[X&Y] Michael The Dating Wizard Sits In For Scot McKay
Published: Fri, 04/27/07
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SPECIAL NOTE FROM SCOT: As Emily and I are on vacation this week,
I've invited my good friend Michael The Dating Wizard to "sit in"
for me on the newsletter. If you are a listener to The Chick
Whisperer podcast, you'll recall that Michael joined us for an
amazing discussion back in Episode 3. I've come to respect
Michael's keen intelligence and distinct respect for women, even as
he writes uniquely to men and is still very much in the "game"
himself as a single guy in Toronto, Canada. One of the unique
things about Michael is that several journalists have witnessed and
documented his work with men as he coaches them in real time as
they pick up the women of their choice, often in "normal" places like
cafes and bookstores. I enjoy his newsletters greatly, and trust
you will also. And for you ladies on the list, enjoy this
opportunity to "get inside the mind of a man". If you find yourself
interested in becoming as big a fan of Mike as I am, by all means
visit him at http://www.thechickwhisperer.com/wizard
(www.thechickwhisperer.com/wizard), sign up for his newsletter and
get acquainted with all the cool stuff he's got going on. I'll be
typing again at you as usual starting next week. --Scot
THE MISSING KEY TO ATTRACTION
What I focus on here at The Dating Wizard is teaching guys how to
become awesome with women by understanding the components and then
learning how to USE them toward creating infinite impact on women
in a billion different ways, each way creating a slightly different
HUE and FLAVOR of attraction.
Just like a character like James Bond is a different type of cool
than say, Han Solo.
One of the key factors for effective RAPPORT/CONNECTION is
understanding how it is NOT a form of kissing up.
Usually, when guys think of rapport, they get scared nowadays that
it is a form of kissing up. They think that is the ANTITHESIS of
attraction.
But that is only if the rapport comes across in a way that IS
kissing up. Yet, the truth is that there is a way to create
rapport in a way that not only doesn't say you are kissing up, but
actually says you are EXTREMELY cool.
So let's say for example you meet a girl, and you like her. Well,
one of the biggest things you can do is to make her feel
COMFORTABLE with you.
Not in that way where she feels, "I can walk all over you".
But rather in a way that projects the following message about you:
"I am so secure, that I can handle YOU being the REAL YOU, and I
totally won't judge you for that. As long as there is mutual
RESPECT, I totally accept you for who you are."
(Of course, if a woman is not showing basic respect, she is out of
the game.)
Yet almost no one does this.
The reason why is because unless a guy is TRULY cool with her as a
person and is NOT intimidated or scared by her identity, he will
project through infinite subtleties in his body language and even
his conversation that he in fact is intimidated by it.
So for example, let's say you met a woman who was beautiful,
intelligent and all sorts of other good things. And then you found
out she was a sex therapist. Or she was a rocket scientist or
surgeon. Would that intimidate you? Would it get a big emotional
reaction out of you?
The temptation to say a bunch of things to show that you CARE about
her being a rocket scientist is just as bad for rapport as showing
that you HATE it! Because you see, MOST guys she meets are
probably all doing the same thing, so the way she feels is that she
is not standing out as a person, but rather that her JOB is
overshadowing her character and her identity to you.
That makes her feel CREEPED OUT and JUDGED and feel as if she is
not a human individual.
Or what's interesting is that sometimes I meet guys that want to
meet women who stand out from the crowd in some way.
If you are GENUINELY cool about what they do and who they are and
you are not intimidated by it, then in fact you would NOT need to
make the whole discussion revolve around who they are and what they
do.
You could just have a normal conversation with her, and in fact
this is what would be more productive.
Because if it's really not a big deal to you, then it's NOT A BIG
DEAL and in fact the major thing is to move on to discuss the REAL
things that matter between
the both of you, to discuss the REAL stuff that is relevant to both
your personalities.
So you see, this rapport stuff not only is "rapport" but can also
be a huge part of "attraction" because it says you are a cool guy
that is above getting all reactionary.
And I don't believe in TRICKS. Rather, I believe that it's
important to REALLY grow as a person, so that in fact your cool
reactions to women, no matter who they are, are REAL.
And a huge first step is AWARENESS.
Isn't it great to see that attraction, at the HIGHEST levels, TRULY
is not about manipulation?
Till next time,
Michael
http://www.thechickwhisperer.com/wizard
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