[X&Y] A Thanksgiving Thought (And A Cool Thing To Say When Meeting A Woman)

Published: Thu, 11/28/13



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A THANKSGIVING THOUGHT (AND A COOL THING TO SAY WHEN MEETING A WOMAN)


First and foremost, I hope all of y'all here in the United States
have had a great Thanksgiving so far. 

And most definitely, I want you to know that I appreciate YOU.
Thanks for taking the time to read these newsletters.

Believe me, when your success stories hit my inbox it's MORE than
enough motivation to keep the good stuff coming the best I know
how.  So you've got my word that I'll continue to do so.

I'll keep this relatively short today, because I know there's
pumpkin pie to inhale and football to watch.

What I want to share with you before I partake of the same myself,
however, is a practical AND powerful way to start a conversation
with a woman that I sort of stumbled upon.

Yesterday I figured it was time for a haircut, so I went to the
same gal who cuts my hair as usual. 

It was late afternoon on the day before a major holiday, and she
had been busy all day. 

The simple truth that she was pretty much spent and ready to go
home was written all over her face.

When my turn came, I'm not really sure what prompted me to say
something different than I usually would, but I said, "So...what do
you know that's good?"

She responded with a rather forlorn, "Good?  I'm going to have to
think on that one..."

Without really thinking about it I said, "Well, I'm not interested
in hearing anything bad, so out with it."

Gazing upward in a quick moment of thought, she looked back at me
and shrugged.  "Tomorrow's Thanksgiving, huh?"

"That's GOOD."  I said, probably with a slightly victorious grin on
my face.

The corner of her mouth turned up ever so slightly.  She laughed
out loud, in a way that was eerily reminiscent of how women often
laugh right after they've finished crying.

Success.  I had "brought out the playful" in her.   

Now remember, I can't take a whole lot of credit for this whole
exchange.  It just sort of...happened.
 
Maybe it was because of that bit about "Positive Power" that I 
wrote about earlier this week.

But looking back on it, the real VALUE of opening a conversation
with a woman in the manner I just described is that it pretty much
ELIMINATES any reasonable possibility of getting a negative
response in return, doesn't it?

Think of it.  If you ask ANY red-blooded human being (female or
otherwise) "what they know that's good" and get a surly, negative
or even insulting answer, what can you IMMEDIATELY conclude?

If you said, "that it's THEM and not ME...for sure", then give
yourself a gold star.

Check it out...just about anyone can find himself or herself in "a
mood" after a long, frustrating day.  If you say any old generic
thing to someone in that state, it theoretically might not end well.

But hey...when you matter-of-factly get them on the track of thinking
of what's GOOD, most decent people WILL check themselves before
ripping you a new one verbally.  

Anyone but a raging psychopath would feel horrible if they didn't.

By now you know that I'm not much into memorizing "openers", at
least in the PUA sense.  But sure, go ahead and try out the strategy
I just suggested for yourself and let me know how it goes.

It's simple enough, and when you get right down to it it's not
really about the order of the words or even the "line" itself at
all...it's about the vibe.

Mean and negative people suck, and most people DON'T want to be
downers...whether they think they can help it in the moment or not.

I think the real beauty of asking, "What do you know that's good?"
is that it LEADS in a positive direction, yet in a way that
subcommunicates masculine confidence and character rather than some
sort of Pollyannaish "Mr. Nice Guy" neediness.

What we're talking about here is lightening a woman up AND igniting
her femininity, all in one easy step.

And what do you know?  That's good.


Be Good

Scot McKay




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