[X&Y] Six Dating "Wake-Up Calls"
Published: Thu, 07/28/11
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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WHAT'S INSIDE: If you've EVER allowed yourself to endure ANY of
the heinous dating disasters (and even EXCUSE them as "normal"),
it's time to "snap out of it"...
=====
A "WILD WEST" SHOWDOWN WITH A WOMAN?
By now you know that the guys over at AMP and I think a lot alike
on most things when it comes to attracting women and relating to
them.
But I have to say that this new video from them demonstrates
something that I've NEVER written to you about before...and it hits
it HEAD ON, too:
http://bit.ly/VideosFromAMP
Let's just say that watching Decker "call a woman" out on the spot
for being "difficult" right then and there when the camera's
rolling is something to behold.
If you've ever felt exhausted trying to "make it work" with a woman
who you know deep down is a sweetheart, then you MUST watch this:
http://bit.ly/VideosFromAMP
Decker clearly--and masterfully--shows how to set boundaries with a
woman, all the while respecting her and appreciating her.
(Tricky? Maybe so...but it's a skill you've GOT to acquire.)
Now, you may be used to seeing videos like this right before
someone launches a big new product.
Well, just to give you an idea of how the guys at AMP run their
shop, the videos you're about to watch are actually REAL CLIPS from
their actual program Getting Her World.
That's how confident they are that you'll love what you see.
It's a well-known fact that these guys spend tens of thousands of
dollars on production for their programs, so their commitment to
excellence is above and beyond the call of duty.
But get this. Even though you've come to expect AMP's amazing
programs to go for $400 or more, you can actually get the ENTIRE
segment of Getting Your World featuring Decker and his feisty
friend Sandra for $47.
This is ONLY for you guys (as the Web page says) and this is ONLY
through Sunday night:
http://bit.ly/VideosFromAMP
This gives new meaning to "try before you buy"...no doubt. You just
gotta love AMP. They're real guys with some POWERFUL teaching.
=====
SIX DATING "WAKE-UP CALLS"
Every day I talk to men and women who are facing a challenge or two
that's similar to what nearly all of us deal with at one time or
another in the dating world. That's to be expected, and is part of
the human experience...at least nowadays it is.
But man...from time to time I encounter stories and/or situations
that are definitely non-standard.
Particularly interesting are the brouhahas men and women get
themselves into that involve clear passage into the realm of
"cognitive dissonance", which is essentially the concept of
continuing to believe that something is the case when the evidence
is overwhelming that such is indeed NOT the case.
And it's that great desire to have someone we are practically
obsessed with "love and accept us for who we are" which leads us
into this particular brand of turmoil. Every time.
Unfortunately, when we want so badly to believe that someone who is
indifferent (or even flatly uninterested) is someday, somehow going
to accept us and become romantically attracted to us we open the
door to being manipulated, trifled with or flat-out USED.
Here are some specific scenarios that I have seen in real life. If
you can personally relate to any of what follows it's time to WAKE
UP and realize that someone you have the "hots" for is being at
best opportunistic with you or--at worst--is going to milk her
relationship with you for all you are worth.
1) Financial Appeals
One time a few years ago I picked up a woman at her home to take
her out. She informed me that she would need a few more minutes
because she was IMing with a guy two thousand miles away.
She said it was important because although she had no interest in
ever really meeting this man he "sent her money all the time".
So she was essentially leveraging her "feminine wiles" for purely
ulterior financial motives (which I referred to immediately as
"Typing For Dollar$").
Inexplicably, the lonely guy on the other end of the conversation
let this go on and actually sent her checks.
In case the inherent subtlety of the whole scenario slipped by
unnoticed, let me reiterate: She was typing to this guy while I
was standing there.
Predictably, this same woman woke up a few days later to an empty
driveway, her SUV having been repossessed.
I'll never forget the phone call where she demurely purred a
request that I "lend her $17,000". I may never forget that phone
call, but I forgot her. Fast.
Actually, I should have seen that coming and dropped her like the
bad habit she potentially was days earlier when I found up what her
IM strategies were like. Shame on me.
2) Requests For Favors
Unfortunately, situations like unto what I'm about to describe are
not rare.
