[X&Y] "Playing The Field"? Be Sure To Read This...
Published: Thu, 06/23/11
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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IN THIS EDITION: What's that you say? You really just want to
date as many women as possible right now and have some fun? You'vestill got to make wise decisions about the women you hang out with.
Here's why...
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MARK NEXT WEDNESDAY, JUNE 29th ON YOUR CALENDAR
As of right now, we're doing our best to get The Difference ready
for you by next Wednesday at 5:00 pm Eastern Daylight Time (GMT -4).
The crazy part is that just when I thought the already STACKED
lineup of brand new and highly effective content was all set for
the initial launch, MORE keeps coming in from other world-class
experts who really, really want to be on board as contributors.
And you know me by now..."good enough" is NEVER good enough.
Just last night on a coaching call a new idea for writing e-mails
to women online came up OUT OF THE BLUE that is so potent yet SO
dirt-simple that it absolutely has to be shared...so I'm also going
to personally make yet ANOTHER audio program for you and put it in
the Member's Area.
You'll be able to add that to your unstoppable new stockpile of
knowledge that's guaranteed to drive your level of success with
women to previously unimagined heights.
Ever thought about how to become a local celebrity? You'll get the
practical steps.
Thinking about moving to a new city but are concerned about
completely rebuilding your social circle? The "guesswork" will be
removed.
Recently divorced and wondering about how and when to get back out
there again and meet some women? Forget the "rah rah"
speeches...you'll get OBJECTIVE ideas.
Running into the same road blocks over and over again when planning
dates and making them go well? I've included fresh, new and EASY
ways to get that right from now on (and again...it's all ORIGINAL
stuff that's never been taught anywhere).
If you haven't watched the 9-minute intro video on The Difference,
it gives a really good overview of what you can expect when you
finally get your hands on the program next Wednesday:
And of course, you can bet that I'll have some very cool,
unannounced surprises for you by the time 5pm EDT on the 29th gets
here.
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"PLAYING THE FIELD"? BE SURE TO READ THIS...
Without a doubt, I'm all about equipping you to be a high quality
man who attracts the highest quality women on Earth...all culminating
in a great long-term relationship with the absolute greatest
all-around woman you've ever met.
After all, that's what most guys SAY they really, truly want
despite the proliferation of info out there that focuses on pickup
and one-night-stands.
But most of the advice you'll read elsewhere on how to meet women
just for the sake of having sex with as many of them as quickly as
possible is NOT going to focus on identifying women who have the
"whole package" working.
The prevailing thought seems to be that if she LOOKS good and seems
at least potentially "compliant", then that's all you need to know.
You get her attracted to you and "escalate" towards sex as FAST as
you can...and the end justifies the means.
Now, check it out. I'm not about to try and talk you out of
"notching your bedpost" if that's what you're into.
Rather, I'm going to share with you something that's very important
to consider REGARDLESS of the exact TYPE of relationships with
women you're looking for right now.
Here it is: I don't care if you are interested in a woman for
TONIGHT or for a LIFETIME, you'd better do TWO THINGS right:
1) FIRST, you're going to have to WEED OUT the unreasonable,
manipulative, psycho and/or flat out EVIL women out there.
2) THEN, you're going to have to be HONEST with the women you DO
choose about your intentions.
Ha...it sounds so BASIC right? In fact, if you're saying something
to the effect of, "Thank you, Captain Obvious" about now I
understand.
But hold on for a second.
What's up, then, with all the PUA training out there that
specifically teaches how to target women who don't have good
relationships with their fathers (because they're "easier") and/or
how to build "compliance" (as opposed to "willingness") in women
with low self-esteem?
I mean, there are even DOZENS of books out there on "how to date
strippers".
REALLY, dude?
Let's not kid ourselves here. When advice on how to "get laid"
trips the "wisdom limiter" sometime shortly after asking the
question, "How much do you want to get her naked?" it might sound
good enough at the time.
