[X&Y] How To Solve The Problem Of "Texting Exes" Forever
Published: Thu, 09/22/11
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Here's how to make sure that exes are
never allowed to stand between you and the greatest woman
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Now let's talk about how to rid your life of "texting exes", as
promised yesterday.
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HOW TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM OF "TEXTING EXES" FOREVER
Yesterday we talked about the brouhaha that tends to occur when a
woman you're seeing starts getting texts or voicemails from one of
her exes.
What a mess right?
Well, today I'm going to show you a QUICK and almost impossibly
EASY way to make sure problems NEVER happen as a result of such
nonsense.
Fair warning: It's counter-intuitive, and actually goes AGAINST
other dating advice you may have received elsewhere.
Here goes.
The problem would be virtually SOLVED if everyone--men AND
women--simply kept the names and numbers of their exes in your
address book...even AFTER breaking up with them.
If you haven't been doing that already, right now is a good time to
start.
Better yet, if you've dated a bunch of people be sure to enter
their first AND last names in the phone.
And if you have one of those phones that only shows part of the
address book data when the phone rings, change whatever that part
that shows up to "DO NOT ANSWER".
If that's the first name, fine. Enter the ex's full name as the
last name, that's all.
You might even want to re-enter some names and numbers of exes just
as a preemptive measure.
Seriously, this strategy works like a charm.
Now, the baseline assumption here is that both the man and the
woman in the relationship have the best of intentions for each
other and that they are making an honest go at an exclusive
relationship.
As such, the ONLY way a call or text from an ex would be
entertained AT ALL is if it were answered mistakenly.
Since it's not sensible for most people in the real world to
straight-up ignore numbers they don't recognize, the strategy I've
just shared with you is surely the way to go.
And like I said last time, if ANY woman ever starts teasing you by
willfully trading communications with an ex, that's a SERIOUS red
flag.
That's a breakup waiting for you to make it happen
Put it all together and you have the complete solution.
At this point I know what you're probably thinking. This is so
blasted brain-dead SIMPLE. How come EVERYONE doesn't do this
already?
Well YOU might think that way, but you'd be shocked by how many
women DON'T...at least not naturally.
You see, they've been fed a steady diet of bad dating advice to the
effect of "washing that man right out of their hair".
The "lady gurus" out there LOVE to think they're empowering women
by instructing them to forget bad boyfriends and move on.
You can see, then, how women might get the idea that completely
erasing ex boyfriends out of their phone can seem to be a cathartic
moment.
It's a very tangible way to physically go through the motions of
"erasing someone from memory", if you think about it.
So yes...a lot of female dating experts actually RECOMMEND to women
that they do exactly that.
But then, of course, women who take heed instantly become
susceptible to "sneak attacks" from ex-boyfriends...whether they're
dating someone else or not.
And like I said...when you "feed the neighborhood cat", that's when
the real trouble starts.
So what can YOU do to correct this?
That's admittedly a tricky one, but you can try the following if
you're sure you've got an emotionally stable woman with a solid
sense of self-esteem.
First of all, when you go exclusive with her make it PERFECTLY
CLEAR that you're totally cool with the idea of her keeping her
ex-boyfriends' info in her phone.
You can even tell her exactly WHY. It'll be implicit that you're
not the jealous type...you're just into avoiding drama.
Importantly, don't lead with what's in YOUR phone.
YOUR excuse for keeping your ex-girlfriends' info in there will be
a moot point if you take things in the right order here.
Get this bass-ackwards, however, and you'll only manufacture
suspicion even in the highest quality woman...completely
unnecessarily.
She'll likely see your logic even if she's been "erasing" her
exes...and wisely add them back into her address book accordingly.
You don't need to supervise that exercise, by the way. Go ahead
and let her take care of that privately. The fact she's doing it
based on your suggestion should be enough for you.
Overall, this is all a pretty wild and crazy topic, huh?
In a perfect world, we wouldn't ever have to deal with exes.
But hey...now you've been empowered with a great set of tools for
making sure they don't stand between you and a great relationship
with a high quality woman...literally.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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