Back in my mid-twenties I lived with several roommates, all of whom
attracted women easily and often.
One day I came home and was mildly surprised to find that a
pleasant young woman with a particularly sweet personality was
nearly finished with what must have been a monumental task of
deep-cleaning our typically filthy house from top to bottom.
Speechless, I asked what prompted her to do such a thing. "Oh",
she said, "Your roommate hired me to be your maid."
It turns out he "forgot" to pay her the paltry five bucks (!?)
agreed upon. Yet, she was back again the next week for more of the
same. My roommate never so much as asked her out. Ever.
Now see, I bet you thought I was going to cite a woman doing this
sort of thing to a guy, didn't you? Wrong. This is not a
gender-specific deal.
3) Invitations To Spend Time And Resources
What if someone invites you to go somewhere or do something that's
particularly expensive and/or far away? What if the same person
who invited you casually expects you to foot the bill and/or do the
driving?
I believe the answers to these deep questions are rhetorical. Yet,
it's amazing how many single people have an iPhone full of willing
minions.
4) "Coincidental" Timing
Imagine for a second (although I realize it's unpleasant) that it's
early February and Valentine's Day is rapidly approaching . Old
flames have a way of flaring up right about then.
There's just something about Valentine's Day that "ignites" dread
and frustration there, causing them to pick up the phone.
"HEY...you've been on my mind lately for some reason and I kind of
miss you..."
Yeah, yeah. Next.
The Valentine's Day factor here is readily transparent. But
question the intentions of anyone who disappeared off the planet
only to suddenly resurface later with a new agenda, no matter what
the calendar says.
5) Sexual Bargaining
You would think, were stereotypes accurate, that men would bargain
FOR sex and women would bargain WITH sex.
Well, allow me to be the first to inform you that such thinking
doesn't necessarily apply anymore. Beware the particular danger of
being blindsided by this brand of manipulation when the roles are
reversed.
That's exactly what it is, too--manipulation. No more and no less.
And let me tell you, this can creep up on you with such a quickness
that when the realization of what is going on whacks you upside the
head you don't know whether to stare wide-eyed in the mirror in
disbelief or to just burst out in laughter.
I hear at least one guy reading this muttering to himself that he
should be so lucky to be "manipulated" as such. To each his own.
But once you get total control of your dating life like I've been
talking about around here my guess is that you'll develop higher
standards. Nice.
6) Pregnancy "False Alarms"
One time I called things off with a woman who I had been casually
spending some time with. That arrangement apparently didn't meet
her needs.
Three days later she called me up claming that she was "pregnant
with my child" and that she was "keeping the baby"...all part of a
ruse to trick me into being her boyfriend, presumably long-term (as
in "loooooong-term").
I had never had sex with this woman.
And no, I am not making this up.
If you are left slack jawed at the reality that the above hijinks
could possibly go on in the real world, count yourself fortunate to
have the wherewithal to exercise common wisdom in your own dating
life. Congratulations on having dodged bullets that routinely hit
other guys right between the eyes.
If you can relate to ANY or even ALL of my six examples, however,
get out of such a poisonous arrangement and do it NOW.
Here's one final thought that I would be remiss if I excluded from
this conversation.
If you are looking in the mirror and realizing that you are in fact
the perpetrator of any such treacherous dealings with people in
your own life, my only message to you is that today is the day to
start deserving what you want.
Users and manipulators will get used and manipulated in return
along the path of a frustrating and fruitless journey in hopes of
finding a partner with whom he OR she can enjoy a mutually
respectful relationship.
It's hard to ever reach one's destination that way.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's straight talk about the most creative
subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles while
being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic fluff you've heard a million times
isn't rehashed around here.
Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
"professional advice". You are responsible for your own decisions
in life (which we hope will include meeting more high quality
women).
Any external links in this e-mail should be understood to be
affiliate links. Purchases made through them help support X & Y
Communications podcasts, this newsletter, and all the other cool
content that you get from us that costs nothing...and keeps the
good stuff coming your way.
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2011. All Rights Reserved.
=====
WHAT'S INSIDE: If you've EVER allowed yourself to endure ANY of
the heinous dating disasters (and even EXCUSE them as "normal"),
it's time to "snap out of it"...
