[X&Y] The Most Critical 30 Minutes In Dating
Published: Fri, 11/01/13
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WHAT'S INSIDE: So what can you learn from some old movie? As it
turns out, you can learn how to attract high quality women. Readon...
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And now, let's talk about movies...
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THE MOST CRITICAL THIRTY MINUTES IN DATING
There has been a lot of work to do around here lately, so last
night it was time to relax a bit. Emily and I decided to rent a
movie.
The mood struck me for some reason to go old-school and I suggested
Roman Holiday, which seemed a solid choice because 1) We'd been
to Rome on our honeymoon, 2) Audrey Hepburn looks more like Emily'ssister than Emily's sister does (which isn't a bad thing) and 3)
unthinkably, neither one of us had never seen this movie before (a
first).
So Roman Holiday it was.
Now I famously can't sit through "chick flicks", even though my own
personal "swipe file" of solid dating strategy gleaned from movies
is considerable.
My silver bullet there, you see, is to watch OLD MOVIES.
A major difference between modern "romantic comedies" and the
old-school movies is that REAL MEN are portrayed. And these REAL
MEN are typically attracting REAL WOMEN.
All the low-end prurient stuff is absent as is any hint of cultural
"feminization", and for some reason this enhances the demonstration
of pure ATTRACTION SKILLS at work.
All of this, of course, is highly valuable study material when
learning how to attract the highest level of woman imaginable. And
best of all, nobody seems to be watching these movies nowadays so
doing so is like gaining an unfair advantage.
Now I could go on about the several different ways in which this
movie is a gold mine. But today we're going to focus on one key,
often underestimated and little-understood factor that leading man
Gregory Peck is the MASTER of in this particular movie. His
character delivers on this principle better perhaps than even Sean
Connery's James Bond himself.
I call it "The Most Critical Thirty Minutes In Dating". Whether
you are a man or a woman, what you do with these thirty minutes
will make or break the future of your relationship with whomever
you are relating to.
These thirty minutes begin ticking, of course, at the very moment
one realizes that his or her date is sexually attracted. And the
difference maker is how exactly one reacts to this development.Women stereotypically have a firm grasp on this concept, as men are
similarly stereotyped as telegraphing sexual attraction all too
blatantly. Many women instinctively sense just how profound the
power is that they hold in such a case, and use it effectively to
quite literally cast a spell upon a man and put him under her full
control.
Us guys, unfortunately, often have no idea how powerful it is not
to be needy when it comes to sexual attention. And worse, once we
sense that a woman is "feeling it", we proceed to blow all
screaming potential to smithereens.
Why?
Simple. We put too much focus on sex as a "prize", and we forget
about the woman. We talked all about that concept in the last
article.
But not Gregory Peck's character in "Roman Holiday". When he
encounters a presumably "drunk" Audrey Hepburn late at night on a
park bench, he RELUCTANTLY ends up taking her back to his place.
Whether Audrey is really so "disoriented" or not is left to the
imagination, but she announces that she plans to undress and go to
sleep whether Gregory Peck is standing there or not.
Now at this point, do I need to tell you how most sex-starved guys
would act?
Meanwhile, Greg (not yet realizing that Audrey's character is
really a princess from a foreign country) furrows his eyebrows at
her brattiness and throws a pair of mens pajamas at her.
He tells her that he's going to "get coffee" and will be back in five
minutes...and that she'd better not even think about taking the bed.
Audrey is left thinking, "Who is this guy?" She's intrigued by his
utter lack of sexual neediness. Here, obviously, is a man who is
very picky about his women and all about making sexual decisions on
his own terms.
In the morning, Audrey wakes up and Greg is the image of coolness.
With her senses back in order, she soon discovers on her own that
he had not "taken advantage" of her. She's intrigued.
In an ironic twist, Greg actually lets her leave his
apartment...passing what Emily and I agree was a test by Audrey's
character to see if he really was man enough to let her go.
Of course, in the midst of other plot complications incidental to
the point at hand, he doesn't really let her get away. And as soon
as he sees her again, it's very obvious that Audrey is digging him.
Still, Greg plays it cool. His paws aren't all over her and he's
probably still not even convinced for himself. He refuses to
"chase" her.
Greg has succeeded wildly at the "Big Four". He is masculine, his
intrigue interests her, he is CONFIDENT, and--importantly--he
INSPIRES CONFIDENCE in her that she is safe in his presence.
So the thirty minutes begin ticking.
Make no mistake, he may have been able to steal a kiss and start
having his fun with her right then and there. But watching the
movie, you can't imagine Greg blowing his high-end persona and
being such a shortsighted bonehead. Nope, this guy is for real.
And, sure enough...about a half an hour later he is rewarded by
Audrey's show of affection toward him.
And let's not overlook the fact that Audrey knew exactly what
was going on there and responded with the awe-inspiring manner
of feminine charm and class which defined her entire acting career.
By the time night falls upon 1953 Rome, having spent the day with
Audrey--and having withstood the tests posed by the interest of
other men--he reaps the benefits of being a man who deserves. A
princess has fallen in love with him.
Now listen, I fully get that if two people realize that sexual
chemistry is "on" there's no logical reason to wait around.
But the sheer confidence and prowess associated with escalating
sexual tension is what separates the needy and the sex-focused
also-rans from the true champions at enjoying a passion-filled
life.
The patience of a man who knows the raw power of sexual tension
contributes to his ability to deserve a princess. And he tends to
settle for nothing less, does he not?
Yeah, but we're discussing a 60-year-old work of fiction here. Or
are we?
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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