[X&Y] 7 Clues That It's Time To Hit The "#" Sign

Published: Mon, 04/14/14



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IN THIS EDITION:   Leaving her a voice mail?  Here are seven signs
you'd better make good use of the "erase and re-record" function.
    
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7 CLUES THAT YOU'D BETTER HIT THE "#" SIGN


If you're like me, you're one of those guys who'd better get a
voicemail message right the first time or it's probably going to
take about a dozen or so more takes.

Man, that used to be the biggest pet peeve of mine.  

And let me tell you, it's only after years of podcasting and
recording videos that I've come somewhat close to curing myself of
the problem.

So yeah, I get it.

I realize that the process of leaving a woman a voice mail can be
one of the most formidable moments in the dating world...possibly
even more nerve-wracking than it was to approach her to begin with.

Honestly?  It's no wonder so many guys "tree hug" the opinion that
women would really rather we text them anyway.  After all, unlike
voicemail you can gather your thoughts and correct typos on a text
before you pull the trigger on it.

But the cold, hard facts are what they are.  I've STILL yet to meet
any mature woman of substance who doesn't greatly prefer a man to
pick up the phone and call her.

After all, talking can be SEXY.  There's just something about the
maleness of your voice interacting with the femaleness of hers that
heightens sexual tension...know what I mean?  That's LOST over text,
and she knows it.

But what's more, women aren't dummies.  They FULLY REALIZE that it
takes guts for you to pick up the phone and "perform without a
net".   

And yes...whenever you "man up" and show some sack, you can bet
there's a woman out there who's getting turned on by it.  

So hey...she may as well get her on the other end of the phone and
make it happen, right?

All of that said, modern telecommunication technology really has
cut us guys a much-needed break in recent years.   You're not
really committed to getting your first take right or else anymore.

After all, there's the blessed "#" (aka the "pound sign").

For years here in The States there were a few maverick mobile
companies that wouldn't fall in line with the others who had all
but standardized on the "pound sign" as the universal signal that
you wanted OPTIONS rather than to send your message immediately.

They seem to have come around lately, however, so we need not fear
hearing the dreaded, "Thank you...your message has been sent" instead
of, "If you are satisfied with your message, press one...if you'd
like to erase and re-record, press two."

That's a relief, for sure.

So nowadays all that's left, really, is to clue ourselves in to
exactly WHEN we'd better roll the dice on having to try another
take rather than hanging on to our first go at it with white
knuckles.

Yeah, it flat-out sucks to pile pressure on yourself not to "mess
up".   But here are seven instances when you really should pull the
plug and try again:

If you find yourself in any one of these situations that follow,
hit that "pound sign" without hesitation:



1)  Heyyyy...You'd Better Bail


It's a filthy, rotten habit...yet I'd go so far as to say the
MAJORITY of us do it.

Whenever we want to impress someone, we subconsciously build "hype"
into our tone of voice and even into our choice of words.

A dead giveaway that you're suffering from this unfortunate ailment
is if you start your message with a slightly drawn-out and perhaps
higher-pitched rendering of, "Heyyy...".   

You know what I'm talking about.

"Heyyyyy, Jennifer!  It's me Mark..."

The message you're sending is already the WRONG one...literally from
the very first word.

Proceed no further.  Hit the little button with the number sign on
it and think of another way to kick off the message...like maybe by
saying substantially the same thing, but without the "Heyyyyy" part.



2)  Just Start All Over


Having read #1 above do you find it just a little depressing that
you can kill your chances with a woman on voice mail from the very
first word you say?

Well, unfortunately some guys tend to throw even more dirt on
themselves when they start the SECOND sentence of their message.

That's right.  After "Heyyyyy, Jennifer" often comes, "I JUST
wanted to call you and..."

Cut the word "just" from your voicemail vocabulary.  Do it now.  

By inserting a "just" into your message, you're subtly implying
that you ALREADY KNOW you're probably bothering her.  You're making
it clear that you're only asking (read: "supplicating") a simple,
little favor from her...and it's JUST one thing.

If you want her to call you back, the last thing you want to
subcommunicate is that YOU think it's a waste of time to talk to
you, right?



3)  Repetition, Redundancy And Recapitulation


One time I happened across a woman's online profile that read, "the
three things I value in a man are honesty, sincerity and
truthfulness".

I couldn't resist responding to her with, "That's great.  The three
things I value in a woman are repetition, redundancy and
recapitulation.  We might be soulmates, I tell you."

She didn't write back.  Then again, it was clearly evident from the
rest of her profile that she didn't have much of a sense of humor.

But never mind that.  The point here is that if you ever find
yourself saying something to the effect of, "Like I said..." then
it's time to erase and re-record.   

Here's a freebie while I'm at it:  If you ever THINK you're
rambling and/or leaving too long a message, you're probably right.



4)  Say The Word


Who knows why it happens, but it often does when we load pressure
on ourselves.  

We say the WRONG word.  Some "Freudian slip" happens and even YOU
wonder what you were thinking.

Or who knows?  Maybe you go the whole nine yards and flat out trip
all over your tongue for no apparent reason.

Don't attempt a recovery on the fly.  Hit the button, take a deep
breath (before the recording actually starts over, please) and give
it another shot.



5)  The Train Has Left The Station


Another disaster that tends to happen when we're feeling that
"stage fright" of leaving an important voicemail is that we get so
wadded up in worry that we flat-out lose our train of thought.

Don't resort to mumbling something like, "Uh...wait a minute.  What
was I going to say...um...oh yeah..."

Go ahead and take it from the top, maestro.



6)  Dropping Reminders


Let's cut to the chase here.  If you EVER feel like you have to
refresh a woman's memory on who you are and where she met you, it's
already a lost cause.

If she was even remotely attracted to you, she remembers you.
Trust that from now on.  It'll be okay.

And if you're ever unable to contain yourself nevertheless, slap
yourself upside the head and hit "#" before you can do any real
damage.



7)  "Alpha-ed" By The System


To be honest, I shouldn't even have to bring up this last one.  But
my instinct tells me I'd better anyway.

Some mobile systems only allow voicemail messages that don't exceed
a certain length.

Now, while it may be unnerving to have the automated system rudely
interrupt you mid-sentence, I'm of the humble belief that this
feature might actually be your BEST FRIEND.

You see, your voice mail message to ANY woman should be as SHORT as
possible anyway.  Consider getting "alpha-ed" by the voicemail
system your wake up call:  Your messages are probably TOO long.   

The general rule to follow is that the longer your soliloquy is,
the more needy and desperate you're sounding.  That's a fact,
pardner.

But whatever you do, never simply shrug your shoulders and
passively hang up if interrupted by the system.  That won't end
well for you.



Before we close, it might be helpful to offer a word on what you
SHOULD say when leaving a voice mail.

This may shock you, but probably the best thing you can do is keep
it simple.  

"What's up, Jennifer?  This is Mike.  Catch up with you soon."

You could do WAY worse than that.   No begging.  No bargaining.  No
sales pitch.

Basically, you should leave the EXACT SAME MESSAGE to an attractive
woman that you would for ANYONE ELSE who you expect to call you
back.

Think about that for a second.  It makes perfect sense, doesn't it?

It's amazing how people you expect to call you back generally do,
and people you don't expect to call you back generally do not.   

Wire your mindset for success, and watch good things happen.


Be Good,

Scot McKay




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