[X&Y] 12 Things Guys Overlook When Choosing The Right Woman [Part Two]
Published: Sun, 12/12/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Here are the second quartet of a dozen factors most
guys fail to consider when selecting the right woman for along-term relationship.
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"SO, WHY NOT THE LEADING MAN?"
As you know, we're smack dab in the middle of a three-part series
on what guys fail to take into consideration all too often when
choosing a woman for a long-term relationship.
And as you also know, I just ran a 50% off promo for The Master
Plan at the same time I sent you Part One last week.
This prompted some of you to ask me several different variations of
what's basically the same question:
"Hey Scot, since you're talking about selecting an all-around
great woman for a solid long-term relationship, why didn't you run
a 50% off coupon for The Leading Man?"
That's a fair question. After all, The Leading Man is all about
getting a high quality woman in your life and building a great
long-term relationship with her.
I mean, it covers EVERYTHING...from how to date several women on the
way to meeting the right one to making sure you 'wear the pants' in
the relationship to understanding how women think and talk.
Even situational conversation, conflict resolution and crisis
management are discussed...every thing you need to be, well...a man who
LEADS a relationship.
And best of all, The Leading Man will show YOU how to be the one
who decides whether or not a second date turns into something more.
That's right...no more "just be friends" talks.
In other words, you can plan on locking down that "revolving door"
in your dating life forever.
Okay, so enough talk. A good question deserves an even better
answer.
You want a 50% off coupon for The Leading Man? YOU GOT IT!
Here's the link to a special subscribers-only Web page for The
Leading Man:
Between now and Tuesday night at midnight Pacific Time (GMT -8)
enter the same BIGDEAL50 code in the "Coupon Code" field on the
order page and hit "Recalculate". Before your very eyes you'll see that ridiculous 50% off coupon as
having been credited in your favor when the page refreshes. Nice.
Now, if you've never taken a look at The Leading Man before, it's
the most popular and best-selling program ever produced by X & Y
Communications. Guys tend to rave about it and tell their friends:
And by the way, let me warn you ahead of time. The Leading Man is
JAM PACKED with value even at its regular price, so you're going to
have to resist the urge to believe that there must be some "catch".
There is none. You get the COMPLETE PROGRAM (including all those
bonuses) for half-price, not some "demo version". All you have to
do is be sure to enter BIGDEAL50 in the "coupon code" field at
checkout:And now it's time for the second part in our series...
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12 THINGS GUYS OVERLOOK WHEN SELECTING THE RIGHT WOMAN (PART TWO)
Last time we covered the first four of 12 total criteria for
choosing a great woman to build a long-term relationship with.
Sure she has to be sexually attractive to you--and wildly so. Don't
let anyone talk you out of that.
You're only "shallow" if that's ALL you care about.
It's perfectly okay--in fact it's downright NECESSARY--to demand the
"complete package" from any woman you plan on spending a long time
with.
And a man who represents the "big four" (masculinity, confidence,
ability to make a woman feel safe and secure, character) to a woman
truly deserves what he wants.
So you should want it all and "settle" for nothing less.
Save "charity work" for when you meet the right woman and can
tackle the business of saving the world TOGETHER.
Here are four more key items to consider in order to make sure
you've got a great woman around:
5) MATCHING LIFESTYLES
Last time I promised you some insight into what MIGHT have been a
major factor in the breakup of Tony Parker and Eva Longoria.
This would be it.
In order to have a solid long-term relationship with a woman, the
first order of business is to actually SEE each other sometimes.
If your respective schedules work against you rather than for you,
it's going to be REALLY HARD to keep things together long-term.
But t's not only NBA players and Hollywood actresses who are likely
to almost never be in the same place at the same time.
If you're a 9-to-5er and she's a pediatric nurse who works night
shift the same principle holds true--albeit perhaps without the
constant temptation to cheat with someone glamorous.
This isn't only about scheduling, however. If you're a staunch
Catholic and she's a part-time stripper, that's going to start
bothering BOTH of you sooner than you think--no matter how resolute
you are in hoping to ignore the obvious.
But I've sure seen guys try exactly that...all because she's so hot.
Essentially, everything that's important to you has to be enabled
by her presence rather than limited...and vice-versa, for sure.
If you're a world-traveler and she refuses to fly on airplanes,
you've got a problem. If you are a peanut farmer and she's deathly
afraid of peanuts, same thing.
You get the idea.
I'm pretty sure most guys already know they want a woman who's fun
to hang around with--but what we're talking about here takes things
to a deeper level of consideration, for sure.
6) COMMON SENSE
It has been said that "common sense isn't so common".
Unfortunately, that's very true.
Merriam-Webster defines "common sense" as "sound and prudent
judgment based on a simple perception of the situation or facts".
In the real world, I'd say a decent yardstick of common sense would
measure how well one handles the small decisions that have to be
made along the way in life.
You know, like, "Should I use this electric hair dryer in the
bathtub?" Or, "Should I throw these red socks in with the whites?"
Please trust me when I say that if you generally do well in this
regard and the woman you're with does not, it's going to absolutely
drive you stark, raving nuts.
Air-headed cheerleader types seemed really cute and fun back in
high school...but my guess is that you were cured of that perception
after the first few dates you went on with one.
[Ed. Note: But man do I LOVE women who SEEM air-headed with their
bubbly personalities, but who really aren't. More power to 'em.]
7) ABILITY TO MAKE FRIENDS
Wow, is this one important.
Most of us are social animals. We LIKE having other people around.
That said, it's bad enough that your social circle suffers from
natural attrition once you're in a long-term relationship with a
woman.
Many of your "single" friends kind of drift away--and that happens
no matter WHAT you do, it seems.
So it follows logically that couples need to go about the business
of making friends with other couples.
I've got news for you. If she's not the kind of person who makes
friends easily, other couples aren't going to want to hang around
with y'all.
On the other hand, if you have a woman in your life who is a social
butterfly you're all but assured a lifetime of great friendships.
It's amazing how women--purveyors of joy and hospitality such that
they are--tend to be the brokers of great long-lasting friendships
between couples.
8) COOKING
At first glance, you're probably thinking that I've got to still be
living in the 19th century.
Never mind the fact that I'm not that old. Check your "political
correctness" at the door and consider what I'm about to tell you.
For starters, rest assured that I'm not re-hashing that brain-dead
but oft-repeated notion that "kissing don't last but cooking do."
Believe me, "kissing do" also...IF you make sure you've got a woman
you're seriously attracted to.
But WAIT A MINUTE. Even though I wouldn't exactly classify finding
a woman who cooks for you as the #1 criteria, it's DARNED NICE if
she can.
This goes double if you've been eating Hot Pockets, Patio burritos
and Jack In The Box for the last eight years, Bubba.
And just you wait until she gets into throwing dinner parties with
all the new friends you made. Life gets no better.
Based on the feedback I've been getting after the first installment
in this series, these bullet points are really getting you guys to
think in ways you may not have before.
Sure you want a hottie...and you've always known you wanted more than
just a pretty face. But this goes beyond simply making sure she's
"nice" and "fun" also, right?
Next time we'll cover items 9-12 that should appear on every man's
checklist of "must haves", starting with a MAJOR one that follows
on the heels of #8 above.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Fasten your seat belts...we've got another very cool Webinar
coming up this week, and this one will be a barnburner. Details on
Tuesday.
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