But like I told you above, "good enough" is NEVER good enough.
I don't care if you NEVER want a steady girlfriend EVER...let alone
get married.
You'd STILL better avoid the WRONG women...no matter HOW good they
look and how much you "want" them.
Why? Because they can RUIN YOUR LIFE...and they gladly WILL.
And make no mistake about it. They might all LOOK insanely sexy as
they do so.
Let me put this in perspective in a way that might make you think.
One time a guy called me for an emergency coaching session, at a
loss as to what to do about a girl he had just met.
They'd had sex on the first date at his place, after which she went
home.
His plan was not to call her for a couple of days, based on what
he'd been taught somewhere about how not to be "needy" or "clingy".
But he ALSO didn't breathe a word to the woman about what the
nature of their relationship was at the moment or what it might be
in the future.
About 24 hours later, the dude got a rude awakening. Literally.
While sleeping peacefully in his own bed, the light flipped on
around 4 am and when his eyes opened his new "female friend" was
standing over him with a BUTCHER KNIFE aimed squarely at his chest.
"Even if you don't want me anymore, I WILL have you...", she purred.
Obviously, he survived the event unscathed enough to give me a call.
I told him exactly what I should have...that he should file charges
against the crazy girl and see a judge about a restraining order
immediately.
His response? "Aw man, but I really want to see her again...the sex
was soooo good!"
"OK", I calmly replied, "fine then...DON'T file charges or get a
restraining order. Just make sure you keep her away from pointy
objects and/or anything else she can mortally wound you with. And
install deadbolts on your doors and bars on your windows...I guess."
Unfortunately, I have a few dozen stories that would rival that one
regarding the level of "drama" some dudes are willing to put up
with from women who blind them with sexual desire.
Now here's another, completely different angle to consider.
Before he passed away a number of years ago, NBA great Wilt
Chamberlain published memoirs in which he disclosed having slept
with nearly 20,000 women.
Twenty thousand.
Here's the thing. As long as he'd been in the public eye and as
far removed as he was from his long and storied career, this fact
came as a TOTALLY SHOCKING SURPRISE to most who read his book.
That's because over the course of ALL THOSE YEARS and ALL THOSE
WOMEN there had NEVER been a "scandal" that involved Wilt.
In an interview on the subject, Will calmly mentioned that even
though his "relationship" with each woman was "very brief", he had
genuinely appreciated and given his full attention to EVERY one of
them while he was with them.
Furthermore, he was always very clear with every woman that his
"relationship" with them wouldn't last.
Now, before you go down the trail of supposing Wilt could "get away
with that" and keep all those women quiet because he was famous,
I'd like to remind you that publicly humiliating scandals tend to
happen PARTICULARLY to people who are famous.
I don't have to list the number of famous guys out there who've
been pretty much brought down by making STUPID decisions about
"short term" relationships with women.
Granted, if you'd say that any woman who'd engage in a "one
nighter" with a famous dude who's already slept with thousands of
other chicks doesn't really fit your criteria for a "high quality
woman", I'm not going to argue with you.
All I'm saying is that Wilt stayed out of trouble with a whopping
20,000 women...while a WHOLE LOT of guys can't date even two or three
without getting run through the ringer.
Heck, some guys even MARRY women who ruin their lives...all too often
because she was the first "hot chick" who actually "accepted" him
instead of "rejecting" him.
So which is it? Do you want to have CONTROL over your dating life
or do you want to end up as a candidate for the "Jerry Springer
Show"?
Whatever your goals are with women at this point in your life,
you've GOT to look farther than skin deep.
And yes...there are PLENTY of women out there who LOOK good and who
also have their heads on straight.
Knowing that simple fact, you just can't afford to look past
obvious signs of psycho evil...let alone TARGET women without any
regard to that whatsoever.
Patience and wisdom make all the difference...and perhaps not
coincidentally they're ALSO hallmark traits of a "big four" man.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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