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WHAT'S INSIDE:  You met her, had a nice conversation and traded
numbers.  Now she won't leave you alone.  How do you fix this
situation?

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KILL OR BE KILLED?


If you're like most men, you want to be a protector.  

Not only does being ready and willing to be that guy give you
peace of mind, it literally turns women on.

Granted, most of the time you won't have to defend the woman
you love, your current or future family and/or even yourself
from imminent physical threat.

But what if--God forbid--that need ever arises?

Will you be able to handle it?



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Most of us don't have the time to get a black belt in a martial
art.  The good news is that if the name of the game for you
is not mere "self-defense" but "protection of your loved ones",
then you've got to see this:



http://www.scotrecommends.com/tft



Get the know-how you need fast, and without spending a lot of
money to get it.

Let me be clear. I'm not at all recommending that you become
an aggressor for the sake of it.  

But don't kid yourself.  When it comes time to protect a woman's
honor and/or your family from harm, you've GOT to be ready.

Here's how to cross that off your "to do" list:



http://www.scotrecommends.com/tft



And now, let's hear from Don in England.  His question is a REALLY
good one...and yet another that falls under the "high quality
problem" category.

His is also another one of those issues that may not seem to apply
to you right now in the moment, but boy will you be glad you read
this newsletter whenever it DOES apply to you someday.

And if you're a "Big Four" man, it absolutely will.  Read on.



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LETTER FROM A READER


Hi Scot,

I have a problem I need your help with. I broke up with my
girlfriend for a short time. So I went to my friend's party and I
met this girl.

We had a quick talk but even though I saw she was desperate and
needy, she asked for my number I gave it to her without thinking.

Before the party ended this girl was following me everywhere.  She
got me into corner and I kissed her just once, but went home by
myself.

The next morning she sent me 3 texts. I didn't get back to her and
she sent 2 more texts.

I ignored her for a while but she still kept the texting and
calling me.

Now I'm back with my girlfriend. I don't want this girl to mess
things up for me.
 
I've told this girl 3 times I have a girlfriend now but she thinks
that by trying to be my friend maybe she can change my mind. I sent
a text telling her I want to end any communication with her.

But she won't listen.

I don't know what to do now. Can you give me any advice to stop
this girl from calling and texting me?

 
Kind Regards,
 
Don (Manchester, UK)



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Hello Don, and thanks for writing.

Your best bet is to STOP responding to her completely...even if
your only contact is for the stated purpose of telling her to stop
contacting you.

I realize you have tried to ignore her for the most part, but I'm
telling you...even ONE response is enough to fuel the fire. 

On one level it's like the way it was back in school.  The bigger a
rise a bully got from a kid who he picked on, the more he picked on
him.  It just provides more substance to continue the
"conversation" with.

Similarly to that in your case, she may not care that your response
isn't exactly favorable, in her mind it's still enjoyable to some
extent because SHE'S STILL TALKING TO YOU.  And as long as you keep
things rolling, the more "material" she has to work with.

But on another level, what's happened here is also a lot like what
happens after you've fed a stray cat.  All it takes is ONCE and the
cat keeps coming back...and won't EVER quit.

That analogy applied to the kiss at the party, and carried through
to the first time you texted her back...no matter how long you
ignored her until that point.

Let me tell you why.

In the specific case of this woman who has totally sold herself on
falling for you, she's likely to rationalize to herself that ANY
response from you equals "hope".

And here's the weird part.  For better or worse, her thought
process isn't actually as irrational as it may seem.

Even in the sales world this principle is actually known to carry
some merit, believe it or not.

It's remarkable how many sales eventually come from people who
initially responded to e-mail and phone solicitations by returning
the message with negative interest.

What's psychologically conveyed to the seller is a signal that
there's quite possibly a simple need on the part of the potential
buyer for an objection to be overcome.

Otherwise, his or her attention wouldn't have been piqued at all,
right?

Often that train of logic turns out to be deadly accurate, and the
sale is actually made...to a customer who originally went out of
his or her way to apparently tell the salesperson to "get lost".

So with all of that in mind, In this case I'm afraid you've already
done the equivalent of "feeding the stray cat". 

So you've got to be patient, no doubt.  But you're indeed going to
HAVE to ignore her COMPLETELY from this day forward. 

Simply let her find some other guy to continue her conversation
with. 


Be Good,

Scot McKay


P.S.  Oh, by the way...for those of you who may already be busy
rationalizing how what's described above may work in your favor when
the shoe is on the other foot, here's some food for thought.

If you've got a woman you'd love to go out with who hasn't been
responding all that well to you, YES...there MAY be a slight "glimmer
of hope" if you keep hammering her with texts begging her to go out
with you.

She may in fact relent, particularly if she's too "nice" to say
"no" to people. 

But most likely she WON'T.

And by "most likely she won't" I mean it's OVERWHELMINGLY
IMPROBABLE.

So please don't get any ideas from the context of this newsletter
about cheapening your self-respect in hopes of getting somewhere
with a woman by groveling.

The HIGHER PROBABILITY strategy is to be a "Big Four" man, and
therefore never have to resort to desperate measures.  

Things always end better when you're actually attractive to a woman
rather than simply successful at "wearing her down"...if you can even
classify that as "success".

As I talk extensively about in The Man's Approach, a WILLING woman
is always better than a COMPLIANT one.  Think about it.

Besides, yikers...the only thing worse than a female stalker is a
male one.  Mark that.  Women have the added worry of fearing more
for their personal security than most men ever do.

Being that guy hits just about every rung of the "Big Four failure
to deploy" ladder on the way down.




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