[X&Y] These Women Are BORED
Published: Mon, 05/02/11
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Regardless of what you might think, even most
attractive women are flat-out BORED. Believe it or not, their only
hope is that YOU'RE not too BORING to do anything about it...
=====
THE RED PACKAGE
If you're enjoying these newsletters, but really want to accelerate
the pace of your "learning curve" when it comes to women, have I
got the perfect plan for you.
Right now you can get all four of my most popular books at a
savings of OVER $50.
That's right, you'll get my first book Deserve What You Want
(including the audio version) along with the powerful secrets found
in Cook For Your Date.
In addition, you'll score copies of Never, Ever Settle and How To
Manage Your Wildly Successful Dating Life too. That way, you'll
not only be ready for a truly fantastic woman to walk into your
life, you'll be fully prepared when SEVERAL of them do.
Now, getting all of this high quality, totally original content at
such a sweet discount is reason enough to be excited.
But once again I've gone the extra mile, as usual...and you wouldn't
have it any other way, right?
You'll also receive TEN premium bonuses, hand-selected to
compliment the four books.
I call the whole bundle "The Red Package", but you'll probably call
it one of the most smokin' investments in your dating life that
you've ever made:
All Four Books + 10 Bonuses
Whether you're a brand new subscriber to this newsletter or have
been reading for ages, one of the best ways to kick your success
with women into high gear is by TAKING ACTION to get all the
advantages you can working in your favor.
Any ONE of these four books would give you that. But all four
together--combined with all those bonuses truly adds up to a
POWERHOUSE of knowledge you can begin using right away.
All Four Books + 10 Bonuses
Of course, The Red Package is fully backed by my 365-day money back
guarantee of success, so you have absolutely nothing to lose and
everything to gain.
And now, let's talk about something that I'm not sure many of us
ever get around to even THINKING ABOUT, let alone discussing out in
the open...
=====
THESE WOMEN ARE *BORED*
Yesterday afternoon while at San Antonio International Airport I
saw a 30-ish woman who 90% of us would deem extremely attractive,
even if not necessarily our type.
Her long curly locks and flowing floral-print dress announced in
BOLD TYPE that she was 100% woman.
You could see in her eyes that she was mostly sweetheart with a
naughty streak simmering somewhere under there. You could just
tell.
Obviously waiting for a flight, she had parked herself at one of
those laptop counters that are found at nearly every gate in SAT
Terminal A.
Sitting at one is sort of like being at the counter in a diner,
only with a bird's eye view of passengers whizzing by on the
concourse instead of a greasy kitchen.
It's a perfect place to "people watch", and simultaneously a great
place to be seen by other people as well.
She had an as-yet unopened 20 oz. bottle of Diet Coke in front of
her... and absolutely NOTHING to do.
Sooner than later, she resorted out of pure ennui to start playing
with the bottle cap of the still-sealed Diet Coke with her teeth as
she watched people pass by.
Watching this all play out from about 20 yards away I couldn't help
but smile.
Obviously, this was the sort of scenario that my co-host on the
latest episode of the TCW podcast and author of "Oral Fixation"
probably lives for.
I mean, without question such a delightfully dorky yet unmistakably
sexy spectacle such as that literally DEMANDED that some guy nearby
say something to her...right?
I mean, the opportunity was RIGHT THERE for the taking.
But nobody budged.
After about ten minutes had passed she finally got up, ambled over
to her flight to Denver and flew away with the wind...literally.
Perhaps coincidentally, I had a particular e-mail in my inbox when
I got home that grabbed my attention.
The author of it was a man who hadn't been on a date in ages,
mostly because he felt he was both too shy AND too introverted
(there's a difference) to meet ANYONE...let alone an attractive
woman.
He said he never really had much to say and was always the quiet
one...yet the word count on his e-mail to me was closer to 1000
than it was to 500. Go figure.
