[X&Y] "Bad Boy", "Mr. Nice Guy" Or Some Other Option?
Published: Sat, 03/15/14
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IN THIS EDITION: We're usually told that we should be a "Bad Boy"
instead of "Mr. Nice Guy". But for most of us, that's not in our
nature. Isn't there a better option?
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BEHIND CLOSED DOORS: THE POWER OF KNOWING IF A WOMAN IS
GOOD IN BED OR NOT, AND THEN GETTING TO FIND OUT FOR SURE
First off, it's now official. I'll be unleashing my brand new
program Behind Closed Doors two days earlier than originally
planned. The new coordinates are:
Tuesday, March 18th at 5p EDT (GMT -4)
Definitely set a timer to check your inbox at that exact time
because the first guys in the door will get some SWEET bonuses.
So with that taken care of, it's about time I started spilling
exactly WHAT this all-new program is about, right?
Well, it all begins with this basic truth: Most guys are NOT
enjoying a great sex life.
In fact, most of us have NO IDEA how to tell if a woman's even
potentially interested in us sexually or not. That means that
TOO many guys don't ever find themselves with a whole lot of
sexual opportunity to begin with.
That's the first BIG problem.
And THEN, it can seem nearly impossible to tell for sure whether
a woman is actually going to be good in bed or not.
And meanwhile, just about everything out there written on THAT
subject is either a half-serious "entertainment only" piece or
tries to pin it on a single, largely unproven idea.
Let's face it, you can't just watch a woman lick an ice cream
cone and have this all figured out.
But why is knowing ahead of time what she's like in bed even
such a big deal to begin with?
Knowing the secret of what to really look for is amazingly FUN,
for starters.
But it also equips you with the ability to bypass all the "ice
queens" and "cold fish" types so that you NEVER, EVER have to
get dragged into any drama with a woman who isn't even satisfying
you sexually.
I mean, how do so many guys ever get roped into that bad deal to
begin with?
Well first, it's not like we ever actually sign on for it...at
least not knowingly.
Guys who have never experienced truly amazing sex generally have
NO IDEA what they're really missing out on.
And yes...that often hinges on lack of opportunity, and therefore
lack of sexual options. It all comes full-circle.
I'm pretty sure we can all agree. All of this frustration has
GOT to stop.
Life is meant to be experienced, and great sex is right there at
the top of the list, for sure.
But Behind Closed Doors goes WAY beyond having more sexual
opportunity with higher quality women.
Maybe you already have a woman in your world and you want to take
your sex life with her to a whole new level.
My vision was to make Behind Closed Doors the ONLY sex advice
program you'll probably ever need. Every angle is covered, and
hey...if it isn't, that's what "unlimited lifetime updates" are
for, right?
So how did I, a dating coach, make the world's most complete
roadmap to great sex happen? And WHY?
As it turns out it all worked out EXACTLY as planned. I'll show
you how I pulled it off tomorrow...and what's in it for YOU.
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"BAD BOY", "MR. NICE GUY", OR SOME OTHER OPTION?
By now, most of you all who are reading this fully realize that
needy, wimpy "Nice Guys" get nowhere with women by supplicating,
capitulating and otherwise focusing on various other big words
with small meanings.
Women dread the insincerity and manipulative tactics involved with
that like Emily's dog Cosmo The Hairless Terrier dreads sunburn.
And much like Cosmo, guys who regularly do such silly stuff have no
game whatsoever. I mean, they may as well spin around in place
three or four times "turbo barking" like he does.
Even when Gracie (terrier hottie) is in heat, she's unimpressed.
Actually, she can hardly bear to look.
On the flip side you have the "Bad Boys", the garden variety of
which are collectively known as "Idiot/Jerks" (or "I/J"s) around
these parts.
Yes, indeed. Some guys appear to be successful at attracting
certain women by with low self-esteem by ignoring and/or
mistreating them.
But as we have also learned, the particularly sharp women won't put
up with that for long either. Besides, misogynistic guys attract
man-haters like...well...like lunchtime attracts Cosmo.
And that, friends and neighbors, is the quintessential "lose/lose"
for "losers/losers".
But despite all these shenanigans of both the human and canine
varieties, we keep on living in this black/white universe where a
guy usually believes he has to be one or the other...and amazingly
the women buy into the false logic with an equal share.
Where it gets particularly troublesome is when--inevitably (we would
think)--some guys get kissed upside the head with the proverbial 2x4
and snap to it, saying, "Duh...hey wait...uh...THIS IS NOT WORKING!"
And then the breathtaking part: They try to fix things by doing
twice as much of what they've already been trying.
Ha! I'm joking. No man in his right mind would ever do that...would
he?
The real answer is that both "Nice Guys" and "Bad Boys" end up
trying "that other strategy".
So here we go... "Mr. Nice Guy" therefore decides he's got to become
"The Bad Boy" to get the girl.
Have you ever seen a "recovering Mr. Nice Guy" kicking tires on a
Harley? It ain't pretty.