=====
A "WILD WEST" SHOWDOWN WITH A WOMAN?
By now you know that the guys over at AMP and I think a lot alike
on most things when it comes to attracting women and relating to
them.
But I have to say that this new video from them demonstrates
something that I've NEVER written to you about before...and it hits
it HEAD ON, too:
http://bit.ly/VideosFromAMP
Let's just say that watching Decker "call a woman" out on the spot
for being "difficult" right then and there when the camera's
rolling is something to behold.
If you've ever felt exhausted trying to "make it work" with a woman
who you know deep down is a sweetheart, then you MUST watch this:
http://bit.ly/VideosFromAMP
Decker clearly--and masterfully--shows how to set boundaries with a
woman, all the while respecting her and appreciating her.
(Tricky? Maybe so...but it's a skill you've GOT to acquire.)
Now, you may be used to seeing videos like this right before
someone launches a big new product.
Well, just to give you an idea of how the guys at AMP run their
shop, the videos you're about to watch are actually REAL CLIPS from
their actual program Getting Her World.
That's how confident they are that you'll love what you see.
It's a well-known fact that these guys spend tens of thousands of
dollars on production for their programs, so their commitment to
excellence is above and beyond the call of duty.
But get this. Even though you've come to expect AMP's amazing
programs to go for $400 or more, you can actually get the ENTIRE
segment of Getting Your World featuring Decker and his feisty
friend Sandra for $47.
This is ONLY for you guys (as the Web page says) and this is ONLY
through Sunday night:
http://bit.ly/VideosFromAMP
This gives new meaning to "try before you buy"...no doubt. You just
gotta love AMP. They're real guys with some POWERFUL teaching.
=====
SIX DATING "WAKE-UP CALLS"
Every day I talk to men and women who are facing a challenge or two
that's similar to what nearly all of us deal with at one time or
another in the dating world. That's to be expected, and is part of
the human experience...at least nowadays it is.
But man...from time to time I encounter stories and/or situations
that are definitely non-standard.
Particularly interesting are the brouhahas men and women get
themselves into that involve clear passage into the realm of
"cognitive dissonance", which is essentially the concept of
continuing to believe that something is the case when the evidence
is overwhelming that such is indeed NOT the case.
And it's that great desire to have someone we are practically
obsessed with "love and accept us for who we are" which leads us
into this particular brand of turmoil. Every time.
Unfortunately, when we want so badly to believe that someone who is
indifferent (or even flatly uninterested) is someday, somehow going
to accept us and become romantically attracted to us we open the
door to being manipulated, trifled with or flat-out USED.
Here are some specific scenarios that I have seen in real life. If
you can personally relate to any of what follows it's time to WAKE
UP and realize that someone you have the "hots" for is being at
best opportunistic with you or--at worst--is going to milk her
relationship with you for all you are worth.
1) Financial Appeals
One time a few years ago I picked up a woman at her home to take
her out. She informed me that she would need a few more minutes
because she was IMing with a guy two thousand miles away.
She said it was important because although she had no interest in
ever really meeting this man he "sent her money all the time".
So she was essentially leveraging her "feminine wiles" for purely
ulterior financial motives (which I referred to immediately as
"Typing For Dollar$").
Inexplicably, the lonely guy on the other end of the conversation
let this go on and actually sent her checks.
In case the inherent subtlety of the whole scenario slipped by
unnoticed, let me reiterate: She was typing to this guy while I
was standing there.
Predictably, this same woman woke up a few days later to an empty
driveway, her SUV having been repossessed.
I'll never forget the phone call where she demurely purred a
request that I "lend her $17,000". I may never forget that phone
call, but I forgot her. Fast.
Actually, I should have seen that coming and dropped her like the
bad habit she potentially was days earlier when I found up what her
IM strategies were like. Shame on me.
2) Requests For Favors
Unfortunately, situations like unto what I'm about to describe are
not rare.
Back in my mid-twenties I lived with several roommates, all of whom
attracted women easily and often.
One day I came home and was mildly surprised to find that a
pleasant young woman with a particularly sweet personality was
nearly finished with what must have been a monumental task of
deep-cleaning our typically filthy house from top to bottom.
