[X&Y] Meeting Women In "Challenging" Situations
Published: Tue, 08/02/11
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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WHAT'S INSIDE: You see her and you want to meet her, but
either the timing or the scenario make it look nearly impossible to do so. Here's the solution...
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THE CELEBRATED "2-FOR-1" IS BACK...BUT NOT FOR LONG
You guys have been hammering me to open the doors again on that
killer offer I ran a couple of months ago.
You remember the one.
Out of the blue, I decided to fork over a copy of The Leading Man
for F-R-E-E with every order of The Man's Approach.
And I totally get why this was such a popular move.
I mean, The Man's Approach covers how to meet women, start
conversations with them and make the first date happen:
Meanwhile, The Leading Man is all about relationship management--aka
"everything that comes AFTER the first date".
These two programs go together like beer and pizza, so it makes
PERFECT sense to get them both at the same time.
So when you can get one for F-R-E-E when you buy the other, that
gives new meaning to the phrase "special offer":
Yes, this is dead serious.
Just to be clear, you'll get both FULL VERSIONS. It's not like
I'll send you the "demo version" of The Leading Man.
Both programs are the real deal.
So what do you have to do?
Not a whole lot. Simply order The Man's Approach from this link...
...And I'll send you that program AND The Leading Man.
It'll all happen "automagically". No coupon code required. You'll
simply see a note confirming this special offer on the order page.
BUT...here's the thing. Guys who make BOLD MOVES in life tend to be
the ones who see results, so you'll have to act between now and
MIDNIGHT Texas Time (CDT, GMT -5) TOMORROW NIGHT.
Getting in on this is about as close to a "no-brainer" as you'll
see in this life. The Man's Approach and The Leading Man together
cover everything from MEETING a woman to enjoying a long-term
relationship with her--and all that's in between.
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HOW TO MEET A WOMAN...EVEN IN THE MOST CHALLENGING SITUATIONS YOU CAN THINK OF (PART ONE)
Let's face it. Cold approaches are plenty challenging enough, even
if the woman is sitting by herself in an empty coffee shop already
smiling at you.
But even assuming you've conquered the fear of approaching with a
big, heavy hammer there are just some situations that can make even
the most seasoned pickup guru scratch his head and go, "Now what?"
Well, by now you know I'm ALL ABOUT eliminating the phrase "Now
what?" from our collective vocabulary.
Until that day finally gets here, however, here are some practical
suggestions--rapid-fire style, mind you--for meeting a woman you JUST
HAVE TO TALK TO, regardless of how sticky the situation is.
How about a "top ten list"?
Here are the first five this time 'round:
1) She's Walking The Opposite Way Down A City Street
In a scenarios like this, you've got to be pragmatic...and you've got
to be fast. There's no time for THINKING, just ACTION.
If ever the "three second rule" is particularly mission-critical,
it's under circumstances such as this.
So call it out like it is. Approach the woman from an angle where
she can see you, tap her on the shoulder and
pronounce--bluntly--"Look, I saw you and I knew I HAD to meet you.
You're obviously headed somewhere and so am I, so give me your
number so we can continue this conversation properly later."
First of all, you'll be shocked by how frequently your sheer
confidence turns a woman on in situations such as this. Second of
all, you'd better have something to write with. There's no time
for trifling with cell phones, etc. Write her number on your hand.
2) She's Got Headphones On
Oftentimes we automatically assume that a woman has headphones on
at the gym, beach or wherever to "tune us out". You're probably
right.
But all you need to remember is that women are hard-wired to FOLLOW
OUR LEAD, and they are NOT hard-wired to their iPods.
Again, approach from an angle that won't seem like she's being
ambushed, get eye contact with her--even if you have to get right in
front of her face to face (at least 18" away, please)--and simply
tap your ear. That's the universal symbol for, "Would you please
remove your earphones?"
Prepare to be shocked by how consistently this works. And when she
loses the headsets, also be prepared to introduce yourself. As
always, your confidence will be credited to you by any woman with
her head screwed on straight. That is, unless you're flat-out
creepy, or something--which you're not.
3) She's On The Phone
The first step here is to RELAX. You do not have to solve "world
peace" within the next thirty seconds.
