[X&Y] Do Women REALLY Call All The Shots? (Read This)
Published: Tue, 09/27/11
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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IN THIS EDITION: Why do so many guys think that women are the
"choosers" and men are the "chasers"? That's about as good aquestion as why so many WOMEN think MEN are the "choosers" and THEY
are the "chasers".
But first, here's a MAJOR announcement...
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IS THE TEN-PLUS LIVE EXPERIENCE FOR YOU?
What if you could get ALL the 1-on-1 focus you need to become the
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If you are ready to take a bold step towards getting to where you
want to be, then welcome to Ten-Plus Live.
Now you can get a direct, intensive coaching experience 1-on-1 with
me...live and in-person here in San Antonio, TX.
After a comprehensive advance planning session, I'll go to work
preparing a specialized curriculum just for you.
You will arrive early afternoon on Day One. We'll have lunch and
have the opportunity to interact with women almost immediately.
Then, Emily will join us for a casual night out on San Antonio's
famed Riverwalk.
Day Two will feature a full TEN HOURS of intensive training with
me personally.
This is laser-focused on the areas of particular concern to YOU.
This can include day game, image consultation, mindset, body
language, online dating, social dynamics and/or any other area
you'd like.
The mix of "whiteboard" time and in-field training is also
completely flexible.
As part of your specialized training, you'll even have a hands-on
opportunity to learn how to cook for a date, if you'd like.
At the close of Day Two, you'll enjoy another night out on the town
with BOTH Emily and I, putting everything you've learned into
direct practice in the field. Again, even this part of the
experience will be custom-tailored to your exact specifications.
After that, we'll enjoy a "debriefing breakfast" together which
is always a highlight for everyone who experiences Ten-Plus Live.
Once you return home, you'll be entitled to 90 days of e-mail
coaching and two one-hour follow up sessions via phone.
So there you have it, TEN FULL HOURS of 1-on-1 instruction PLUS all
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Live.
Obviously, space for the Ten-Plus Live program is VERY limited. If
this is for you, you probably sense it already.
If so, call me on +1-210-260-6400 or e-mail me at:
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You can also check out our dating coaching web site here for more
info:
The Ten-Plus Live experience is $3000, including all ground
transportation, meals and entertainment. Flights and hotel are
your responsibility, but we're glad to assist with logistics. San
Antonio is centrally located and served by both Southwest and
AirTran, so flights are relatively inexpensive.
If you've priced the typical pickup bootcamp, you already realize
that this represents the opportunity to get TRUE 1-on-1 attention
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coaching. That's significant.
That also means, of course, that flexibility of the program is
truly limitless.
And yes...you CAN split the experience with a friend if you want
to (adding in the real cost of meals/entertainment for a second
person), or request that one of the Virtuosity co-hosts fly in as
a co-instructor (subject to availability, and costs TBD depending
on who you request).
And now, on to today's newsletter...
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WHO "CHOOSES" AND WHO "CHASES"?
When you get right down to it, there is ONE factor that is common
to all who experience problems with MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite
Sex) versus those who don't.
Simply put, those who are satisfied with their level of success
have control over their dating lives, and those who aren't...don't.
When your dating life is "out of control", that's precisely when
you are in very real danger of becoming a "chaser" rather than a
chooser.
In other words, because you don't feel as if you have OPTIONS,
every interaction with every woman becomes all-important.
After all, if she "rejects" you, it's back to the drawing board...
Just about every day it seems I get an e-mail or two from a guy who
believes that WOMEN are uniquely and invariably the "choosers",
while men are the "chasers".
And although I don't believe it necessarily has to be that way,
those who do sure tend to have a firmly-held belief in that regard.
After all, to the average guy it really does look like attractive
women call all the shots. Tons of guys approach, and tons of guys
get "rejected". Only a select few "golden boys" get past her
defenses and are offered the chance to "impress her".
Now I'll be the first to admit to you that those women are indeed
"choosers".
And guess what? If you fall in line trying to "impress her",
you're chasing.
But here's a shocking revelation for you.
Just about every day, we get an e-mail (or four) from a WOMAN who
believes MEN are the "choosers", and that she as a woman is left to
do the "chasing".
And she's 100% correct also.
How can this be?
