[X&Y] Women Who Are Real "Firecrackers"...
Published: Sat, 05/21/11
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Are you thinking you want a woman who's more of a
"firecracker" than a "shrinking violet"? If so, read this...=====
MAKE SMALL TALK SEXY
Last time I brought up the whole idea of starting a conversation
with a woman and completely DRAWING A BLANK as to what to say.
Well, as fortune would have it I spent some time yesterday catching
up with my main man Bobby Rio from TSB Mag.
As it turns out, he's not only been spending a lot of time thinking
about that very subject lately, he's come up with something I'm
pretty sure you'll be excited about:
Bobby's new Make Small Talk Sexy program is a complete system that
all but ensures that you'll NEVER run out of things to say when you
meet a woman.
No more embarrassing, awkward moments.
Start the conversation the RIGHT way--the confident way--without ever
getting STUCK, fumbling for words, or even saying the WRONG thing
that'll kill all hope for attraction:
But let's go beyond simply not messing up.
What if you could actually OUTPERFORM every other guy you know when
it comes to enchanting and amazing women as you engage them in
conversation?
What if you could get them laughing and enjoying themselves?
What if you could effortlessly flirt with them and fully expect
them to flirt back...even in the most open and obvious ways you can
think of?
Let's just say Bobby Rio has you covered...and there's some truly
powerful knowledge to be gained from this program.
I've hung out with Bobby in person a number of times now and even
met his beautiful Colombian girlfriend. This guy's the real deal,
and yet he knows how to teach in a down-to-earth, affable way that
you're sure to appreciate.
Check out Make Small Talk Sexy and I'm sure you'll be glad you did:
By the way, you might fall out of your chair when you find out how
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If you ask me, he could have offered the "Conversation Steroids"
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whole program.
Enjoy this one, gentlemen. Bobby does good work and this new
program of his gets my highest recommendation.
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SO...YOU WANT A "FIRECRACKER", DO YOU?
You know, there's a lot of talk in the world of men's dating advice
about "Nice Guys vs. Idiot/Jerks".
To a lot of us it really does seem that women really prefer
"idiot/jerks", or "I/Js", doesn't it?
Well, by now you know that I believe that a great man (aka a "big
four" man) attracts higher quality women than I/Js do.
Nevertheless, here's something that DOESN'T get talked about nearly
as often, at least among us guys: What drives the kind of women
WE'RE attracted to?
In other words, beyond their level of physical attractiveness--which
is obvious--WHY are we into the "type" of women we like?
Interestingly, some would argue that we as MEN tend to be attracted
to "bitchy" women in a manner similar to how women are apparently
attracted to "jerks".
Now THAT'S an interesting thought...particularly since I have to
admit I just might have gone through a phase where I thought and
acted in support of that theory myself.
How about you?
Do you find women who'll "contend" with you irresistibly
intriguing?
In fact, if they put up a fuss more often than not and/or willingly
start arguments at the drop of a hat, is that flat out sexy to you?
If so, you're far from alone...believe me.
Why is it that we're drawn to such women?
Is it a case of most of us lacking self-esteem, like what we so
often cite in the case of women who end up with I/Js?
I'm not at all convinced that's it.
I think most of us as guys aren't so much thinking in terms of
deserving mistreatment by a woman who's a bit contentious as we are
about being CHALLENGED by her.
Truth be told, we're sometimes less drawn to a more complacent and
agreeable sort of woman because we are deathly afraid of being
BORED by her.
Meanwhile, a woman who's unafraid to ignite some good old-fashioned
conflict once in a while seems more EXCITING to hang out with, at
least in our eyes.
We may even refer to her as a "firecracker".
We rationalize that if she is more challenging and less compliant
life will be a TON more interesting overall than if we ended up
with a woman who could be best described as a "shrinking violet".
On the surface, I suppose this all makes sense...especially when you
start fantasizing about what a "firecracker" would be like in the
bedroom compared to a "shrinking violet". No comparison, right?
But despite our wildest fantasies, the REALITY of living with a
such "challenging" woman only arises once we actually HAVE her in
our lives.
Sure, things may be "exciting" for a bit, but ultimately we might
very well realize we're nothing short of MISERABLE if we're reduced
to arguing with this chick and defending ourselves against her
"challenges" all the time.
And yet, if we do in fact get sick of putting up with her crap
we're still left to deal with it, even if the "fun" has long since
been sapped from the experience.
But hey...at least we're not BORED, right?
I have to say I've been in long-term relationships with contentious
women in the past and grew very frustrated sooner than later.
I finally figured out that although I certainly don't like to be in
a boring relationship, having a woman who would "challenge" me in
an argumentative way was NOT the best way to spice things up.
The more effective solution, I found, was a disarmingly SIMPLE one.
Instead of relying on a contentious woman to make life more fun,
why not actually go find a woman who LIKES TO HAVE FUN?
You know...one who ISN'T BORING?
Well...duh.
Think about it. She can be interested in all sorts of outdoor
activities, be blessed with an amazing sense of humor, have an
unquestionable zest for life, be multi-talented, and even be ready
to go see the world with you.
But she can ALSO be a total sweetheart who goes about all of the
above with a smile on her face almost all the time.
She can rationally discuss with you what the next thrilling
adventure the two of you should take together might be, and agree
totally with whatever decisions you make with regard to it.
And guess what? All of THOSE traits might not only make her
downright fun to hang out with in public, they might ALSO make her
every bit as much of a "firecracker" in the bedroom as a woman who
argues with you all the time.
But here's the most amazing part of all. She's not necessarily a
"shrinking violet", either.
A woman really can be a smiling, fun bundle of energy even as she
knows how to rationally defend her position and assert her
opinion...when necessary.
That's what having self-respect is all about, right?
So it is time to rethink what having an "exciting" woman in your
life really means?
Definitely don't ever settle for a woman who bores you to tears,
but all the while make sure to choose a woman who's going to
contribute to your happiness over the long term rather than to your
misery.
Hey, horror movies and good comedies are BOTH entertaining. But
which scenario would you rather live out on a day-to-day basis?
The choice is YOURS and YOURS alone. Deserve what you want.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Episode #45 of The Chick Whisperer podcast is coming next
time...and it's probably one of the best episodes EVER.
If you've already "liked" the Facebook Page, you'll be the FIRST to
know when it's released:
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