[X&Y] So Do LIKES Or OPPOSITES Attract?
Published: Fri, 02/01/13
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WHAT'S INSIDE: Once and for all, let's settle it... Do people who
are more alike attract each other or is it really true that"opposites attract"?
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GO AHEAD...TWIST MY ARM
I'm pretty sure I've NEVER gotten as much e-mail in response
to a new program as I have since Female Persuasion hit the
street.
A good number of them read similarly to this:
"Hey Scot, man...what's up with rolling out Female Persuasion
during the last week of the month, dude? Don't you know that
some of us don't get paid until the first?"
This is all about the fast-action bonuses, I take it.
Well, far be it from me to disappoint those of you who keep it
real all month long.
Today is February 1st, and for the next 48 hours you've got
another crack at the fast-action bonuses featuring David Shadeand I on "mental foreplay", and my full, complete video from
the Real Man Conference (complete with "standing O" at the end).
Here's the link:
Remember, these are meant to be FAST-ACTION bonuses, so I'm
still going to reward guys who take a bold step. The window
is open for 48 hours ONLY:
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SO DO LIKES OR OPPOSITES ATTRACT?
"I'm a walking, talking dichotomy. I hope you're the same."
"I'm looking for someone with as many things in common as me."
-- Actual lines from women's online dating profiles
It's a question that has perplexed--if not flat-out flustered--
humankind since the very inception of civilized male/female
attraction, isn't it?
Do people who are more ALIKE or more OPPOSITE ultimately attract
each other?
And moreover, the deeper question: Are we more likely to succeed
in a RELATIONSHIP with someone who is more ALIKE or more OPPOSITE
to ourselves?
Well, anyone who is familiar with the famous Myers-Briggs
personality inventory test knows that the claim that comes along
with it is that the happiest couples are almost always OPPOSITE
personality types.
Meanwhile, it's readily apparent from how the folks over at
eHarmony, for example, do business that they believe that LIKES
attract.
So who's right and who's wrong here?
Here's my surprising answer: BOTH and NEITHER.
That's right. After lots of consideration of the issue at hand,
I've arrived at the conclusion that there is a GREY AREA here that
few, if any, people ever consider.
The truth is that in order for a man and a woman to be truly
compatible in a relationship, they have to be ALIKE in some ways
and DIFFERENT in others.
Now, before you dismiss what I've just said as calling the whole
thing a "toss up" and walking away from the dilemma, know this:
How we and our female companions need to be ALIKE and how we need
to be different is NOT RANDOM (i.e. purely subject to whatever
turns us on).
In fact, it's crucially important to know how to sort this all out
as you're evaluating women.
So then, let's elaborate a bit on what needs to be ALIKE between
you and a woman you're likely to have a great relationship with.
For starters, she's going to need to have the same core believe
system (aka "world view") as you do. For example, if she's
Catholic and you're Agnostic, being opposite will likely be
disastrous.
You just have to build your relationship on the same basic
foundation. Know what I mean?
The two of you will also need to be in lock-step on ideas like
whether or not you want kids (and if so how to raise them), whether
to stay up all night or be an early riser, what "relationship"
means in your case (i.e. are you completely monogamous?) and
whether to eat meat or not.
A myriad of examples could be given. But simply put, you and the
woman of your dreams should be alike PHILOSOPHICALLY.
See how that makes sense?
Next time, in Part Two on this topic we'll cover how you and the
kind of woman you're likely to get along with long term should be
OPPOSITE from each other.
Don't touch that dial...
(WARNING: The next edition will include some pretty entertaining
accounts of misadventures with women from my own past.)
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. A new episode of the TCW podcast is on its way...and my
co-host is a guy who several of you requested. (Good call,
by the way.)=====
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