[X&Y] Why Beggars Can't Be Choosers...Literally (Reader Question)
Published: Sat, 06/07/14

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WHAT'S INSIDE: You're about to hear from a guy who feels like
he totally messed everything up with a woman.
Now he's wondering how he can he get her to "come begging" to be
back in his life.
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IF YOU'VE TRIED EVERYTHING AND ARE READY TO GIVE UP, READ THIS
Have you read all about how to talk to women, how to have an
exciting life and even how to run first dates...but are STILL
not seeing any success?
I know how frustrating that is. But wouldn't it be amazing if
what THIS guy teaches turned out to be the piece of the puzzle
that's been missing all along?
http://www.scotrecommends.com/rob
I'll give you a hint: What you're about to see is the stone
cold cure for exactly those "hidden detractors" that NO written
advice will ever, ever be able to help you figure out.
We're talking about the kind of thing that you could beat your
head against the wall for YEARS trying to get right...but which
my friend can spot--and fix--in as little as ONE MINUTE.
Weirdly, even though this guy has been hearing raving success
stories from guys all over the world for several years now, he's
STILL the only guy who's got the answers in his particular area
of expertise:
http://www.scotrecommends.com/rob
Fair warning: Rob comes off like a decent, "normal" enough guy
but what he talks about is going to sound really bizarre--
especially for the first couple of minutes until it all starts
to "click".
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LETTER FROM A READER
Thanks for your newsletters. I have learnt a lot. In fact, I wish
I got them earlier.
I have this lady that worked into my life, albeit briefly as it
turns out.
She is quite attractive in her own way and highly orgasmic.
She visited me and we spent 2 great weeks together in London. I
tried to be nice and willing to offer her anything I could afford
just to make her happy.(I guess my mistake).
Because of my desire to have and keep her I became needy, clingy
and wussy.
Despite all the nice things I did (paid her air ticket, took her
around London, had dinners, etc.) when she got back home she called
me to tell me that she wasn't sure if it's me she wants.
How do I win her back? How do I make her come begging?
Thanks from London
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Hey man, glad you are enjoying the newsletters. We got here as
quickly as we could for you.
But now down to business.
Granted, you've already figured out that you did all sorts of needy
things to drive her away.
Given how much we tend to harp about the grave dangers of all that
in these newsletters, I'll spare you the tirade.
Well...then again, maybe everyone involved here would be better
off if I didn't spare you COMPLETELY, after all.
Man, you've got to remember that when we try to BUY a woman's
affection all it does is make it utterly obvious to her that we lack
the confidence to believe that WHO WE ARE as a "big four" man is
enough to attract her effectively.
And as soon as we go down that trail...if ANYTHING attractive goes on
it basically has little, if anything to do with you.
You're just the "vehicle".
That never ends well, unless you particularly enjoy opening up your
wallet and shaking all of your cash out the window.
But what I REALLY want to get across to you is a point that you may
not be expecting me to make.
And that's this: I've got to take issue with your choice of words.
I can by no means understand the prospect of this woman coming back
into your life as "winning" her back.
In fact, based on what you've shared I'd call it a CATASTROPHIC
LOSS of epic proportions were that to be the outcome.
Let's take a quick inventory here.
This chick came to stay with you and gladly took everything you had
to offer (including the shirt off your back, basically) for two
full weeks.
And THEN she had the nerve (or lack thereof, more like it) to
announce to you when she's safe and cozy back at home that she
doesn't want you after all?
(By the way, you can ignore the "wasn't sure if" part in her
statement to you.)
So here it is: Why on God's green earth are YOU still interested?
I mean come on, man. How much more do you really want to be used?
What she is doing is pure manipulation in its lowest form.
Think in terms of "The Golden Rule - Reversed" here. Would you
ever in a MILLION YEARS treat someone the way she has treated you?
If the answer is "no freakin' way", then DON'T ACCEPT being treated
in such a manner by someone else.
I'm sure this female friend of yours is really cute in addition
to being orgasmic. I'm equally sure she's figured out that she
can get away with having zero character and still get whatever
she wants from most men.
So you were simply next in line.
Let me tell you, manipulators--by definition--are people who fully
know the difference between right and wrong, yet who proceed to do
wrong at the direct expense of those they instinctively know want
to do the right thing.
I ask you, how is that NOT pure evil personified?
I know you've got to have raised the bar on your definition of
"high quality woman" somewhere above the "pure evil" mark. Right?
But to be honest, I gather from your message that you already sense
that you don't really want her back anyway.
What you really want is the LAST WORD.
You want the satisfaction of knowing that SHE knows she blew it
with a great guy like you.
Well, until you drop that mindset for something more productive
you'll only eat yourself from the inside...all the while
demonstrating to the whole world that you're a CHASER who likely
has ZERO OPTIONS when it comes to other women.
I mean, that's the only conclusion that can be drawn from your
willingness to burn so much energy on a woman who is LONG GONE...for
better OR worse.
Now, you don't want to be THAT guy, right?
Besides, man, it's so unattractive when people beg.
So even if she did so, all it would do is tarnish all of your
"wonderful memories" of her.
And on top of all else, as pathetic as begging is, it hardly ever
works anyway so it'd be a waste of everyone's time.
Now go find a more worthy woman of your orgasm-bestowing talents,
and be sure to date several women at once on the journey to meeting
her.
And whatever you do, PLEASE stop trying so hard to buy women off
with stuff and start letting your masculine "big four" charm carry
you.
Remember, it's YOU she's got to be attracted to...not a bunch of
goodies and a bottomless bank account.
Ironically enough, when you conduct yourself with women as if you
don't have that figured out, the compensation (in every sense of
the word) for what you feel is lacking in personal depth isn't only
obvious like I mentioned above, it sort of comes off as begging.
And as you'll recall, we already concluded that's just ugly.
There's a reason why someone smart once said, "beggars can't be
choosers".
Cheers,
Scot McKay
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