X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN


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WHAT'S INSIDE:   Want to relate to women in a way that creates
attraction?  Great...but make sure you know the basics of what
they're REALLY watching for, even when you might not even realize
they're watching.

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LIVE THE DREAM


In addition to the many questions I get from guys on how to get
better with women, I ALSO get quite a number of questions from guys
about how I managed to "fire the boss" and build my own business
doing EXACTLY what I'm most passionate about.

Like me, many of you are figuring out that The Company does NOT
love you, and these days you can get laid off at the drop of a hat
regardless of your job performance.

Entrepreneurship really is the NEW "job security".

What's more, though, it really is GREAT to throw away the alarm
clock, make your own schedule, take long vacations at will AND feel
like you're going about your true life purpose all the while.

It's not surprising that so many of you are writing me wanting to
know how to get in on that party rather than being a slave to the
"rat race".

Well, here's the deal.  A whole lot of what I've learned about how
to build my business (which has been going strong for six years
now) I learned from Eben Pagan.

You probably know Eben as David DeAngelo, the author of Double Your
Dating and for nearly a decade THE "900 pound gorilla" in the world
of men's dating advice.

If you're going to learn how to build your very own online business
quickly and easily, you might as well learn DIRECTLY from the
master himself:



http://bit.ly/VideosFromEben



Right now, Eben's got three truly excellent videos available to you
that show you how to identify what you're best at and set the
framework for building a successful online business of your own.

You can see all three videos here:



http://bit.ly/VideosFromEben



Now, I have to admit I'm a bit behind in sending this to you.

So the page you'll land on actually defaults to the third and
newest of the three movies...but they're all there for you.

Just click the tabs at the top of that page to find the first two
and watch them first:



http://bit.ly/VideosFromEben



If anything, even if you HAVEN'T given much direct thought to
building your own business yet I highly recommend watching the
videos and letting them inspire you.

You CAN do more and have more in this life.

By the way, Eben's got some other surprises for you on that page as
well, along with a BIG announcement coming tomorrow.  Stay tuned.



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WOMEN ARE WATCHING...


I'm asked all the time by guys how best to interact with women and
how to treat them in general in order to generate attraction.

And, of course, we spend a lot of time addressing that exact topic
around here.

Today, however, I'd like to offer a related concept that is almost
NEVER talked about, but which is ALL IMPORTANT.

That's this:  Have you ever stopped to consider that women just
might be watching and evaluating how you relate to OTHER DUDES in
order to get an idea of how you might relate to them?

Guess what?  It's true.  Women are taking CAREFUL note of how you
deal with other guys, and their perceptions are making the
difference as to whether or not they're sexually attracted to you
or not.

The reasoning behind this?

Simply stated, having figured out that we as humans should have no
problems figuring out and relating to other members or our SAME
gender, that's got to be step one before ever expecting to relate
effectively to the OPPOSITE gender.

So women are noticing if you're a leader among men as opposed to a
passive follower.

They're watching to see if you respect the basic rights and
privileges of other dudes.

They even watching to see whether you're welcomed socially by your
male peers rather than simply "tolerated".

Do other guys fluster you?  Or can you join right in with the
teasing and joking without flinching?

Do you FIT IN within the "circle of maleness", for lack of a better
description?

Women are watching ALL of these dynamics in motion and more.

In a woman's mind, you see, if you can't get the job done with
OTHER GUYS, then there's NO CHANCE you'll be able to relate to a
HER as a real man to a real woman.

Now, your first reaction may be to resist accepting what I've just
revealed to you.

But think about it this way.   We as guys tend to operate in a very
similar manner when evaluating women, right?

It's true.  None of this is gender specific.

If a particular woman constantly gets into "catfights" with other
chicks, always seems to suspect that her female co-workers "have it
in for her" and/or just can't seem to make female friends very
easily it throws up all sorts of red flags, right?

She somehow mysteriously does NOT come across as quite as feminine
as we'd wish her to.

On one level we wonder how in the world she'll ever be able to
positively interact with us...members of the opposite sex.

But at another level that's a moot point anyway--because we aren't
even really as attracted to her as we could be.

Weird, isn't it?  But that's how it works.

I hear someone out there saying, "But Scot, I've always related
better to women as friends than men."

OK, great.  And how many of those "friends" were wildly attracted
to you?

Or have you always felt you might as well be gay when spending time
with them?

In order to be a masculine MAN to a woman as she defines it, you've
got to first demonstrate that masculinity when relating to your
male friends...even if it's only about creating respect and rapport
in that context rather than attraction, of course.

If you're gravitating toward women as friends, it could mean you
relate more to their feminine side.

But in order to create ATTRACTION there's got to be sexual
polarity.  Masculinity and femininity mixed together are what make
that happen.

"Relating to women" is one thing, but igniting their femininity is
another.

But there's more.

Women are ESPECIALLY watching how you relate to your BEST friends
and particularly your FAMILY members.

Who you are around those with whom you feel most comfortable is who
you REALLY are.

Read that last line again and let it sink in.

If a woman wants to see your "true colors" before ever investing in
a relationship with you, that's her BEST CHANCE at seeing them.

She knows this, even if YOU deny the reality of it.

For sure, I remember the first time I was ever confronted with this
reality.  Man, did I ever object.

After all, I felt my family members just had their ways of hitting
my "hot buttons" and such.

But make no mistake...the truth is what it is.

So what's the bottom line?

Don't for a second think you can relate to women successfully
without regard to how your relationships with family members and
male friends go.

That would be an attempt to put the proverbial cart before the
horse, and it would most certainly be an unsuccessful one.

Just like we watch how women interact with THEIR family and female
friends--and we evaluate them accordingly, whether we even realize
it or not--they're watching us in the same exact way.

And we're all absolutely WISE to do so.


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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