Nevertheless, he surmised that his self-proclaimed quiet,
unassuming nature was why he hadn't been on a date since his senior
prom in high school.
He went on to lament the fact that even though he has a great job,
a decent sense of style and is "considered good looking by others",
it seems to him that most women aren't so into the "strong silent
type" after all.
So he just straight-up hasn't gone out with any women in OVER A
DECADE...despite never really having put his "theory" to the test.
This despite the fact that his prom date told him he was a "great
kisser" and an all-around excellent guy.
They're still "friends" to this day, by the way.
Moreover, in bolstering his argument in apparent support of his
ongoing datelessness he said he was too picky to go out with "just
anyone" anyway.
Since he was "quiet" and not particularly social, he was really
only interested in dating a spunky, outgoing bundle of energy who
could introduce him to a host of new and exhilarating people...and
hobbies.
He closed his e-mail to me by telling me he "wasn't really sure
what [he was] looking for with this e-mail".
Ironically enough, he was probably almost exactly the same age as
the cutie I'd seen at the airport earlier.
And in all probability, he would have been among the masses who
ignored her...even while she was sitting there, obviously bored.
That's when it hit me like a ton of bricks.
This guy had been dateless for so long because he not only didn't
ever GO FOR IT, he had a BULLETPROOF ALIBI for continuing not to do
so.
Instead, he was waiting for some unknown entity--who would be
female and interesting, if nothing else--to come take his "bull by
the horns" on his behalf instead.
But the problem there is that no woman he'd actually want is going
to "take his bull", if you pardon my convenient twist on the phrase.
Why?
Only because women respond to a man who LEADS, and there's NO WAY
the vast majority of them will ever feel inspired by a man who THEY
have to inspire to be interesting.
Does a guy like that appear confident to her...at all? Of course not.
Does his persona come off as masculine in the way women define it?
Well...let's just say that "passivity" isn't exactly a manly trait,
so you can write off any chance of a positive first impression in
that department.
And can he cause a woman to feel safe and comfortable...as if he
could handle ANY situation with aplomb?
Could such a man INSPIRE CONFIDENCE?
And what does his requirement that a woman fire up his world in a
way he didn't really feel like getting around to anytime soon say
about his character?
A strong commitment to being a man of character may in fact be in
there somewhere, but it's not on open display...that's for sure.
For those of you keeping score at home, we just crossed every
component of the "big four" off the checklist.
Uh-oh.
What does it all come down to, gentlemen?
Most women--even attractive ones--are BORED. They dream of a man
who will come and rescue them from that.
I'm telling you truthfully...I saw this time and time again when I
was dating.
At first I couldn't believe the percentage of adorable, feminine
vixens out there who had absolutely NOTHING going on besides work,
prime-time television and sleep.
Nurses. Legal assistants. Kindergarten teachers. Even flight
attendants, for Pete's sake....all basically running on a hamster
wheel, day after day.
Then I got used to it being the norm. Suddenly the pressure was
off when it came to bringing a little excitement to their lives
because a LITTLE went a LONG way.
It was EASY to "un-bore" them.
Even so, the majority of women out there in general remain BORED to
this very day.
This can only mean one thing: The majority of US out there as men
are NOT bringing ANY SPARK to their lives whatsoever.
After today, I'm more convinced than ever that it's not actually
lack of skill that keeps us from succeeding as much as it is lack
of EFFORT.
From now on, consider it your MISSION to save a chick from
boredom...even if it's just with a simple wry smile and a shake of
your head when you catch her doing something dorky.
She'll thank you for it.
And when you unleash that fun-loving female creature in there after
a date or two, a very different realization will likely hit YOU
like a ton of bricks: You'll have deserved what you wanted.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's straight talk about the most creative
subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles while
being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic fluff you've heard a million times
isn't rehashed around here.
Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
"professional advice". You are responsible for your own decisions
in life (which we hope will include meeting more high quality
women).
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2011. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.
"No games" doesn't only apply to dating around here.
