[X&Y] Clouded By Beauty Vision
Published: Wed, 09/26/07
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IN THIS EDITION: We as guys love beautiful women. There's
nothing wrong with that. But why is it that so many of the hottest
women tend to fall short of being the "whole package" in terms of
defining the greatest women overall? Brace yourself, gentlemen.
We may have done our part in creating this problem for ourselves...
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Settle)...
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CLOUDED BY BEAUTY-VISION
You've no doubt heard the term "tunnel vision" before. When
affected by said condition, a person can only focus on one narrow
wavelength to the exclusion of all else. If you are on the last lap
of the Grand Prix de Monaco shadowing Fernando Alonso's McLaren for
the checkered flag as if the Mercedes logo were crosshairs, then
tunnel vision is a good thing.
In other areas of life, not so much. If the dessert cart at The
Cheesecake Factory instills tunnel vision in you--or the blackjack
table at The Mirage--then there's a distinct possibility that
healthy balance will be lost.
And for us guys, the extent to which we focus our attention on a
woman's physical beauty can very easily cause us to lapse into a
similar trance.
Call it a state of being "clouded by beauty vision".
Now allow me to make myself abundantly clear. Guys are wired to
desire physically appealing MOTOS. I am certainly no exception.
By all means we should never, ever "settle" when it comes to
spending our time with a woman whom we genuinely find easy on the
eyes.
But somewhere along the road of never "settling" in this area,
something UNsettling tends to happen. When we encounter any random
example of the absolute most physically stunning woman on Earth,
it's mind-bending how often that's ALL she has to offer us.
It's not that she isn't intelligent or otherwise talented as a
human being. The issue is simply as I stated it. ALL she has to
OFFER a man is her beauty. Having been extended "elite status
treatment" her entire life by the vast majority of men (and perhaps
even most women) who kowtow to her every whim, she believes her
beauty to be "enough" to get her through life. In her mind, doing
the heavy lifting necessary to cultivate character depth or even a
hint of a winsome personality isn't just a low priority, it's
flat-out irrelevant.
After all, her outward beauty carries her through life. Her
"social proof" is so indelibly secured as a "beautiful woman" that
adding further dimensions to her overall level of sharpness is seen
as having no real impact. And indeed, in a shockingly high
percentage of instances (notably even in the workforce) it truly
doesn't.
As guys, we may meet such women hoping for more and openly express
resentment or even disgust towards this state of affairs. Yet, the
ways of the world continue.
Why?
Well certainly everyone--man or woman--is ultimately responsible for
his or her actions and conduct.
But let's face it. Women respond to men who LEAD. And we as guys
have provided the exact kind of leadership that made this possible.
By falling all over ourselves to get close to a pretty woman and
cater to her needs, vast numbers of beautiful woman have simply
learned to respond accordingly.
And as long as the majority of guys out there gladly hand over all
of their dignity to female beauty, the world will continue to
revolve as advertised. The crazy part is that since women also
demand a man whom they can respect, the perpetuators of this
machine are exactly the same guys who largely have ZERO chance at
actually succeeding at getting close to a beautiful woman. Go
figure.
Lest we believe this is a gender specific thing, consider the male
equivalent of what I'm talking about here.
A guy is blessed with having great wealth. Despite whatever else
the fabric of his identity is composed of, he finds that when it
comes to what people want out of him there's a distinct common
denominator: His money. He soon discovers that whatever his
overall demeanor, his ability to manipulate the masses with
cold-hard cash remains, for the most part, constant. After all,
they are "clouded by dollar vision". "Mean People Suck?" That's
the mantra of the "little people". This guy begins to believe that
he was born to be a "cash dispenser", and that becomes enough for
him like it long has been for others around him.
But thankfully there are gracious multi-billionaires out there who
truly have great depth and make the world a better place wherever
they go.
And yes...there are also fantastically beautiful women out there who
have the inner character to match. Find such a woman and you
discover exactly what why we focus so much on deserving what you
want around here. Can you deserve such a woman? Is that even a
priority? Or are you "clouded by beauty-vision"?
Be Good,
Scot
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