[X&Y] What If Scarlett Johansson Knocked On Your Door?
Published: Mon, 07/28/14
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IN THIS EDITION: If you tend to be intimidated by going after
the highest quality women, today's newsletter is for you.
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WHAT IF SCARLETT JOHANSSON KNOCKED ON YOUR DOOR?
Are you having a hard time believing that the highest-quality women
on Earth are ever--in a million years--going to be interested in YOU?
Well, guess what? As is often the case, this just might have more to
do with what you think than with what women themselves think.
One magic principle that is often the culprit is this:
"HIGH QUALITY" IS A RELATIVE TERM WHEN IT COMES TO WOMEN
...especially as it pertains to exactly those factors I'd call
"hotness triggers" that paralyze you when it's time to approach.
What on Earth could I possibly mean by that?
Let me break it down for you.
Yes, the highest quality women on earth have strong character, kind
hearts, and stable emotions. They respect and enjoy masculinity.
All of that is NON-NEGOTIABLE for any guy who is dead-set against
settling for less than he wants.
But let's face it. When was the last time you chickened out from
approaching a woman for any of the reasons I just shared?
Let me guess... NEVER.
After all, you really can't tell what she's like INSIDE if you've
never met her before, which is usually the case when approach
anxiety hits.
Granted, I said USUALLY.
Sure, you may have noticed a particular woman has a warm smile or
something from afar.
Then again, so does your grandma.
For all I know, you could even be secretly in love with some chick
at work or school. And yeah, having talked to her some you know
she's a sweetheart.
But level with me here. There are PLENTY of women who have "great
personalities" and solid character out there who you have ZERO
PROBLEM walking right up and talking to. You know, to ask what
time it is, order your lunch, etc.
Why is that? What gives?
Well the difference is, they don't PHYSICALLY attract you sexually.
It's the PARTICULARLY SEXY ones who get you all wadded up in
nerves...right?
The bottom line is that you get tangled up in the sexual fantasy
such that it all starts seeming "too good to be true" that she
would ever like you back.
Let me spell it out: The "Too Good To Be True Factor" is what
messes with your head and tells you there's NO WAY a woman will
possibly ever really like you.
Why not? Well, because you actually LIKE HER ALSO, of course.
Realize this: Such an assumption is grounded upon absolutely
NOTHING as far as objective reality is concerned.
AND...fortunately for you, me and every other guy that's EXACTLY the
area where "HIGH-QUALITY" IS A RELATIVE TERM.
Because "High-Quality" means THE WHOLE PACKAGE, inside AND out.
To illustrate what I'm talking about, take a trip over to a site
called Chickipedia. Basically, It's like Wikipedia, only focusing
on hot women who also happen to be at least marginally famous for
something.
Here's a link for you:
http://www.chickipedia.com
If you're unfamiliar with this site, forgive me ahead of time for
contributing to your delinquency at work. The site is "workplace
safe", don't get me wrong. It's just not particularly "workflow
friendly".
In fact, "Hot Or Not" has nothing on this site insofar as addictive
tendencies are concerned.
But I trust your judgment and discipline. So for now, if you're
reading this shortly after I sent it you're likely to find Scarlett
Johansson under the "Featured" section.
If Scarlett Johansson showed up buck-naked at my door--holding a six
pack of Sierra Nevada Pale Ale--I probably wouldn't even get aroused.
Seriously. She does NOTHING for me.
And it's not even like she's tall, leggy, and looks like a
particularly skinny man...like, say, Heidi Klum.
I can't really explain it. She's just not my type. I even saw
her newest movie Lucy last night, thereby confirming what I already
knew: I don't get how in the world she's considered so "hot" by
so many.
In fact, at least half the women who show up on my screen when I
start hitting Chickipedia's "Random Chick" button rapid fire aren't
particularly interesting to me.
Now some of you are probably out there shaking a fist at your
computer screen thinking I must be wacky in the head because I
don't think Scarlett Johansson and Heidi Klum are all that.
Others of you are thanking me for finally calling out the way it
is, despite the media hype.
Whichever.
All I'm saying is try it for yourself. Start surfing through
"random chicks" for yourself and see if you end up thinking some,
if not most of them aren't exactly your type.
No matter what, I think we can all agree that what's "hot" to you
may not be "hot" to me, and vice-versa. Ask any other guy out
there his opinion, and it might be completely different altogether.
And that's the thing.
It's probably only the women YOU think are hotties that intimidate
you.
The "Too Good To Be True" factor kicks in and/or you automatically
assume the competition must be too fierce.
