=====

IN THIS EDITION:  There's an extremely effective way to tell a
woman you've just met that you're not necessarily interested in an
exclusive relationship anytime soon.  But what if you DO see "long
term potential" there?  How does the strategy change...or does it
need to at all?

=====



PERSONAL 1-ON-1 COACHING


Sometimes your sticking points may be very unique ones.  Or, you
may be the type of guy who responds better to direct, personal
motivation than to listening to audios or watching videos.

If either or both of those scenarios describes you, putting me to
work for you as your personal trainer for getting better with women
might just be the best move you've ever made.

Drop me an e-mail at:



scot@deservewhatyouwant.com



...and give me an idea of where you are right now and where you want
to be.  Your custom coaching program can be tailor-made to your
specific requirements.

Who knows?  Maybe you can even become a professional dating expert
in your own right someday soon.  At least THREE guys I've worked
with directly have done exactly that.



=====
 


WHAT TO TELL A WOMAN WHEN YOU SEE "RELATIONSHIP POTENTIAL" IN HER


It's no secret that there are a LOT of women out there who view
dating as a means to an end...that end, of course, being to get
married as soon as possible.

Not every woman has that in mind, but then again not every MAN
views dating as a means to an end to simply "get laid", either.

Nevertheless, the bottom line is that today's 21st century man OR
woman really does tend to want what he or she wants...and NOW.
Waiting is so...last century.

But clearly, that whole mindset is in direct opposition to the
elegant simplicity and utter effectiveness of deserving what you
want...which really is the fundamental cornerstone of a great
relationship.

Hey...call me "old skool", but when you represent to MOTOS (members
of the other sex) what they want, they tend to give you exactly
what you want in return.

This is NOT to be confused with "giving in" to the demands of
selfish, impatient women, however.  Deserving what one wants is
more of a PROACTIVE strategy for creating attraction on the part of
high-quality MOTOS.

So then, just like it's BAD dating advice to tell a woman that she
should have sex quickly with a man who is pressuring her to do so
in hopes that she'll get him to be her steady boyfriend in return,
the shoe also fits the other foot.

Anytime we cave in to a woman's "strong suggestion" that we enter
into an exclusive relationship with her after only a couple of
dates in hopes that she'll then agree to having sex with us, we're
setting ourselves up for major disappointment.

Obviously, she'd hold all the power in the relationship at that
point.  Sex can and would become a "bargaining chip" for future
demands on her part.

Ironically the TRUE disappointment occurs when we realize that our
lack of resolve in the form of giving in to her--even from the very
beginning like that--only results in her losing attraction for us.

Welcome to why SO MANY guys are in sexless marriages...to wives who
nag them all the time.

With all of that in mind, masculine leadership HAS GOT to involve
telling women who want to push early and often for an exclusive
relationship that it just flat-out can't happen that way.

You may choose to tell her that you take exclusivity very
seriously, and that you only enter into such relationships when you
absolutely, positively see long-term potential between you and a
certain woman.

Going on, you might explain that getting a good, valid read on that
invariably takes time.  And it also takes dating a number of
different women to figure out what one really wants.

Now, this message is often surprisingly effective in situations
where you DON'T necessarily see that long-term potential in
woman...or at least not right away.
 
Because it makes perfect sense, any rational, ultimately
well-meaning woman will understand why pushing you toward
exclusivity is not a good idea.

Either that or she WALKS, right?  And if that happens, you've
dodged a bullet...believe me.

On a recent call, however, someone brought up an EXCELLENT
question:


  "OK Scot, what if you DO see long-term potential in a woman right
  away and you DO want to get into an exclusive relationship with her
  pretty quickly?  What are the right words to tell her in THAT case?"


Well, first of all let's safely assume that you've raised the
proverbial bar to the point where you've been dating EXACTLY the
kind of women you want lately.

Next, let's also assume you're SICK of dating and READY to build a
common history with one great woman.

Neither of those are "automatic" assumptions, by any stretch.

But if you CAN honestly say you're at that point and find yourself
feeling rather soon after meeting a woman that you want to make her
your steady girlfriend, then here's what you say to her:


  THE SAME THING.


That's right...the story DOESN'T CHANGE.  You STILL tell her that you
take exclusivity VERY seriously, and that you believe it takes time
to figure out for sure that it's the right step to take.

Whether you choose to date other women or not in the interim is
YOUR DECISION, but the plan to take a slower, more evaluative
stance is what it is:  a WISE one.

Just like you wouldn't want to be tricked or pressured into getting
into an exclusive relationship with the WRONG woman, you wouldn't
want to jeopardize something potentially great by rushing things
either.

Both the strategy and the words to describe it are WISE to put into
practice simply because they're THE TRUTH.

This is the way ANY self-respecting, mature human being--man OR
woman--should looks that things.

So considering that the truth remains a constant REGARDLESS of how
you're feeling about a woman you just met, why complicate matters
by deviating from it?

In this case, like in most, the truth really is the EASIEST way to
go...as well as the most effective.


Be Good,

Scot McKay




=====




(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2013.  All Rights Reserved.


This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it.  If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.