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WHAT'S INSIDE:  Today you've probably already heard a lot about
"New Year's Resolutions".  Here's a completely different and more
effective way to look at it...along with some cool "resolution
resources" for you at the very end.

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RESOLVE THIS


   I'm sorry, did I break your concentration? I didn't mean to
   do that. Please, continue, you were saying something about
   best intentions...

   --Samuel L. Jackson (as "Jules" in Pulp Fiction)


The idea of making a "New Year's resolution" is one of the most
tired, old, worn out traditions I can think of. 

Every January 1st we all make one.  And by about January 10th we've
all usually given up on it (or flat-out forgotten about it) already.

I think I've figured out why this is the case.

Simply, it's because the question, "What's your New Year's
resolution?" has become as much of a default during the first week
of January as asking "How are you?" when greeting someone is every
other week of the year.

And like we do for the latter question, we make sure we have a
shiny, positive answer ready for the former.

This means, of course, that HAVING an answer is more important than
CARING about the answer.

So in a sense, "resolutions" are cheap this time of year.

Sure, we can know deep down that getting the job done would be a
good idea.  But if the "heavy lifting" ultimately mattered little
to us until now, what's going to make January 1st any different?

Having ruminated upon all of this, I've (ironically enough)
decided to come up with a slightly New Year's resolution this
year anyway...albeit a radically different one than usual.

Actually, it's a two-part resolution, but bear with me.

First, I resolve to make more resolutions more often, all year
long.  That is, I'm making a "resolution to resolve".

And going along with that, I resolve to KEEP my resolutions.

Essentially, what I'm aiming to do is form a HABIT of intentionally
improving every aspect of my being that could use it.  No more
"one and done" resolutions that the calendar coerced me into making.

And certainly no more waiting around for the next January 1st to
roll around.

Further, I'm going to SHOW SOME CHARACTER and actually DO what
I tell myself I'm going to do.

Now, what I'm about to say may be like dropping a bomb.  I know it
seemed like that for me when the "light bulb" went on earlier this
morning.

Here it is:  If I can't make good on promises I make to MYSELF,
then why should I be trusted to make promises to anyone else? 
Surely, if I let MYSELF down on a regular basis (and I live here),
then why should ANYONE ELSE think I'd come through for them?

Seriously, the concept at play here is about as binary as today's
01/01 dateline.

Either I am a man of character whose actions follow his words, or
I'm NOT.

When thought about in that way, it's a true game changer for the
whole idea of making "resolutions", isn't it? 

After all, "resolution" is virtually synonymous with "promise". 

And here's the craziest part of all. 

"Character", remember, is one of the "Big Four".

So in a very real way, making a resolution to KEEP your resolutions
actually IS--in and of itself--a resolution to "get better with
women".  See how that works?

Along those same lines, ambition, motivation and passion ATTRACT
women.  They're MASCULINE traits, as defined by women themselves.

A man with a goal and a confident plan for accomplishing it in turn
inspires confidence in a woman.  So making a "resolution to
resolve" fits that persona hand-in-glove.

Wrap up everything we're discussing here and you've got the "Big
Four" (masculinity, confidence, inspiring confidence in women,
character) covered.

Did I get your attention yet?  (Or did I "break your concentration?")

Perhaps you were expecting me to give you some "rah-rah" pep talk
about how you should resolve to get better with women in 2013, like
every other dating coach is doing today.

And rest assured, I JUST DID.  Far be it from me to disappoint you.
 
But before I close, I want to share something else with you that's
relevant to this conversation, and that you may find as
particularly intriguing as I do.

Whenever a guy begins a Ten-Plus program with me, I give him what I
call an Initial Assignment.

As you may be aware, Ten-Plus is a guided 1-on-1 coaching plan
that's customized for each individual to take him from where he is
today to exactly where he wants to be when it comes to success with
women.

Obviously, before I can build the right outline for such a custom
plan I need to KNOW where the guy it'll be designed for is today
and where he wants to be, right?

So the very first section of the Initial Assignment is always
this: "List 25 things you would like to do/see/have in your
lifetime."

Every guy's response tends to be completely unique, which is a good
thing.  But there is one amazing thread of commonality between
those responses.

