[X&Y] Are All Women "Gold Diggers"?
Published: Fri, 04/27/12
X & Y COMMUNICATIONS NEWSLETTER FOR MEN
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IN THIS EDITION: It's true that almost all women are sexually
attracted to a man who can be a "provider". But does that mean
that they're all "in it for the money"?
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SECRETS TO BEING AMAZING WITH WOMEN
When you know what other guys don't know, you can do what other
guys can't do. It's really as simple as that.
That's especially true when it comes to understanding women and
ATTRACTING them.
Some guys got it, some guys don't. From now on, you can make sure
you're on the right side of the fence:
www.thedifferenceinfo.com/subscribers
My program The Difference has generated a LOT of attention from
guys all over the world. That's because it's literally jam-packed
with secrets to success with women that most guys will NEVER
discover.
Guys who are good with women usually guard this knowledge
jealously, of course. But now that I'm officially "retired" from
dating I have no reason to hold back.
That means it's time for YOU to pick up where I left off after
meeting Emily and get some great women into YOUR life for a change.
The golden secrets found in The Difference are concise and to the
point. You can listen to several of them on the fly right away
before you go out tonight.
Get a solid head start on a successful weekend here:
www.thedifferenceinfo.com/subscribers
Remember, the "difference50" coupon code I announced yesterday is
worth a full 50% OFF...but it's only valid until midnight Pacific
Daylight Time (GMT -7) TOMORROW night.
Just enter the code on the order page and click "Recalculate" to
see the magic happen.
And now for today's "gold-plated" topic...
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ARE ALL WOMEN "GOLD DIGGERS"?
All too often you overhear in conversation that someone--typically a
woman--has been accused of being a "gold digger".
Universally, the term carries a negative connotation, and is
understood to mean that she who is the subject of such discussion
is "in it for the money".
So why is this concept met with such complete, utter disdain from
guys everywhere? That's a great question, and I'm glad you asked.
I think the hard feelings can be summarized as follows. There are
two basic elements, really:
1) Women who are just looking for $$$ out of a relationship are
considered shallow. Does she not even care about the guy at all?
2) Women who are after a megabucks lifestyle courtesy of some guy
are quite simply expressing an expectation that most "mere mortal"
men can't satisfy.
The net-net of it all is that men feel frustration and resentment
towards women who portray this persona, hence the pejorative title
of "gold digger" is pronounced upon them.
So lets talk about this. First, what can we learn from this
phenomenon?
Well, you know me. We're all about "chick whispering" around here.
If men and women BOTH can understand and relate to the kind of
emotions generated here, we can all benefit from the discussion.
So let me go ahead and throw it out on the table.
Guys: You know that empty, almost disgusted feeling you get in the
pit of your stomach when you suspect that the woman you are seeing
is only going out with you because you take her to fancy
restaurants and buy her expensive gifts?
Yeah, well...that's EXACTLY how a woman feels when she suspects a guy
is only interested in her as a sexual conquest.
Did that hit you like a ton of bricks? Maybe so.
But just for the sake of clarification (and "equal time"), let's
level the playing field. For you ladies who may happen to be
reading: If you are prioritizing material gain in your dating
life, you are NO DIFFERENT than the man who is singularly
sex-focused.
Think about it. Whether you are a man or a woman, if you are bent
on selfish intent you are giving the people you date negative
vibes.
Typing that last statement, it seemed so obvious a concept to me.
Yet, people everywhere have been known to habitually operate as
such.
Why? Because it works...sometimes. Or it least it would appear that
way.
The tragedy of it all is that whether you are a man or a woman,
selfish manipulation really only succeeds in keeping around
desperate people who feel devoid of other options.
What do you know? Once again, people get what they deserve.
The questions then are twofold: If you are acting selfishly, are
you really fulfilled by a relationship with a needy person who is
merely capitulating to you?
Or, if you are getting "used" by MOTOS (members of the opposite
sex) on a regular basis how long are you going to tolerate that,
thinking that it's simply 'your lot in life' or something to do so?
How about deserving what you want instead? To do that, you have
got to show genuine concern and respect for others...especially
people you are dating.
The opposite of "shallowness" is "depth", and "depth"--by
definition--can support a greater volume. Your dating life will
indeed hold more if you begin to add depth to your relationships.
But let's not end the conversation so quickly. Is it categorically
wrong for a woman to want a man who can provide financially? For
that matter, is it wrong for a man to desire sexual fulfillment?
Most sexy women like being appreciated sexually by men they're both
attracted to and comfortable with.
Similarly, it may or may not surprise you that there are plenty of
guys out there with fat bank accounts who are PERFECTLY OKAY with
the fact that a woman would be attracted to him, at least in part,
specifically because he can provide financially.
Given that women tend to have an archetypal disposition towards
favoring men who are "providers", this is not surprising.
And since such men have no guilt or shame tied to being unable to
offer such "provision", it's all good...as long as the woman brings
her portion to the table.
If she doesn't have an "entitlement" mentality and is happy to
genuinely do her part in being one-half of a great relationship,
then many men are in fact PROUD to pay a woman's way.
Ultimately, we all like to live the "good life" complete with lots
of financial and sexual success, so simply having such desires
isn't bad at all.
The caveat here, of course, is that if a man of means remains
himself so shallow that he is only about leveraging his wallet for
sex (even if indirectly), then he shouldn't kvetch about "gold
diggers".