=====
WHAT'S INSIDE: Regardless of what you might think, even most
attractive women are flat-out BORED. Believe it or not, their only
hope is that YOU'RE not too BORING to do anything about it...
=====
THE RED PACKAGE
If you're enjoying these newsletters, but really want to accelerate
the pace of your "learning curve" when it comes to women, have I
got the perfect plan for you.
Right now you can get all four of my most popular books at a
savings of OVER $50.
That's right, you'll get my first book Deserve What You Want
(including the audio version) along with the powerful secrets found
in Cook For Your Date.
In addition, you'll score copies of Never, Ever Settle and How To
Manage Your Wildly Successful Dating Life too. That way, you'll
not only be ready for a truly fantastic woman to walk into your
life, you'll be fully prepared when SEVERAL of them do.
Now, getting all of this high quality, totally original content at
such a sweet discount is reason enough to be excited.
But once again I've gone the extra mile, as usual...and you wouldn't
have it any other way, right?
You'll also receive TEN premium bonuses, hand-selected to
compliment the four books.
I call the whole bundle "The Red Package", but you'll probably call
it one of the most smokin' investments in your dating life that
you've ever made:
All Four Books + 10 Bonuses
Whether you're a brand new subscriber to this newsletter or have
been reading for ages, one of the best ways to kick your success
with women into high gear is by TAKING ACTION to get all the
advantages you can working in your favor.
Any ONE of these four books would give you that. But all four
together--combined with all those bonuses truly adds up to a
POWERHOUSE of knowledge you can begin using right away.
All Four Books + 10 Bonuses
Of course, The Red Package is fully backed by my 365-day money back
guarantee of success, so you have absolutely nothing to lose and
everything to gain.
And now, let's talk about something that I'm not sure many of us
ever get around to even THINKING ABOUT, let alone discussing out in
the open...
=====
THESE WOMEN ARE *BORED*
Yesterday afternoon while at San Antonio International Airport I
saw a 30-ish woman who 90% of us would deem extremely attractive,
even if not necessarily our type.
Her long curly locks and flowing floral-print dress announced in
BOLD TYPE that she was 100% woman.
You could see in her eyes that she was mostly sweetheart with a
naughty streak simmering somewhere under there. You could just
tell.
Obviously waiting for a flight, she had parked herself at one of
those laptop counters that are found at nearly every gate in SAT
Terminal A.
Sitting at one is sort of like being at the counter in a diner,
only with a bird's eye view of passengers whizzing by on the
concourse instead of a greasy kitchen.
It's a perfect place to "people watch", and simultaneously a great
place to be seen by other people as well.
She had an as-yet unopened 20 oz. bottle of Diet Coke in front of
her... and absolutely NOTHING to do.
Sooner than later, she resorted out of pure ennui to start playing
with the bottle cap of the still-sealed Diet Coke with her teeth as
she watched people pass by.
Watching this all play out from about 20 yards away I couldn't help
but smile.
Obviously, this was the sort of scenario that my co-host on the
latest episode of the TCW podcast and author of "Oral Fixation"
probably lives for.
I mean, without question such a delightfully dorky yet unmistakably
sexy spectacle such as that literally DEMANDED that some guy nearby
say something to her...right?
I mean, the opportunity was RIGHT THERE for the taking.
But nobody budged.
After about ten minutes had passed she finally got up, ambled over
to her flight to Denver and flew away with the wind...literally.
Perhaps coincidentally, I had a particular e-mail in my inbox when
I got home that grabbed my attention.
The author of it was a man who hadn't been on a date in ages,
mostly because he felt he was both too shy AND too introverted
(there's a difference) to meet ANYONE...let alone an attractive
woman.
He said he never really had much to say and was always the quiet
one...yet the word count on his e-mail to me was closer to 1000
than it was to 500. Go figure.
Nevertheless, he surmised that his self-proclaimed quiet,
unassuming nature was why he hadn't been on a date since his senior
prom in high school.