Other women you might be able to go talk to without any trepidation
at all. Meanwhile, several of your friends may think she's a
veritable paragon of female perfection.
They may go so far as to consider you fearless for having talked
to her in such a calm, collected manner.
Oddly, she may have even been ATTRACTED TO YOU when you spoke to
her so confidently, which could have been an awkward moment FOR YOU.
Have you ever taken all of this into consideration? Have you ever
even put this big picture together before in the way I'm
describing it?
So, what if you could empower yourself with this knowledge?
What if you could REALLY believe that YOUR type isn't necessarily
every other guy's type?
Could you THEN, once and for all, realize that the women you prefer
are still normal human beings? That they may not be getting
utterly hammered for dates by every, single guy out there?
And what's more, can you--as a man who deserves what he wants--begin
to realize that maybe, just MAYBE, the kind of women you are MOST
attracted to are the ones who will more than likely be attracted to
a guy like you in return?
Look, my guess is that Scarlett and Heidi really couldn't give a
rip whether I'm attracted to them or not. They've got plenty of
attention coming at them elsewhere.
And no, as the saying goes, "you can't kiss all the girls". You're
no better (or worse) than any other guy out there in that respect.
But if you equip yourself with the fact that NOBODY can be
EVERYONE'S proverbial cup of tea--even the women you go nuts over
--then my guess is that you will start to see things differently.
And realizing that another guy's "10" is your "6 ½" (and vice-versa)
may be just the logical encouragement you need to talk to woman who
knocks your socks off like the normal, merely mortal human being she
is.
She's probably getting "swept off her feet" by a high-quality man
like you far, far less often than you think.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Would you like to put me to work specifically for YOU?
Right now I have exactly two last Ten-Plus slots left available,
and scheduling is now open for Ten-Plus Live experiences for early
September and late October.
Ten-Plus, of course, is a uniquely-crafted coaching plan designed
to take you from where you are now to where you want to be in 90
days.
Ten-Plus live is an intensive 40-hour experience here in San
Antonio, TX where you get the customized, undivided attention you
want and deserve. This is an exclusive opportunity for a select
few.
Here's where you can quickly get all the information:
http://www.dating-coaches.com
Of course, you can get on the phone with me for a one-off session
also if you have a particular sticking-point you want to get
handled today once and for all.
Be sure to e-mail me at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com or Skype me at
"scotmckay" if you would like more information and/or to discuss
what's right for you.
=====
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"hotness triggers" that paralyze you when it's time to approach.
What on Earth could I possibly mean by that?
Let me break it down for you.
Yes, the highest quality women on earth have strong character, kind
hearts, and stable emotions. They respect and enjoy masculinity.
All of that is NON-NEGOTIABLE for any guy who is dead-set against
settling for less than he wants.
But let's face it. When was the last time you chickened out from
approaching a woman for any of the reasons I just shared?
Let me guess... NEVER.
After all, you really can't tell what she's like INSIDE if you've
never met her before, which is usually the case when approach
anxiety hits.
Granted, I said USUALLY.
Sure, you may have noticed a particular woman has a warm smile or
something from afar.
Then again, so does your grandma.
For all I know, you could even be secretly in love with some chick
at work or school. And yeah, having talked to her some you know
she's a sweetheart.
But level with me here. There are PLENTY of women who have "great
personalities" and solid character out there who you have ZERO
PROBLEM walking right up and talking to. You know, to ask what
time it is, order your lunch, etc.
Why is that? What gives?
Well the difference is, they don't PHYSICALLY attract you sexually.
It's the PARTICULARLY SEXY ones who get you all wadded up in
nerves...right?
The bottom line is that you get tangled up in the sexual fantasy
such that it all starts seeming "too good to be true" that she
would ever like you back.
Let me spell it out: The "Too Good To Be True Factor" is what
messes with your head and tells you there's NO WAY a woman will
possibly ever really like you.
Why not? Well, because you actually LIKE HER ALSO, of course.
Realize this: Such an assumption is grounded upon absolutely
NOTHING as far as objective reality is concerned.
AND...fortunately for you, me and every other guy that's EXACTLY the
area where "HIGH-QUALITY" IS A RELATIVE TERM.
Because "High-Quality" means THE WHOLE PACKAGE, inside AND out.
To illustrate what I'm talking about, take a trip over to a site
called Chickipedia. Basically, It's like Wikipedia, only focusing
on hot women who also happen to be at least marginally famous for
something.
