[X&Y] Is There A Women's Version Of The "Big Four"?
Published: Mon, 07/07/14
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WHAT'S INSIDE: By now you know all about the "Big Four" man. But
what does the "Big Four" woman look like to us? I've come to astartling conclusion. See if you agree...
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THERE'S SOMETHING IN THE WAY *YOU* MOVE
By now you know Rob Brinded.
Sure, he's that wildman who has co-hosted The Chick Whisperer
podcast with me.
Well, here's a shocker for you.
Even though we've had some truly household names as co-hosts on
the TCW podcast, let's just say that you've responded to Rob's
message--as bizarre and crazy as it is--more than you have for
ANY OTHER guest in the HISTORY of the show.
Yes, I'm surprised.
I mean, let's face it...his ideas on how female attraction is based
in large part on how a man MOVES are flat-out preposterous.
But the thing is, his ideas are also SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN.
And if you factor in that it's pretty much true that how WOMEN carry
themselves really does MAKE OR BREAK whether WE find THEM sexy or
not, maybe all this stuff isn't so WEIRD after all.
Either way, Rob's first program has sold like proverbial hotcakes,
and it straight-up WORKS.
So I'd be remiss if I didn't let you know about this:
Rob's newest program is designed specifically for guys who find
themselves banished to the dreaded "Just Be Friends Zone" way
too often.
If that sounds familiar, then this should excite you--especially
if you've tried EVERYTHING else under the sun without seeing any
difference.
You see, Rob focuses on how to fine-tune your physical presence
around women so as to create maximum attraction.
He is A LOT better at explaining all of this than I am, so I
recommend clicking on this link and letting him do exactly that:
Considering that Rob's first program flew off the shelves, I
probably won't have to convince you how valuable this one is
...ESPECIALLY considering how inexpensive it is.
He's got a special promo going on it right now, so the timing
is perfect.
This truly is powerful and TOTALLY ORIGINAL stuff that literally
NOBODY else is talking about. Have fun.
And now, here's a "classic" newsletter covering a really solid
topic that several of you guys who are newer to the list have
asked me about lately...
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THE WOMEN'S VERSION OF THE "BIG FOUR"
A few days ago I was on a coaching call with a guy when an
interesting question came up.
Is there a women's equivalent of the "Big Four"?
In other words, just like the "Big Four" traits in a man represent
what high quality women desire most in a man, are there also four
distinct traits in women that really cause the HIGHEST QUALITY
examples of us guys to recognize greatness in them?
The answer was actually relatively easy to come up with.
Not only is that answer a resounding "yes", there's a surprising
twist: It's actually the SAME LIST...only the female equivalent, of
course.
That's right. We as human beings, male or female, tend to want
something similar from our relationships with MOTOS (members of the
other sex).
As such, the "Big Four" are NOT gender specific, save for the
obvious and highly necessary substitution necessary to ensure
proper sexual polarity.
Let me show you exactly what I mean:
1) Confidence
You've heard that "confidence is sexy" a hundred times. And every
time you've heard it, there's been no elaboration as to whether
that fact applies to men or to women in particular.
That's because it indeed applies to everyone.
There's nothing worse than a woman who doesn't believe she's
competent (except, of course, a man who doesn't). When she second
guesses herself or shies away from social situations it's a turn
off.
When she's sheepish around you in public you wonder not only who
she really is under there, but also what she's going to be like
in private (i.e. behind closed doors).
You betcha. We as guys love women who know they've "got it" and
carry themselves accordingly.
2) Femininity
Feminine women want a masculine man. And yes, you as a masculine
man want a feminine woman.
So it makes perfect sense that the "sexual polarity" factor is
equally important in the women's version of the "Big Four" as it is
in the men's version.
Of course you want her to visually appear as if she's 100% woman,
by your very definition of the word. Beautiful, radiant, even
stunning.
But you also want that joyful energy, playful attitude, that sweet
heart and that supportive spirit.
Somehow, the qualities that make her potentially a great mother
turn you on, also. When was the last time you heard an attractive
woman singing a lullaby? Admit it...you stopped in your tracks as if
the Sirens themselves had begun to join together in chorus.
Hard-edged resolve doesn't cut it. Neither does corporate
ambition. All of that's your job.
Likewise, the word "butch" is quite possibly the biggest attraction
killer known to man as far as you're concerned.
Manicures, sundresses and hair that smells great are what do it for
you. And that's no coincidence...it's nature.
3) Ability To Inspire Confidence
I hear someone already, "What is this, McKay, some sort of joke? I
don't need some woman to make me feel safe and secure."
The heck you don't.
Don't get me wrong; this isn't about a woman acting as your
"protector", per se. It's indeed likely that you don't require
that.But I'm pretty sure that among your biggest, gnarliest nightmares
when it comes to relationships are that she's going to either
humiliate you in public, second guess your dreams and/or fail to
stand beside you when everything's on the line.
We as guys don't want to even think of our woman ever letting us
down. We want to believe in her like she hopefully believes in us.
Any other state of affairs leaves us flat-out unfulfilled.
4) Character
OK...you've got me here.
Perhaps an even bigger, gnarlier nightmare is getting involved in a
long-term relationship with a woman only to wake up a few years (or
even months) later with someone COMPLETELY different next to you in
bed.
Maybe it was a ruse all along, or maybe she changed.
Whatever.
When she switches religions, attitudes or even (...ahem) sex partners
on you; you'll know more than ever how important bringing a woman
of strong, upstanding character into your life really is.
And that goes double if she can't seem to tell you the truth about
anything or follow through with what she says she's going to do.
There you go. It's a pretty convincing list after all, isn't it
though?
Truth be told, I definitely still advocate, as always, putting
together your own version of "The Spreadsheet" detailing the top
ten traits in a woman you can't live without.
That list needs to include your own subjective criteria based
solely on personal taste.
But ultimately, just about anything on that list really is going to
fall under one of the "Big Four". Go ahead and put your own list
to the test, and let me know what you come up with.
Be Good,
Scot McKay
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