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WHAT'S INSIDE:  The way to NOT get "used" by an opportunistic
women is not all that complicated...but you have to KNOW the warning
signs.

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YOU'RE NOT LAZY


This past Monday we were at Death Valley National Park in
California. 

It's a beautiful place, actually, but as you might imagine
the main reason to go there this time of year is to experience
what EXTREME summertime temps feels like.

With a heat wave moving through the western US, we weren't
disappointed.  The mercury hit 128 degrees Fahrenheit. 

It was truly a life experience to be there.  But let me tell
you, it's 100% TRUE that heat makes you LAZY.

You just don't feel like doing ANYTHING when it's super hot
outside, and true to form...once we got back to camp we
pretty much did absolutely nothing (but drink more water).

Now check it out.  Some guys make the assumption that if
they're not getting as much done as they'd like--and are
flat-out unmotivated to change that--then it MUST be because
of laziness.

BUT...unless you've been trying to complete projects in Death
Valley (which is unlikely), then I've got a major surprise
for you:  It's probably NOT because of laziness at all.

This comes as a true revelation to most, but you can see what
I mean here:



Motivation To Get Things Done



It has been said that "you learn in your 20s and EARN in your
thirties".

Right now you have the opportunity to be on schedule with that
mindset, play catch-up if you need to or even be AHEAD of the
game if you're young enough.

But no matter what, you're going to have to GET THINGS DONE
in order to make it happen.  Being motivated and ACTING on it
is truly the first step to success.

If you haven't been as productive so far in this life as you
know you should be, then this will be your game changer:



Motivation To Get Things Done



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MORE ON HOW TO AVOID BEING TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF BY WOMEN


Here's a note that a guy named Trevor wrote to me in response to
yesterday's newsletter.

You'll recall that I talked about how women sometimes ask guys
they're not really so interested in out on dates...just so the guy
can pay her way, etc.



  Hey Scot,

  Something like this happened to me.  I asked a girl out.  At the
  "last minute" she invited 2 friends. 

  At the time, I didn't see anything wrong with it.  (What an idiot.)
  She barely showed any interest in talking to me the whole time.
  I was the one asking questions.  When I would stop asking, she
  would stop talking. 

  Of course at the time, I was a confused wuss.  Obviously, she was
  only interested in me paying. 

  Literally, a couple days later, she says she's engaged.  I suspect
  she was already with the guy and only agreed to go out with me to
  "be nice" (UGH).
 
  Anyways, I'm not going to have tunnel vision anymore. 

  In fact, the more I "test" girls to see if they are good enough,
  the more they want to spend time with me, and flirt...and other
  things. 

  They say things like, "What are you doing this weekend?"  "Do you
  have a girlfriend?"


  Trevor (Parts Unknown)



Rock on, Trevor.   Way to be a CHOOSER instead of a CHASER from now
on.

By the way, I agree it's a safe guess that she was already dating
that other guy if she was ENGAGED to him a couple of days later
(assuming she wasn't just using that as a convenient excuse). 

Let's just say that if she IS engaged and still letting other guys
pay her way to things, better HIM than YOU. 

Someone else Facebooked me yesterday and asked me how to respond if
and when we actually do find ourselves in such a situation as I
described yesterday.

Well, to be sure, as long as you have your own car or access to
public transportation YOU have the power to say "enough" at any
given moment and pull the plug.
 
You can tell her you have to go home and rearrange your sock
drawer...after you groom your hairless terrier.

And by the way, score one there for NOT allowing a woman to pick
you up in her car for a date if you expect to be the MAN in control
of the plan for the evening, right?  Otherwise you're stuck in the
situation...or stranded.

Ultimately, though, how to GET OUT of such a situation is beside
the point.

The key is to KNOW the "warning signs" I gave you yesterday that a
woman is setting you up for a frustrating, expensive evening and
you'll ALWAYS AVOID the problem altogether.


Be Good,

Scot McKay

 


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