[X&Y] Why The Rich Get Richer
Published: Fri, 04/27/07
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WHY THE RICH GET RICHER
It's a well known and much debated economic principle that "the
rich get richer". When it comes to finances, the rule tends to be
that those who already have a certain level of financial liquidity
tend to find it tons easier to make even more money. Given that
financial institutions and investment houses everywhere are happy
to have people with gobs of cash store it on their premises in
return for some level of interest compensation, it's easy to see
why all of this is sort of, well...true.
As the saying goes, "It takes money to make money". Or at least
it's a whole lot easier when that's the case.
And guess what? The exact same principle holds true when it comes
to dating and attraction. People who already have lots of MOTOS
(Members Of The Opposite Sex) in their lives keep on attracting more.
Now obviously, there's no "First Bank Of Wildly Successful Dating"
to invest in. So figuring out why the "rich get richer" in our
field of interest is going to take a different train of thought.
Here are the Big Three reasons why I think things are the way they
are:
1) Confidence Attracts
Once a person has seen some success in attracting MOTOS, then he or
she rapidly becomes very comfortable in the notion that he or she
TRULY IS attractive. This kind of swagger naturally manufactures
that elusive brand of confidence that men and women alike think is
irresistible. I mean, once you have actually succeeded at
something, there's no use in continuing to doubt your capabilities,
right?
2) Options Attract
Every good sales professional knows that people buy on the approval
of others. If everyone else seems to be snapping up a commodity of
some sort, then it must be good stuff (at least theoretically). If
MOTOS are attracted to you, then other MOTOS will see that as a
green light to join the crowd.
3) The Less Significant The Risk, The More Risk We Can Tolerate
The financial analogies just keep on rolling, don't they? Well,
they keep on making perfect sense in context so why not? Savvy
investors have an eagle eye for high returns with minimal risk. In
the dating world, if a man or woman already has, say, six or seven
MOTOS on his or her "radar screen", he or she may not even care to
add any more...unless of course someone comes along who raises the
bar. Considering that in such a case one's entire social life does
not hang in the proverbial balance if a prospective date happens to
prove uninterested (or uninteresting), a person with a lot of dates
already is relatively unaffected socially OR emotionally should an
approach not pan out. After all, there's already enough "social
proof" to go around already when one's Black Book has lots of
entries.
Somebody said, "Yeah, yeah McKay. So how do *I* get there?"
Just like creating wealth out of poverty in the financial world is
NOT easy, there is no "magic potion" for wealth creation in the
dating world either. But I do have a fascinating concept for you,
that if put into practice just might get you on the road to Wild
Success.
Back when I was a sales manager for an IT company, I offered my
teams something I called "Millionaire Training". Essentially, the
trick to BECOMING a millionaire on paper is to become one IN YOUR
MIND first. And how exactly do millionaires carry themselves?
Well, first of all money is no option. "Financial freedom" means
not worrying about making ends meet. A true millionaire is not
focused on money. He or she is FREE from that. So a MILLIONAIRE
sales person isn't concerned about commission checks. He or she is
focused on the customer, doing the job because he or she WANTS to
be there. Second, millionaires have NOTHING TO PROVE. Having
already achieved great success, they have no need to flaunt their
"money" to people. Finally, millionaires understand their fortune
and are GRACIOUS to those who are not exactly millionaires
themselves just yet.
Most who are TRULY successful financially are particularly
charismatic people. After all, the traits outlined in the previous
paragraph are INTENSELY attractive. And every single one of these
traits translates EXACTLY into how a man or woman who creates WILD
ATTRACTION conducts him or herself.
Think about it.
"Dating Millionaires" are not focused on "getting
someone"--especially sexually. They lead satisfied lives, and focus
on masculinity or femininity instead of a biological sex act.
Similarly, they are never NEEDY or CLINGY. Why? They've been FED.
They aren't hungry. Finally, people who "get richer" in the
dating world are never rude or pushy with anyone. Knowing their
intrinsic worth, they conduct themselves with a regal dignity and
afford others the same respect.
Does your frame of mind line up with that of a "Dating
Millionaire"? If not, what would happen in your life if you
visualized belief in your ability to get there? How would your
approach to life change?
Be Good
Scot
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