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WHAT'S INSIDE:  What good is getting up the nerve to approach
a woman...only to "bonk" when it's time to make conversation? 
Don't be that guy ever again...

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STOP CHASING, START CHOOSING:  COMING TOMORROW AT 5p EDT


As a reminder, my newest book on how to be a chooser instead
of a chaser will hit the virtual Amazon shelves tomorrow at
5p EDT (GMT -4).

If you've ever thought that women have all the power and/or
that you could use more OPTIONS in your dating life, then this
book will definitely be for you.

For a quick "sneak preview" of the outrageous cover, take a
look here:



http://www.stopchasingstartchoosing.com



Just to make things interesting tomorrow, I'm going to do
something a bit different.

This time, I'm putting a KILLER free prize at stake for EVERYONE
to enjoy when Stop Chasing, Start Choosing reaches #1 on the
Amazon bestseller list in its category.

Check it:  I'm going make my classic book Never, Ever Settle
a FREE download for you the very moment it happens, and will
keep the download page up for exactly 48 hours--no less, no
more.

Yes, that's the full-length book chock-full of tips for great
success with women that's USUALLY only available as part of
Virtuosity.

The last three books have reached #1, so this one can and should
also...but I'll absolutely need YOUR help to make it so.

Of course, there are also five hours' worth of free audio bonuses
included with Stop Chasing, Start Choosing even though the whole
package will cost far less than a movie ticket.

Because it's on Amazon you can get the book quickly and easily,
and you won't even need an actual Kindle device to read it.

Get ready!



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5 BASICS TO BETTER CONVERSATION WITH WOMEN


So let's say you've grown a pair and started a conversation with
a woman you've had you're eye on all night.

You've introduced yourself, and she has responded with a smile and
told you her name.

That's where MOST guys completely DRAW A BLANK.

It's as if all the killer things to say in any situation that you
had memorized just turned to VAPOR and disappeared into thin air.

Well, as painful the memories that my example conjures up may be,
I've got excellent news.

There are at least FIVE objective, concrete ways you can make sure
such a disastrous situation never happens again:



1)  Observe


The first mistake that guys typically make when starting a
conversation with a woman is to get SO FOCUSED on "what to say
next", that they forget to simply LOOK AROUND at what's going on.

Perhaps ironically, being observant usually leads to countless
NATURAL, LOGICAL places you could immediately go with a
conversation.

What's different or intriguing about her?  What is she doing?  If
you're at the supermarket, what's in her shopping cart?

It doesn't even need to be about her directly.  What music is
playing?  What's happening across the room that's worthy of
noticing?

ANYTHING based on real-time observation in the moment will work a
LOT better than searching through the file cards in your brain in
"panic mode" searching for the right line to drop on her.



2)  Listen


Another casualty of working SO hard inside your head to come up
with something to say is that you forget to LISTEN.

Have you ever been in a conversation where the other person was
clearly thinking the whole time about what to say next that he or
she completely MISSED every single thing you said?

Yeah, well...so has she.  And it's about as uninteresting to her as
it is when it happens to you.

Remember...after you give her SOMETHING to talk about (see above),
LET HER TALK. 

If and when you pay real attention to her, you're bound to come up
with about a dozen directions you can take the conversation from
there.



3)  Keep It Positive


I have a friend to talks about guns and death almost all the
friggin' time. 

It's fascinating to watch people leave him standing by himself at
parties once he gets going with the "Faces Of Death" references.

Whatever you do, don't be a "Face Of Death".  Keep the topic of
conversation light and centered around bringing a smile to her face.

Needless to say, being a "hater" is kind of a downer too.  Save
any complaints you have about ANYTHING for WHATEVER reason for the
appropriate customer service department.

Girls just want to have fun.



4)  Lower The Pressure


Talking to women is NOTHING like selling aluminum siding
door-to-door.

Tattoo that on your long-term memory.

It's not a race to see how fast you can get her phone number, and
for Pete's sake (whoever he is) banish the thought of "escalation"
from your mind...at least for now.

It's JUST A CONVERSATION.  It's NOT A COMPETITION.

This isn't about whether she'll "accept" or "reject" you and it's
also not a contest to see how soon you can get to first base.

Relax and take inventory as to whether or not you even LIKE her for
a few moments.

She'll appreciate that.

By the way, if you LEAD with a "low pressure" vibe--being sure to
keep 18" away from her at first, etc.--she'll FOLLOW.  And she'll
LIKE YOU.

You are NEVER automatically creepy, weird or pushy simply because
you're male. 

You're only creepy, weird or pushy if you're creepy, weird or
pushy. 



5)  Know Funny, And Look For It


Rest assured, you don't have to be a comedian to attract women.

But you SHOULD get acquainted with what makes laughter happen and
be on the lookout for it.

Examples include exaggeration, play on words (i.e. puns) and using
words with dual meanings in a way OTHER than what's expected in
context.

The world's oldest example of the latter is, "I just flew in from
Cleveland...and boy are my arms tired."

Importantly, you don't at all have to TRY to be "funny".  Just
knowing what funny LOOKS LIKE can be immensely valuable in and of
itself.

Said another way, take "having a sense of humor" literally.  Be
able to SENSE when humor is present.



Hey, guess what?  It happened again in yet ANOTHER newsletter.
What do you know...every single bullet point above is NOT
gender-specific.  

Keep all five in mind when hanging out with other dudes or even in
business meetings (including job interviews) and you'll be well on
your way to achieving social mastery.


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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