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WHAT'S INSIDE:  You've got to "wear the pants", but you don't
want to be a controlling jerk.  Here's how to get this right...

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ANNOUNCING A MAJOR CHANGE...AND YOU'RE THE ONE WHO BENEFITS


As you know, I've been offering that special bundle of five
major programs at a killer discount for some time now.

But just today I've made a MAJOR CHANGE to it.

Realizing that not all of you guys are necessarily into online
dating, I'm including Female Persuasion from now on instead.

That's not a misprint.  Yes...you'll now get my NEWEST program
(and fastest selling ever) in the bundle.

I've also replaced Virtuosity with The Difference, just to
mix things up, and renamed the whole thing The Fast Start
Package Plus:



Fast Start Package Plus



No kidding, you'll get all five popular programs for over
50% off.  And yes, you can even take three months to pay if
you'd like:



Easy Purchase



By the way, if you'd like to get your hands on Virtuosity and
ODD 2.0 as well, here's another cool surprise.  You can now
get the complete collection of all seven programs for an equally
great price:



All Seven Major Programs



Now, some of you may be asking, "But Scot, I already snapped up
your All Five bundle some time ago.  Is there any way I can get up
to speed here?"

No worries, I've got your back.  If that applies to you, simply
grab a copy of Female Persuasion between now and Tuesday night
at midnight EST and I'll send you The Difference along with it:



Female Persuasion + The Difference



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BEING "IN CONTROL" VS. BEING A "CONTROLLING JERK"


Back when I was in the IT world I flew to Chicago quite a bit.
Since United Airlines is hubbed at O'Hare (or "ORD"), that was my
usual airline of choice.

Now, whatever your personal opinion of United Airlines is, there
is at least one ultra-cool thing about UA that cannot be denied.

On the pre-merger planes, at least, if you tune in to channel 9 on
their in-flight audio system, you can listen to air traffic control
(ATC) in real time.

While cruising at 38,000 feet, overhearing the Ft. Worth Area
Control Center hand off to Kansas City Center is admittedly not the
most exciting thing in the world.

But when the initial approach into ORD would begin, I found myself
utterly fascinated by the flawless choreography necessary on the
part of air traffic controllers to ensure safe and efficient
traffic flow into and out of one of the busiest airports on the
planet.

"...United 6092, descend and maintain 3500. Turn left, heading 030
for three-two left. Contact O'Hare tower 132.7, good day. United
298, maintain at or above 4000. Observe company traffic, 7-5 at
2:00. Lufthansa 430 heavy, descend and maintain 5000..."

The cockpit crews trying to land jets at O'Hare fully understand
that it's a really good idea to take whatever O'Hare Approach
tells them seriously.

After all, there's seldom any doubt that those manning the radar
screens are utterly competent. And to deviate from their guidance
could spell out disaster.

And it's not like there's a power struggle or anything. The pilots
are doing their job, which is a pretty cool gig in its own right,
and the guys in the tower at London Gatwick, on the job at Potomac
Terminal Radar Approach Control, or at the Boise Center are doing
theirs.

And as a team, the pilot and the air traffic controller are
operating in the best interest of everyone involved...especially the
passengers.

It's not like ATC is saying "my way or the highway". Believe me, if
Iberia 27 Heavy happens to experience an uncontained engine failure
in ORD airspace, priorities will gladly be adjusted accordingly.

And the pilots? Their number one concern is arriving safely and
soundly on terra firma.

They're all about getting their part of the plan done without any
drama. For them, attempting to create order out of chaos in the
skies would be unthinkable--they've GOT to be freed up to go about
the business of flying.

Relationship management is, in many ways, not unlike air traffic
control.

Granted, we as men probably do well not to issue an emotionless
stream of rapid-fire commands in industry jargon to a woman if
we want to get anywhere with her.

Fair enough.  (Although unfortunately, I've seen some guys come
pretty close to treating their families that way.)

But nevertheless, we as guys must have a PLAN.

We need to be able to confidently assert what's best for everyone
involved in any given scenario.

And what's best for our significant others should take precedence
over our own selfish needs, within reason. That should be by our own
choice.

This means putting ego aside and making decisions based on a clear
knowledge of what a woman's hopes and dreams are vis-à-vis what is
both feasible and reasonable...and executing based on that vision.

But this doesn't mean we allow ourselves to be taken advantage of
by an opportunistic woman. If we're in jeopardy of quickly becoming
someone's "doormat", all bets are off.

Make no mistake. In such a case a great woman will not be demanding
and selfish. Similarly, she won't make unreasonable demands at the
expense of common sense.

Just like a pilot theoretically could veer from course, summarily
ignoring ATC's solid plan of action, she COULD do her own thing.

But if your leadership example smacks of confidence and benevolence,
that won't happen--whether you are an air traffic controller or one
half of a great relationship.

What's more, for us as men being able to see the "big picture"
regarding what's on the radar screen both now and in the future is
a must.

Without that kind of field vision, potential snags will seemingly
arise out of nowhere and bite us where the sun don't shine.

And lets face it, were a pilot suddenly to find him or herself on a
visual collision course with a 777 he or she would consider that an
unwelcome surprise.  And trust in air traffic control would probably
degenerate quickly, and rightly so.

So yes, as there is in the skies, there's a careful balance to be
attained when practicing solid relationship management.

It's not so much about "control", per se, as it is "leadership"
when you get right down to it.

Women respond to the leadership of a great man. It's hard-wired.
But the man must be both confident and competent as a leader in
order for this to function according to design.

If you assert your way without regard for the woman, either out of
selfishness or foolish arrogance, unfortunate disasters are likely
to happen. Such is the behavior of a control-freak "I/J"
("idiot/jerk").

But if you carry yourself in an almost regal manner that inspires
confidence in a woman, your ability to maintain that all-important
sense of order in a world of chaos is a crucial--and welcome--
component of what gives the woman in your life freedom to
fly.

And this is a good thing, because someday there may even be
passengers on the flight, and you'll need to be ready.


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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