He went on to lament the fact that even though he has a great job,
a decent sense of style and is "considered good looking by others",
it seems to him that most women aren't so into the "strong silent
type" after all.
So he just straight-up hasn't gone out with any women in OVER A
DECADE...despite never really having put his "theory" to the test.
This despite the fact that his prom date told him he was a "great
kisser" and an all-around excellent guy.
They're still "friends" to this day, by the way.
Moreover, in bolstering his argument in apparent support of his
ongoing datelessness he said he was too picky to go out with "just
anyone" anyway.
Since he was "quiet" and not particularly social, he was really
only interested in dating a spunky, outgoing bundle of energy who
could introduce him to a host of new and exhilarating people...and
hobbies.
He closed his e-mail to me by telling me he "wasn't really sure
what [he was] looking for with this e-mail".
Ironically enough, he was probably almost exactly the same age as
the cutie I'd seen at the airport earlier.
And in all probability, he would have been among the masses who
ignored her...even while she was sitting there, obviously bored.
That's when it hit me like a ton of bricks.
This guy had been dateless for so long because he not only didn't
ever GO FOR IT, he had a BULLETPROOF ALIBI for continuing not to do
so.
Instead, he was waiting for some unknown entity--who would be
female and interesting, if nothing else--to come take his "bull by
the horns" on his behalf instead.
But the problem there is that no woman he'd actually want is going
to "take his bull", if you pardon my convenient twist on the phrase.
Why?
Only because women respond to a man who LEADS, and there's NO WAY
the vast majority of them will ever feel inspired by a man who THEY
have to inspire to be interesting.
Does a guy like that appear confident to her...at all? Of course not.
Does his persona come off as masculine in the way women define it?
Well...let's just say that "passivity" isn't exactly a manly trait,
so you can write off any chance of a positive first impression in
that department.
And can he cause a woman to feel safe and comfortable...as if he
could handle ANY situation with aplomb?
Could such a man INSPIRE CONFIDENCE?
And what does his requirement that a woman fire up his world in a
way he didn't really feel like getting around to anytime soon say
about his character?
A strong commitment to being a man of character may in fact be in
there somewhere, but it's not on open display...that's for sure.
For those of you keeping score at home, we just crossed every
component of the "big four" off the checklist.
Uh-oh.
What does it all come down to, gentlemen?
Most women--even attractive ones--are BORED. They dream of a man
who will come and rescue them from that.
I'm telling you truthfully...I saw this time and time again when I
was dating.
At first I couldn't believe the percentage of adorable, feminine
vixens out there who had absolutely NOTHING going on besides work,
prime-time television and sleep.
Nurses. Legal assistants. Kindergarten teachers. Even flight
attendants, for Pete's sake....all basically running on a hamster
wheel, day after day.
Then I got used to it being the norm. Suddenly the pressure was
off when it came to bringing a little excitement to their lives
because a LITTLE went a LONG way.
It was EASY to "un-bore" them.
Even so, the majority of women out there in general remain BORED to
this very day.
This can only mean one thing: The majority of US out there as men
are NOT bringing ANY SPARK to their lives whatsoever.
After today, I'm more convinced than ever that it's not actually
lack of skill that keeps us from succeeding as much as it is lack
of EFFORT.
From now on, consider it your MISSION to save a chick from
boredom...even if it's just with a simple wry smile and a shake of
your head when you catch her doing something dorky.
She'll thank you for it.
And when you unleash that fun-loving female creature in there after
a date or two, a very different realization will likely hit YOU
like a ton of bricks: You'll have deserved what you wanted.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's straight talk about the most creative
subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles while
being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic fluff you've heard a million times
isn't rehashed around here.
Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
"professional advice". You are responsible for your own decisions
in life (which we hope will include meeting more high quality
women).
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2011. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.
"No games" doesn't only apply to dating around here.