[X&Y] Is Meeting Women Really A 'Numbers Game'?
Published: Thu, 02/24/11
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS WEEKLY NEWSLETTER
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Are you thinking that succeeding with women is a
lot like winning the lottery? I've got great news for you. Yourodds can be way, way better than that...courtesy of a simple tweak to
your mindset.
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FINALLY DECODED: ALL THE DIFFERENT "TYPES" OF WOMEN
I have to tell you...this is one of those relatively rare instances
where I can honestly say "you've GOT to see this thing."
After all, when I saw this, the FIRST thing I did was almost spit
Diet Coke all over my keyboard.
The SECOND thing I did was figure out how to get in contact with
this guy behind it...and the resulting interview is a special treat
that you guys in the Power Sessions inner circle can look forward
to soon.
So who IS this guy, and what's the deal?
His name is Joe Bovino, and the "deal" is (I hope you're sitting
down for this) something called, illustriously enough, The Field
Guide To Chicks:
If I tell you it's like a "bird guide", you guys in the UK will
know EXACTLY what I mean.
No kidding...this is a systematic, page-by-page breakdown of EVERY
SINGLE TYPE of woman you can think of.
There are close to 100 OF THEM. Complete with totally killer
illustrations.
So...you say you've been wanting something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT than
all the "rehashed" pickup stuff out there?
This would be it (and that's an understatement):
By now your devious imagination has already clued you in to how
RIDICULOUSLY POWERFUL it would be to have a clear, accurate read on
every possible type of woman you might encounter in the "wild".
But check it out...Joe's Field Guide is every bit as brilliantly
produced and flat-out hilarious as it is useful.
Seriously, just wait until you see the pictures of "Ecuadorable"
and "Mattress (Model/Actress)". Still speechless.
And I have to say I personally have a soft spot in my heart for
"Taco Belle", "One-Size-Fits-All" and "Perfect Six" (who is a "10"
to me).
FAIR WARNING though. If you're one of those easily-offended
"politically correct" types you're not going to like this...at all.
But then again, if you're pretty blasted sick of "political
correctness" in general then you'll probably LOVE this. In fact,
you might just stand up and cheer.
Heck, Joe's even got a video of WOMEN'S reactions to his book if
you scroll down the page on his site a bit. Prepare to be
surprised...and entertained:
Here it is: If you're into "inexpensive thrills" as opposed to
"cheap" ones, this will be the best pocket full of small change
you've spent in a while. 'Nuff said.
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IS MEETING WOMEN REALLY A 'NUMBERS GAME'?
No, I'm not about to give you foolproof secrets to winning the
daily "Pick 4" lottery.
I trust that doesn't disappoint you--if for no other reason than
that's an impossible thing to do anyway.
I AM, however, going to address what I believe to be one of the
most bizarre but somehow almost universally-accepted themes
repeated by would-be dating advisors the world over.
Typically, it goes something like this:
"Don't let 'rejection' or any other lack of dating success get you
down. Remember, dating is just a 'numbers game'. The more people
you meet, the more likely you are to find someone you click with."
In other words, the prevailing "wisdom" out there really IS that
finding someone attractive and welcoming her into your life is
pretty much tantamount to winning the lottery.
And sure enough, I'd say that the vast majority of us fall in line
accordingly.
We go through our lives throwing that proverbial "bucket of
spaghetti" against the wall to see what sticks.
We keep scratching off lottery tickets...err, meeting random women in
the hopes that we finally "hit".
When we're online, we send the same cut/paste first e-mail template
to 100 women.
And hey...if we hear back from even ONE of them that would have been
worth a half-hour's worth of work. Right?
When we're out and about in the "real" world, we've got that one
killer opener that we've fine-tuned to perfection...and we repeat it
to woman after woman until one of them responds positively.
We've seen the statistic that claims that if a guy asks 100 random
women on the street to go out with him, one of them is likely to
say yes...and that psyches us up.
But WAIT A SECOND here.
If I canvass the heck out of a bunch of women and actually get
someone (aka "anyone") to hang out with me on Friday night, have I
really "succeeded"?
Well, on one level I suppose you could say so...especially if you're
of the opinion that "somebody is better than nobody".
But here's the problem with that.
Just like placing one's trust in winning the lottery to get ahead
in life, depending on the "numbers game" strategy when it comes to
women is a tell-tale sign of a POVERTY MENTALITY.
Think about it. This holds true not only for getting dates, but
for job hunting and building a social circle as well.
When you're willing to SETTLE for "whatever comes along", that's
very likely what you're going to get...and nothing more.
And with that in mind, you'll default to LAZINESS.
You'll find that cut/paste e-mail template (either literally OR
figuratively) and blast it out until something happens.
Meanwhile, there's a smaller cadre of guys out there who REFUSE to
settle for what comes their way by "random chance".
Instead of cutting and pasting online, for example, they SELECT
their ten favorite prospects from the hundreds who come up in their
search.
They write custom e-mails to each, and actually EXPECT a
response--because they recognize that they have risen above the
"faceless herd" simply by bowing out of the "numbers game" rat race.
And oddly, they tend to GET responses.
When meeting women in the real world, they operate in a similar
manner. And since the women they meet instinctively recognize that
they're talking to a CHOOSER rather than a "card scratcher", they
sit up and take notice.
And not coincidentally, men who are in this smaller subset I speak
of tend to lead dramatically more FULFILLED lives then the "random"
guy does.
It really comes down to this.
If you see yourself as having "the same chance as any other guy out
there", you're probably already playing the "Numbers Game"...whether
you consciously realize it or not.
And that can only lead to SETTLING for whomever comes along.
When you SETTLE, you--by definition--do not get what you really
wanted.
But if you are a "big four" man (masculine, confident, inspires
safety and security in women, strong character) there's NO WAY
you're going to ever settle for "playing the numbers" or "throwing
spaghetti".
You'll CHOOSE with clear intent rather than passively leaving
whatever happens in your romantic life up to random chance.
And what's more, your definition of "success" will transform before
your very eyes from "getting some" to "getting exactly what you
desire the most".
So run the "numbers"...out the door. Deserve what you want.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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