seen a training program of ANY
TYPE that's this comprehensive and this compelling...and I've seen a
lot by now.   You really can't go wrong.

I fully realize that getting on board Experts Academy is going to
be out of reach for a lot of guys reading this, but even if you
just check out the video and feed off this guy's incredible energy
and optimism your day will be better for it.



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SIX GOLDEN MOMENTS WHEN YOU'D BETTER KISS HER


You've probably been conditioned your entire life to aim for that
all-important first kiss with a woman when you've walked her to her
doorstep at the end of an evening together.

Forget that.  Why save it for the very last? 

Besides missing out on all the potential excitement that could have
happened earlier in the night, you end up looking like every other
unimaginative dork she's dated since middle school.

That said, I fully get that making the first kiss happen at exactly
the right time seems as if it's easier said than done.

But no worries.  I've got your back, as always.

Here are a half-dozen moments that are tailor made first kiss
opportunities just about every time:



1)    When She's Talking Nonstop


This goes double if she's mildly perturbed over something.  Perhaps
she has started to go on about her bad day at work, her mean
professor and/or an evil co-worker.

But even if she's just turning a bit too much into a "Chatty Cathy"
in general, here's a universal truth that every man should know.

You already know that the best way to shut up a group of noisy guys
is to put food in front of them.  But if you want to shut a woman
up, kiss her. 

And don't be surprised afterward if she forgets what she was
talking about.

The caveat here, of course, is that we're assuming her excessive
chatter hasn't negatively affected her attractiveness to you...which
I understand could be a distinct possibility. 



2)    When You Are Opening The Car Door For Her


A lot of people want to pronounce chivalry dead at the scene.
 
But as I've said in The Man's Approach program, if you don't bother
to open the car door for a woman you're missing out on one MASSIVE
opportunity to get the first kiss out of the way.

I mean, where else can you literally corner a woman and actually
have her feel safer, warmer and fuzzier as a direct result?

This is money, I tell you.



3)    When There's Even The Briefest Of Pauses After You Lock Eyes At
Close Range


The tragic part about this particular phenomenon is that EVERYONE
recognizes when it's happening.
 
But the problem is that far too many of us come down with a sudden
outbreak of "Too Good To Be True Fever" when it happens FOR US.

Learn from the movies, gentlemen.
 
Admit it.  Every time you've ever seen a guy bonk at this point in
a movie, you knew he was blowing it.  And the guy who gets the girl
in that same movie NEVER misses the cue, does he?

So when you're talking to a woman--or are even just generically
present with her, frankly--and you find yourself a foot away from
her staring into her eyes wordlessly as if the world were standing
still...it is.

And the world is standing there screaming, "KISS HER NOW!"



4)    When Plans Change Or Certain Interruptions Take Place


Okay, this one's a bit trickier. 

What we're referring to here is NOT when a major crisis hits or
when you've got to act fast to correct something that's a pressing
concern.

We're also NOT referring to when her babysitter calls telling her
to "come home immediately" or when she flakes out on you.  Of
course not.

What we ARE talking about is when you're given the GOLDEN
opportunity to take a slight glitch in your perfect plan and boldly
show that your overall demeanor and personal control over the whole
situation are NOT affected by it.

The Notebook is not on most guys' list of favorite movies, but
there's a certain scene in it where the guy and the gal are in a
rowboat together surrounded by swans.

The "storybook" moment is rudely interrupted by a sudden torrential
rainstorm.

As the woman starts fretting about the situation, the guy does the
right thing.  He grabs her and kisses her brains out, turning the
whole melee into the hottest five minutes either of them has ever
experienced.

Nice going, there.

Your version might not be as dramatic. 

Nevertheless, that locked door to a restaurant you thought was
still open or even changing a flat tire in a tux probably should
lead to a first kiss...provided you're a Big Four man with a woman
along who is attracted to you.



5)    Whenever She Expresses Slight Embarrassment Or Good-Natured
Regret At Having Said Something Silly


Ah yes...I love this one.

If a woman is concerned over having embarrassed herself a tiny bit
in your presence or thinks she just said something silly, that's a
universal sign that she's digging you.

What better way to reassure her when she's experiencing such worry
than to remove all doubt that she hasn't messed up nearly as badly
as she thinks?

Kiss her, already.  Make it all better.



6)    Whenever You Instinctively Sense That She's Expecting It


This one is along the lines of the third point above, but more
generally applicable.

ANY time you get the unmistakable vibe that she WANTS to be kissed,
you not only SHOULD kiss her you'd BETTER kiss her.

I mean, how many hints does a chick have to drop, dude?  Start
getting them.  Otherwise, she's going to think you're either gay or
a total wimp.



The bottom line here is that most women LOVE to be kissed and they
WANT to be kissed by a man they like. 

When you are on a first date with a woman and she appears to be
enjoying herself, you could probably kiss her without much drama
and with great success. 

If you're on a second date with her, you can consider that a
foregone conclusion.  She wouldn't BE THERE if she wasn't feeling
attraction.

Knowing that, remember the six golden moments I've described for
you today and you'll never be at a loss for gauging the RIGHT TIME
for that first kiss to happen ever again.



Be Good,

Scot McKay

Very funny stuff...enjoy.




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Questions?  Feel free to send yours to scot@deservewhatyouwant.com