And it gets even uglier when he BUYS the thing. Pigs and lipstick all
over again.
If you are manipulative and needy when you are "nice" about it,
nothing changes when you're "not nice" about it.
Somewhere, one of the particularly first-class women reading this
newsletter is agreeing with me: This situation is even more pathetic
than the "nice guy" was to begin with.
Simply put, if there was ever a shred of hope with the woman this
guy is so desperate to earn the attention of it just sprouted
wings and fluttered away. Majorly.
And elsewhere, there are at times "I/J" types who realize in a
moment of sweet epiphany that they've pushed too hard. The woman
has had enough, having been driven to the edge of both sanity and
dignity.
She has experienced the great awakening of Deserving What She Wants
and will not tolerate the mistreatment any longer. Good for her.
So what does the "I/J" guy do? He decides it's time to make an
SOS call to the flower shop desperately hoping that two dozen roses
(in red, with "baby's breath", etc.) is enough. Time to "kiss up"
and "make nice".
Yeah, whatever.
Here's a HUGE takeaway for you: Flowers bought in an attempt to
buy out a screw up are wasted money. Women feel patronized and are
likely to launch that "special delivery" directly into the dumpster.
Sorry, guys. Once again, albeit in an alternate universe, you've
just sealed your certain doom as securely as "Harley Mounted
Milquetoast Boy" did.
Out of the frying pan and into the fire...as if the first
infraction wasn't heinous enough, right?
What we're talking about here is counter failure of one extreme
by swinging the pendulum clear across to the other. Call it
"Double-Barreled Dating Disaster".
If you manage to walk away from this one, it'll be bowlegged.
For some of you, what you are reading registers as first-hand
experience. Others of you may be contemplating (or even
attempting) such "reform" in your life.
How did we get here? Who decided that guys have to be caricatures
of one extreme or the other, either "Bad Boys" or "Nice Guys"?
In the end, I don't really care how we got here any more than Cosmo
cares what brand of cheap beer I pour in his doggy dish.
All I care about is getting OUT. So to that end, here's an
original idea: How about being a GREAT MAN instead?
Maybe you've met him. Importantly, he does NOT represent some
sort of "middle ground" between "nice" and "jerk". He's his
own breed (which likely isn't hairless).
Unashamedly masculine. Confident. Respects himself and
appreciates women. Strong character. Fearless but not foolish.
Irresistibly sexual without forcing the issue.
He makes decisions and does what he says he's going to do, even if
he's not from Texas.
There's never any need to swing to either extreme. And importantly
--write this down--the chicks dig him. They just can't seem to find
him around anymore. Let's hope they don't forget how to recognize
him.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
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and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.
First off, it's now official. I'll be unleashing my brand new
program Behind Closed Doors two days earlier than originally
planned. The new coordinates are:
Tuesday, March 18th at 5p EDT (GMT -4)
Definitely set a timer to check your inbox at that exact time
because the first guys in the door will get some SWEET bonuses.
So with that taken care of, it's about time I started spilling
exactly WHAT this all-new program is about, right?
Well, it all begins with this basic truth: Most guys are NOT
enjoying a great sex life.
In fact, most of us have NO IDEA how to tell if a woman's even
potentially interested in us sexually or not. That means that
TOO many guys don't ever find themselves with a whole lot of
sexual opportunity to begin with.
That's the first BIG problem.
And THEN, it can seem nearly impossible to tell for sure whether
a woman is actually going to be good in bed or not.
And meanwhile, just about everything out there written on THAT
subject is either a half-serious "entertainment only" piece or
tries to pin it on a single, largely unproven idea.
Let's face it, you can't just watch a woman lick an ice cream
cone and have this all figured out.
But why is knowing ahead of time what she's like in bed even
such a big deal to begin with?
Knowing the secret of what to really look for is amazingly FUN,
for starters.
But it also equips you with the ability to bypass all the "ice
queens" and "cold fish" types so that you NEVER, EVER have to
get dragged into any drama with a woman who isn't even satisfying
you sexually.
I mean, how do so many guys ever get roped into that bad deal to
begin with?
Well first, it's not like we ever actually sign on for it...at
least not knowingly.
Guys who have never experienced truly amazing sex generally have
NO IDEA what they're really missing out on.
And yes...that often hinges on lack of opportunity, and therefore
lack of sexual options. It all comes full-circle.
I'm pretty sure we can all agree. All of this frustration has
GOT to stop.
Life is meant to be experienced, and great sex is right there at
the top of the list, for sure.
But Behind Closed Doors goes WAY beyond having more sexual
opportunity with higher quality women.
Maybe you already have a woman in your world and you want to take
your sex life with her to a whole new level.
My vision was to make Behind Closed Doors the ONLY sex advice
program you'll probably ever need. Every angle is covered, and
hey...if it isn't, that's what "unlimited lifetime updates" are
for, right?