Usually, at least HALF of the items on any particular man's list
could be accomplished AT WILL and AT ANY TIME...were they only to
get slotted on the schedule and MADE TIME FOR.

We're talking about things like, "take salsa dancing lessons",
"drive a 2013 Camaro" and even "watch a sunset from beginning to
end".

Gentlemen, what's on your "bucket list"?  Are there items on there
that are as easily arranged in real life as they are dreamed about?
 
And wait...can you even THINK of 25 items to fill out such a list?

Remember, having the kind of inspired life that women want to be
part of is a HUGE factor in attracting the highest quality ones.  

If you go to your day job, come home and watch the tube, wake up
the next morning and do the SAME THING the next day you're bringing
NOTHING to the table.

If that's your lifestyle, you're not LEADING in a way that's
ATTRACTIVE to women.  She can remain bored and uninspired WITHOUT
YOU, thank you very much.

So my challenge to you is this:  Why not take the time to write out
your own "list of 25" and let that kick start your own "resolution
to resolve"?  

If you find yourself jotting down stuff you can actually GET DONE
if you'd simply make a move, so be it.  Make today the day you get
going on those...for real.

And if you find yourself writing down loftier goals that will take
some time, ingenuity and even pure luck...that's cool also.  Start
putting your ducks in order so those dreams and visions start
appearing to draw nearer to you.

I'll tell you, becoming a #1 bestselling author had been on my
own "bucket list" for YEARS...and it finally came true last
week.  That felt AMAZING.

Yes, many of YOU helped make that dream a reality.  And my goal
today is to return the favor, if you haven't figured that out.

If this newsletter is your motivation to MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN
on a regular basis from this day forward, then GO FOR IT!

Believe it or not, I've already made plans to knock out at least
another four items on my "bucket list" within the next 60 days.

Should some of the items on your list involve travel or other
experiences that might involve rearranging your expenses a little,
start asking yourself whether or not there really is always
something more pressing to do with your hard-earned money than the
25 biggest dreams you have in life. 

Believe me, there's ALWAYS going to be something that seems in the
moment to be a "better" use of funds than taking that trip to
Australia.

Go ahead...stare "fear of failure" in the face and boldly stop
letting yourself down.  Take that "list of 25" and RUN WITH IT.

Even if you find it contains some typical "resolution"-type tasks
to accomplish, that's fine also.  If you need to quit smoking, lose
weight AND make more money this year...why in the world would
you feel the need to pick ONE to "resolve"? 

Whatever a "resolution to resolve" means to you, by all means
consider making that promise to yourself. 

But just the same, I'll check in with you in, oh...about TEN
DAYS, deal?


Be Good,

Scot McKay



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SOME COOL "RESOLUTION RESOURCES" FOR YOU


After telling you guys a while back about how I was using Brad
Howard's Adonis Effect as part of my plan to get into shape, a
number of you e-mailed me wanting to know the rest. 

Several others have asked me about resources for tackling other
popular "resolutions" along the way.

Well, again...the important part is to recognize that making promises
to yourself should become HABIT rather than a once-a-year gig, and
that you've GOT to make good on those promises as a man of
character.

With that said, here are my recommendations:



LOSING WEIGHT:  Here's a major secret to my own personal success
at losing over 25 pounds so far.  I've found this to be powerful,
and it doesn't cost a lot.  Just never mind the weird cartoons:


http://bit.ly/8FlwPc



BECOMING MORE EFFICIENT, MAKING MORE MONEY, ETC.:  Not being a big
fan of "get rich quick" schemes, I found this program--which costs
nothing to join--to be completely different and cool.  The guy who
runs it is very smart, and it covers lots of unexpected but very
valuable areas:


http://bit.ly/5rtFqU



FINDING DIRECTION / MOTIVATION:  This is probably the most creative
and flat-out cool strategy I've seen for transforming yourself into
a man with a plan of action for his life.  Even if you're the most
ambitious dude on Earth, this is STILL worth a look...just to see it:


http://bit.ly/8kKvuI



GETTING IN SHAPE:

And, of course, here's the link to Brad Howard's Adonis Effect, which
has been instrumental in my recent return back into shape:


http://bit.ly/8izgu




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