[X&Y] What "Alpha" Women Want
Published: Tue, 12/21/10
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: She's sharp, quick-witted and supremely confident.
And it's somewhat likely she's DATELESS...probably because 99% of all
men have NO IDEA how to deal with her, let alone attract her.
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No two such plans are ever alike...and that's a good thing.
From there, you get ten full-on sessions of at least an hour each
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WHAT "ALPHA" WOMEN WANT
Let's get something out of the way before we discuss the topic at
hand.
You don't HAVE TO be attracted to the kind of women we're going to
talk about in this newsletter.
In fact, if you're NOT, you may be better off.
After all, extremely smart women with lightning-fast verbal
reflexes and the über-confidence to go along with it are almost
always HIGH MAINTENANCE, at least in the emotional and mental sense.
Let's face it...they typically have ZERO respect for any man who
can't match them toe-to-toe at every level. And since we're all
only human, that can only mean that the sharper she is, the harder
your job is to keep her attracted.
Perhaps ironically, a good number of the guys in her already
limited dating pool just flat-out don't feel like dealing with a
woman like that.
Maybe it's because they don't want to be upstaged, or would simply
rather be marveled at by women who are in awe of their talent.
Or maybe they'd just rather spend their time and energy doing
something OTHER than matching wits with the women in their lives.
All of that is OKAY. Never settling means finding out what you
REALLY want and then making no apologies for it.
But meanwhile, it's no wonder then that the sharper a woman is in
the way we're framing it here, the more extraordinarily frustrated
by her dating life she tends to be...if she even HAS one to speak of.
Few guys out there meet her standards, and fewer still are
interested in her.
So no doubt, she might indeed start directing her frustration at
men in general for disappointing her so thoroughly and so
often...which makes things even tougher for her.
Remember, women don't exactly ENJOY banishing guys to the dreaded
"Just Be Friends Zone".
On the contrary, their hopes and dreams are in the balance on every
first date. The kind of women we're talking about here want to get
"swept off their feet" like any other red-blooded woman out there.
Now, I happen to know that guys like you who subscribe to this
newsletter tend to be particularly intelligent and rather sharp,
generally speaking.
In other words, most of you actually have a CHANCE with these
"alpha" women (to use a term we're all familiar with). ...That is,
if you actually WANT to roll the dice.
So let's assume for a second that smart, quick-witted and generally
fearless hotties completely float your boat.
You watched "Tomb Raider" and you want one.
If you're into the oldies, you watched Elizabeth Taylor in "Giant",
made a point to rub the modern image of her in your head out of
your memory bank, and were summarily knocked out.
If so, I say "more power to you". You're going to need it.
The first thing to remember when building attraction with an
"alpha" woman is that she still wants a MAN.
Scratch that...she's CRAVING a man.
That's because even if she finds a guy who can ostensibly "match
wits" with her, he's probably still messing up...big time.
For starters, he's probably been brainwashed by modern TV
commercials to believe that the sharper a woman is the more she
wants to be IN CHARGE, and kind of have the man along in-tow to
yield to her.
That's a BAD PLAN, Bubba.
The breathtaking truth is that the SHARPER a woman is, the MORE she
realizes how hot she gets for a man who LEADS.
It's not at all that she wants to be "told what to do" by a
controlling jerk. And it's certainly not that she doesn't want her
good ideas swept under the carpet.
But seeing as how she's still FEMALE, she LOVES a man with a plan...a
guy with passion, motivation and ambition.
Why? Simply put, she STILL doesn't want to take on the masculine
role of being the protector and the provider.
And it's for that reason that you'd better still take on a
LEADERSHIP role with her.
How do you do this the RIGHT way?
Think of it like this. When a president is elected, he names
cabinet members...each of whom is an incredibly talented leader in
his or her own right. Otherwise, such appointees would be unfit
for office.
But make no mistake. The President (capitalization intentional) is
still The President. But he'd be a particularly foolish one not
to hold the leadership abilities of his cabinet members in high
esteem.
You get the idea. The President is "a leader of leaders"...as is the
man in an "alpha" woman's life.
Forget what you've heard about "never giving a woman a straight
answer" or "not agreeing with what a woman says".
None of that's going to fly in this case.
If you want an "alpha" woman to be hot for you, you'll need to find
that balance of LEADERSHIP and RESPECT for her talents.
That's the BIGGEST factor in becoming the one guy out of dozens or
even hundreds who can keep her attention.
Here are several more quick thoughts to bear in mind.
First of all, if her frustration at not finding a suitable man has
indeed morphed her into a card-carrying "man basher", she has
thereby resigned her post as dating material. Next.
Select instead an "alpha" woman who still believes.
Second, it's an excellent idea to choose an "alpha" woman who
directs her sharpness toward a different set of endeavors than you
do.
In other words, if you're both bank vice-presidents or world-class
champion kayakers, watch your step because you could be creating
clear, objective division points between who has the alleged "upper
hand".
That's when the dreaded "Getting Beat By A Girl Syndrome" could
rear it's ugly head. What a pain that would be.
Could you both be above that sort of mindset? Of course you could.
But let's face it, if she's a TV anchor woman and you're a
brilliant business man who plays a mean piano things will be TONS
easier.
Third, if you're actually dating an "alpha" woman for the first
time, give yourself permission to decide whether you actually LIKE
IT or not.
Don't get caught up in feeling like a "quitter" or like you're not
"up to standard" if you decide she's not for you. Make sure your
real, actual preferences for what you want in a woman don't get
trumped by your ego.
And finally, be advised up front that an "alpha" woman can (and
probably will) move with SHOCKING QUICKNESS toward locking a guy
like you down once she finds you.
Remember, the guy who attracts her is a RARE one indeed. That
means that for her the emotion of DEEP ATTRACTION is equally rare.
She'll fall in love sooner than later and will do everything in her
particularly amazing power to keep you in her life.
And hey, you just might dig her as much as she digs you...which would
be very cool indeed.
Indeed, if you find yourself attracted to sharp, quick-witted women
you may be richly rewarded by a relationship with a woman who has
the "complete package" and adores you completely.
Just stay in touch with your plan and your priorities, that's
all...especially during the early stages.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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