So how did I, a dating coach, make the world's most complete
roadmap to great sex happen? And WHY?
As it turns out it all worked out EXACTLY as planned. I'll show
you how I pulled it off tomorrow...and what's in it for YOU.
=====
"BAD BOY", "MR. NICE GUY", OR SOME OTHER OPTION?
By now, most of you all who are reading this fully realize that
needy, wimpy "Nice Guys" get nowhere with women by supplicating,
capitulating and otherwise focusing on various other big words
with small meanings.
Women dread the insincerity and manipulative tactics involved with
that like Emily's dog Cosmo The Hairless Terrier dreads sunburn.
And much like Cosmo, guys who regularly do such silly stuff have no
game whatsoever. I mean, they may as well spin around in place
three or four times "turbo barking" like he does.
Even when Gracie (terrier hottie) is in heat, she's unimpressed.
Actually, she can hardly bear to look.
On the flip side you have the "Bad Boys", the garden variety of
which are collectively known as "Idiot/Jerks" (or "I/J"s) around
these parts.
Yes, indeed. Some guys appear to be successful at attracting
certain women by with low self-esteem by ignoring and/or
mistreating them.
But as we have also learned, the particularly sharp women won't put
up with that for long either. Besides, misogynistic guys attract
man-haters like...well...like lunchtime attracts Cosmo.
And that, friends and neighbors, is the quintessential "lose/lose"
for "losers/losers".
But despite all these shenanigans of both the human and canine
varieties, we keep on living in this black/white universe where a
guy usually believes he has to be one or the other...and amazingly
the women buy into the false logic with an equal share.
Where it gets particularly troublesome is when--inevitably (we would
think)--some guys get kissed upside the head with the proverbial 2x4
and snap to it, saying, "Duh...hey wait...uh...THIS IS NOT WORKING!"
And then the breathtaking part: They try to fix things by doing
twice as much of what they've already been trying.
Ha! I'm joking. No man in his right mind would ever do that...would
he?
The real answer is that both "Nice Guys" and "Bad Boys" end up
trying "that other strategy".
So here we go... "Mr. Nice Guy" therefore decides he's got to become
"The Bad Boy" to get the girl.
Have you ever seen a "recovering Mr. Nice Guy" kicking tires on a
Harley? It ain't pretty.
And it gets even uglier when he BUYS the thing. Pigs and lipstick all
over again.
If you are manipulative and needy when you are "nice" about it,
nothing changes when you're "not nice" about it.
Somewhere, one of the particularly first-class women reading this
newsletter is agreeing with me: This situation is even more pathetic
than the "nice guy" was to begin with.
Simply put, if there was ever a shred of hope with the woman this
guy is so desperate to earn the attention of it just sprouted
wings and fluttered away. Majorly.
And elsewhere, there are at times "I/J" types who realize in a
moment of sweet epiphany that they've pushed too hard. The woman
has had enough, having been driven to the edge of both sanity and
dignity.
She has experienced the great awakening of Deserving What She Wants
and will not tolerate the mistreatment any longer. Good for her.
So what does the "I/J" guy do? He decides it's time to make an
SOS call to the flower shop desperately hoping that two dozen roses
(in red, with "baby's breath", etc.) is enough. Time to "kiss up"
and "make nice".
Yeah, whatever.
Here's a HUGE takeaway for you: Flowers bought in an attempt to
buy out a screw up are wasted money. Women feel patronized and are
likely to launch that "special delivery" directly into the dumpster.
Sorry, guys. Once again, albeit in an alternate universe, you've
just sealed your certain doom as securely as "Harley Mounted
Milquetoast Boy" did.
Out of the frying pan and into the fire...as if the first
infraction wasn't heinous enough, right?
What we're talking about here is counter failure of one extreme
by swinging the pendulum clear across to the other. Call it
"Double-Barreled Dating Disaster".
If you manage to walk away from this one, it'll be bowlegged.
For some of you, what you are reading registers as first-hand
experience. Others of you may be contemplating (or even
attempting) such "reform" in your life.
How did we get here? Who decided that guys have to be caricatures
of one extreme or the other, either "Bad Boys" or "Nice Guys"?
In the end, I don't really care how we got here any more than Cosmo
cares what brand of cheap beer I pour in his doggy dish.
All I care about is getting OUT. So to that end, here's an
original idea: How about being a GREAT MAN instead?
Maybe you've met him. Importantly, he does NOT represent some
sort of "middle ground" between "nice" and "jerk". He's his
own breed (which likely isn't hairless).
Unashamedly masculine. Confident. Respects himself and
appreciates women. Strong character. Fearless but not foolish.
Irresistibly sexual without forcing the issue.
He makes decisions and does what he says he's going to do, even if
he's not from Texas.
There's never any need to swing to either extreme. And importantly
--write this down--the chicks dig him. They just can't seem to find
him around anymore. Let's hope they don't forget how to recognize
him.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2014. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly (and promptly) remove you from our mailing list.