X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN


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WHAT'S INSIDE:  Is the tone of voice you're using with women
KILLING your chances of attracting them?  If so, the good news is
that you can reverse your fortune RIGHT NOW...

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MAKE HER WANT TO KISS YOU


By now a ton of you have listened to that new Episode of The Chick
Whisperer podcast (#45) and you've LIKED what you've heard...very
much.

So much so, in fact, that when I checked yesterday morning the new
episode was #1 in the world in its category on iTunes.

Right on.  So I got to thinking, and I asked co-host Josh Pellicer
from The Tao Of Badass to come up with SOMETHING MORE...perhaps a new
video in the series he's been doing lately JUST for you guys.

Well, he delivered the goods...in a MASSIVE way:



http://bit.ly/VideoFromJosh



I have to say, Josh did some NICE WORK here. 

When you log in to see the vid, you can expect to discover EXACTLY
what you can start doing RIGHT NOW to make the women you go out
with crave your kiss...early and often.

I watched what he had to say myself, and I honestly believe he's on
to something here.  I was especially impressed with the TWO WORDS
he uses to make a woman start daydreaming about making out.

The "obvious cue" women give us when they're seriously ready for us
to make a move to kiss them is absolutely on point, too...no doubt.

But that's not all...

Wait until you hear Josh drop the secret to what makes women think
about YOU constantly...even giggling and blushing as they do:



http://bit.ly/VideoFromJosh



Josh pretty much worked his Tao Of Badass off to get this video
done just for you guys on like two days' notice, so I'd say it's
practically a "moral imperative" that you should at least give it a
look, right?  

But seriously...this video is "must see TV" for sure.



http://bit.ly/VideoFromJosh



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IS YOUR INFLECTION INFECTED?


They say that some ridiculously high percentage of communication is
non-verbal.  

That percentage varies based on which study you read, but one
thing's for sure:  It's not just the words you use themselves that
matter.

By now you've heard enough about "body language" and such, but
today I want to address one VERY KEY specific piece of the puzzle
in terms of the INFLECTION of your voice when you're talking to
women.

"Inflection", of course, refers to HOW you deliver your words.  And
the tone and cadence of what you say is a big part of "non verbal"
communication, no doubt.

Now, I'm not altogether convinced that it's a coincidence that
"inflection" is just one letter off from "infection".  After all,
the inflection many of us use when talking to women is pretty sick
indeed...and not in the good way.

In fact, I don't think it's too strong a statement to say that HOW
you speak to women could be the SINGLE BIGGEST reason why you're
getting NOWHERE with so many of them, if that's the case.

This could especially be true if you're often left in the dust
wondering what on Earth went wrong with a woman.  You feel like you
SAID the right words, made the right moves, etc.

"Infected inflection" might very well be the culprit.

I've known for ages how powerful this factor is, but it wasn't
until a recent coaching call with a Ten-Plus guy that I was left to
ponder the full-on gravitas of it all.

My friend on the telephone and I had just about everything going
for him in life, except he couldn't quite get women to return his
calls as consistently as he would have liked.

A few days prior to one of our calls he'd gathered up the nerve to
approach a very confident hottie who had just gotten off of her
1000cc sportbike.

You can pretty much picture the scene.  A firebreathing superbike
pulls to a halt outside, off comes the helmet...and she brushes back
her long, flowing blonde hair.

Very nice.  But also NOT the least intimidating chick in the world
to approach.  A woman like that typically has ZERO TOLERANCE for
wimpy dudes.

Sure enough, our hero approaches her, makes conversation with her,
and gets her number.  Outstanding.  So far, so good.

So he calls her a couple of days later and leaves her a voicemail.

No response...even after 48 hours.

She had seemed interested when he met her, so he was wondering what
he could have possibly said in a simple voicemail to crater his
chances.

I asked him to tell me what his message to her sounded like.

When I heard the words, a few too many of them were "just"...no
doubt.  And as you've read from me recently, that doesn't generally
work in one's favor with regard to talking to women.

But what hit me between the eyes was the INFLECTION of his voice as
he recounted his message to "Moto Chick".

Suddenly, I knew why she hadn't returned his call. 