Speechless, I asked what prompted her to do such a thing. "Oh",
she said, "Your roommate hired me to be your maid."
It turns out he "forgot" to pay her the paltry five bucks (!?)
agreed upon. Yet, she was back again the next week for more of the
same. My roommate never so much as asked her out. Ever.
Now see, I bet you thought I was going to cite a woman doing this
sort of thing to a guy, didn't you? Wrong. This is not a
gender-specific deal.
3) Invitations To Spend Time And Resources
What if someone invites you to go somewhere or do something that's
particularly expensive and/or far away? What if the same person
who invited you casually expects you to foot the bill and/or do the
driving?
I believe the answers to these deep questions are rhetorical. Yet,
it's amazing how many single people have an iPhone full of willing
minions.
4) "Coincidental" Timing
Imagine for a second (although I realize it's unpleasant) that it's
early February and Valentine's Day is rapidly approaching . Old
flames have a way of flaring up right about then.
There's just something about Valentine's Day that "ignites" dread
and frustration there, causing them to pick up the phone.
"HEY...you've been on my mind lately for some reason and I kind of
miss you..."
Yeah, yeah. Next.
The Valentine's Day factor here is readily transparent. But
question the intentions of anyone who disappeared off the planet
only to suddenly resurface later with a new agenda, no matter what
the calendar says.
5) Sexual Bargaining
You would think, were stereotypes accurate, that men would bargain
FOR sex and women would bargain WITH sex.
Well, allow me to be the first to inform you that such thinking
doesn't necessarily apply anymore. Beware the particular danger of
being blindsided by this brand of manipulation when the roles are
reversed.
That's exactly what it is, too--manipulation. No more and no less.
And let me tell you, this can creep up on you with such a quickness
that when the realization of what is going on whacks you upside the
head you don't know whether to stare wide-eyed in the mirror in
disbelief or to just burst out in laughter.
I hear at least one guy reading this muttering to himself that he
should be so lucky to be "manipulated" as such. To each his own.
But once you get total control of your dating life like I've been
talking about around here my guess is that you'll develop higher
standards. Nice.
6) Pregnancy "False Alarms"
One time I called things off with a woman who I had been casually
spending some time with. That arrangement apparently didn't meet
her needs.
Three days later she called me up claming that she was "pregnant
with my child" and that she was "keeping the baby"...all part of a
ruse to trick me into being her boyfriend, presumably long-term (as
in "loooooong-term").
I had never had sex with this woman.
And no, I am not making this up.
If you are left slack jawed at the reality that the above hijinks
could possibly go on in the real world, count yourself fortunate to
have the wherewithal to exercise common wisdom in your own dating
life. Congratulations on having dodged bullets that routinely hit
other guys right between the eyes.
If you can relate to ANY or even ALL of my six examples, however,
get out of such a poisonous arrangement and do it NOW.
Here's one final thought that I would be remiss if I excluded from
this conversation.
If you are looking in the mirror and realizing that you are in fact
the perpetrator of any such treacherous dealings with people in
your own life, my only message to you is that today is the day to
start deserving what you want.
Users and manipulators will get used and manipulated in return
along the path of a frustrating and fruitless journey in hopes of
finding a partner with whom he OR she can enjoy a mutually
respectful relationship.
It's hard to ever reach one's destination that way.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
X & Y Communications is dedicated to making you the most skilled
participant in the dating world you can be, at whatever stage of
life you are in. It's straight talk about the most creative
subjects, somehow encompassing character-based principles while
being neither too shy nor too judgmental to hit the important
things head on. The basic fluff you've heard a million times
isn't rehashed around here.
Enjoy!
Please also note that the information in this newsletter is for
entertainment purposes only and is not intended to constitute
"professional advice". You are responsible for your own decisions
in life (which we hope will include meeting more high quality
women).
Any external links in this e-mail should be understood to be
affiliate links. Purchases made through them help support X & Y
Communications podcasts, this newsletter, and all the other cool
content that you get from us that costs nothing...and keeps the
good stuff coming your way.
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2011. All Rights Reserved.