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2012. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.
"No games" doesn't only apply to dating around here.
=====
IN THIS EDITION: It's true that almost all women are sexually
attracted to a man who can be a "provider". But does that mean
that they're all "in it for the money"?
=====
SECRETS TO BEING AMAZING WITH WOMEN
When you know what other guys don't know, you can do what other
guys can't do. It's really as simple as that.
That's especially true when it comes to understanding women and
ATTRACTING them.
Some guys got it, some guys don't. From now on, you can make sure
you're on the right side of the fence:
www.thedifferenceinfo.com/subscribers
My program The Difference has generated a LOT of attention from
guys all over the world. That's because it's literally jam-packed
with secrets to success with women that most guys will NEVER
discover.
Guys who are good with women usually guard this knowledge
jealously, of course. But now that I'm officially "retired" from
dating I have no reason to hold back.
That means it's time for YOU to pick up where I left off after
meeting Emily and get some great women into YOUR life for a change.
The golden secrets found in The Difference are concise and to the
point. You can listen to several of them on the fly right away
before you go out tonight.
Get a solid head start on a successful weekend here:
www.thedifferenceinfo.com/subscribers
Remember, the "difference50" coupon code I announced yesterday is
worth a full 50% OFF...but it's only valid until midnight Pacific
Daylight Time (GMT -7) TOMORROW night.
Just enter the code on the order page and click "Recalculate" to
see the magic happen.
And now for today's "gold-plated" topic...
=====
ARE ALL WOMEN "GOLD DIGGERS"?
All too often you overhear in conversation that someone--typically a
woman--has been accused of being a "gold digger".
Universally, the term carries a negative connotation, and is
understood to mean that she who is the subject of such discussion
is "in it for the money".
So why is this concept met with such complete, utter disdain from
guys everywhere? That's a great question, and I'm glad you asked.
I think the hard feelings can be summarized as follows. There are
two basic elements, really:
1) Women who are just looking for $$$ out of a relationship are
considered shallow. Does she not even care about the guy at all?
2) Women who are after a megabucks lifestyle courtesy of some guy
are quite simply expressing an expectation that most "mere mortal"
men can't satisfy.
The net-net of it all is that men feel frustration and resentment
towards women who portray this persona, hence the pejorative title
of "gold digger" is pronounced upon them.
So lets talk about this. First, what can we learn from this
phenomenon?
Well, you know me. We're all about "chick whispering" around here.
If men and women BOTH can understand and relate to the kind of
emotions generated here, we can all benefit from the discussion.
So let me go ahead and throw it out on the table.
Guys: You know that empty, almost disgusted feeling you get in the
pit of your stomach when you suspect that the woman you are seeing
is only going out with you because you take her to fancy
restaurants and buy her expensive gifts?
Yeah, well...that's EXACTLY how a woman feels when she suspects a guy
is only interested in her as a sexual conquest.
Did that hit you like a ton of bricks? Maybe so.
But just for the sake of clarification (and "equal time"), let's
level the playing field. For you ladies who may happen to be
reading: If you are prioritizing material gain in your dating
life, you are NO DIFFERENT than the man who is singularly
sex-focused.
Think about it. Whether you are a man or a woman, if you are bent
on selfish intent you are giving the people you date negative
vibes.
Typing that last statement, it seemed so obvious a concept to me.
Yet, people everywhere have been known to habitually operate as
such.
Why? Because it works...sometimes. Or it least it would appear that
way.
The tragedy of it all is that whether you are a man or a woman,
selfish manipulation really only succeeds in keeping around
desperate people who feel devoid of other options.
What do you know? Once again, people get what they deserve.
The questions then are twofold: If you are acting selfishly, are
you really fulfilled by a relationship with a needy person who is
merely capitulating to you?
Or, if you are getting "used" by MOTOS (members of the opposite
sex) on a regular basis how long are you going to tolerate that,
thinking that it's simply 'your lot in life' or something to do so?
How about deserving what you want instead? To do that, you have
got to show genuine concern and respect for others...especially
people you are dating.
The opposite of "shallowness" is "depth", and "depth"--by
definition--can support a greater volume. Your dating life will
indeed hold more if you begin to add depth to your relationships.
But let's not end the conversation so quickly. Is it categorically
wrong for a woman to want a man who can provide financially? For
that matter, is it wrong for a man to desire sexual fulfillment?
Most sexy women like being appreciated sexually by men they're both
attracted to and comfortable with.
Similarly, it may or may not surprise you that there are plenty of
guys out there with fat bank accounts who are PERFECTLY OKAY with
the fact that a woman would be attracted to him, at least in part,
specifically because he can provide financially.
Given that women tend to have an archetypal disposition towards
favoring men who are "providers", this is not surprising.
And since such men have no guilt or shame tied to being unable to
offer such "provision", it's all good...as long as the woman brings
her portion to the table.
If she doesn't have an "entitlement" mentality and is happy to
genuinely do her part in being one-half of a great relationship,
then many men are in fact PROUD to pay a woman's way.
Ultimately, we all like to live the "good life" complete with lots
of financial and sexual success, so simply having such desires
isn't bad at all.
The caveat here, of course, is that if a man of means remains
himself so shallow that he is only about leveraging his wallet for
sex (even if indirectly), then he shouldn't kvetch about "gold
diggers".
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2012. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.
"No games" doesn't only apply to dating around here.