I recommended that he wait about another day and then leave her a
SECOND voice mail (figuring she'd likely not answer the phone since
that first message had disinterested her).

I also suggested some very concrete changes in HOW he talked as he
left the message.

Two days later, "Moto Chick" returned his second call and they
happily went out together.

What made the difference?

To give you a concrete answer, let's consider the story of two
vehicles from my past.

The first was a certain 1998 Dodge Durango.  Since I wanted one of
the first ones that rolled off the assembly line back when they
first came out, I went ahead and got the black one rather than
waiting an extra couple of months for my first color choice.

But two years later when it was time to sell it, its color became a
liability.  I lived where it got to be 110 degrees in the
summertime.

Nevertheless, I had my eye on a shiny new vehicle of a completely
different type, and I REALLY, REALLY wanted that Durango out of my
garage.

So I posted it in the paper.

Finally, a call came in.

On the other end of the line, a low and decidedly monotone voice
announced, "I'm calling about the Durango."

Immediately, I launched into eagerly describing every feature of
the truck and went on about how it was in such great shape, had low
miles, etc.

***click***

Huh?  But I made the truck sound SO GOOD.

Now if I'd had my thinking cap on, I would have learned a valuable
life lesson from about a year earlier.

That was when I found myself needing to sell my '98 Yamaha YZF-R1,
factory serial number "000100".

After a year-long wait for one of the most anticipated new
sportbikes of all time, I had been handed the keys to the bike by
the Yamaha dealership before any other freakin' guy in the entire
state of Texas.

Four months later, the factory still hadn't delivered many bikes AT
ALL...even though demand was MASSIVE.

Mine had under 500 miles on it, was in perfect shape...and
unfortunately, it needed to be sold.

I posted it in the "Cycle Trader" magazine.

I knew as soon as the issue hit the stands because I was suddenly
INUNDATED with calls...even though I was asking $2000 OVER the MSRP
for the bike.

One guy from Ft. Worth--an 8-hour drive from where I lived--was first
to reach me.

He called me, anxiously asking questions and exhorting me to PLEASE
not sell the bike until he could arrive at my front door in nine
hours with a pickup truck and a cashier's check.

In a low and decidedly matter-of-fact voice, I replied, "OK
man...make it happen and I'll be here."

Nine hours and fifteen minutes later my bike was his.

Now ask yourself, who was in CONTROL during each of those
respective conversations?

Sure...it was whoever had MORE OPTIONS.

So let's consider for a minute the last time someone tried to sell
you something that was in LOW demand.  You know, something you may
in fact had not really wanted all that much anyway.

What was the INFLECTION of the salesguy's voice?

My guess that he talked fast, possibly in a higher pitch than he
might during "normal" conversation, and that each sentence ended
with an upturn in the tone of his voice.

And you quite probably detected that he was attempting to be
particularly "nice"...as if he was "walking on eggshells" to keep
from scaring you away (and therefore losing a potential sale).

What you were hearing was the voice of a DESPERATE, NEEDY man whose
family needed food on the table.

Okay, so now consider the last time you went somewhere to happily
buy the newest, latest and greatest iPhone, video game or AMG
Mercedes.

What was the inflection of THAT salesguy's voice like? 

My guess is that it was more calm and reserved.  Or maybe he even
gave you bold, direct answers to questions you asked...no "walking on
eggshells" necessary.

No matter what, there was no "fear of loss" to be detected
anywhere.  In fact, you may have even forgotten that he was even
paid on commission there for a second. 

Indeed...he wasn't really "selling".  His job was simply to help YOU
buy...if you were actually fortunate enough to get there on time
before his supply ran out.

Now let's get back to my friend and "Moto Chick".

What was the difference between our hero's first (unsuccessful)
voicemail and the second (successful) one?

The difference in his voice inflection was EXACTLY the difference
between the first salesguy's voice and the second one's voice.

That's all it took.  The words were actually very similar in
meaning...but the INFLECTION was cured of its infection.


Be Good,

Scot McKay


P.S.   BTW, if you haven't downloaded that new episode of The Chick
Whisperer with co-host Josh Pellicer (and admired the new "album
art") you can find the links and info at our Facebook page:


http://www.facebook.com/scotandemily




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