[X&Y] Like A Boss, Not A "Sandbagger"
Published: Tue, 06/03/14
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IN THIS EDITION: Today I'm going to reveal yet another VERY simple
mindset change that could result in MASSIVE GAINS for you when itcomes to success with women.
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"YOU'VE GOT TO KEEP 'EM SEPARATED"
Remember that kick-ass song by the Offspring from the '90s?
Man, if the title of that song applies to ANYTHING in this life
more fully than selecting women, I don't know what it is.
If you don't know how to separate the high-quality women who will
make you proud to have them by your side from the ones who'll ruin
your life, you're TOAST.
What's more, you've got to know how to tell the difference
FAST...long before you get tangled up with the WRONG woman.
Maybe you can relate to what I'm saying because you've found out
the hard way.
And make no mistake, by far the most challenging coaching calls I
EVER face are those with guys whose lives are already a livinghell, no thanks to ONE WOMAN who is making it that way.
By now you know who David Shade is. His work is universally
amazing, starting with his advice on satisfying the woman in your
life sexually.
But David absolutely realizes as much as you and I that you've got
to start by SELECTING women wisely:
Believe me when I tell you that David's complete plan for avoiding
"drama queens" and other women who'd love to make you as miserable
as they are is PURE GENIUS.
You've worked hard to be a great man. Why crater it all by
choosing the WRONG woman?
True joy and fulfillment awaits the man who Selects Women Wisely.
Go ahead and see for yourself:
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LIKE A BOSS, NOT A "SANDBAGGER"
X & Y Communications is a thriving operation these days after about
nine good years. As such, guys often come to me for help with
starting an online business of their own.
I realize you're reading this newsletter to get practical advice on
getting better with women, so stay with me here...I promise that's
what this is about.
So where AM I going with this?
Well you see, it has occurred to me that there is a curious
parallel between the state of mind people typically adopt when they
think they'd like to "be their own boss" and when they'd like to
"get the girl".
To be honest, I've often referred to "get laid quick" marketing
hype in my writings as the "get rich quick" scheme of the dating
world.
Honestly, I really don't have anything against finding success
quickly. The PROBLEM comes when we believe it's got to be ultimate
success that's truly the stuff of wild fantasies from day one, or
"no go".
For example, much of the advertisement you'll see for programs on
how to start your own business will typically feature slogans like,
"fire the boss TODAY".
Guess what? The first X & Y Communications newsletter was in
December of 2005. I didn't officially leave my job in the
corporate world until September of 2006.
That's right. I didn't "fire the boss" BEFORE getting my business
rolling. I did all the trial and error and made mistakes on the
road to seeing if this thing would really fly BEFORE I cut down the
safety net.
Ironically, the whole mindset of "firing the boss TODAY" is exactly
what keeps most people from EVER giving the ol' tyrant the "heave
ho" at all.
TODAY never seems to present itself. That's because "today" will
never, ever happen in ONE day.Read that last line again. It's sort of obvious when you really
think about it...yet almost NOBODY looks at it that way.
We expect "immediate gratification" because we're TOLD to.
Anything less than "today" quickly leads to a perception (and
therefore acceptance) of "immediate frustration" instead.
And that's why most people give up...quickly.
Yes, this EXACT sort of mindset pervades how we think about getting
better with women, too.
But we'll get there ONE step at a time. Rome wasn't built in a day,
but it WAS built in a reasonable time frame.Just like I didn't jump off a ledge the day I started X & Y
Communications, I didn't wake up the day after my divorce asking
how to hook up with an SI swimsuit model within the next 24 hours
or bust.
What it all comes down to, really, might surprise you.
This poisonous mindset of achieving at the "top level" right now or
not at all isn't born of healthy motivation and ambition. That's
an illusion.
You might want to sit down for this. I think it's actually all
about tree-hugging our EXCUSES rather than doing something
proactive to make things better.
If we can't flip the boss "the bird" right now and walk off into
the sunset at the helm of our new $10M per year online business,
then we'll wait until we can...even if we haven't bothered with
learning how to spell "IP".
Therefore, we're sort of comfortable waiting FOREVER.
And that's how we get used to talking to ZERO women at all.
Even when I used to race BMX at the national level there were
guys who remained at the "intermediate" skill level rather than
moving up to "expert", even though they were finishing on the podium
at just about every race.Why? Because they didn't think they should "turn ex" until they
could beat the guy who's the National #1 expert racer.
We called those excuse-mongers "sandbaggers".
Meanwhile, those of us who entered the expert class at the usually
expected time took our lumps as "moto filler". But what do you
know? Little by little we got faster over time, mostly because we
were forced to step up to the increased level of competition.Are you "sandbagging" when it comes to getting to where you want to
be with women? If so, put away the unreasonable need to have it
all done by tomorrow morning and take that small step of doing
SOMETHING today.
That SOMETHING can be ANYTHING. You've read enough of my
newsletters by now, or perhaps gone through a program or two of
mine.
As such, you have SOMETHING to go on.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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