Well yes, the one with the OPTIONS is in control, no doubt. But
there's something deeper at play here when it comes to "choosing"
vs. "chasing".
And you know what? The deeper issue is indeed VERY gender
specific, unlike the baseline factor of having control over your
dating life.
The truth is that BOTH genders are CHASING something.
And BOTH genders, once they understand what MOTOS really want, have
the power to be selective in giving it to them.
As a man, you've probably already figured out that guys tend to
"chase" sex. Women who are sexually attractive to us tend to be
immediately desirable.
So the battle cry of the man who feels women have all the power in
relationships is, "Yeah, but SHE can get laid anytime she
wants...it's US GUYS who have to try so hard!"
Want to know something? It's PRECISELY that one-dimensional way of
thinking that's KEEPING YOU in "chaser mode".
If you are frustrated with the power women seem to have over you,
that's why.
So what's the secret here?
Let me challenge you: What if you could get outside of your own
head for a moment and get into the head of a woman?
Like I said, we get letters from women who believe MEN have ALL THE
POWER.
How can that be?
Easy. It's just that men and women are chasing after DIFFERENT
OUTCOMES.
Women aren't chasing sex. Women who are "chasers" are typically
chasing COMMITMENT.
A woman who feels her dating life is out of control is likely
frustrated because she feels a fantastic long-term relationship is
out of her reach.
Need proof? Google "dating advice for women" and look at the
titles of the various books and programs out there. There aren't
many "get laid quick" books for women, are there?
Yet, women's dating advice is plentiful and apparently necessary.
And almost all of it focuses on getting a man to stick around and
commit. Even Emily's Click With Him program is no exception.
So what does all this mean in practical terms?
(Make sure you are sitting down for this.)
What this means to YOU is that making the shift from CHASER to
CHOOSER is absolutely, positively within your grasp.
But you're going to have to make a radical mind shift.
If you are sex-focused, you are--by definition, mind you--HANDING
OVER all the power to women. You are putting them in the
"catbird's seat" as far as being the choosers YOU are chasing.
Meanwhile, the man who knows how to IGNITE FEMININITY understands
women. He understands the more holistic gift that a great woman
represents to him.
What's more, he also inherently recognizes that a great
man--confident, masculine, able to give her security and of
unmistakable character--is IMMENSELY VALUABLE to women everywhere.
Basically, he knows that a "great catch" is so sought after by
women that they will do exactly that...they will seek after it.
Or said differently, if YOU can be that guy, women will CHASE YOU.
Here's the crazy part: Your sexual frustrations will likely vanish
into thin air when that happens.
When you TAKE THE LEAD and represent to a woman exactly what she
wants, she'll respond by offering YOU what YOU want in hopes of
getting what she's "chasing".
Now listen, I don't advocate taking advantage of women sexually
that you have no intentions of rewarding with the relationship they
seek.
I don't recommend that any more than I recommend you becoming a
"sexless boyfriend" to any of the women you've been chasing in the
past.
What I AM saying, is that you will NEVER AGAIN "chase" sexual
fulfillment.
Instead, your eyes will be opened to an almost surreal world where
women desire MORE of you than LESS of you. Women will call YOU
more often. They will write you letters. They will cook you
dinner. They will rub your back. They will GLOW when you look at
them.
All without you having to beg, grovel or otherwise resign your
manhood.
By now, you know that I'm not the "get laid quick" dating guru.
But here's the irony of this whole discussion. A LOT of the guys
who are taking the "get laid quick" approach AREN'T "getting laid
quickly" at all.
What I've shared with you today is a BIG reason why that is.
You may believe very strongly that it's time for YOU to take the
first VERY BOLD step towards taking back complete control of your
dating life.
For you, total immersion may be what it takes. And that's exactly
why I've launched the Ten-Plus Live program I told you about
above...for you.
What difference could a weekend in San Antonio make for you? PUA
training and "bootcamps" may be fine for other guys, but is 1-on-1
attention more in line with your vision for discovering what YOU
need in order to succeed?
If so, pick up the phone and call me directly: +1-210-260-6400.
If you prefer, e-mail me first at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com.
And once again you can read more about the new Ten-Plus Live
program right here:
Have a great week and I'll talk to you again soon.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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