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WHAT'S INSIDE:   By request, here are some quick tips for
meeting women at the supermarket (one of my favorite venues).

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5 WAYS TO MEET WOMEN AT THE SUPERMARKET



I think this classic Steve Martin clip from "My Blue Heaven"
pretty much captures what we're talking about here today, even
if I'd call his particular style "low probability":


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As funny as that is, there's an even funnier truth about today's
topic (at least in the curious sense).

The concept is one of the oldest, most overwrought stereotypes in
the dating world.  Yet, how many people (other than Vinnie) do you
know who actually have met someone at the grocery store? 

Have you?

If not, would you like to?

Today we're going to talk all about how to turn the local
grocery store into your dating playground...or at least
potentially.

And it's easier than you think.
 
No, this isn't necessarily about bumping carts with someone
"accidentally on purpose".  Rest assured there are much better
strategies in store than that (pun intended).

So, then, let's get on with it...



1)  Inline Flirting


This is the simplest idea, yet completely overlooked by so many.

Basically, if you want to meet someone, form your checkout plan
with some "strategery", will you? 

Just get in line behind someone you want to meet, pick up the
tabloid in front of you and make conversation about it.  For some
odd reason this is like magic when performed by a guy. 

Women seem to be entranced by that sort of thing, and to have a guy
actually start a conversation about it really is irresistible to a
woman. 

And don't completely rule out flirting with the one who is behind
the register, either.  One of life's joys for me is when a woman at
a cash register asks me for my credit card or (God help her) my
phone number. 

Whichever it is, I'd always tell her, "It's way too soon in the
relationship for that" or, "I don't know you well enough".



2)  Have You Tried This?


Step One:  Position yourself as considering the same shelf full of
items as someone you want to meet. 

Step Two:  Find a particularly interesting product. 

Step Three:  Ask her, "Have you tried this?" 

Step Four:  Expect a one-word answer. 

Step Five:  Respond by briefly describing some creative use you
might have for it. 

Step Six:  Continue conversation with your intrigued new friend. 

Step Seven:  Etc...



3)  Veggie Tales


This is really a variation on the second bullet point above, but I
want to make sure everyone understands how virtually foolproof it
is to start a conversation with it. 

First, hit the produce section. 

Next, find someone you want to meet.

Ask either:


1)  "What's the best way to pick one of these?", or...

2)  "Do you have any secrets for cooking these?"  


People love being asked for expert advice. 

Men love doing so because, well, we're men, and women will find it
endearing that a guy is interested in cooking.

Don't act helpless here guys, just interested.



4)  Bean Stalk


This one is my personal favorite, and the true secret "silver
bullet" of this newsletter. 

At any grocery store you have the perfect scenario for meeting a
woman built in by design.  Everyone goes up one aisle and down
the other when they are there on serious business. 

If you notice a woman you would like to meet is doing a week's
worth of shopping like you are, simply (and this is about as simple
as it gets) start at the opposite end of the aisle as they are, but
work the aisles in the same order. 

In doing so, you will pass her every single time you go to the
next aisle.  Hopefully you get what I'm talking about here
without me having to draw a diagram, because I'm lousy at that. 

Okay, so the plan is as follow.s

Maybe you'll completely ignore her on the first aisle. 

On the second aisle, there may possibly some eye contact and a
smile.

But on the third aisle (exactly), stop and say, "Look, I barely
know you and you are already stalking me."  

Probably an even better option is to ask, "So are you going to
follow me around all day or are you going to introduce yourself?" 

Be sure to laugh (or at least smile) after you say this so as to
make it perfectly clear you are good-natured. 

Either way, playing upon the fact that the other person is already
interested in you is almost always effective.

From there, make a new friend.  



5)  Beat The Clock


I would plan my supermarket ventures in the early evening on
weekdays (after work) or on a Saturday in the late morning to
early afternoon time frame. 

Consider the demographics involved and it's easy to understand how
the ratios of single women are going to be better then.

This isn't to say that it's impossible to meet them during the day
on Tuesday, but the odds aren't quite as good.

You might catch some women who work in food service or hospitality
around that time, but odds are you're going to encounter a LOT of
stay-at-home moms instead.

If you are a "night person", try shopping at 2 am if you have a
24-hour supermarket.  You might meet your dream woman.  She's
probably stocking shelves.  (Obviously I'm kidding about that
one.)



Here are a few quick note regarding what not to do. 

Ever notice that you don't seem to get the choice of "paper or
plastic" anymore?  Just because all the bags are plastic nowadays
doesn't mean YOU have to be.  So be sure to relax and let natural
conversation flow after you introduce yourself.

Another major scenario to avoid is trying to be too, um...
"overly helpful". 

Guys please don't chase women around the parking lot offering to
"load their groceries" or even to return their cart for them.

You might as well pour the milk you just bought onto some toast
and contemplate how that relates to this situation.

Besides, you have to WALK AWAY from her to return her cart
anyway, genius.
 
That said, starting conversation at the supermarket really is
incredibly easy.  Once you try it, you'll wonder what took you so
long. 

All too often we limit ourselves by thinking that bars, clubs and
other allegedly "designated" places are the only appropriate
venues for meeting women. 

The truth is you are more likely to meet a high quality woman and
and have a great conversation with her when you're both in your
"natural habitat" and free of loud noises and obnoxious
distractions (e.g. a hundred other people trying to "pick up"
someone).

An informal poll I've taken suggests that most single women would
truly enjoy being approached with interest at the grocery store or
a similar shopping situation...just as long as they guy acted
relatively normal. 

So how about giving it a try this week?  By all means, send me
your success stories.


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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