Here's a link for you:
http://www.chickipedia.com
If you're unfamiliar with this site, forgive me ahead of time for
contributing to your delinquency at work. The site is "workplace
safe", don't get me wrong. It's just not particularly "workflow
friendly".
In fact, "Hot Or Not" has nothing on this site insofar as addictive
tendencies are concerned.
But I trust your judgment and discipline. So for now, if you're
reading this shortly after I sent it you're likely to find Scarlett
Johansson under the "Featured" section.
If Scarlett Johansson showed up buck-naked at my door--holding a six
pack of Sierra Nevada Pale Ale--I probably wouldn't even get aroused.
Seriously. She does NOTHING for me.
And it's not even like she's tall, leggy, and looks like a
particularly skinny man...like, say, Heidi Klum.
I can't really explain it. She's just not my type. I even saw
her newest movie Lucy last night, thereby confirming what I already
knew: I don't get how in the world she's considered so "hot" by
so many.
In fact, at least half the women who show up on my screen when I
start hitting Chickipedia's "Random Chick" button rapid fire aren't
particularly interesting to me.
Now some of you are probably out there shaking a fist at your
computer screen thinking I must be wacky in the head because I
don't think Scarlett Johansson and Heidi Klum are all that.
Others of you are thanking me for finally calling out the way it
is, despite the media hype.
Whichever.
All I'm saying is try it for yourself. Start surfing through
"random chicks" for yourself and see if you end up thinking some,
if not most of them aren't exactly your type.
No matter what, I think we can all agree that what's "hot" to you
may not be "hot" to me, and vice-versa. Ask any other guy out
there his opinion, and it might be completely different altogether.
And that's the thing.
It's probably only the women YOU think are hotties that intimidate
you.
The "Too Good To Be True" factor kicks in and/or you automatically
assume the competition must be too fierce.
Other women you might be able to go talk to without any trepidation
at all. Meanwhile, several of your friends may think she's a
veritable paragon of female perfection.
They may go so far as to consider you fearless for having talked
to her in such a calm, collected manner.
Oddly, she may have even been ATTRACTED TO YOU when you spoke to
her so confidently, which could have been an awkward moment FOR YOU.
Have you ever taken all of this into consideration? Have you ever
even put this big picture together before in the way I'm
describing it?
So, what if you could empower yourself with this knowledge?
What if you could REALLY believe that YOUR type isn't necessarily
every other guy's type?
Could you THEN, once and for all, realize that the women you prefer
are still normal human beings? That they may not be getting
utterly hammered for dates by every, single guy out there?
And what's more, can you--as a man who deserves what he wants--begin
to realize that maybe, just MAYBE, the kind of women you are MOST
attracted to are the ones who will more than likely be attracted to
a guy like you in return?
Look, my guess is that Scarlett and Heidi really couldn't give a
rip whether I'm attracted to them or not. They've got plenty of
attention coming at them elsewhere.
And no, as the saying goes, "you can't kiss all the girls". You're
no better (or worse) than any other guy out there in that respect.
But if you equip yourself with the fact that NOBODY can be
EVERYONE'S proverbial cup of tea--even the women you go nuts over
--then my guess is that you will start to see things differently.
And realizing that another guy's "10" is your "6 ½" (and vice-versa)
may be just the logical encouragement you need to talk to woman who
knocks your socks off like the normal, merely mortal human being she
is.
She's probably getting "swept off her feet" by a high-quality man
like you far, far less often than you think.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
P.S. Would you like to put me to work specifically for YOU?
Right now I have exactly two last Ten-Plus slots left available,
and scheduling is now open for Ten-Plus Live experiences for early
September and late October.
Ten-Plus, of course, is a uniquely-crafted coaching plan designed
to take you from where you are now to where you want to be in 90
days.
Ten-Plus live is an intensive 40-hour experience here in San
Antonio, TX where you get the customized, undivided attention you
want and deserve. This is an exclusive opportunity for a select
few.
Here's where you can quickly get all the information:
http://www.dating-coaches.com
Of course, you can get on the phone with me for a one-off session
also if you have a particular sticking-point you want to get
handled today once and for all.
Be sure to e-mail me at scot@deservewhatyouwant.com or Skype me at
"scotmckay" if you would like more information and/or to discuss
what's right for you.
=====
(c) X & Y Communications LLC, 2014. All Rights Reserved.
This e-mail newsletter is a free service of X & Y Communications.
It is never sent to those who have not asked for it. If you
believe you have been sent this message in error, please respond
and we will kindly remove you from our mailing list.