If you don't have anywhere to be for the next few minutes, you'll
be pleasantly surprised by how seldom women's phone calls really
last the eternity that stereotype would lead you believe.
And when she hangs up, simply walk up to her with a smile and tell
her that you'd like to make friends with her, but only because it's
obvious she must already know how to make friends pretty
easily...considering that she was making such good use of her cell
phone.
By the way, the longer she was on the phone, the better this
works...so don't sweat it.
So what if her phone call seems interminable? Well there's no two
ways about it: You're going to have to grow a pair.
Position yourself in front of her and start shaking your head
subtly while hopefully making eye contact with her. We all as
humans are naturally curious, so chances are EXCELLENT that she'll
interrupt her phone conversation to acknowledge you.
At that point, you simply say, "You know, I saw you from across the
room and knew I had to meet you. But from the looks of things,
you've got LOTS of friends already. And I'm pretty spoiled...I'm
used to being top priority." Then make sure to crack a sly smile
after the mandatory couple of seconds.
If she doesn't love you for this, and hang up in homage to your
sheer courage, then you had no chance anyway...and are probably
better off. Trust me on that.
4) She's On Public Transportation
This is one I get asked about a lot. Whether on a subway or on the
bus, the first thing to remember is that you are BOTH in the same
boat (perhaps literally), so now is NOT the time to get
self-conscious because you don't have a car or something.
On the other hand, what it IS time to do is MOVE WITH A QUICKNESS.
You have NO IDEA when her stop is coming, so you've got to assume
that you only have thirty seconds MAX.
So you've got to go DIRECT. Tell her you weren't about to let this
ride you are on together pass you by without at least meeting her.
Get her number and tell her what time you'll call her.
A situation such as this is to be treated much like when you
encounter a woman walking in the opposite direction on a city
street.
5) There's A TON Of People Around
This is a particularly deceptive situation, isn't it?
Frankly, I think most of us are WAY, WAY too narcissistic when it
comes to meeting women when a lot of other people are around.
We tend to automatically assume that everyone else is going to key
in on the situation and any communication you have with the woman
is likely to make a scene.
Well, let me introduce you to a slice of reality. Most people
around you aren't going to give a rat's hind parts what's going on.
Seriously.
First of all, they've got to be within earshot enough to hear.
Then, they've got to have the presence of mind that you're creating
a "movie moment" with a cutie.
THEN...they STILL have to CARE, which like I said is unlikely.
Most of the time, any woman out there will be PROUD to have the
story to tell her girlfriends about how a man like you "picked her
out of a crowd" and chose to meet her, without any regard for who
was watching.
Play it cool, make normal conversation and I all but PROMISE YOU
that few, if any, people will even notice.
And what if they do?
What if some blue-haired grandma gives you a wink and a "thumbs
up". Smile back and proceed. If anything, the woman you've just
met will be even more intrigued by the way you handle yourself with
"compassionate confidence".
Ha. You didn't know I was such a crazy mofo, did you?
Actually this sort of thing can be flat-out FUN to challenge
yourself with.
Heck, I'm MARRIED and sometimes I even strike up conversations with
people in challenging situations like these just to remind myself
of how AMAZINGLY POSSIBLE it really is.
Let me tell you, most of the time I let the guys who claim to be
"pickup artists" do all the heavy lifting when it comes to this
sort of thing.
After all, there are TONS of guys talking about that stuff.
Meanwhile, I seem to be your ONLY friendly neighborhood dating
coach talking about "minor, trivial factors" like QUALITY as
opposed to QUANTITY.
Whatever.
But either way, lately you guys have been asking for my take on
this sort of stuff. So my challenge to YOU is to take at least two
examples out of the list I've offered above and by all means PUT
THEM TO THE TEST this week.
And by the way, be sure to drop me a note and let me know how it
goes. I LOVE e-mails like that. scot@deservewhatyouwant.com
I'll share the other five with you tomorrow, so stay tuned.
Here's a "sneak peek". They are:
6) You've Got Very Little Time To Work With
7) She's Clearly Not In A Great State Of Mind
8) She's With Friends
9) She's With Her Mom
10) She's With A Guy
Meanwhile, you a great chance here to put the first five to good
use.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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