[X&Y] Special Guest: How To Get A Girlfriend
Published: Tue, 12/24/13
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IN THIS EDITION: Since it's Christmas Eve, enjoy a special
gift from us to you as my friend Stephen Nash drops by today.=====
STEPHEN NASH DROPS BY
As you can imagine, we've had quite a couple of weeks around here
with all those phone calls I've had with you guys.. Leave it to my long-time
friend Stephen Nash to pick up the slack and give me a chance to
catch a much-needed breather.Many of you may know Stephen already. Originally known for
being one of the world-class pickup artists who lived at "Project
Hollywood", today he is recognized for having evolved his mindset
toward attracting and relating with the highest quality women.
This is, of course, a skill set that goes WAY beyond simple pickup
and short-term seduction. Enjoy this fantastic message from him,
hand picked specifically for you.
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HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND--A PRIMER
--by Stephen Nash
I worked with two clients recently who both asked me to summarize
how it is that I help guys with this age-old question: How To Get
A Girlfriend.
I realized this was such a clear request that I have handled in my
ebook, but I thought it might be useful to briefly cover this in an
article as sort of a primer.
That way, guys who haven't yet purchased the book can have a clearer
idea of what we're all about here at Cutting Edge Image Consulting
(CEIC).
It is rather an audacious claim - to say that we understand how to
help YOU get a girlfriend. But, via tons of research, loads of
interviews, massive trial and error, and a solid education at the
school of hard knocks, I do believe we've found an answer...
Seduction is a huge catch word out there for guys - the image of
you seducing women left and right is dangled in front of your nose
ten times a day if you surf the web without your brain turned on.
Listen, seduction is fine and dandy, if you know how to meet women,
and are looking for the RIGHT kinds of women into a relationship.
It's now how to get a girlfriend though...
I am not a fan of using seduction as a trick to get laid...or as a
way of manipulating women into thinking you like them when you
don't...and I learned about that the hard way. Enough said.
For most guys who suffer from a lack of success with women, what
they really want is more options, better options, and ultimately,
an awesome girlfriend.
Dating is tough because most people give themselves to the laws of
chance when seeking a mate. Finding a lasting relationship is
hugely important to most people, so why should this be left to
chance??
My belief is that a guy who is not meeting enough women, or the
right women, is simply not living in the right way.
If you want to meet MORE women, do you put yourself into
circumstances where you can interact with them?
If you want to meet the RIGHT women, do you do things which
naturally bring you into contact with people who share commonalities
with you?
Mastering the above two questions is crucial to your dating
success. If you aren't meeting enough women, and you want to get a
girlfriend, you'd better find natural ways to socialize MORE. Join
some clubs or take some classes. Get on email lists for events that
interest you. Go to a party. Throw a party. Invite people out after
work. This is the first step.
You then need to focus on meeting more of the right kinds of women
- which only happens as we gain more and more clarity on what it is
that we like to do/don't like to do and start doing it more and
more.
If you are really pursuing aims in this world, which means taking
lots of action, you will naturally be more and more in community
with like-minded people.
Also, don't go places where you don't want to go just to meet women.
What you need to do is to meet more people, in environments that
interest you. The BEST way to meet women is along the way to doing
something else.
How To Get A Girlfriend, you say? The short answer = do the things
you love, and meet the others who are there doing it with you.
Knowing skills like flirting, complimenting, storytelling, teasing,
engaging conversations etc. are critical if you want to streamline
and maximize your success in the dating world...being evolved
socially means learning through experience how to relate to others.
But, ultimately, LIFE-skills are what is attractive to women. Men
who lead meaningful lives are the men who end up with meaningful
relationships. How a man lives, is how a man loves...so, when a woman
peers behind the looking glass and sees what is REALLY going on in
your world - that will tell her how you will love her as well.
Life and women are very similar.
The main life skill that we advocate, and teach guys to pursue is:
Autonomy.
Being autonomous means being SECURE. Security is what women
biologically/intuitively seek from men. Being secure means that you
are balanced and leading a healthy lifestyle. There are a number of
areas that I ask men to be accountable in - and when I work with
you, we go through a series of exercises within each area to fully
focus you and pinpoint areas of development.
An autonomous lifestyle + impeccable social skills = real CHOICE in
dating and relationships.
This combination gives you power without sneaky, manipulative
gimmicks. It also gives you the label "man" rather than "PUA". I
have met very few guys who want to be pick-up artists...but I have
met plenty who feel that that is their best option. That is simply
not the truth.
Having a balanced, healthy lifestyle allows you to lead your own
lives without needing to "sarge", and naturally places you in front
of the women that are right for you. No more target practice, if
you wish.
The CEIC work is designed to get each man at his maximum best, and
to speed up the process to autonomy and empowerment. Being able to
be at your social best, while growing a community of
ever-broadening social contact, is the best way to finding a
girlfriend.
That's the short version to the question of "How To Get A
Girlfriend".
Talk soon guys...
Stephen Nash.
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Many thanks to Stephen for that. As I'm sure you noticed, he and
I indeed think a lot alike in many ways.
If you are intrigued about his book How To Get A Girlfriend, I'd
highly recommend it. You can learn more and grab your own copy
here:
Have a great Christmas Eve, gentlemen. Spend it with those
you care about most.
And to those of you who can't do that this year, like our
armed forces men abroad who I hear from all the time, thanks
for your service. We're thinking of you.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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