[X&Y] Did You Know There Are 2 Types Of "Just Be Friends" Talks?
Published: Sat, 12/15/12
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Not All "JBF" talks are created equal. Here's how
to tell what she's really saying... =====
SHE WHISPERS IN YOUR EAR..."YOU'RE AMAZING"
A while back there was an episode of The Chick Whisperer
featuring none other than social circle expert Josh Pellicer.
I nearly fell out of my chair when I checked iTunes the day
after that show was released. It was #1 in the WORLD in its
category.
But in my mind there's no wonder you guys were all over that
particular show. This guy knows his stuff.
In fact, I'd say he takes "chick whispering" to a whole new
level...and I mean literally.
Josh can walk up to a woman he's never met before and just start
whispering in her ear. Within seconds she is giggling softly.
It's the stuff of legends (although it's 100% true). And this is
how he does it:
Josh's breakthrough system that helped him personally go from a
"lovable loser" with women to a consummate ladies' man has since
become wildly popular, and is called--appropriately enough--The
Tao Of Badass.
Now, you can bet that Josh is going to show you exactly how to get
women to utter those two magic words: "you're amazing" a WHOLE LOT
more often than you might be used to hearing them.
But that's really just the start.
Even as you begin to routinely intrigue and enchant the finest women
you've ever encountered, you'll ALSO dial up your standing in your
social circle to a level typically reserved for the rich and famous.
Sounds pretty much outrageous, doesn't it?
I haven't really seen a system that combines getting better with
women and social circle mastery quite as effectively as Josh does
in The Tao Of Badass. It's the real deal:
Now, I have a bit of a secret for you. The completely killer
FULL Tao Of Badass system isn't "officially" available at this
time.
If you go to his regular website you'll only see the e-book for
sale by itself.
But on the phone with Josh this past weekend I managed to cajole
him into opening a special 24-hour window of opportunity for you
to get your hands on The WHOLE expanded Tao Of Badass package
NOW instead of whenever the heck he decides to put it back on
the market.
That means the ENTIRE SYSTEM for what the e-book usually goes for
by itself.
He's backing it all with a 60-day 100% satisfaction guarantee and
dropping some GOLDEN get-good, get-confident, get-results knowledge
here. ...And wait until you see the bonuses stacked on for good
measure:
Be sure to give this an honest look, gentlemen. After all, if
you're going to become amazing to women, you might as well become
amazing to EVERYONE ELSE too in the process, right?
Josh is onto something here, I tell you...
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TWO KINDS OF "JBF" TALKS
I fully realize that how to avoid the dreaded "Just Be Friends
Zone" is a topic that's frequently discussed. In fact, it may be
discussed just a bit TOO much.
So at the very outset here I want to invite you to hang in there
with me. This is NOT going to be another tired general overview of
the concept.
Instead I'm going to share with you a realization that came to me
during a recent Ten-Plus coaching call:
Not All "JBF" Talks Are Created Equal.
...And you've GOT to be able to tell the difference.
This is not necessarily so you can GET OUT of the "JBF Zone" once
you're in it. That's a very, very tough spot to get out of once the
proverbial damage is done.
Rather, it's so you can--once and for all--figure out HOW and WHY
women are exiling you there to begin with. That way, you can
better AVOID landing there in the future.
Better yet, you'll have more CONTROL over your dating life...almost
overnight.
You see, most guys who hear the "JBF Talk" tend to hear it
REPEATEDLY. It tends to be a recurring sticking point.
That's due to the simple truth that almost every single time a
woman lowers the dreaded "JBF" boom, it's because there's NO
ATTRACTION felt by her towards the guy she's delivering the awkward
news to.
Ironically, some of us fail to recognize that women are attracted
to MASCULINITY...even as we FULLY recognize that it's a woman's
femininity that makes her sexually attractive to us.
Masculinity + Femininity = Sexual Polarity.
Without sexual polarity, there's no such thing as "attraction".
Therefore, when we position ourselves as "neuter" human beings, we
mess up the equation.
So then, if almost ALL "JBF Talks" happen for the same central
reason, how are there TWO types of them?
Ah, yes... That's a terrific question.
And I truly believe that you've likely never heard what I'm about
to tell you before because it often requires an eye for subtlety to
detect the difference between the two.
Here's the deal.
Make no mistake, the WORDS THEMSELVES that a woman might use will
be similar, no matter what.
"I think we should just be friends."
"I'm just not feeling it."
"I don't want to ruin our friendship."
And let us not forget this classic (although we'd most
definitely like to):
"You're more like a brother to me."
What you've got to discern is her EMOTIONAL STATE when she's
telling you these sorts of things.
Is she sort of sullen or tentative, as if she almost feels SORRY
for you? Do you feel a bit patronized, as if she has the "upper
hand" on you?
And what about YOUR emotional state? Do you feel helpless, if not
hopeless?
As a direct result of that, have you suddenly gone from being
practically in love with her to resenting her or even almost hating
her in one fell swoop?
If so, you're experiencing a "Type 1 JBF Talk", defined as follows:
She doesn't feel attraction for you, and NEVER DID...even though she
tried to talk herself into it."
Meanwhile, a "Type 2 JBF Talk" is different. You sense that
somehow SHE is the one feeling resentment. There's a certain
frustration in her voice as she's speaking.
And YOU'RE the one who, oddly, begins to feel "sorry". Maybe you
don't feel sorry for HER, exactly, but you feel sorry that the
scenario is unfolding as it is.
In this case, it's not so much that you feel helpless, per se, but
rather that you know you blew it and wish you could get a "do over".
That's because a "Type 2 JBF Talk" signals the hard truth that she
at one time DID feel attraction for you, but LOST IT.
Importantly, women almost always WANT attraction to happen when
they go on a date with us.
While a "Type 1 JBF Talk" might often happen when no real "dating"
has actually occurred between parties, a "Type 2 JBF Talk" is more
typical after at least a first date has happened.
So if you've been hearing your share of "JBF talks" lately, ask
yourself which type they are.
If they're "Type 1" your task at hand is to do a better job of
reflecting masculinity as women define it. This may be something
you'll need to work on in general, not just when around attractive
women.
But if you're sensing that "Type 2" is what you're encountering,
then you've probably got a good handle on how to BE masculine
already.
The challenge for you then becomes to keep doing what you did at
the beginning to attract a woman. Don't change your pace or your demeanor as you start liking a woman
more. This can often happen due to a sense of panic over
potentially losing her.
Therefore, you start "chasing" more than "choosing".
Can you see how knowing the difference between the two types of
"JBF Talks" can dramatically increase your power to avoid them to
begin with?
Attract women, keep them attracted, and thereby stand as a man who
is in control of his relationships with women. That way, if any
"JBF Talks" prove necessary, it'll be YOU who's giving them.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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