[X&Y] "Semi-Platonic" Relationships...What The Heck Is Going On There?
Published: Tue, 09/13/11
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Have you ever been in a "semi-platonic"
relationship? Are you in one now? Here's what's really going on...=====
"WHAT'S THE LONGEST YOU'VE LASTED INSIDE A WOMAN?"
Here's a little Tuesday night humor for you:
A man walks into a sex therapist's office. The doctor asks,
"What's the longest you've lasted inside a woman?"
The man says, "About nine months."
OK, I admit that one's kind of a "groaner", isn't it?
But if you really do have PE, it's not funny AT ALL.
"PE", of course, does NOT stand for "Phys. Ed." Millions of guys
all over the world suffer from Premature Ejaculation.
If you happen to be one of them, not only does it wreak havoc on
your own sexual satisfaction, it keeps the woman in your life from
being satisfied as well.
But I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. The whole
thing is humiliating, and it's got to stop.
Fortunately, there's a quick and effective fix:
The Long Lasting Lover program is something new that I've not told
you about before.
Once you take a look at the bullet points on the website I think
you'll know that this guy Nick Richards is on to something:
Best of all, I got him to let me link you to the site that his
subscribers only usually get to see...where the program is only about
the price of a pizza.
Which pie would you really rather enjoy? (OK, that was a "groaner"
also...)
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"SEMI-PLATONIC" RELATIONSHIPS
You've heard about the dreaded "Just Be Friends Zone" ad nauseam,
right?But what about that weird "middle ground" when the relationship
between you and a certain woman is sort of, well...undefined.
By that I don't mean you're unsure as to whether you're exclusive
or not. After all, you've heard about that one time and again also.
What I mean in this context is that you don't even know whether
you're "just friends" or something more than that.
Sometimes the situation can become VERY confused...even suddenly on
the spot, right?
Nobody seems to write about that one, so it's high time it got
addressed.
OK, so to get started here are several sample scenarios.
You meet a woman and start "hanging out" sometimes.
After three, five, seven or more times seeing each other you still
haven't exactly seen a good time to kiss her.
And she seems fine with that, weirdly enough.
So now you feel dumb even bringing the whole idea up...
Or what about this?
You meet a great woman at college or work or wherever.
She tells you she's "seeing someone" or is "just coming off a bad
relationship" so she's not interested in dating anyone at the
moment.
You say you "respect that".
You see each other around all the time and, sure enough, it seems
like you're "just friends".
Then one day the two of you lock eyes and a kiss just sort of
happens.
Was that FOR REAL, or are you supposed to pretend it never
happened?
And then there's THIS...
A woman actually gives you ye olde "JBF Talk", and you feel like
you've been banished to Elba...again.
Then she has a couple of Apple-tinis at the next party y'all are at
together and starts hanging all over you...even trying to make out
with you.
WHAT IN THE WORLD IS GOING ON HERE?
Well, we could spend a whole lot of time breaking down each of
those individual scenarios, but I've got news for you: There's no
need for that.
That's because the general solution for each is THE SAME.
Surprise, surprise--this newsletter is actually PART TWO of the last
one I sent you on when she says, "It doesn't matter".
Remember what's up with that?
Right...she's waiting for you to TAKE THE LEAD and MAKE A DECISION
when she says that.
Well guess what? That's also EXACTLY what is going on inside her
head 99% of the time when you're saddled with a "semi-platonic
relationship".
Granted, there are certain women who are just flaky and weird.
They want to play games or they have serious problems upstairs.
But as I've ALWAYS said, I don't write about how to "succeed" with
women like that. You should AVOID them instead.
Fortunately, however, the VAST MAJORITY of the time when a
"semi-platonic" relationship presents itself what's going on is
EXACTLY what I said.
The plain truth is that most women are not going to "throw
themselves at you".
Meanwhile, guys like us who land in "semi-platonic" relationships
generally have NO CLUE how to read women's subtle hints of
attraction.
And yes, some women are just the infamous "non-reactors", or "poker
faces" as I've referred to them in the past.
All of those factors contribute to our "failure to deploy" as
guys...even when women would really prefer we did.
Here are some practical guidelines for you on how to stay out of
the "Semi-Platonic Zone".
First off, if you've been "out" with a woman on ANYTHING that feels
REMOTELY like a "date" more than two times, go ahead and TAKE A
CHANCE on kissing her...even if you don't perceive any "go ahead"
signals.
I can all but promise you she's not there because she has nothing
better to do. And even if she is, she'll probably kiss you anyway.
And what if you hear from a woman that she's not interested in
dating or a relationship for WHATEVER reason, but she ends up
kissing you because she "couldn't help herself", etc?
In that case it's time to stop listening to her words and put more
stock in her ACTIONS.
You've got to empower that woman to feel safe breaking the
"semi-platonic" barrier with you.
You're not those "other guys", and you're especially not whoever
she's been seeing casually.
She probably likes you better...and has all along.
As for the woman who abruptly changes course in the moment after
apparently "JBFing" you?
My educated guess is that her alleged "JBF talk" was merely a
"pre-emptive strike" because she wasn't at all sure you weren't
just toying with her emotions or something.
In other words, it wasn't really a "JBF talk" at all...at least in
the classic sense. She's confused about you.
Whatever the scenario, it's up to YOU to move from "semi-platonic"
to something more...that is, if you WANT to.
If you're seeing multiple women, sometimes "semi-platonic" can
prove intriguing and fun...at least for a while.
But you can bet that the longer the tension builds, the bigger the
explosion in the chemistry lab once you reach "critical mass".
Gentlemen, watch especially for the tell tale "sneak attack kiss"
when a woman you thought was "just a friend" is feeling
particularly happy, frisky or uninhibited.
There's no stronger an indication that she wants you to MAN UP and
make the decision on behalf of both of you to drop the "semi" from
"semi-platonic".
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Episode 47 of The Chick Whisperer was recorded yesterday, and
it's coming VERY soon.
On the recent survey MOST of you were ready for me to "mix it up"
by having some co-hosts who weren't necessarily dating and
seduction coaches.
Let's just say I put the pedal to the metal...
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